We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I was born November 29, 1959 at 1:09 PM, Sagittarius. I am aware of my need for freedom and my need for new things. However, I am feeling like I will never settle down. I have been married 2 times before. I am now with my third husband. He was born January 11, 1965 (not sure at what time). My problem is: I seem to lose interest in everybody. I think I really love someone and soon I am looking for something else. Now, I am seeing another man (I am still with my husband and not doing anything with this new guy). He was born February 21, 1951 (not sure again at what time). I am really afraid that, again, I am making a big mistake. He is totally different from any man I had before. He is older, which is new for me. He is a giver (he worries and helps me a lot). He is not good-looking (which seemed to be important to me before). He treats me like I am a Goddess (which is also new to me)...
Everything started as friendship and became intense as I started to see him more often. What I need is a very good advice on how to turn off my Sagittarius mind and learn that jumping from one relationship to another will not make me feel happy. My husband and me had our problems in the beginning. He was still seeing his ex-girlfriend (which I didn't know until years later). This makes me feel like why should I care if he didn't? Despite that now this problem is resolved, the relationship lost its magic. But at the same time I am not sure that I should just finish and start my life over and over again. Please help.
Wandering Sagittarius
Dear Wandering Sagittarius
First of all you aren't that strong a Sagittarius. With your Venus in Libra you can be fickle and superficial when it comes to love always going for the looks and the chemistry but with your Mercury, Moon, Mars and Neptune all in Scorpio I'd say you also like the chase and the rush of love but once you have someone eating out of your hand you lose interest. Your Capricorn husband has both his Venus and Mercury in Sagittarius making him more of a wanderer so don't be surprised if you aren't the only one in your marriage who has designs on someone else. Your comparison with your husband is totally superficial. It is based on chemistry and that is about all there is between the two of you. You have continually picked men for the wrong reason and I do believe that if you picked the Mr. Right you probably wouldn't feel the need to run off looking for a new adventure. As for your comparison with your Pisces man - it was certainly far better and did show some promise, however it also indicates sorrow. I believe that when it comes to longevity you may tire of him because of his appearance. For now you should really reevaluate your motives with both gentlemen - your husband is really a bad match and your Pisces can offer you everything your husband can't. Although I don't think that your newfound relationship is going to be lasting I do believe it is probably what you need in order to get out of the marriage you are currently in.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.
My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.
Thanx
Leo
Dear Leo
Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.
Eugenia
Please Eugenia.
I read your column religiously. I really need some advice. My ex-husband born 2-25-54 at 2:50 am and myself born April 8, 1963 at 4:20 am were married for 13 years and then in 1998 he met someone online and left me. He hasn't seen our children or really spoken to me since. Recently, I have been severely disabled. A severe flare up of MS that has left me bedridden. I requested an increase in child support, which my ex fought stating that he pays the mortgage payment. Within 1 month of his dispute of the child support I was contacted by the IRS telling me that I owed them over 10k because I never claimed the fact that he paid the mortgage as my income. H&R block did my taxes and they are going to pay the penalty because they realize that this has been their error not mine. However Eugenia, my tax consultant told me that my ex must have brought the issue up for the IRS too audit the years requested. Eugenia, my health is such that I'm not going to be able to care for our boys much longer. I can't believe that my ex is being so vengeful I have not done a thing to him not even tried to contact him. Please Eugenia, can you tell me if there is any hope that my ex will treat our sons decently........or maybe if you see any break for me financially or health wise. I'm really at the end of my rope :*( Thank you for your time
Aries
Dear Aries
You didn't mention when your children were born so I can't tell you what the relationship between them and your husband will be in the future. I believe that your husband has always been in denial regarding the boys but if push comes to shove and you were no longer able to care for them he would step in. However he would also stop support for you at the same time. Your husband is a little full of him self and conceited when it comes to who he is and what his potential is. I believe that he is probably not in as good a financial situation as you might imagine. Although he can make money he can also let it slip through his fingers. He can be charming but he can also show his temper and he is one to exaggerate and blow things out of context. If I were you I would probably try to make a deal with him that when you can no longer care for the boys that he pay to bring help in to take care of the boys as well as you or that he must take the boys on himself as his responsibility. The ideal situation would be for you to have a family member or friend take on that position however that may not be possible. Your chart indicates that you will continue to experience more limitations due to your illness over the course of the next year but also that you may be given the wrong medication and this is what leads to the additional problems. Please keep on top of what the doctors offer you. Try to do your research for side effects etc. Financially you do appear to be in a better position over the course of the next several years. This could be due to subsidies that are provided by government or some other health care organization. It can also be that you come into money through a tax rebate, insurance surrender, winnings or a gift from someone who cares. Please don't lose hope; your boys need your input even if you can't do as much for them. You must not give up but instead try to provide an alternative to get the help you need. Your ex should pay for this assistance or do more to take care of the boys himself. Something tells me he will opt to let you take care of them even if it does cost him a little more to get you the help you need.
Eugenia
