We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am very much in love and hoping to marry a Leo, (8/11/55) that I have known for 6 years now. We dated for three years, took one and a half years off, and are back together in a stronger, more passionate bond than ever before. He is a very affectionate man, and I feel in many ways my perfect match and soul mate. When I'm with him I'm ecstatic and the separations are still torture.We have had a long distance relationship for the last year, as was the case early on as well, but at that point neither of us was ready (or able) to move.
Recently I've been considering moving across the country to be with this man. He has said repeatedly that he wants to live with me though he is not sure about "marriage" per se. Perhaps it was his Leo nature --he loves women and says so-- but he was not monogamous with me in our first three years together, a fact I learned only this year. Now I have less trust in him, though I still love him desperately. I want to marry this man, even though he hurt me.
Is this man capable of loving only one woman? Unfortunately I do not have a birth time for him. I am concerned that if I move my life to be with him, I might get hurt, since I was shocked to learn that my prince was not who I thought he was in Round one. He has stated it was only a "phase" and he is serious about me now. If you can give me any insights into our future based on his and my chart, I would appreciate it. I was born February 11, 1974, at 3:30 AM. Thanks Eugenia,
Polar Opposites
Dear Polar Opposites
The comparison between you and your Leo partner was certainly enticing, engaging and intriguing however it also showed signs of sorrow, deception and disillusionment. Now I'm not trying to deter you from following your heart because I feel you are going to do so anyway and that you probably have to experience this relationship for some karmic reason. I must however tell you that your Leo falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and that the length of time spent with one another may not be all that long. He is going through many changes. He doesn't really know what he wants and will bounce back and forth between wanting to be single and wanting to be married. If you make the effort to move and he still isn't willing to marry you should be asking yourself why not. You were born with your natal Neptune adversely aspecting your natal Mercury and this usually represents a person who is gullible, easily deceived or blind to the defects of others. Before you make a move I suggest that you have a job to go to first. Look out for your own interests and be sure that regardless of what he does you are self-sufficient.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Please...Eugenia...how long do I have to wait to get your reply? Do I need to write in English? I'm waiting for your help.
I was born in Sept 18, 1956 (9:10 PM) and he was born in Dec 26, 1961, my ex-husband was born Dec 26, 1957. I'm not sure about his birth time. He is the most precious person in my life and I would not trade him for anyone else. He is not afraid of anything. We were happy as if we had both found the love of our life. We told each other that we could not find the another person that we could love more.
However, he changes his mind now. He is still going out with me but it's different from what we used to be. He even wants to break up with me but we both know that we love each other. My life is in total darkness now. I lost hope. I am trying to overcome this difficult feeling, but sometimes I don't want to be alive anymore. I cry almost everyday.
If I wait for him, will he come back to me? At this moment, I'm going to wait and endure this hardship. For your reference, I'm taking care of my children (1 son & 1 daughter) alone. What does he mean to me? Is he my man? If not, when will I meet Mr. Right? Or is it better to live alone?
Eugenia...how many times do I need to write to you? It may be hard for me to wait another week.
From a person who needs God's help.
Virgo Lady
Dear Virgo Lady
You do match up better to your younger Capricorn then you did to your ex-husband but this relationship is still lacking some of the basic qualities that one should have in a serious partnership. There is some sorrow that is present and that falls in an area of your chart that deals with your home and family. This man may not be completely honest with you regarding how he feels about your children. Your chart indicates that you are going through many changes in your personal life and that this man is probably a stepping stone in your life. I belief that both the Capricorn's in your life have been there to teach you something. Both men have their Sun sign placed in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and therefore it is difficult to have a long term relationship with either one of them. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Leo Scorpio, Aquarius and Pisces. You will be in a high cycle where love is concerned during the first half of next year. During that period you may find that your younger Capricorn will want to rekindle your relationship but I must caution you not to be too quick to take him back. You are best to keep your options open and meet new men who will probably match up to you much better.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
About 7 years ago I fell in love with a man and got hurt very deeply. I have consulted astrologers, psychics, and have utilized every possible resource to find out what went wrong. I gave my heart to this man and I am not a person who trusts people in the first place. I am wondering how two people can be so close emotionally and yet drift apart so easily. He is 19 years older than I am but we were like soul mates. I thought about suicide many times but God and my family have helped me to get through my grief. I have never loved anyone this much in my lifetime. Will he ever get in contact with me again or was I just used by him? His birth date is 8/28/1948, mine is 8/03/1967, at 8:38 PM.
Betrayed
Dear Betrayed
You do match up quite well to your Virgo man. You have that sign in an area of your chart that deals with relationships. You are going to be going through a period in the fall that could bring people from your past back into your life however I have a feeling that the reason that your Virgo left the last time was due to commitment problems. He was born with his natal Moon in Gemini adversely aspected to his natal Mercury in Virgo and his natal Jupiter in Sagittarius. This can cause him to be emotionally unstable when it comes to settling down. This is not something that is likely to change. He could very well be a confirmed bachelor. I believe that you need to move on. Your chart indicates that you are very sensitive, loving and loyal and that you want to be involved in a long-term commitment. During the fall of this year you will have some opportunities to meet potential partners if you get out and do things that you enjoy. You match up well to those born under the signs Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
February 26th 2026
Happy Birthday: Embrace life, show enthusiasm, and make emotional, financial, and personal gains. Take advantage of opportunity, shed negativity, discard what’s unnecessary, and concentrate on reaching your highest potential. It’s up to you to bring about change and demonstrate what you can do. Become the person you want to be and take responsibility for your happiness. Trust your instincts, embrace life, and follow through with your plans. Your numbers are 5, 16, 24, 26, 34, 40, 46.
