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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I want to get married now, but I cannot afford the expenses because I am deep in debt at the moment. I don't know when will I clear the debts so I dare not to get married. At present, I am working in an insurance company. I would like to change my job but cannot make up my mind. I am worried that I cannot get a suitable job and the salary would not be satisfactory. I would like to ask you when the right time for me to get married or to change jobs would be? What kind of job suits me? I am interested in information or the computer industry. Can I get a job in one of these fields? Please answer me.
Thank you.
I was born in September 1, 1968 at 12:30pm.
Sam
Dear Sam
Your chart indicates that although you do have some financial problems you should be able to clear your debt between now and March of next year if you are determined to do without everything but the bare necessities. You should be looking for a better job between now and the middle of February. Do not quit your current job until you have been hired to take on a better position. You would do well as a computer analyst, teacher, accountant, or medical researcher. You may need to pick up additional education in order to follow such careers however if this is the case you should do so through correspondence or night school. Regarding love you will be in a high cycle from November until March. It is important not to miss opportunities just because you don't think that you can afford the expense of a relationship. If you fall in love with someone the money shouldn't matter. If you have enough faith in your partner and in your relationship you will work together in order to build a brighter future. If you continue to hold off getting into a relationship or marriage until you feel that you have enough cash you may be alone the rest of your life. It is quite common for those born under your sign to feel that you must be well off before you step into matrimony and this is why so many Virgo's marry later in life. I don't necessarily think this is a bad thing but if someone comes into your life that you really love you may have to opt to forego your need to have riches first.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I'm sure you are busy replying letters. I will consider your advice carefully if my letter is answered. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 years. I was supposed to marry my boyfriend last year. But, I'm the one who suggested reconsidering our marriage. I am negative to marriage, that is, I was afraid that I might lose my freedom. His parents want us to get married soon. However, considering his conservative parents and my non-conservative parents, I think I will have to face some problems after we get married. Am I too selfish? I'm working in the computing machine area. I want to go abroad to continue my study and I want to do many other things. Thus, marriage is not my first priority.
My boyfriend is a conservative man. He wants to take a dominant position in our relationship. I have to do everything for him if I marry him. If there is an exit, I want to escape. However, at the same time, I wonder whether I can live without him. What kind of person am I? Am I too selfish?? He was born on Nov 5, 1974 and I was born November 26, 1974, at 5:30 AM.
I can do things for him but to be frank, I just want him to do whatever he wants and set him free. And set myself free.
Feeling stifled
Dear Feeling stifled
Although the comparison was workable I do believe that your feelings are warranted. Yes, he and his family will stand in the way of your career and if that is what you want to pursue you are best to back out before it's too late. I believe that your future with this man does show some signs of sorrow as well as deception and that you are best to consider moving on. You actually need someone in your life that will allow you the freedom to live life and who is willing to share the same lifestyle that you desire. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Your current boyfriend is very set in his ways and can be a little jealous. Although it could work it would mean that you must sacrifice a great deal in order to take care of his needs. Think carefully before you make your decision and consider the fact that you may be with him out of habit. Reevaluate your motives regarding this connection. You are moving through a period that can make or break this union and I believe that you are ready to move on.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?
When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...
However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.
At Odds
Dear At Odds
I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.
Eugenia
