We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have read some of your responses to the letters posted in your new advice feature, and I'm impressed with your knowledgeable and common sense advice. I am wondering if you can help me, as well. I am a professional Leo woman, who was born on July 25, 1962, 11:46pm. I have recently moved back to my home state for two reasons: I have just gotten a great job with a software company here and I am also looking for a fresh new start as I have just gotten a divorce from my ex-husband, born August 25, 1953, 5:55am. My marriage was never really great to begin with, but had gotten especially bad during the last two years, as my ex-husband became increasingly more and more verbally and mentally abusive. I left him when he started becoming physically abusive towards me and threatened my life. After I left him, I spent the next year and a half-alone trying to re-build my life and heal from my emotional wounds. I realized through therapy and self-examination that most of my relationships with men in the past have been emotionally destructive. Now that I am getting settled in my new home and job and am starting to feel better about myself, I want to start dating again. Just recently I've met a nice man through a friend and he and I just started seeing each other. He and I seem to get along well and have a lot in common; also my friend tells me that he is a genuinely nice guy. What worries me is that this man is a Virgo, like my ex-husband. I've noticed in my self-analysis that although I'm a Leo, most of my long-lasting relationships have been with Virgo men. This new man's birth data is Sept. 20, 1960 (birth time unknown). Is this new relationship destined to become destructive and emotionally unfulfilling like my marriage and past relationships were, or can I finally let the past go and look forward to new love, new life, and much better things in my future?
Wounded yet Hopeful Lioness
Dear Wounded yet Hopeful Lioness
A person's chart is as individualistic as a finger print. Your ex husband is really quite different from your new man and so is your comparison with both. You really matched up very poorly to your ex and I'm not surprised that it didn't last. Your ex only has his natal Sun in the sign Virgo and the rest of the planets in his chart are spread out between the signs Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Libra and Pisces. Your new man on the other hand has his natal Sun, Moon and Pluto in the sign Virgo with some planets falling in the signs Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Capricorn. Your chart indicates that you do have a problem where relationships are concerned and that you are prone to picking poorly or for the wrong reason. You do match up far better to your new Virgo and I do believe that you can enjoy an honest and open relationship with him. You will be in an exceptionally high cycle for love during the later half of next year and the first half of the year 2002. This can mean that this relationship will develop into something very strong or you will meet someone new who will capture your heart. Please get a comparison done if you do decide to date someone new to ensure that you aren't picking the wrong partner.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Eight months ago I removed myself from a toxic abusive relationship, and put myself slowly onto the road to recovery. I got a new apartment alone, and started a business by myself. I am 41, born October 11, 1961, at 2:32 am, and am having a very hot affair with a sexy 22 year old. It's the first satisfying coupling I've had in a long time. My x continues to call, and wants me back but I am terrified by the level of rancor we have had for each other in the past. My lover was born 7/8/80, and my x on 5/28/74.
I'm inclined to go for the new as much as possible, but I'm wondering how far it could go with us- you know, a child; togetherness. Am I fooling myself? Or should I just enjoy it as long as I am able? I'm reminded that there's no fool like an old fool. What should I do?
Thanks,
Tuutie
Dear Tuutie
The astrological comparison with your new love was definitely the better of the two and I never have a problem with chronological age differences because it really depends on the two people involved but I do fear the fact that although the comparison was good sorrow is evident at some point. I feel certain that you can enjoy this partner for some time however if you want to have a baby, do so for the right reason and with the intention of raising your child by yourself. I believe that you will have to make a choice. You definitely shouldn't be looking back and you will have a transit coming up over the next year where past partners will surface, however this very same transit will also bring about new potential partners and I would advice that you move in that direction should you be serious about marriage, family, children and longevity of the union. If you choose to stay with your current partner be aware that although this relationship does have some staying power it will eventually end and it will probably be do to children.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
First of all I would like to mention that I love your website! It has helped guide me through many blessings and problems in my life this year. My question is, I have had three love relationships with men who were born in early April and who share the same birthplace (Stockton, CA). Man #1 04/02/64, man #2 04/04/64, man #3 04/06/68. I also have a very close female friend, who I have known since high school. Her birth date is 04/02/64 born in Japan (Weird, same birth date as man #1). Am I destined to have close personal relationships with those born in early April or is it just a coincidence? My birth date is 01/17/65 10:10pm.
I am currently involved with the man born on 04/06/68 and we have been dating for 8 months. Recently we had an argument and I have not heard from him.I am in love with him and I hope that we can work things out. I feel that he may be confused and he is struggling between his feelings for me and his need for independence. Will he come back to me soon?
Thank you for your help,
Kim
Dear Kim
You were born with the sign Aries in an area of your chart that deals with partnerships, relationships and so forth so it's no surprise that you attract people born under that sign. You do however have a strong earthy chart and this can be difficult if you want to have a lasting relationship with someone of an Aries nature. It is necessary to give Aries space. At the same time you must keep up with an Aries and be a challenge as well. You have a lot of Capricorn and Virgo in your chart giving you the drive, determination and the know-how when it comes to dealing with different personality types. In the case of your most recent Aries boyfriend I believe that with the amount of Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces that he has in his chart that the relationship is workable. You are right, he is confused and he could also be lured away by someone else right now. He is sensitive for an Aries and if you hurt his feelings you may have to be extremely nice, accommodating and giving in order to win him back. I believe that he is very uncertain about his future and his direction and if you push him he will only run in the opposite direction. If he hasn't met someone else and he does decide to come back it will be rocky until August. If he won't budge or he has in fact met someone else I don't believe that this new person will be good for him and it is possible that mid next year he may want to come back at that time. Either way it is quite possible that you will get back together.
Eugenia
