We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Gemini Son and Distressed Father

Dear Eugenia

I am really confused. I dislike my dad's partner - Unfortunately intensely. This started shortly after he met her 2 years after he and Mum separated, now 8 years ago, when I was 10. Until recently she treated me considerately, but I continued to dislike her. Now she has openly shown an aggressive dislike of me. I am now older and have decided to write down my dislikes of her. Today she refused to cooperate with this saying do what you like I am not interested. I live with her, my dad and their son, Giles, my brother. Dad is miserable and I don't want to split them up (as threatened by her) but I can't change the way I feel fundamentally. Any suggestions? I was born June 2, 1988 at 3:30 PM.

Gemini Son

Dear Eugenia

Do you give advice to men in distress? I should wait for your reply, but I am in need of immediate advice. I am 55, born February 23, 1951 at 9:30 AM and I have an 18 old son, a 35 year old partner and our son of 6. Eldest son and partner don't get on. After years of aggression by him, eldest son attempted to ameliorate situation by beginning to be civil to her, but too late it seems. Now his attempts, clumsy though they may be are rebuffed by her. I think she is being unreasonable, but I appreciate she is very hurt. I am piggy in the middle, as usual. Not the first time (third marriage/relationship). Help!!!

Distressed Father

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Dear Gemini Son and Distressed Father

I tired to email both of you to find out when your stepmother/partner was born considering she is the main issue but your emails bounced back to me therefore I am combining your emails and looking at your charts to see if I can help.

As a father you should have nipped that nastiness that your son continually shoved in your partners face a long time ago. He may not have liked her but that didn't mean that he had to abuse her and at the same time hurt you. Your son is vocal and can be unpredictable and act in haste saying things that are hurtful. He is intelligent, charming and knows how to manipulate situations which is precisely what he has done, and you have let him. As a Pisces father and partner you have been too soft trying to preserve peace with both your wife and your son. This has probably made you appear weak in the eyes of your partner causing her to lose respect and at this point probably not really caring all that much if both you and your son leave. Without her chart it is impossible for me to tell you exactly where she is at or how strong your astrological comparison is however you can check that out yourself if you go to my www.astroadvice.com web site and run a compatibility test. If you measure up to 70% or higher you probably have a chance to turn things around.

I fear however that with the onslaught of transiting Saturn moving in to oppose your Pisces planets you are about to face some limitations that could easily lead to another failed marriage. If your partner is a Sagittarius or Capricorn I imagine she has had enough and is heading out the door. You may want to consider doing some very fast-talking and decision making if you want to give a last attempt at rectifying this problem.

With the cooperation of your Gemini son who has not been a stellar addition to the family you may pull this off. He may be trying to make amends but short of him moving out it may not be enough. Being 18 now he should be close to pursuing higher education so possibly he can go away for his next level of schooling. It is obvious that he is smart and that he should be continuing his education so please consider this as it is probably the best option if you want to make you marriage work. If your son doesn't want to move out or go away to school remind him that he owes you and your partner for putting up with all the crap he has dished out the past ten years. After all who the heck was running the show at home

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Article: From Pisces

Dear Eugenia

I'm a Pisces born February 22, 1964 at 4:30 am, 40 years old and never married and I just met a wonderful man who wants to have children, and might I add, right away. He says we don't have much time since we are both older. He is a Capricorn born in the Philippines Dec 29, 1964 and I admire the way he takes charge, but I was actually leaning towards not having children. The whole concept frightens me, and I am getting older and I am such a Pisces, flitting from thing to thing and never really accomplishing any one concrete direction, fairly successful in my own right, but wonder how I ever am, since I tend to overextend myself and do way too many things at once. I long for someone to help me take charge of my life, simplify it, and make it more relaxed, but I wonder if I am drawn towards him for his steadiness and clarity of direction, his responsibility, his success, and if I choose to be with him, I may end up in a worse situation (overextended, more complicated, less peace and less focus). At 40 I still don't feel I have any clear direction. But if I had to say what I really wanted to do with myself, it would be get up late, jog around the lake, work for a few hours, drive around, read a book, chat with some friends, and walk by the beach. I don't know if having a family would be high on that list, and I think it would just be to satisfy his desire to have a family. But then again, if I don't have a child I wonder if I would regret it when I am older, and maybe it might be nice to choose a successful responsible man and start a family instead of drifting around with the romantic irresponsible men I normally am drawn towards. What do you think?

Pisces

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Dear Pisces

I believe you are over-reacting. Having a baby shouldn't make or break a relationship if you truly love one another. The comparison between you and your Capricorn man was okay but it did show some signs of deception and confusion. I believe you need to communicate more about what you both want out of life. Honesty reigns supreme so you had better start talking and if you both aren't on the same page move on. You are in a high cycle regarding love and meeting potential partners or having someone you used to care about come back into your life. You owe it to yourself to get to the bottom of whether or not you want to settle down with your Capricorn friend or set both of you free so that you can meet new people.

Where work and how you earn your living are concerned you are coming into a much higher cycle beginning the last quarter of this year and throughout next year and it is important that you position yourself so that you can take advantage of the opportunities that come along. Your chart indicates that you are confused. Much of your confusion is due to the fact that you were born with your natal Mercury adversely positioned to your natal Neptune. This causes self-deception especially when it comes to your personal likes and dislikes, how well you can do in society and professionally as well as how you relate to both business and emotional partners.

It may be time to reevaluate who you are, what you want and where you see yourself in ten years. If it isn't taking care of the kids and a husband - move on now.

Eugenia

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Article: From Virgo/Pisces

Dear Eugenia,

I feel so frustrated and unhappy at times. Nearly 5 years ago I moved to another province with my partner (March 13, 1951) so that we could be near his kids. We thought it was for the best; one of the children was having problems and it made sense to be closer. But problems with his ex-wife have never gone away and it's just never improved here. We don't get to see the kids and it's been at times a nightmare dealing with his ex. On top of that, we have had financial difficulties almost from the beginning. I couldn't find full time work for ages and he found work, was laid off and has been trying to do contracting since. I finally found work that I like but I am still not very happy. My partner gets work sporadically and we are just not doing well financially. I get frustrated with him and frustrated with this situation. Plenty of times I think about leaving. My head says go home, my heart says stay here. I don't feel that this is the right place for me. It seems a waste of time since we rarely see his kids anyway. My biggest concern is finding work; his is losing the kids even more. But I still feel the burning desire to move home. Do you see me (or us together) leaving here and returning home or moving someplace else? What is our financial outlook for the next year? I was born September 12, 1961 at 10:44 am. Thanks for listening.

Virgo/Pisces

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Dear Virgo/Pisces

Without your husbands time of birth it is difficult to know what he will do. He is facing some changes and I do believe that emotionally he will be getting his life together over the course of the next year while he benefits from a Saturn transit that is moving through his chart. On the other hand he may also be questioning his personal direction as well. Once he has come to some decisions regarding his ex and his children he should be able to make a move. I believe that will begin to make more sense to him in August of this year. Your comparison was good but there are signs of emotional deception which means you probably aren?t communicating with one another the way you should be right now. It is time for both of you to talk openly and honestly about what you really want to see happen in the future. Your chart does indicate that you should stick it out together but also that it would be better for you to make a move back to where you have the support of friends and family. Once again without your husbands time of birth I can not tell whether he should make the move or if he will.

Eugenia

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