We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hello! Eugenia
First of all I would like to say that it is very good that you use your talant to help others. I like your site very much. I even can say that it has helped me a lot. Unfourtunatelly my problem is connected with love life. As you can see I am born in 21st of July in 1980 (6 AM). It comes out that I am cancer. I really feel like this sensitive person when it comes to love life. I have been dating with three guy during my life. All these love relationships were very idealistic and romantic. I really loved (i guess i still do in some way) these guys. Especially the last one - Arnis (born April 2 in 1978, 12.10 AM), which i can call my dream boy. He really was it until the beginning of this year. He changed. He said he loves me but he doubts. Doubts whether we should be together or not. It hurt me so much - that there are no tenderness or interest left. Now we are divorced for almost 3 months. I was the one who initiated it but i hoped that he will change his mind and will come back to me. He still says he doubts. We are not seeing each other, only communicating via e mail. Even theoriticaly I am free , i feel that he is not letting me go. He does nothing but also somehow keeps me in control. What should I do? If you would ask me- what do you want. I would say that I want to continue this relationship. I would like to fight for our love and future. But I don't want to do it on my own. I want to feel that he also wants it and that he loves me. The pity thing is that all previous relationships also ended in a way like this - O was the one who wanted to continue, but other person did nothing. But i admired them so much. Arnis is so different from me and that's why i adore him. He is so elegent, clever, interesting, also - loving and romantic. i can't imagine better guy. But when he doesn't have interest in me it hurts very, very much. I was thinking maybe something is wrong with the fact that emotionally i am like scorpio - the most deepest and possesive sign. I want to love in more light way! can i do something about it? it seems to me that then i would be more easy going lover, maybe that i would gain more attention from my loved ones because they would see that i am not depending on them so much. Now i feel that i cannot think about anything else than Arnis. I want to have loving and long lasting relationship so very much! but it seems that life leads me in different direction. what should i do? is there possibility that i could be happy with arnis? what should i do or change to get beautiful love life? Hope to hear from you very much!
Anda
Dear Anda
There is nothing wrong with being sensitive, warm and loving you just have to find the right partner, the partner who will appreciate you for who you are. The comparison with your Aries boyfriend wasn't that great and although he may be charming and all, he is also a bit of a player when it comes to women. He would have a hard time dealing with any women who was too possessive or clingy. You have qualities that lots of men would absolutely adore. You are being too hard on yourself. You are just 22 years old and you have your whole life ahead of you. You are going through a cycle that is wonderful for getting involved in worthwhile groups or organizations that you believe in. This is your time to get out and meet all sorts of new people. You should be building friendships and deciding in your own mind what it is that you really want in a partner. I think that if you are completely honest with yourself you will realize that you want someone who will be just as warm, loving and affectionate as you are. There will be plenty of opportunities for new partnerships to develop over the next twelve months so for you to dwell on the past or sit around waiting for your Aries man to change his mind would be a mistake. Human nature is to always want what you think you can't have. Let him go a
Hi Eugenia
Okay well here goes I want to start by saying that I really love reading anything that you write. I am an avid fan and have been for years.:-) Well lets start by saying that I was a single mom for about 7 years or so and recently have met and have started a relationship with a much younger man, he treats me so good if I want to go anywhere I just have to ask and he sends me if I want anything all I have to do is mention the word and he gets it for me he treats me wonderfully but because of recent relationships I am very very insecure I really want this guy to be the one he has asked me to marry him and he says he wants to be with me for the rest of his life but I just can't help feeling guilty that I am holding him back from meeting the woman of his dreams, he continually tells me that I am that woman I really do love him and am in love with him, I don't want to mess this up by my insecure nature please help me to understand what is going on am I just being silly? He is born Feb 17 1981 I am not sure of the time and I was born Sept 30, 1966 at 11:35 am. Thank you so much for your time.
Libra
Hi Libra
I have no problem with older man/younger woman or older man/younger woman. In fact I believe an age difference is usually a good thing because it helps to separate the natal Neptune placements in both charts. However, in this particular case the comparison is not good. It is based on deception, disillusionment and lack of vision. There is major sorrow emotionally, mentally and physically and although that may not be apparent right now it will be in the future. I believe you should be looking at this relationship, as fun for the time being but to actually marry this man would be a mistake. You match up best to those born under the signs Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces - Take note Aquarius does not fall in the lineup. Please don't get me wrong I believe this man loves you with all his heart right now and that he is mesmerized by you in many ways but the comparison is just not good enough to sustain a life long commitment.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I wanted to start out by telling you the number of times I've written, but I don't remember. I'm really pleading with you for some advice. My boyfriend [June 12, 1972] and I [Sept. 25, 1974, at 8:18 AM] moved across country together about 4 months ago. Since then, he has been supporting me and I can't seem to find work here. I have had periods of depression, and then I find myself motivated. I have been up and down on an emotional roller coaster since I got here. He is also unhappy. Maybe more than me. He is unhappy with the job that brought us out here, and wants to quit, except we are going broke at this point. I have been asking friends and relatives to borrow money. I feel guilty that I have not been able to pull my weight financially in this relationship, I also feel like that leaves me completely defenseless in any conversation that I have with my boyfriend, fight or otherwise. Every time I check my horoscope on your site, it seems to tell me that my financial outlook is getting better, or that it should be. I feel like there is one part of my life that is what you might call the "core" of my problems. I don't know what it is. Lately my self-esteem has been low; I can't seem to do anything right and I don't know how to make him or me feel better. I only see one answer...get a job. It's obvious, but I've looked for jobs that are way beneath my ability, and no one is hiring. I feel like this is a trap I fell in. Before I left to move here, I was financially capable; I worked all the time and actually partially supported him. But now it has just been too long. Is there any part of my chart showing that I'm neglecting a certain aspect of my life that could change some of this nonsense? I feel there is something that I'm doing horribly wrong, and I just don't know what it is or how to change it. Please, Please help...And thank you.
Still lost in L.A.
Dear Still lost in L.A.
I feel that you should be preparing to make a move back to where you came from. Contact your former employer and see if there is something available for you. If you don't feel that this is an option the other suggestion is to pick up different skills through educational pursuits or offer services to couples in your neighborhood needing childcare help for the time being. Regarding your financial position being favorable, it is but in an area that deals with investments, not work and money. Therefore if you were older and more established you may have been able to take advantage of these transits and invested in a worthwhile stock or business. You may be able to use these transits however to invest in yourself by starting your own business. As far as making money by working for others it does look grim. You have so much going for you however; you are creative, intellectual and bright. Talk to your boyfriend about starting your own home based business. He may even be interested in helping you. As for him, if he doesn't like his job why are you both still there. You should have probably returned home already.
Eugenia
