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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
My husband is filing for divorce from me. He was born 2/6/46 and I 10/21/53 at 2:57 PM. I do really (I have examined this) still and will always love him. Is there a course I can take to win his love back in my future? Will we ever be together again? Please answer, I could use ANY advice on how to behave right now. I am in despair and grief, but believe in the power of love. Any advice on what I'm doing now would be helpful. I need to make a new life; will he be in it?
Married Soul
Dear Married Soul
This situation is out of your hands. There is nothing that you can do to bring him back at this time. Your husband is going through a lot of confusion and changes and this is not about to stop any time soon. Cover yourself legally. You are in a much better position to win any disputes concerning what is rightfully yours. Don't be foolish because you still love him. Get whatever financial benefits you're entitled to. This is not the time to play Mrs. Nice. You'll be glad that you did a year from now. From a personal perspective the best thing that you can do is to get on with your life. You are in a high cycle regarding new relationships and friendships and the sooner you move in that direction the better it will be for you. You match up to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am going through a breakup in my marriage of 15 years. It has been a very rocky marriage with control and mistrust on my part, and dishonesty and no loyalty on her part, and we haven't been friends in a long time, to name the most major problems. We were in turmoil for 4 weeks before we had an argument and then have been separated for 5 weeks now and have really had some nasty times. Some of the things she has said are very hurtful, and I don't know what is true and what is not. I think that most men would not stick around to hear the things she has been saying, but for some reason I can't seem to stop loving her and wanting her to come back to build on what we have or had. I have heard that she hasn't been in love with me in years- she was just "settling" or "getting by". I do now recognize some signs of her feeling this way, but I have a hard time seeing it being as much as she says. When we weren't mad at each other, there was always holding hands, cuddling, kissing, that type thing that after 15 years a lot of partners don't do as much as we did. I have really come to the realization that my mistrust and controlling manners have to change no matter what- and we're very misplaced with her. Basically, I realize that she came home to me every night, and now she doesn't- that's all that matters to me now. She wants some space to figure out who she is and has sometimes said things that give me hope (false hope is how she words it). She has also said several times that it is over and she just wants to move on. I can't seem to get my head into "moving on" as every one tells me to. I also can't seem to leave her alone and give her space. I am obsessed with trying to talk to her to start becoming friends- but it just makes her angrier and turns into a nasty fight sometimes. I don't know how to control my urge to not leave her alone because my whole life seems to be just falling apart without her beside me.
Can you guide me into a more secure or comfortable place?
Sorry I don't know the time of her or my birth. Her day was May 2/60 and mine is Sept. 11/66.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison does indicate trouble. There is a lack of trust and communication along with deception and anger. Uncertainty will always be a problem between the two of you regardless of whether you stay together or not. You need to let go. You have a good chart and if you can only realize that you were totally mismatched regarding your values and hers you might be able to move on. You match up to people born under the signs Taurus (not her - I'll explain later), Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. She may be a Taurus but only by Sun sign. She has her natal Mercury and Venus in the sign Aries and this sign does not match up to you at all. Mercury and Venus represent the way she thinks and communicates along with her morals, ethics and Venus represent the way she loves etc. What actually drew you together was the fact that you both have your Moon in the sign Cancer but that isn't enough to make a relationship work. She is erratic and can change her mind very rapidly. She wants to have fun and she needs freedom to come and go as she pleases. You need companionship, trust and someone who wants to be with you all the time. This connection just won't work that way. We are who we are and as much as either one of you may want to change I fear that the same problems will continually surface. You are headed toward lots of changes and you have to wrap your head around that and accept the inevitable. Should she even entertain the thought of getting back together it wouldn't be long before she would want to move on again. Let go and start anew. I believe that she has decided to do just that. The only time I see a possible reconciliation is this fall however as I mentioned before - should you get back together it would only be for a short period of time be
Dear Eugenia
I was reading my horoscope (Leo) and the love matches or slaves. For Leo and Aries, it says, "this is a capricious union". When I do the opposite and look at the Aries horoscope and scroll down to love slaves, it says, "a match made in heaven". Is there a discrepancy or am I interpreting the word "capricious" wrong.
Also I felt discouraged at the description found in Leo in the game of love. It says that Leo women often bestow their love and affection on the wrong men. Can you elaborate on that so as to have an understanding about who the "wrong men" are in this case? I was born August 11, 1963, at 1:15 am.
Thanks in advance
Chocolate
Dear Chocolate
The difference is who is playing the male role in the relationship and who is playing the female role. When the female is Aries and the male Leo it works better than the other way around. When the Aries is the male it makes the relationship far more unreliable. Regarding Leo females it is a trait to pick the wrong men however that isn't always the case depending on other factors in her chart. In your particular case your natal Venus is in Leo as well as your Sun well aspected to your natal Jupiter in Aries and this does tend to give you better luck when choosing a partner. Also with your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus and Sun and sextile your natal Jupiter it help you not to jump as quickly. You do however have your natal Neptune in an adverse position to your Saturn, Venus and Sun and this can sometimes with certain partners, especially those you meet through work, cause you to be disillusioned leading to disappointment. Sun Sign astrology is fun but a birth chart is like your fingerprint. It is a roadmap of your life and when you take any two charts and put them together it is a unique combination. Some partners will bring out the best in you and others will not. Each is an individual case and must be treated that way. Never take to heart the generalities of the subject. Sun Sign astrology is for fun but the real deal which is what I do at my www.astroadvice.com website give you legitimate facts so run a comparison with your Aries friend and find out what the pro's and cons of your relationship really are.
Eugenia
