We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
What does being on the cusp mean? Sometimes I'm shown as a Gemini, sometimes Cancer. Although I think I lean more towards Gemini. I was born June 21, 1961 at 1 AM.
Thanks
Gemini/Cancer
Dear Gemini/Cancer
According to your chart you are born under the sign Gemini if the time of birth is accurate set at 1 AM, however, if you were born at 10:31 AM or after on the 21st you are a Cancer by Sun Sign. Don't put too much onus on being one sign or the other. It is the entire package that makes you who you are and helps determine your direction. The time of birth is however very important as a chart changes every four minutes and for someone like me to be accurate I need specific data.
Your natal Mercury (the planet that deals with the way you think and communicate) is in the sign Cancer so that is why you are leaning toward that sign. Your chart also indicates that you have a very strong Leo and Virgo influence with a little Scorpio, Capricorn, Aquarius and Taurus thrown into the mix to make you the person you are.
For the record - if born before 10:31 AM you can call yourself a Gemini if after a Cancer.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia
My wife of 11 years passed away this past September 10th, 2002 born 7/4/1954 named Yolanda. A beautiful Cancerian that touched my life in ways that I still ache for. She was a liver transplant patient that did not take so we had her for an additional year since the operation. It was the most painful experience of my life to say the least. I have since regained my strength to move on and follow the path set for me by the stars. At times I find myself disoriented. I guess it's that I see all that is around me and everyone so differently now that it throws me off.
I try to see other women and find that I look for the qualities or even passion that Yolanda had with me. I look for it in their eyes and their way of being. We had so so much in common music you can name it. We met as performers and fell in love a love like no other for me. I find myself analyzing everything that I do with a different purpose, Job, Friends, Hobbies, etc. It is so hard to not have her in my life. It is the equivalent of living in the dark without the sun and we all need the sun. But my will gets me past to see the next day. Will I see or feel relief from what I am going through. I was born November 19, 1958, at 8:38 am.
Torn Soul
Dear Torn Soul
You had a wonderful comparison with Yolanda and a very special connection, and you should be thankful for that, but you should also realize that each connection that we make in life is unique and that you can and will meet someone who will touch your heart deeply but the time is not right just yet. You still need to grieve and for now friendships and social acquaintances is all that you should expect. This is a time that you must get busy doing things to benefit others. You should be joining an organization you believe in that may even have something to do with fundraising for the live transplant society. You have so much to deal with regarding your loss that you can't expect to not be looking for Yolanda in everyone you meet and that's not fair to the women you date. A good friendship will help you get through your troubled times and helping or donating your time to a worthy cause will lead you out of the dark. By this time next year you will be in a much better position to find love. Move slowly and give yourself some time to heal. Yolanda fell in an area of your chart that deals with dead-end projects and this usually stops a relationship one way or another, you will not get along which wasn't the case with you and Yolanda or the love of your life is taken from you early, which it was. In time you will be able to separate your deep love for Yolanda from the relationship that will be in your future but you cannot replace what you had. Once you realize that you will be able to move forward. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Scorpio and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Where to start. First of all I guess that I should tell you that I met my husband and I have been with my husband for 20 years. Married for 17. Beautiful children. I have been very unhappy for a longtime. My husband is verbally, mentally, and worst of all physically abusive. I live everyday in fear, and am always trying to make everything happy and peaceful. I am always living planning the next step of the day out to make sure that it is going to make him happy. I am the bread winner in the family, I have to take care of all of the other responsibilities to, cooking, cleaning, bills, children, laundry, and even making his phone calls for his job etc for him. I should mention that he does work as well, but that is his only responsibility. I feel like an awful person for what I am about to tell you, but I have gotten to the point of being desperate for an answer. About 9 years ago, I met our now best friend. He has always been so nice to me. He is a very patient kind person. He is also in a relationship (not married, but do live together) and has wonderful children. His partner is a very angry person and yells constantly at her children it is so sad. I am very close with his children and love them very much. I have always had feelings for him, however never had said anything. We have always sat up and talked for hours on end when he has come over. About 2 1/2 years ago we were sitting and talking and it came out that we both had feelings for each other. I have never been so shocked, I never would have guessed. He told me at the time that he didn't know what to do, as he couldn't imagine waking up and not being in the same house as his children, that they were his life, and I think that is wonderful. We seem to go in spurts of calling each other, and then periods of not calling each other. However, neither one of us seem to be able to talk about our feelings. We have kissed, and it has been truly wonderful. But I do feel very guilty. I cannot stop thinking about him, I think of him when I wake up, through the day, when I go to bed. It's driving me crazy. I wonder if you can tell me what he is thinking. What he feels for me? My birthday is October 9, 1971, his is April 18, 1977, and my husband's is September 7, 1970. If you could please offer me any insight I would be truly grateful.
Libra
Dear Libra
First of all I want to deal with your relationship with your husband. You don't have one, nor do you need him in your life. You are only teaching your children that it is okay for a man to be abusive to a woman and that in it self is wrong and should have been enough for you to move on with your kids long ago.
It appears to me the only reason you are considering doing so now is because you have someone else in your life but that is not the way to start off a good relationship. I understand why you are attracted to your friend but the comparison although superior to the one with your husband it still isn't great. It is apparent that the connection with your friend is Karmic and I believe his debt is to help you remove yourself and your children from the miserable situation you have put up with for too long however after that it will be time for you to move on and start over.
You do not need your husband so cut your losses and get on with your life. You've already wasted too much time and the damage that the kids have endured watching you being abused are probably insurmountable at this point.
Your chart indicates that you probably should have made your move last year but it's still not too late if you take action immediately. As for your love life - it will pick up during the second half of this year once you have rid yourself of the dead weight you've been living with for so many years. What were you thinking when you married this man - it is seldom I see two people stay together as long as the two of you have when you
December 9th 2025
Happy Birthday: Express yourself, your likes, and dislikes, and see how much you save emotionally and financially this year. Your tell-it-like-it-is attitude will help you clear up unfinished business and point you in a direction that makes you breathe easy. Refuse to let what others do or say affect the choices you make. Forward thinking and taking the path that suits your needs is in your best interest. Your numbers are 2, 14, 21, 23, 32, 38, 44.
