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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I wanted to start out by telling you the number of times I've written, but I don't remember. I'm really pleading with you for some advice. My boyfriend [June 12, 1972] and I [Sept. 25, 1974, at 8:18 AM] moved across country together about 4 months ago. Since then, he has been supporting me and I can't seem to find work here. I have had periods of depression, and then I find myself motivated. I have been up and down on an emotional roller coaster since I got here. He is also unhappy. Maybe more than me. He is unhappy with the job that brought us out here, and wants to quit, except we are going broke at this point. I have been asking friends and relatives to borrow money. I feel guilty that I have not been able to pull my weight financially in this relationship, I also feel like that leaves me completely defenseless in any conversation that I have with my boyfriend, fight or otherwise. Every time I check my horoscope on your site, it seems to tell me that my financial outlook is getting better, or that it should be. I feel like there is one part of my life that is what you might call the "core" of my problems. I don't know what it is. Lately my self-esteem has been low; I can't seem to do anything right and I don't know how to make him or me feel better. I only see one answer...get a job. It's obvious, but I've looked for jobs that are way beneath my ability, and no one is hiring. I feel like this is a trap I fell in. Before I left to move here, I was financially capable; I worked all the time and actually partially supported him. But now it has just been too long. Is there any part of my chart showing that I'm neglecting a certain aspect of my life that could change some of this nonsense? I feel there is something that I'm doing horribly wrong, and I just don't know what it is or how to change it. Please, Please help...And thank you.
Still lost in L.A.
Dear Still lost in L.A.
I feel that you should be preparing to make a move back to where you came from. Contact your former employer and see if there is something available for you. If you don't feel that this is an option the other suggestion is to pick up different skills through educational pursuits or offer services to couples in your neighborhood needing childcare help for the time being. Regarding your financial position being favorable, it is but in an area that deals with investments, not work and money. Therefore if you were older and more established you may have been able to take advantage of these transits and invested in a worthwhile stock or business. You may be able to use these transits however to invest in yourself by starting your own business. As far as making money by working for others it does look grim. You have so much going for you however; you are creative, intellectual and bright. Talk to your boyfriend about starting your own home based business. He may even be interested in helping you. As for him, if he doesn't like his job why are you both still there. You should have probably returned home already.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last
I am almost embarrassed to ask for advice. Since I don't like to tell too much information about myself, I hope I can phrase the question right. I have a hard time in terms of my relationship with men. On one hand I want to love and be loved very deeply. It is a very spiritual connection that I crave. On the other hand, as soon as I am in a relationship, I feel suffocated, like the type of relationship society deems proper does not fit my personality. Is it possible for me to find someone who can give me the emotional intensity that I crave with the physical freedom I feel I need? Or are these two things so opposite that I must choose one way to be? I really need to know if I must make a choice, or if I should keep on looking. I am interested in someone right now mainly due to his personal integrity. I don't think he knows that he has caught my attention just yet and I am reluctant to pursue anything right now due to my conflicting needs in a relationship. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. I was born 10/26/68 at 11:22 pm and he was born 05/06/61 at 4:15 am.
Embarrassed
Dear Embarrassed
There are lots of people who want to have their cake and eat it too. The main concern is honesty. The comparison with your Taurus friend was quite favorable and it didn't really show any major sign of sorrow therefore I see no reason not to pursue him unless of course you are also working with him professionally. I suggest that should you decide to move forward that you are right up front about your desires and needs so that you give him the choice to bow out if he can't handle the freedom you require. I don't believe that you can turn off a switch and become totally monogamous if that isn't the way you are. Therefore you are best to search openly and honestly for someone who shares your values and sexual needs. Don't be embarrassed; lots of people feel the same way you do. You are in a high cycle regarding love however I must stress that you should not mix business with pleasure.
EugeniaDear Eugenia!
This is kind of a long story, and question, but I'm really truly at a loss for what to do. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs (a Cancer man 22/6-68), and feel good about it! The relationship turned into a friendship, and we decided to call it quits. I'm now single and loving it, most of the time anyway, but there is a guy (Scorpio, 29/10-67).. I met him when I was still together with my ex, but I couldn't really do anything with him at the time. I ended up staying a night at his house, and loved every second I was with him. But I was in a relationship, and hadn't seen the light yet, so we lost touch. I never really stopped thinking about him, and he was always playing in the back of my mind. But suddenly after 4 months he calls me, and we end up having the best phone conversation ever. It's like we never lost touch, and I realize as we're talking that "shit I really really like him." But as it seems I'm prone to bad luck in love, I tried hitting the breaks with my self emotionally. I know he likes me too, we have a chemistry that blows me away, we talk on the phone for hours, about everything between heaven and earth. And the sexual chemistry I experienced with him in September (we didn't have sex, but we did get very intimate) knocked me to my feet!!! But, his life is very very complicated now, his father just died, and their relationship was strained, and there seems to be a long lost sister trying to get her share of the estate left after his dad. And he is so focused on doing the right thing all the bloody time, always, that I know there's no room for any emotional/relationship thing at this point. I am not a very patient person, but I find myself, for the first time, willing to wait for his life to settle back. I've offered him my friendship and he seems to want it, and appreciate it! But, what is this thing with us? What does this "thing" have in store for me? Is friendship all he wants forever? I'm falling slowly, and it's basically for his personality (haven't seen him in person for 4 months..) and he just intrigues me, he makes me wanna get a grip of my life.. I really do hope you can help me understand this guy and what he thinks. I've never felt this unsure about myself or the future of my feelings for this Scorpio man. Thanx,
Anett.
Dear Anett
There are a lot of oppositions in your comparison with your Scorpio friend and although this can make the pull between the two of you very dynamic it isn't always the best when it comes right down to everyday life. The major sign of sorrow does show up in your comparison and this worries me. I do believe that he is very attracted to you but I also feel that he is extremely practical having his natal Moon, Venus, Jupiter, Uranus and Pluto in the sign Virgo and is probably questioning the age difference between you. People with a lot of Virgo in their charts do tend to marry later in life. They want to be one hundred percent certain that they have chosen wisely and he probably fears that at some point you will move on. You on the other hand are a very strong Taurus and they are usually true blue beginning to end but you also have three planets in Libra and one in Sagittarius and this can cause problems when your partner's looks depreciate. Offer your friendship but unless you truly believe you can go the distance and do life with this very serious and loyal man I suggest you let him go. As I mentioned the comparison has a real push/pull to it and I'm afraid that you will probably hurt him in the end. I know that your ex was also quite a bit older and your comparison to him was comparable to that with your Scorpio friend. This really isn't an age thing on your side right now but it certainly could be in the future. Some people do well with those much older when they are young and those much younger when they are old. Think about it.
Eugenia
