We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Always Greener

Dear Eugenia

My parents divorced before I went to primary school and then I lived with my father. Since I was small, I was bullied. My mother worked in another city and did not care about me. My father treated me this way because he was remarried and had other children. My mother told me that my grandmother did not treat her well when she was small. This was why she did not know how to show her love to me. I was brought up under this environment and became very lonely. I was afraid to have contact with people. I had a few boyfriends and none of them worked out. I wanted so much my own family but every time I got hurt. With no parents to love, other people looked down on me. When I was at work, it did not turn out okay and I was always faced with many problems. I did not know how to deal with people and felt lost. After so many failures, I've lost my confidence totally. Now I have this boyfriend for over a year. He is a good person but he has a very stubborn character and that I can hardly accept. He always says something to hurt me. He needs someone to take care of him while I also long for someone who can look after me. I doubt if we can be a happy couple but I trust his integrity and like his family who treat me well. Now I just lost my job and had a fight with him.

My mother came back to Shanghai and bought an apartment. Now I am living with her but my mother does not care what I am doing. If you didn't know, you would think I am so lucky with a good apartment and a nice looking face. But in fact I have nothing, no family and no career. My life doesn't have any meaning. Is my life supposed to be this way? Did I do something wrong in my last life?

I was born on October 21, 1972 at around 3:30 am. My boyfriend was born on July 8, 1973 at 5 o'clock (I am not sure how accurate this is).

Hope you can give me some guidance. Thank you.
LOST

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Dear LOST

Don't be so hard on yourself and your family. Your chart does show some problems with family however you must realize that the grass always appears to be greener on the other side of the fence. In other words this is an obstacle that you can and will overcome. You can learn from the experience you have had. Although you aren't positive what it would be like to have a loving family it isn't hard to know what you consider a loving family to be. Your boyfriend does match up quite nicely to your chart however there is potential for arguing. I do believe that when you love someone and you truly care about him that you will inevitably have disagreements. There is no apparent deception in your comparison only the fact that you will both overreact at times and this has probably resulted in your breakup. Please call him and try to work out your differences. You said that his family is kind and good to you, therefore you have a base to learn from. If you follow what has worked for them it will work for you as well.

Eugenia

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Article: From Tuutie

Dear Eugenia,

Eight months ago I removed myself from a toxic abusive relationship, and put myself slowly onto the road to recovery. I got a new apartment alone, and started a business by myself. I am 41, born October 11, 1961, at 2:32 am, and am having a very hot affair with a sexy 22 year old. It's the first satisfying coupling I've had in a long time. My x continues to call, and wants me back but I am terrified by the level of rancor we have had for each other in the past. My lover was born 7/8/80, and my x on 5/28/74.

I'm inclined to go for the new as much as possible, but I'm wondering how far it could go with us- you know, a child; togetherness. Am I fooling myself? Or should I just enjoy it as long as I am able? I'm reminded that there's no fool like an old fool. What should I do?

Thanks,
Tuutie

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Dear Tuutie

The astrological comparison with your new love was definitely the better of the two and I never have a problem with chronological age differences because it really depends on the two people involved but I do fear the fact that although the comparison was good sorrow is evident at some point. I feel certain that you can enjoy this partner for some time however if you want to have a baby, do so for the right reason and with the intention of raising your child by yourself. I believe that you will have to make a choice. You definitely shouldn't be looking back and you will have a transit coming up over the next year where past partners will surface, however this very same transit will also bring about new potential partners and I would advice that you move in that direction should you be serious about marriage, family, children and longevity of the union. If you choose to stay with your current partner be aware that although this relationship does have some staying power it will eventually end and it will probably be do to children.

Eugenia

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Article: Friendly Advice

Dear Eugenia,

It is the first time that I am writing to you. I know you are an astrologer. Recently, I feel upset because of an emotional relationship and would like to seek your advice. I was born in January 29, 1973 at between 4:00am to 5:00am. This past August, I met a boy who was born in February 29, 1968 (I don't know his birth time). I started going out with him but lately I have found that we don't have much in common to talk about. My friends suggested that we should try to work out for a longer period. I don't what to do. Can you tell me if we are compatible? You advice is much appreciated.

Uncertain

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Dear Uncertain

The comparison with your Pisces mate is actually quite favorable. In this case your friends are giving you some good advice to hang in and see where it goes. Unfortunately I feel that you probably just aren't ready to get involved right now. Consider talking to him and telling him that for now you just want to be friends. Possibly if you let your friendship grow you may find that you have more in common. I think that he is probably holding back for fear that you won't like him. Your chart indicates that he is already in a high cycle regarding love and romantic relationships and that your chart will not come into this cycle until the second half of next year. If you decide not to give this young man a chance you should keep in mind that you do match up to his sign as well as to the signs Taurus, Cancer and Virgo as well.

Eugenia

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