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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I was born July 24, 1961 at 12:15 PM and I have been having an affair with a married man for 2 years. He's born November 24, 1959 I don't know what time. I'm also unsure of his wife's birth date. I am absolutely madly in love with this man. He has had numerous affairs and was in fact seeing another lady when he and I first started seeing each other. He stopped seeing her and was only seeing me. He tells me he loves me. I know he's gone to his mother and told her he loves me as well as I have spoken to her several times. A few weeks ago someone, unknown to us, called his place of employment, my place of employment AND his wife and told this little bit of gossip. Our jobs are not in jeopardy but the gossip is of course crazy. I told him he would have to choose between his family and me. It's not possible that we could keep seeing each other with someone knowing who we are and where we work and so on. We live in a very small community! So...this person called his wife two times. She did not tell him at all. She only told him when he went home and told her someone was calling his work place starting gossip. She has not confronted him about this; she has actually just pretended it never happened. They are as normal, which of course is not the best. He says he can't leave her because of his children ages 17, 16, and 13. So as it stands now he and I are finished. My heart is broken. I know this man is not the best man in the world but I love him anyway. I want him so bad it hurts. Will he ever leave her for me? Do I have a hope at all? I know his sign is a good sign for a Leo...please help!!
Leo
Dear Leo
What are you thinking?????? I can't believe you think so little of yourself that you would get involved with a man (mommy's boy) who is obviously a two-timing cheater with little respect for woman.
You are right however about one thing and that is that you do match up to this man but you have to realize that he will never be true to anyone, not you, obviously not his wife, or any other partner he gets involved with. If you can live with him cheating on you go ahead and fight for this unworthy man.
He is a Sagittarius and they are born bachelors. He will never fully commit to anyone. To introduce you to his mother is about as low as he can get. Going behind his wife's back and bringing you into his inner circle is not acceptable. Put yourself in his wife's shoes for just a moment and regardless of whether he matches up to you or her better he should have the courage and decency to end one relationship before getting involved in another.
He is coming into a two to three year Saturn transit that is going to force him to make some changes and one of those changes could very easily be his wife being fed up and moving on (cannot be sure without her birth data). Hopefully this will be the case and you will be able to experience first hand what it is like to be in a committed relationship with a man who has other women in his life. It may just cure you of your need to sleep with other women's husbands.
Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle regarding having the man of your dreams coming back into your life or finding a new lover (which should be your preference) this year. I suspect however that you will wait for him and probably continue to see him when the gossip dies down.
If you really want this man he is easy to get - just pretend you don't want him - it's the chase that turns him on. I expect if you do pursue him that I will be hearing from you again in about a year and a half to two years.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
In regards to your Romance Compatibility scale, I don't know what it actually all means with the scale interpretation i.e. "popping stars ",sad/happy faces, or 2 hearts together at the end, etc. For example: based on the scale, if I score only 62% compatible with the person in question, I will have a happy relationship with that person, but our relationship never leads to marriage? Can someone score low on the compatibility scale, and still can be married to the other person ( or maybe for a short time ) with lots of problems during the union? Could you please explain. I was born August 20, 1960, at 11:36 PM.
Thank You.
semi-compatible
Dear semi-compatible
It?s too bad you didn?t mention the someone in your life?s birth data. I am a believer that any relationship can work if both people are willing to compromise, share, communicate and work jointly toward a common goal. Unfortunately some couples, even those with a high comparison, don?t try hard enough and therefore fail. 62% is not bad depending on what it is that you have in your comparison that is compatible and what isn?t. The pros and cons given in the compatibility analysis should tell you the low down regarding the probability of having a long lasting loving relationship. Nothing is etched in stone and no two comparisons will be the same regardless of whether or not you have the same percentage. Each comparison is as unique as the next. You are best to read the analysis that goes along with the love thermometer. The aspects between two peoples charts that red flag me are the negative interaction between Neptune and Venus, or Mars and Venus. These aspects can promote deception, sorrow, abuse, being partnered with someone who has substance abuse problems and so on and therefore precautions must be taken to protect your heart. Astrology is not as cut and dry as some people think. This site tries to give you as much information as possible. To date I have written some seventy thousand paragraphs in order to give each one of our members the most in-depth personalized view of the possibilities in all aspects of life including compatibility. Try to use the information in a positive manner in order to make the best decisions.
Your chart indicates that you are coming into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned over the next couple of months and between February and July of next year once again. Get out and socialize and you will probably meet someone who is good for you or work on the relationship you are already in, in order to make it the best that it can be. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
Why are Virgos so uptight and difficult to have a relationship? I noticed that on every Sun Sign Page under "in the game of love" that every sign has difficulty with Virgos. Am I doomed to be single for years and years? How can I tell if I am the way YOU say I am? I was born September 16, 1982, at 11:56 am.
Virgo
Hi Virgo
No one is exactly like his or her sun sign and we all have a little bit of each sign in our character. In your case you have just as much Libra in your chart as you do Virgo with a strong Scorpio and Sagittarius influence as well. Now I happen to think that is a very nice combination. The Virgo in your chart falls in an area that deals with society and how far you'll get. It's what we refer to as your limelight house. Virgo being the practical and fastidious sign that it is should be an asset in that area of your chart. With Scorpio rising you will have a do or die attitude at times but the Sagittarius and Libra in your chart will chill you out and give you a diplomatic manner that is hard to resist. There is no reason why you can't have a good relationship with other signs however the ones you happen to match up to the best are Aries, Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. You can't take your sun sign so literally. You will be coming into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned this fall so get out and mingle and you should meet someone who is right for you. The past two and a half years would have been difficult where love was concerned due to a Saturn transit but that will be leaving your chart in June making such encounters much easier.
Eugenai
March 17th 2026
Happy Birthday: Express your thoughts and intentions, and explore what’s best for you. Participate in events and activities that encourage you to learn something new and to practice taking better care of yourself through fitness and diet. Concentrate on walking away from negative situations that waste your time or hold you back and, in turn, channel your energy into exploring what’s possible, learning something new, and adapting to a lifestyle that meets your needs. Your numbers are 6, 13, 20, 28, 37, 41, 44.
