We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am writing to you right now because I am so sad and I do not know what to do. I am going to be 40 this year and never experienced unrequited love in my life until this past 2003. Like in Bridget Jones' Diary he came out of nowhere and allowed me to experience love in its purest form, he loved me for me. There was nothing sexual about our relationship, just 2 souls who seemed to be blessed by Heaven. He was my reflection as I was his.
He went away to med school and since November he seemed to have silenced all communication with me. After I played an April fool joke on him saying that I would be visiting, he sent me back a reply saying that he finds our relationship not rewarding anymore and does not ever expect to hear from me ever again. I have tried to email him to explain why because there is no closure and since this is the 3rd time someone has just walked out of my life with no reason, I am beginning to develop a complex that I am not worthy of love.
I had my palms read and the old man said that I would not experience any love, or if I did in my 30s, it would not work out.
Eugenia, what can you tell me about me, as I don't know anymore.
Thank you so much. - Afraid - as in afraid to be vulnerable ever again.
Could you please blank out this person's bdate if the question in answered? Tks. I was born August 3, 1965 at 7:01 am.
Leo
Dear Leo
The comparison isn't bad but it did show some sorrow coupled with the fact that your Capricorn friend has his Neptune conjunct his Venus and Mercury in the sign Sagittarius making him the one with a problem not you. You just happened to pick someone who isn't likely to commit to anyone - at least not until he is much older.
As for you another high cycle regarding love will be heading your way by the end of this year and throughout the first half of next year. You do best with people born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn. Yes, I know your friend is a Capricorn but in his case he isn't much of a Goat and is really strongly influenced by the signs Sagittarius, Gemini and Libra none of which do well when it comes to settling down.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born in 1978/7/8 at 7:00am, and am now working in Beijing. I am not doing the profession that I studied. I have to start all over again. Last August, when I just came to Beijing, my friend who came here with me died. I feel very sad. I always have the feeling that I should take some responsibility for her death because I brought her to Beijing. If I did not recommend her to the job, she would not come to Beijing and would not die. I am living in the city alone. I have no good friend here, doing something that I am not familiar with, learning new things from the very beginning and earning a very low salary. I don't know whether coming to Beijing has been the right choice. I want to change my job but I am not sure whether the new job requires me to learn new things from the very beginning. I don't even know whether I should get a new job relating to my profession or should I stay in this trading company invested by foreign capital. I really don't know where to go. Hope you can give me some advice.
Lost
Dear Lost
You must not blame yourself for your friend's untimely death. I believe that we all have a beginning and an end. That nothing can change those two parameters in life. There was nothing you did to cause your friends death nor could have done anything to prevent it. As for you, it's time to get on with your life and put the past behind you. You are in a high cycle regarding relationships, meeting people through the organizations or clubs you join, socializing and putting your creative abilities to work for you. This is a period that you should be expanding your circle of friends. Regarding your work you will not be able to rely on others. You will have to work hard in order to get ahead but if you do it will pay off. The confusion in your chart is evident, especially regarding your future career prospects but if you just continue to work hard eventually this will pass and accomplishment will be yours. Regarding where you live it would be better to consider a move during the second half of this year or the first half of next, as for right now you are better to stay where you are. Stop being so hard on yourself and living in the past. Life is for the living, not the dead. Get out, meet people and move on.
EugeniaDear Eugenia,
I think I lost my sense of humor and I can't seem to get it back. In the past, I was able to laugh, to joke and most of the time, make fun of friends in a humorous ways and have everybody laughing. But nowadays, I can hardly laugh myself. And it seems that I am too serious in my everyday conversation. A conversation of a humorous nature, my comments or answers can totally spoil the mood. If I try to make a funny remark, it seems very unnatural and tends to come out forced. Is this part of growing up or has my astrological nature got something to do with it. Or has it anything to do with my social life. For the past few years, my social life has gradually settled down to just 2 groups of friends, each about 10 members, and our gatherings over the years have gradually reduced to once a month or twice a month. Does it mean that my spending most of my time alone has killed the humorous side of me? Please help. I am born on the 29th of December 1976, time about 5 past 12 midnight (not too sure).
Humorless
Dear Humorless
You're being too hard on yourself. Yes you are growing up but that doesn't mean that you will lose your humor. Humor is usually determined by the placement of a person's natal Mercury. In your case you have your natal Mercury in the sign Capricorn well aspected to your natal Jupiter in Taurus. As you get older you will find different things in life humorous. Such as jokes that pertain to business, colleagues, big investment deals, money matters etc. You also have Libra rising and this will also give you a more sophisticated manner of joking as you mature. There is nothing wrong with that. You are not a silly little kid anymore but that doesn't mean that you can't use your intelligence and knowledge to crack a joke. You are still in a high cycle regarding higher education, travel and making new friends who have the same interests and beliefs that you have so start getting out and getting involved. You are also in a high cycle regarding love, romance and socializing so stop being so concerned about being funny and start thinking about getting romantically serious. There are many positive things for you to look forward to however if you are negative and down on yourself because you aren't the same as you were in your youth you will miss all the wonderful opportunities that can and will lead to the next phase of your life.
Eugenia
September 18th 2025
Happy Birthday: Find your comfort zone and do what you want. Working toward a goal that soothes the soul and satisfies your curiosity will position you for adventure, success, and so much more this year. Be open to change, but disciplined enough to stick to a budget and timeline that's reasonable. Call the shots and live the life that makes you feel happy. Personal satisfaction is your responsibility; proceed to the finish line. Your numbers are 1, 6, 20, 28, 31, 37, 43.
