We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
My husband is filing for divorce from me. He was born 2/6/46 and I 10/21/53 at 2:57 PM. I do really (I have examined this) still and will always love him. Is there a course I can take to win his love back in my future? Will we ever be together again? Please answer, I could use ANY advice on how to behave right now. I am in despair and grief, but believe in the power of love. Any advice on what I'm doing now would be helpful. I need to make a new life; will he be in it?
Married Soul
Dear Married Soul
This situation is out of your hands. There is nothing that you can do to bring him back at this time. Your husband is going through a lot of confusion and changes and this is not about to stop any time soon. Cover yourself legally. You are in a much better position to win any disputes concerning what is rightfully yours. Don't be foolish because you still love him. Get whatever financial benefits you're entitled to. This is not the time to play Mrs. Nice. You'll be glad that you did a year from now. From a personal perspective the best thing that you can do is to get on with your life. You are in a high cycle regarding new relationships and friendships and the sooner you move in that direction the better it will be for you. You match up to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Eight months ago I removed myself from a toxic abusive relationship, and put myself slowly onto the road to recovery. I got a new apartment alone, and started a business by myself. I am 41, born October 11, 1961, at 2:32 am, and am having a very hot affair with a sexy 22 year old. It's the first satisfying coupling I've had in a long time. My x continues to call, and wants me back but I am terrified by the level of rancor we have had for each other in the past. My lover was born 7/8/80, and my x on 5/28/74.
I'm inclined to go for the new as much as possible, but I'm wondering how far it could go with us- you know, a child; togetherness. Am I fooling myself? Or should I just enjoy it as long as I am able? I'm reminded that there's no fool like an old fool. What should I do?
Thanks,
Tuutie
Dear Tuutie
The astrological comparison with your new love was definitely the better of the two and I never have a problem with chronological age differences because it really depends on the two people involved but I do fear the fact that although the comparison was good sorrow is evident at some point. I feel certain that you can enjoy this partner for some time however if you want to have a baby, do so for the right reason and with the intention of raising your child by yourself. I believe that you will have to make a choice. You definitely shouldn't be looking back and you will have a transit coming up over the next year where past partners will surface, however this very same transit will also bring about new potential partners and I would advice that you move in that direction should you be serious about marriage, family, children and longevity of the union. If you choose to stay with your current partner be aware that although this relationship does have some staying power it will eventually end and it will probably be do to children.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I had written to you a while back and I totally understand that you are overloaded with emails daily. I will try to keep this brief.
I'm completely tired and fed up with the dating game. Dating has become so difficult even with all the Internet sites to help us out. I find that so many people portray themselves a certain way that's practically "wonderful" for the most part and yet, within days or maybe even a short couple of weeks they show their "true selves". The guy that doesn't call back or doesn't make plans any more. I find it difficult to get past a 1st or 2nd date with many of these guys. I certainly don't think I'm an unattractive woman by any means, but I'm also a big-hearted person with a lot of genuine love. I just don't understand why it's so hard to find someone that I am not only physically attracted to, but emotionally as well. The men that I am attracted to for various reasons (humorous, cute, nice) turn out to be jerks! They show interest initially and then disappear! I'm pretty clear on the type of person that I am and that I am looking for, so I can't imagine these guys thinking I'm "that type of girl".
Eugenia, please shed some light here and tell me. Do you see love in my life SOON?
Last year I wrote to you and you said that I would meet someone in the latter part of 2006. Unfortunately, that didn't happen.
Is there any hope for me yet? When do you think I will meet the right man? I've been alone and have enjoyed it, but it's time to move forward in my life. I do hope to be married one day and have a family. (Whether biological children or adopted).
My DOB is 19/01/70 at 1 am.
Signed,
Tired yet still hopeful
Dear tired yet still hopeful
Yes indeed you did go through a very fast but short-lived love cycle late last year and you probably met a few people but nothing stuck. It wasn't the strongest transit but none the less one that had potential to lead to romance. It falls in an area of your chart that deals with meeting people through friends, neighbors, and relatives as well as by getting involved in activities with groups or pursuing interests you enjoy. Like taking a course or going on a singles cruise. Although the Internet can be included as a way to meet partners it certainly shouldn't be your first choice. Internet dating can work for some but so many people abuse this service by using it as a dating game instead of being serious. Lots of unhappy married people sit for countless hours connecting with people on internet dating sites because they are lonely in the relationship they are in. Not having to be face to face with someone they can lie, cheat and live in whatever dream world they want to create. This is hurtful to the honest individual who is truly looking for a long-term connection. It is far better to get involved in activities you enjoy so that you meet someone who has similar interests. This way you get to build the friendship first and let love take its course naturally instead of the fast paced internet dating scene that has taken the planet by storm. I tend to think a lot of people consider Internet dating as virtual dating - not real - just play.
Back to your chart - there is no reason why you can't find love. Your natal Venus is nicely positioned in your chart however I do believe that with your natal Saturn being in an area of your chart that deals with relationships that you are prone to marrying later in life rather than earlier and that you are also conservative and quite picky when it comes to a partner and there is nothing wrong with that. Probably even more so why you don't belong in the Internet dating game but will do much better using old fashioned methods to find love.
Although this year isn't bad for love you also have to be careful which partner you pick and that whoever you choose doesn't cost you financially
