We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.
The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have a problem... my mom is falling apart. My older brother is making my mom's life hell. I try to comfort her but she is in great pain. I am leaving in 5 days, to live with my boyfriend. I don't want to leave my mom. But I am 20 years old and it's time for me to move on with my life, and grow to be a stronger person. I can't protect her from him and I am scared what he will do to her when I am not there for her. I love my mom very much and what my brother is doing to her is killing me inside and out.
I know that this letter is not very spiritual, but I was hoping for a little advice on what I could do for my mom. My mom was born December 13,1957. I was born April 19,1980, at 4 AM. All I want is help!
Mother Love
Dear Mother Love
Without your brothers birth data it's hard for me to know what he is capable of doing. Regarding your mother she has to be the one to say no to him, not you. Until your mother is ready to practice tough love nothing will change. If he continually does things to hurt her she should not allow him access to her home. She must protect herself; you can't do that for her. You have to make your own choices and follow your own dreams. Your chart indicates that a move is apparent however you may be able to entice your mother to follow suit and move closer to you sometime next year. Your chart indicates that you should be able to do well in the work force. You have lots of good ideas and certainly the energy to reach your goals. You didn't submit your boyfriend's chart so I can't really make a comment on how well you'll do together. You must not let him stand in the way of your goals. It will be important that you learn the skills necessary if you want to advance professionally. Don't sell yourself short. You are bright, have social skills and can do very well given the right background. Your versatility and charm will help you get ahead.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I guess I'm reaching out to you because I need the opinion of a person not close to me. I'm currently involved with a man who I think I might be in love with. He's a few years older than I am and he has a girlfriend. He's been with her for at least 2 years. We've been dating (having sex) for the past year. I have developed strong feelings for him and have told him so. He has told me that he isn't ready for marriage but wants to be in a relationship that could lead to that. I want what we have to turn into something more. I want a committed relationship. I have dreams about marrying this man. I just need to know if our relationship is going to develop into something deeper. Does he really want to be with me or is he just wanting me for sex? His birthday is May 13, 1975 and mine is July 8, 1980 at 4 PM. Thank you for you insight.
Cancer
Hi Cancer
A relationship built on lies, cheating and deceit isn?t likely to progress in a secure and long-lasting manner. The comparison wasn?t great however I must admit that the sex is probably decent. You did not submit his girlfriends date of birth so I can?t tell you how well he matches up to her but I?m assuming it is probably better than the comparison that you have with him. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and relationships beginning this fall. I suggest that you dump this loser who hasn?t had the guts to finish one relationship before he begins another. By doing so you will be free and clear to meet a much better candidate for love later this year when you chart denotes love and romance. You match up well to the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I have been married for six years. For most of that time, our sex life has been practically nonexistent, even though we seem to be quite compatible based on our charts. This is my fault, really, as early on I lost my desire to have sex with him; in fact, I am turned off by his touch. I've never told him this because I don't want to hurt him, but, obviously, the "sex" issue has caused some major discord in our marriage. I have tried to rekindle my passion, but I haven't had any success. I know the problem is not physical, as I often have sexual dreams and fantasize about other men (but I've never cheated). If I am unable to get past this, it most surely will lead to divorce. I was born 11/20/71 at 6:50 a.m., my husband was born 5/6/65, (time unknown). Thank you for your advice.
Passionless Wife
Dear Passionless Wife
I don?t really see your comparison as being all that great regarding love. It lacks in areas essential to building a happy and loving relationship. It appears to be more like a brother sister connection that is definitely not built on passion. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that brings opportunities for you to meet someone who knocks you off your feet. This could lead to a secret affair if you aren?t out of your current situation. I suggest that if you don?t want this to happen and you truly want to try to rekindle your relationship, that you start communicating with your husband honestly about your feelings and let him know what?s lacking in your marriage. I am a believer that any relationship can work if both people are willing to put in the effort. However, unfortunately I have found that in most cases when it doesn?t work there is a lack of communication and it?s often quite one-sided with regards to who puts what into the marriage. In your case I feel that honesty and straightforwardness will be required. Although this may hurt your husbands feelings initially, if you are living in a loveless marriage I think he would agree that getting help or splitting up would be preferable to the nonexistent connection that you have right now.
Eugenia
December 25th 2025
Happy Birthday: Pay it down, pay it forward —whatever feels right, follow through. Staying on top of debt, promises, or whatever else you have on your agenda, it's vital that you don't ignore what you must do if you want to flourish during the upcoming year. Take the initiative to tidy up loose ends and to divvy up your time to ensure you make the most of what's to come. Your numbers are 3, 14, 23, 29, 31, 38, 44.
