We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia,
I think my man is cheating on me. He was born 2/1/58 in Peoria, IL. We have been together for 2 years, and one thing that's always bothered me is his ability to "compartmentalize." He has several exes that I have never been introduced to, yet I have known all along that he sees them in social situations. This does not bug me, as it seems to indicate that he is truly a caring person and does not throw away relationships with ease.
However, I have sensed a shift recently, and don't know whether to chalk it up to my oversensitive Cancer nature, or to trust my female intuition. The details are unimportant. There is a voice in my head, screaming loudly, that I am being lied to and cheated on.
I am hoping you will help me by providing reassurance that this man does love me truly, like he says he does, or that my unfortunate suspicions are true and I should move on. I think this man may be the love of my life, so I am willing to hang in here, providing I am not being made a fool of. I was born 7/17/66 at 8:52 PM.
Thanks in advance,
Hurting Heart
Dear Hurting Heart
The comparison with your Aquarius lover was not very good. As a matter of fact it screams deception when it comes to communicating about matters that pertain to his friendships with other people or even communicating at any level for that matter. He was also born with his natal Venus adversely positioned to his natal Neptune and this is the major sign of sorrow when it comes to love and romance. The reason he still sees his ex girlfriends is to lead them on. He has to know that at any time he can pull strings and get them to dance with him yet again. Your Aquarius friend is not the sweet and caring man you think he is. He is cool and calculating. As for you - well you are way to sensitive to be involved with the likes of him. You have too much to offer emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally and there is no doubt in my mind that you should be moving on quickly. I know that moving on and letting go are both very difficult for a Cancer to do and in your case you are such a strong Cancer with such a big heart that I can see why you sit there even though you are smart enough to see what's going on right under your nose. You are in a high cycle regarding love and romance until late October and I suggest that you don't waste this precious time on him. Get out of this relationship and move quickly to find a new love. I believe if you do so you will be much happier this time next year. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have just recently lost my long time partner of 8 yrs born September 25, 1975. He was killed in a snowmobile accident in Dec. I have been feeling miserable and very lost lately. One of his friends who is 12 yrs older then myself born April 26, 1967 has been very comforting and wonderful to me. He is always taking good care of me. Last night I engaged in an intimate relationship with him?but am not sure if I did this because of what I am going through. I feel very guilty about what I have done for it has only been a few months since Andrew's funeral. But I really do have strong feelings for this much older man. I have no idea if this will go anywhere or what is to come next. He has promised me not to push and that the ball is in my court, that no matter what he will always be there for me. Is this wrong? I was born February 15, 1979 @ 5:05 am.
Aquarius
Dear Aquarius
Although you have a wonderful comparison with Andrew much of it is based on how well you got along mentally. Andrew truly loved you for who you are. He had the ability to wager the pros and cons of any situation and could compartmentalize when necessary. His message to you is to move on, if the situation was reversed he would have done so himself. Andrews passing has been a great loss for both you and the older man in your life and together you will keep his memory alive. I believe if Andrew could have picked the person he would have wanted you to spend the rest of your life with it would have been his Taurus friend.
Your comparison with your older man is actually very good. The reason you are attracted to him is because you match up so well physically, mentally and emotionally. This is a man who has grown to love you as you have him. The time factor has nothing to do with anything. Falling in love happens at and under the strangest circumstances and in this case it wouldn't surprise me if Karma has played a role in your life both with Andrew and with your Taurus man. Chances are you would never have met your Taurus if it weren't for his connection to Andrew. Don't feel guilty - life is short and God put us here for a good time not a long time. You can waste time living in the past or move forward and enjoy your life as Andrew I'm sure hopes that you will. He loved life and it was obvious by his chart that he did live his to its fullest even though it was cut short. Don't let your sensitive natal Mercury in Pisces stop you from moving forward and grasping all the precious moments that are being presented to you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I usually watch this web site for your advice. Your advice is always true. I am already married, but I don't want to have baby. I still cannot trust him. Maybe I am emotional but I certainly cannot believe him. I'm very tired. He always says "you should trust me'. But I wonder if he still loves me or not. I think we do not suit each other. Should we stay together? My husband was born in September 26, 1969,around 11:00p.m. I was born April 1, 1971, at 11:35 AM.
Actually, I had another boy friend before I got married. I hoped to marry this boyfriend. He was born in Jan 16,1971. Unfortunately we couldn't get married at the end. Finally, I left him. He is living in another country now.
I'd like to know would it better to divorce my husband before we have baby? If not, can I trust my husband someday in the future? I want to see the light of hope as soon as possible. Please give me advice.
Daydreamer
Dear Daydreamer
Your husband can be a player when it comes to love and romance. He can be a real charmer when he wants to be. His chart indicates that he will always be a bachelor at heart. Now that doesn't mean that he will leave you but it doesn't mean that he will be completely loyal either. Your comparison, although workable if he is willing to try harder, does show the major sign of sorrow in an area that deals with friends, relatives, communication, sexual needs, money and legal matters. This covers a lot of territory and you have to question if you have made the right choice in marriage. Regarding your past love, sorrow shows in that comparison as well and I feel that the only reason you are even thinking about him is because you are unhappy with the person you are with. Your chart looks favorable for love and romance next summer. Therefore I suggest that you make your move out of your current situation before that time. If however you decide to stay with your husband I believe that you could end up being pregnant and feeling even less secure in your relationship over the next few years.
Eugenia
