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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I wanted to start out by telling you the number of times I've written, but I don't remember. I'm really pleading with you for some advice. My boyfriend [June 12, 1972] and I [Sept. 25, 1974, at 8:18 AM] moved across country together about 4 months ago. Since then, he has been supporting me and I can't seem to find work here. I have had periods of depression, and then I find myself motivated. I have been up and down on an emotional roller coaster since I got here. He is also unhappy. Maybe more than me. He is unhappy with the job that brought us out here, and wants to quit, except we are going broke at this point. I have been asking friends and relatives to borrow money. I feel guilty that I have not been able to pull my weight financially in this relationship, I also feel like that leaves me completely defenseless in any conversation that I have with my boyfriend, fight or otherwise. Every time I check my horoscope on your site, it seems to tell me that my financial outlook is getting better, or that it should be. I feel like there is one part of my life that is what you might call the "core" of my problems. I don't know what it is. Lately my self-esteem has been low; I can't seem to do anything right and I don't know how to make him or me feel better. I only see one answer...get a job. It's obvious, but I've looked for jobs that are way beneath my ability, and no one is hiring. I feel like this is a trap I fell in. Before I left to move here, I was financially capable; I worked all the time and actually partially supported him. But now it has just been too long. Is there any part of my chart showing that I'm neglecting a certain aspect of my life that could change some of this nonsense? I feel there is something that I'm doing horribly wrong, and I just don't know what it is or how to change it. Please, Please help...And thank you.
Still lost in L.A.
Dear Still lost in L.A.
I feel that you should be preparing to make a move back to where you came from. Contact your former employer and see if there is something available for you. If you don't feel that this is an option the other suggestion is to pick up different skills through educational pursuits or offer services to couples in your neighborhood needing childcare help for the time being. Regarding your financial position being favorable, it is but in an area that deals with investments, not work and money. Therefore if you were older and more established you may have been able to take advantage of these transits and invested in a worthwhile stock or business. You may be able to use these transits however to invest in yourself by starting your own business. As far as making money by working for others it does look grim. You have so much going for you however; you are creative, intellectual and bright. Talk to your boyfriend about starting your own home based business. He may even be interested in helping you. As for him, if he doesn't like his job why are you both still there. You should have probably returned home already.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I wrote to you once before, but it appears my letter was overlooked. I'm beginning to feel a little stressed over a situation that appears to be inevitable in my love life. I'm a Sagittarius, born December 2, 1961 at 9:45 p.m. A few years ago I met a wonderful man at work. He's a Gemini; born June 2, 1960 (I'm not sure of the time). I have a wonderful connection with this man--when we talk we're so connected that we finish each other's sentences. I also feel a strong connection in that I can feel his energy around me when he's not there. I've never felt this way with anyone before---not even my ex-husband. He was going through his divorce about the same time I was (shortly after we met), and we've been friends since then. I would like a romantic relationship with him, and I feel he wants one with me too but he seems to take two steps forward and then hold back. I can only assume this is because he's cautious of being hurt again. He won't reveal the reason to me. About six weeks ago, I met another man (Scorpio, born November 9, 1964, I don't know the time). We've talked a lot on the phone and started to date. I don't feel the same attraction with the Scorpio that I do with the Gemini, but the Scorpio is more "forward" in his approach which I really like. He also is not afraid to talk about his feelings, which I think is very important. I like him a lot--he's very sweet, considerate, intelligent and fun. I intend to keep dating the Scorpio. Can you tell me if the Gemini will ever step forward the way I've always hoped he would?I dread making choices between men, but I can almost see how this will play out. I'll start getting involved with the Scorpio and the Gemini will finally step forward and I'll feel guilty and torn. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but at the same time I want to be true to myself and follow my heart. The way I feel right now, I definitely want a relationship with the Gemini! Impossible, right? Can you help me with some insight?
Thank you.
Sag In Need of Help
Dear Sag In Need of Help
You are still going through a very unstable period where relationships are concerned. To try to make a decision at this time would probably end in a negative spin. Both comparisons were just adequate. I think that you can do much better. I get the feeling that you don't like to be single, that you truly want someone to love when really you'd be best to go it alone for at least a little longer. Opportunities to make changes in your home environment will be present until the middle of next year and you should be focusing on doing just that. Build your own base and do the things that you like to do. It's time to enjoy your freedom. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra and Aquarius. You will be in a much higher cycle regarding love and romance in 2002. For now you should be enjoying the company of friends and discovering whom you are and what you want in a partner. Don't jump into a new relationship too fast and for the wrong reason.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I feel so frustrated and unhappy at times. Nearly 5 years ago I moved to another province with my partner (March 13, 1951) so that we could be near his kids. We thought it was for the best; one of the children was having problems and it made sense to be closer. But problems with his ex-wife have never gone away and it's just never improved here. We don't get to see the kids and it's been at times a nightmare dealing with his ex. On top of that, we have had financial difficulties almost from the beginning. I couldn't find full time work for ages and he found work, was laid off and has been trying to do contracting since. I finally found work that I like but I am still not very happy. My partner gets work sporadically and we are just not doing well financially. I get frustrated with him and frustrated with this situation. Plenty of times I think about leaving. My head says go home, my heart says stay here. I don't feel that this is the right place for me. It seems a waste of time since we rarely see his kids anyway. My biggest concern is finding work; his is losing the kids even more. But I still feel the burning desire to move home. Do you see me (or us together) leaving here and returning home or moving someplace else? What is our financial outlook for the next year? I was born September 12, 1961 at 10:44 am. Thanks for listening.
Virgo/Pisces
Dear Virgo/Pisces
Without your husbands time of birth it is difficult to know what he will do. He is facing some changes and I do believe that emotionally he will be getting his life together over the course of the next year while he benefits from a Saturn transit that is moving through his chart. On the other hand he may also be questioning his personal direction as well. Once he has come to some decisions regarding his ex and his children he should be able to make a move. I believe that will begin to make more sense to him in August of this year. Your comparison was good but there are signs of emotional deception which means you probably aren?t communicating with one another the way you should be right now. It is time for both of you to talk openly and honestly about what you really want to see happen in the future. Your chart does indicate that you should stick it out together but also that it would be better for you to make a move back to where you have the support of friends and family. Once again without your husbands time of birth I can not tell whether he should make the move or if he will.
Eugenia
