We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I'm born Mar 3, 1962, at 6:30 am. My wife: Apr 20, 1964. My son: Jul 9, 1984, at 4:15 PM. My daughter: Oct 23, 1992, at 4:40 PM.
I only received elementary school education and moved to the city to work in a factory. I studied by myself, passed exams and graduated from high school. The medicine company I used to work for 10 yr. was bankrupted and I had to sell my house and everything in order to pay the loans because my colleagues ran away to foreign countries. I still haven't paid all the debts. It's been 5 yrs and I have been violently abused by creditors. As a result, I am addicted to alcohol that harms my health and I even have to see a psychiatrist. My family had to move to a small house and my wife is working from 9:00 am till 11:00pm. It is needless to say how much my family is suffering. I lost confidence in myself. I avoid meeting people. I cannot sleep because of the fear about my future. I can only sleep 2 to 3 hours at night. Since 1997 May, I have been working in a real estate company. I'm writing to you because my life is dreadful. If the past was my fate, then I'd like to know about my future. Of course, I know I have to make my efforts but at the moment, I'm lost. Eugenia... I don't know this topic is ok to be consulted, but I wish I would get some hopes from you. I'm not sure whether you can read my letter since you are too far away, but just giving me a reply will help me a lot. I believe you'll reply to my letter even though you are busy.
KJK
Dear KJK
Your family's charts indicate that their lives and home environment will improve next summer however in your chart it appears to be before that time. You have been going through very difficult transits that were unfortunate due to the deceptive individuals you were working with. Your chart does indicate that regardless of what actually did occur you would be penalized for the bad debt. You could have been institutionalized had you not been honest. Although you are still going through many changes I believe that over the course of the next two to three years your life will improve dramatically. You should be able to get yourself back on track. You do have to be careful who you deal with however because you were born with an aspect in your chart that will almost always lead to deceptive partnerships, friendships etc. You are best to do your own thing and to work by yourself. Your addiction problem is the first thing that you have to deal with. One of the reasons you aren't sleeping has to do with the alcohol content in your body. It has become a viscous circle. You drink to relax, forget and sleep and those are the very things that the alcohol will disrupt. In fact it is probably the main source of your agitation and inability to sleep. I suggest that the first thing you do is to seek help for your addiction. You have a strong will and a decent chart. You are bright, sensitive and you have a family that needs to know that you can pull yourself out of this mental depression and addiction. It may not be easy but if you act now and join a group that deals with addictions you will have your problem under control in no time and you will be able to take advantage of the good transits coming up in your chart next year. The fact that you reached out to me is the first step. Get yourself moving, motivated and in control. I know you can do it. I suggest that you try to start a small in house business on the side and build it up to a point that your wife will be able to stay at home and run that business for you in the future. If your real estate job is not bringing in enough money starting looking for a better position, but don't quit what you are doing unless you have another job to go to. Once you stop drinking you will be surprised how much you can accomplish and how much more money you will have. Stop thinking about what you must do, it's time to take action.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia Last
In Nov of 2000 my son (born April 16, 1984 at 4:10 p.m.) developed a serious mental disease. This has been particularly hard on my younger son (born June 30, 1986 at 12:07 a.m.) and he has decided not to come home anymore because he is treated so poorly by his brother. At the same time my husband, born August 4,1950, has coped with this by staying a work most of his waking hours. To add to the mess he has an employee that he thinks is just perfect and she has been wiggling and giggling her way into our lives for nine years. I have repeatedly asked him to get her out of our lives but he refuses to do so. Since my son's illness started I have been the stay at home mom, nurse, whatever. As well as dealing with my son I also took care of my dad in his last year. He was very sick for a very long time and he had a mitt-full of health issues that made his passing very slow and painful. I have reached a point where all I feel is pain and I am trying to find some way to change my life. Do you have any suggestions - I was born August 24, 1950 at 6:50 PM.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
Lets address your relationship with your husband first. You neglected to mention the birth date of his wiggly giggly gal at the office leaving me nothing to work with regarding what's actually going on between them. I can tell you however that last year he was in a cycle that is conducive to having an affair and that he was born with the major sign of sorrow in his chart when it comes to relationships. He does not deal with health issues very well so God forbid he ever get ill himself. He has turned a blind eye on his family when you and your boys needed him the most. This is not the sign of a very strong man or partner and you should seriously consider what you are going to do about your marriage should he not agree to go to counseling to fix the problems you are experiencing. Somehow I don't think he will but you have to ask. With transiting Saturn still moving through an area of his chart that deals with his attitude toward his partner I'd say he is closed to any ideas that suggest fixing what's wrong and is probably in denial because it is the easy way out.
