
We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have read some of your responses to the letters posted in your new advice feature, and I'm impressed with your knowledgeable and common sense advice. I am wondering if you can help me, as well. I am a professional Leo woman, who was born on July 25, 1962, 11:46pm. I have recently moved back to my home state for two reasons: I have just gotten a great job with a software company here and I am also looking for a fresh new start as I have just gotten a divorce from my ex-husband, born August 25, 1953, 5:55am. My marriage was never really great to begin with, but had gotten especially bad during the last two years, as my ex-husband became increasingly more and more verbally and mentally abusive. I left him when he started becoming physically abusive towards me and threatened my life. After I left him, I spent the next year and a half-alone trying to re-build my life and heal from my emotional wounds. I realized through therapy and self-examination that most of my relationships with men in the past have been emotionally destructive. Now that I am getting settled in my new home and job and am starting to feel better about myself, I want to start dating again. Just recently I've met a nice man through a friend and he and I just started seeing each other. He and I seem to get along well and have a lot in common; also my friend tells me that he is a genuinely nice guy. What worries me is that this man is a Virgo, like my ex-husband. I've noticed in my self-analysis that although I'm a Leo, most of my long-lasting relationships have been with Virgo men. This new man's birth data is Sept. 20, 1960 (birth time unknown). Is this new relationship destined to become destructive and emotionally unfulfilling like my marriage and past relationships were, or can I finally let the past go and look forward to new love, new life, and much better things in my future?
Wounded yet Hopeful Lioness
Dear Wounded yet Hopeful Lioness
A person's chart is as individualistic as a finger print. Your ex husband is really quite different from your new man and so is your comparison with both. You really matched up very poorly to your ex and I'm not surprised that it didn't last. Your ex only has his natal Sun in the sign Virgo and the rest of the planets in his chart are spread out between the signs Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Libra and Pisces. Your new man on the other hand has his natal Sun, Moon and Pluto in the sign Virgo with some planets falling in the signs Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Capricorn. Your chart indicates that you do have a problem where relationships are concerned and that you are prone to picking poorly or for the wrong reason. You do match up far better to your new Virgo and I do believe that you can enjoy an honest and open relationship with him. You will be in an exceptionally high cycle for love during the later half of next year and the first half of the year 2002. This can mean that this relationship will develop into something very strong or you will meet someone new who will capture your heart. Please get a comparison done if you do decide to date someone new to ensure that you aren't picking the wrong partner.
Eugenia
Hi, Eugenia!
I am curious about something. I have been dating a guy with my exact same birth date, March 9, for the past two months. It hasn't been totally easy or anything, but overall, it's been great. Did I just find a really great guy, or is there an added astrological bonus when you find someone who's sun is exactly conjunct your own? I was born March 9, 1980 at 1:10 A.M. He was born March 9, 1978 at 6:40 A.M.
Thank you!
Curious
Dear Curious
I have always liked to see the same sign relationships. I think that they can be very good however that is not always the case. In your case the comparison shows a lot of deception, disillusionment and sorrow so don't get too comfortable. Pregnancy also shows up so be very careful. Your boyfriends chart has a lot more Pisces in it, having his natal Sun, Moon, Mercury and Venus along with his ascendant in that sign. You on the other hand have more planets in the sign Virgo (polar opposite to Pisces) having your natal Mars, Jupiter and Saturn in that sign and only the Sun and Mercury in Pisces. Every chart and each comparison is a different set up and although I believe that you will learn something from this relationship I do not necessarily feel that it will be the best or the longest lasting union that you encounter.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 yrs now. He wants me to move in with him...and I don't want to. We see each other 1-2 days a week and I am happy with the way things are right now. I was married for 25 yrs before my divorce and my kids are now grown and I like living by myself. My fear is that my boyfriend will leave me soon...if I don't give in and move in with him. He has been very understanding but I don't know how much longer I can keep him from asking the big questions of why?? I wonder lately if maybe he is not the right man for me. That is why I wont make this wholehearted commitment to him. Thanks. His birth date is May 21, 1956 and mine is August 5, 1952 at 1 am.
Leo
Hi Leo
Bingo - you answered your own question. He is not right for you. Although there are many planets that hook up between your chart and his very few of them are actually favorable. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love; romance and meeting Mr. Right beginning late this summer so open your eyes, your heart and your mind to someone who is more likeminded. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini (just not this Gemini), Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
December 11th 2025
Happy Birthday: Be resourceful, choose your path, and build momentum. Struggle, determination, and fortitude lead to positive change this year. Educate yourself in areas you feel akin to, and the motivation that sets in will help you reach and surpass your destination. Be true to yourself, but observant of others. Incorporate what you see and learn into what you are trying to achieve and press forward with courage. Your numbers are 8, 13, 24, 27, 33, 38, 42.