We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am very much in love and hoping to marry a Leo, (8/11/55) that I have known for 6 years now. We dated for three years, took one and a half years off, and are back together in a stronger, more passionate bond than ever before. He is a very affectionate man, and I feel in many ways my perfect match and soul mate. When I'm with him I'm ecstatic and the separations are still torture.We have had a long distance relationship for the last year, as was the case early on as well, but at that point neither of us was ready (or able) to move.
Recently I've been considering moving across the country to be with this man. He has said repeatedly that he wants to live with me though he is not sure about "marriage" per se. Perhaps it was his Leo nature --he loves women and says so-- but he was not monogamous with me in our first three years together, a fact I learned only this year. Now I have less trust in him, though I still love him desperately. I want to marry this man, even though he hurt me.
Is this man capable of loving only one woman? Unfortunately I do not have a birth time for him. I am concerned that if I move my life to be with him, I might get hurt, since I was shocked to learn that my prince was not who I thought he was in Round one. He has stated it was only a "phase" and he is serious about me now. If you can give me any insights into our future based on his and my chart, I would appreciate it. I was born February 11, 1974, at 3:30 AM. Thanks Eugenia,
Polar Opposites
Dear Polar Opposites
The comparison between you and your Leo partner was certainly enticing, engaging and intriguing however it also showed signs of sorrow, deception and disillusionment. Now I'm not trying to deter you from following your heart because I feel you are going to do so anyway and that you probably have to experience this relationship for some karmic reason. I must however tell you that your Leo falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and that the length of time spent with one another may not be all that long. He is going through many changes. He doesn't really know what he wants and will bounce back and forth between wanting to be single and wanting to be married. If you make the effort to move and he still isn't willing to marry you should be asking yourself why not. You were born with your natal Neptune adversely aspecting your natal Mercury and this usually represents a person who is gullible, easily deceived or blind to the defects of others. Before you make a move I suggest that you have a job to go to first. Look out for your own interests and be sure that regardless of what he does you are self-sufficient.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I participated in the Seoul Forum. It was great to see you in Seoul Forum but it was a pity that I couldn't talk to you personally. I had a lot to ask that night, about astrology and most of all, about my personal problems. That's why I'm writing to you. Please listen to my problem. I don't know whether our distance is too far away. Please help me.
I was born on Aug 17, 1976 at 4:45 am. What I'd mostly like to know is about love. I recently broke up with my boyfriend whom I had been going out for 5 years. You had implied that we would split up in my horoscope but I wasn't ready to do so but it happened anyway. However, the problem is that I want to know if this is my fate, should I let him go. I thought I could get over him but my heart says no. Are we really over? What can I do to get him back? What should I do if I have to forget him? Please help me. I don't have the confidence to live alone, without him. I can't imagine him being happy without me. I even have thought about death.
Please tell me what I should do. If there is a way, how long do I have to wait and what should I do? Please tell me how I can see him again. Or at least the way I can make him think of me. If our fate is over,...no ...you know I don't want that. Please give me advice..... Wish you happiness and hope you give can give me some hope. It is a blessing that you have the ability to help others. I'll pray for you while I wait your reply.
Upset and Emotional
Dear Upset and Emotional
It would have helped me considerably if you had mentioned your boyfriends birth date. Looking at your chart I can tell you however that there is a lot of deception, disillusionment and uncertainty moving through an area of your chart that deals with your personal relationship. I believe that it is possible between now and the middle of next summer to rekindle the flame with your ex if that is what you want to do. I would first however ask you to run a compatibility check on my astroeast.com web site in order to be sure that he is the one for you. If your comparison is not great I suggest that you get out and start meeting new partners that will be better for you. Over the course of the next ten months you will be in a high cycle for love and romance and if you stay at home crying over this man you will miss the opportunity to meet someone who you could potentially love even more. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of five years. I broke up with him mainly because he was not doing much with his life and my waiting around for him caused me to lose interest (in all aspects). At the same time that I broke up with him a really close friend from the past (who had disappeared for five years) showed up out of the blue. Feelings that I had once felt for my friend have also appeared. I feel in my heart that I made the correct decision in leaving my boyfriend, but at times feel a doubt. Was my decision a mistake? Also, it seems that my friend and I picked up right where we left off five years ago. We share all the same qualities, interests and personality traits, topic starters, etc. My feelings for him grow stronger everyday, but I feel as if there is something he is not telling me. Should I question his motives or trust the things he tells me? What is his reason for coming back into my life after 5 years? My ex-boyfriend's birth date is: 10/27/81 and my friend's birth date is: 11/25/81. My birth date is 7/27/82 at 11:55 PM. Please help!
Leo
Dear Leo
No you did not make a mistake regarding your ex. You simply don't match up well and nothing is going to change that. You have different values. You are more of a doer than he will ever be. He may be born under the sign Scorpio but his chart is definitely more Libra. He is willing to coast along and that is just the way he is and always will be.
On the other hand you don't match up any better to your old friend so I believe he is telling you what you want to hear and being who he thinks you want him to be. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends therefore not likely to go the distance. However if he helped you make your decision not to get back together with your ex he has filled his purpose so it's time for you to move on to bigger and better relationships.
This year you should be focusing on getting your life back on track. Securing your position and setting your finances in order - even considering purchasing a house if at all possible or at least making a move that is more conducive to saving or getting ahead financially.
You will be in a much better cycle regarding love as the year comes to a close and throughout the first half of next year. That doesn't mean you won't meet someone before that time but I suggest that you take your time, socialize and get to know potential partners better before getting involved in another intimate long term union.
Eugenia
