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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I was born November 29, 1959 at 1:09 PM, Sagittarius. I am aware of my need for freedom and my need for new things. However, I am feeling like I will never settle down. I have been married 2 times before. I am now with my third husband. He was born January 11, 1965 (not sure at what time). My problem is: I seem to lose interest in everybody. I think I really love someone and soon I am looking for something else. Now, I am seeing another man (I am still with my husband and not doing anything with this new guy). He was born February 21, 1951 (not sure again at what time). I am really afraid that, again, I am making a big mistake. He is totally different from any man I had before. He is older, which is new for me. He is a giver (he worries and helps me a lot). He is not good-looking (which seemed to be important to me before). He treats me like I am a Goddess (which is also new to me)...
Everything started as friendship and became intense as I started to see him more often. What I need is a very good advice on how to turn off my Sagittarius mind and learn that jumping from one relationship to another will not make me feel happy. My husband and me had our problems in the beginning. He was still seeing his ex-girlfriend (which I didn't know until years later). This makes me feel like why should I care if he didn't? Despite that now this problem is resolved, the relationship lost its magic. But at the same time I am not sure that I should just finish and start my life over and over again. Please help.
Wandering Sagittarius
Dear Wandering Sagittarius
First of all you aren't that strong a Sagittarius. With your Venus in Libra you can be fickle and superficial when it comes to love always going for the looks and the chemistry but with your Mercury, Moon, Mars and Neptune all in Scorpio I'd say you also like the chase and the rush of love but once you have someone eating out of your hand you lose interest. Your Capricorn husband has both his Venus and Mercury in Sagittarius making him more of a wanderer so don't be surprised if you aren't the only one in your marriage who has designs on someone else. Your comparison with your husband is totally superficial. It is based on chemistry and that is about all there is between the two of you. You have continually picked men for the wrong reason and I do believe that if you picked the Mr. Right you probably wouldn't feel the need to run off looking for a new adventure. As for your comparison with your Pisces man - it was certainly far better and did show some promise, however it also indicates sorrow. I believe that when it comes to longevity you may tire of him because of his appearance. For now you should really reevaluate your motives with both gentlemen - your husband is really a bad match and your Pisces can offer you everything your husband can't. Although I don't think that your newfound relationship is going to be lasting I do believe it is probably what you need in order to get out of the marriage you are currently in.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am writing because I really need some help. I was born August 8, 1971, at 12:31 PM. Until about 5 years ago, I was just a normal person, until I started having an anxiety disorder. I have no idea why this began...at that time I was 32 years old. It has crippled my life....I can't travel more than 5 miles from my home without having a panic attack.....I never had thisbefore...in fact I traveled from Texas to Florida alone....some friends have said it is possibly related to hormones...at least this was the reason for the first attack...and now, I think, I just fear having the attacks...which cause the attacks....also at this same time five years ago, I started having dizzy spells.....but they didn't last too long and I no longer have them....I have managed to return to school and finish a teaching certificate....but it won't do much good if I can't attend the workshops which are about 30 miles from my home.....I am very distressed....on top of it all, my lover moved out and now I am financially in a bind....also....she wants to get back together....but I am unsure.....in the time while she was deciding to want to be together...I met someone else....I truly care for my new g/friend and I think we could have a good life together....but I feel guilty and like maybe I am not doing all I could have done in my previous relationship to make it work....I feel very indecisive....and have decided to take some time and not see either lady in hopes that I will have some insight as to which "path" would be my "highest path." I'm really having a hard time.....and insight that you have would be appreciated....
Thank you so much,
Out of Commission
Dear Out of Commission
Your chart indicates that you have been experiencing transits that could cause anxiety since 1996. The problem being that your chart also indicates that you are difficult to diagnose as well. These to factors coupled leave you in a vulnerable position. I do believe however that your chart although experiencing some of the absolute worst transits this year, will show signs of improvement throughout the summer months with even more significant results next year. You will have to do a little research on your own regarding your anxiety. I suggest that you begin by looking for alternative methods of medicine to rectify your problem. It appears to stem from deep-set emotional setbacks that you encountered between 1991 and 1993. Think back to the events that happened in your life at that time and you should be able to start the long process of getting back to living a normal life. Regarding your love life, it?s probably not a bad idea to take time out however, I believe that you will find yourself making a decision quicker than you expect and jumping into a relationship again late June early July. Concerning who your partner might be. You did not submit either candidates birth data so I suggest that you run a comparison with both using the astroadvice.com compatibility feature.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am a 49-year-old woman who has sworn off men for the past six years; mostly to avoid a weakness I had four bad relationships with big blue-eyed country boys. Four months ago one walked into my house for a volunteer project and I'm losing it because this one also happens to be SMART. Problem is, he's a whole bunch younger and apparently pretty naive about women and sex in general. The compatibility thermometer gave us a 99%, and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me--he's here all the time and we can talk away the night. But now I want to move it up to the next level, and I don't know how or when, or whether it's a good idea to ruin an almost perfect friendship.I'm born 3/3/52, 2:45 am, and he's born 5/31/65, 2:30 a.m. any advice on timing, or whether this is a good idea?
Perplexed
Dear Perplexed
You do have an amazing comparison with your Gemini friend. I would however take it nice and slow and let him make the moves. I don't have a problem with the age difference however at some point it may cause a problem with friends, family as well as with one another. I am basing this on your charts, not on your chronological age difference. It will depend on his maturity however I do believe that he has a strong sense of who he is and what he wants out of life. The only other question that might arise will be regarding children. That could be with children that either one of you already have or the fact that he may want a child and you may not be able to reciprocate. As for now however I believe that you should let things unfold naturally and try not to get too caught up in long term for now.
Eugenia
