We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have lived with a man for the last 6 years. The first couple of years were really hard and our exes and kids caused some problems. We became engaged last year, after much heated debate about where we were going in our relationship. He then told his oldest daughter, we were not getting married, (his children had a problem with his divorce, even though he had been separated for 15 years) and then told me he didn't want to get into it with her. Well, he has told me recently that he really didn't want to get married, but we have agreed I would take his last name, and he still wanted to buy me a ring. Just recently on a trip home with his daughter (23 years old) he told her that after our trip to Florida he was breaking up with me. The thing is when I confronted him about this he totally denied it and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. So, does he just say things to her so she wont freak out, or is he really lying to me. His birth date is Feb. 28/1955 and mine is September 14, 1971 at 5 AM.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison with your Pisces man is good but it does show signs of emotional deception. He probably isn't being completely honest with either one of you. Before I go any further however I have to ask you why the whole marriage thing is so important to you. Why would you want to take on his name having your name differ from your children's not to mention the complications changing it back should your relationship not work. Keep in mind that legally you are considered married after cohabitating as long as you have. If I were you I would settle for being included in his will so that you are taken care of in the future. Especially if you have both contributed to your home, household, investments etc.
As mentioned your comparison is good but there is an element that indicates that it could end abruptly so you may want to consider the legal aspects that count regarding property etc instead of whether or not you have the same last name.
His chart shows evidence of sorrow when it comes to relationships and that he can swivel rapidly when it comes to his affections. To force this man to marry would probably be the beginning of the end so if I were you I wouldn't go there.
I don't believe his kids at this stage of the game have the right to dictate what he does with his life and that he is only using how they feel as tool to back out of the marriage.
If you truly love this man, and it appears you do, I would be more inclined to leave well enough alone and enjoy your time together. I believe if you push too hard he will have a change of heart. You know the old saying if something works why fix it.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Greetings and Blessings, My name is Jennifer and I'm new to Astro Advice. While surfing around on the wonderful web site I came across the "Dear Eugenia" link. I was curious as to what wonders it might hold and so, here I am. The reason for me writing to you is because of a very depressing and unfruitful matter in my life right now. You see, my other half and I have been trying to conceive for almost two years now and to our amazement no results have prevailed. This is often a very saddening experience month after month and we are at the point now where we just feel we should give up. We have tried every option under the sun that has been recommended to us such as; me lying in bed for up to 30 minutes after sex, taking baby asprin to thin out my blood and promote better circulation, taking 2 tbsp. of Robitussin Cough Syrup to thin out cervical mucus, drinking red-raspberry tea and various others. Everything has left us down right exhausted. I'm beginning to lose all hope in this matter and I feel as though I'm not meant to have children. It appears as though God doesn't want me to give the gift of life and bring a child into this world. At several times I thought I was pregnant but, a false- positive pregnancy test proved wrong. To be truthful... this issue is starting to take it's toll on the relationship the more and more the months go by. It appears that these troubles are causing me to push away from my other half and he in turn is beginning to get more and more frustrated and depressed as well. My birth date is December 11, 1978---- 9:00 AM and my other half's is March 17,1980---- unfortunately I am unsure of his time of birth. Please... anything you can tell me would be greatly appreciated and respected. I thank you for your time.
Babyless
Dear Babyless
Both you and your partner are born under mutable signs (Sagittarius and Pisces) These signs often go through difficulties with getting pregnant, having children, dealing with children and so on but that doesn't mean that it won't happen. In your particular case opportunities for prenancy will be in affect for the next couple of years. You are still young and you shouldn't be putting so much pressure on yourself. I have worked out your fertility cycles for the next twelve months so that you can try to optimize the most auspicious times to conceive. July 9 at 5 PM until July 13 at 5 PM, Aug. 8 at 11 AM until Aug. 12 at 11 AM, Sept. 7 at 3 AM until Sept. 11 at 3 AM, Oct. 6 at 9 PM until Oct. 10 at 9 PM, Nov. 5 at 1 PM until Nov. 9 at 1 PM, Dec. 5 at 1 AM until Dec. 9 at 1 AM, Jan. 3 at 5 PM until Jan. 7 at 5 PM, Feb. 2 at 1 AM until Feb. 6 at 1 AM, Mar. 3 at 11 AM until Mar. 7 at 11 AM, Apr. 2 at 7 PM until Apr. 5 at 7 PM, May 1 at 3 AM until May 5 at 3 AM, May 31 at 11 AM until June 2 at 11 AM, June 28 at 12 AM until July 2 at 12 AM.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last,
This is not the first time I have written you, but I do understand that you have received an incredible amount of mail. I would like some astrological advice on your part. First, I was born March 21, 1972 at 12.50 am. In 1997, I decided to return to college and do my Masters Degree. I am currently writing the thesis and it feels never ending. I suffered from a depression last year with suicidal tendencies, although I did not go through with my actions. I have gotten help, but I've the feeling the cycle is not over. Recently, my car was crashed into and declared a total loss by the insurance company. I cannot afford a new one, as my debt is already quite large. I lost my reading glasses yesterday and don't know how I will afford a new pair. I do work, however the stress of my job has compounded as I have become my boss's "go to" person, even though I am only a part time office clerk and he has at least 5 full time girls on staff. I have started crying a lot again, and tend to be depressed and oh so overwhelmed. I feel I will never finish my thesis that is due in the fall, after 2 extensions. I try to remember the reasons I decided to return to school, but at present, I do not see the positive aspect.
In addition (like it had to get worse) I have been single a long time, and I am falling in love with my boss. We don't mention it, but we spend a lot of time together, and he's married. I know he is confused in his marriage. He was born December 8, 1959. Hence, my question is, will things get easier for me? I read my astrology regularly on your site, but I still feel I need to know that I have made the right decision, because at present, nothing seems right.
Thank you for your time and congratulations on a wonderful site. The regular additions are always fun.
What to Do
Dear What to Do
You have just been hit by your Saturn return. This is not only depressing but it makes you reevaluate everything that you have done up until this point of your life. Don't worry; some people have it sit with them for a long period of time. In your case it will only be there for another couple of weeks. Now that doesn't mean that it will be smooth sailing for you. Life doesn't work that way, but you should be able to start focusing on the more positive aspects of your life. The work and money area of your chart is in a high cycle and that means that you could probably find a new job that would be less stressful. You may have a thing for your boss but it probably isn't healthy for you to have to put up with him using you as his "go to" person and whatever else you allow him to use you for. You should be experiencing opportunities to meet someone new, preferably someone who isn't already attached. Regarding your thesis I suggest that you get working on it and get it out of the way once and for all. By the middle of the summer you are not going to want to do it. Later this year and well into next year you will be in a high cycle regarding romance again so you won't want to be sitting at home working trying to get your thesis out of the way. It's time to take control and set your game plan. Look for a new job, get the thesis out of the way and keep yourself available for potential relationships. You match up well with those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra and Aquarius. The problem with your Sagittarius is that he falls in an area of your chart that deals with secret affairs.
Eugenia