You on the other hand have been a glutton for punishment and you have to put an end to it before you become ill. Being a Virgo it is hard to give in to failure and move on but sometimes it's the only means of survival. The area of your chart that deals with partnerships, marriage etc has been and will continue to go through a make it or break it period so if you don't seek help it is likely to go downhill. You are actually however in a high cycle regarding love this year with transiting Jupiter favorably aspecting your natal Venus however it is not likely that you will get the chance to take advantage of this unless you opt to kick your husband out immediately and move on. It can however help you should you be able to convince your husband to seek help and counseling. Both you and your husband are heading into your second Saturn return during the second half of next year. This is a period of reevaluating your life and making choices that will alter your future. If you both haven't already been thinking along these lines already you will be soon. This period of time will be conducive to making the effort to do something about your relationship or move on. You both went through your first Saturn return in 1979 - if you think back to that time and what you were experiencing it will help you to make the right decision now.
Your sons are a completely different story. There is no excuse for your son with mental disorders to abuse his younger brother and you and your husband should never have let this happen. Your younger son is a Cancer and family means a lot to him. Fortunately he is coming into better times right now and I believe if he can manage to move on he will do just fine however he may
Dear Ms. Last,
This is not the first time I have written you, but I do understand that you have received an incredible amount of mail. I would like some astrological advice on your part. First, I was born March 21, 1972 at 12.50 am. In 1997, I decided to return to college and do my Masters Degree. I am currently writing the thesis and it feels never ending. I suffered from a depression last year with suicidal tendencies, although I did not go through with my actions. I have gotten help, but I've the feeling the cycle is not over. Recently, my car was crashed into and declared a total loss by the insurance company. I cannot afford a new one, as my debt is already quite large. I lost my reading glasses yesterday and don't know how I will afford a new pair. I do work, however the stress of my job has compounded as I have become my boss's "go to" person, even though I am only a part time office clerk and he has at least 5 full time girls on staff. I have started crying a lot again, and tend to be depressed and oh so overwhelmed. I feel I will never finish my thesis that is due in the fall, after 2 extensions. I try to remember the reasons I decided to return to school, but at present, I do not see the positive aspect.
In addition (like it had to get worse) I have been single a long time, and I am falling in love with my boss. We don't mention it, but we spend a lot of time together, and he's married. I know he is confused in his marriage. He was born December 8, 1959. Hence, my question is, will things get easier for me? I read my astrology regularly on your site, but I still feel I need to know that I have made the right decision, because at present, nothing seems right.
Thank you for your time and congratulations on a wonderful site. The regular additions are always fun.
What to Do
Dear What to Do
You have just been hit by your Saturn return. This is not only depressing but it makes you reevaluate everything that you have done up until this point of your life. Don't worry; some people have it sit with them for a long period of time. In your case it will only be there for another couple of weeks. Now that doesn't mean that it will be smooth sailing for you. Life doesn't work that way, but you should be able to start focusing on the more positive aspects of your life. The work and money area of your chart is in a high cycle and that means that you could probably find a new job that would be less stressful. You may have a thing for your boss but it probably isn't healthy for you to have to put up with him using you as his "go to" person and whatever else you allow him to use you for. You should be experiencing opportunities to meet someone new, preferably someone who isn't already attached. Regarding your thesis I suggest that you get working on it and get it out of the way once and for all. By the middle of the summer you are not going to want to do it. Later this year and well into next year you will be in a high cycle regarding romance again so you won't want to be sitting at home working trying to get your thesis out of the way. It's time to take control and set your game plan. Look for a new job, get the thesis out of the way and keep yourself available for potential relationships. You match up well with those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra and Aquarius. The problem with your Sagittarius is that he falls in an area of your chart that deals with secret affairs.
Eugenia
