We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Confused

Hi Eugenia

I was born June 10, 1980 at 11 pm. I recently meet a guy (Birth date: 11/07/1983) and we started dating. I think he is a sweetheart but self-conscious because I make more money than he does and I am self-conscious because he is younger then me (Birth date: 06/10/1980). We get along great but the problem is that I have secretly started seeing an old flame (Birth date: 11/21/1980). My old flame is someone I have had a crush on for years even after we broke up. The problem is that my old flame has a girlfriend as well whom he is having problems with. I am confused now on what to do. I like the new guy but I think I am curious to see if there is still something with my old flame. I am confused on whether I should stay with the new guy or dump him for my old flame and see if there is more to it then just friends. Please help.

Confused

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Hi Confused

This is a bit of a no win situation. Both comparisons are very different however they both show signs of sorrow as well. You have a tremendous number of planetary connections between your chart and that of your younger Scorpio friend but I believe that being the Gemini that you are you will not be able to leave well enough alone causing an insatiable urge to find out if you still have something going on with your ex Scorpio. This in turn will cause sorrow with your young Scorpio - he will not take lightly to you engaging in any relationship be it platonic or not with your ex. Please don't lose sight of what was wrong with your relationship with your ex Scorpio the first time around and why you aren't still together. The same problems will crop up time and time again. Your young Scorpio has his natal Venus in the sign Virgo so age shouldn't be a problem considering he probably acts quite mature when it comes to love. You have your natal Venus in Gemini and that often causes you to be fickle and flirtatious when it comes to romance. Your ex has his natal Venus in the sign Libra and although he can be very charming etc. he can also be as fickle and flirtatious as you. All this being said I do believe that you should probably set your young Scorpio free before you really hurt him. Give yourself time to rediscover your old partner and prepare to move on to new potential partners around the end of the summer or early fall of this year. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: From Cancer

Dear Eugenia

Please help. I once paid for a consultation with you. You said I was moving into a high for the next 2 years. I feel as though nothing has changed. Nothing has come to pass in the consultation given to me. I have been searching for a better job. I did take the initiative, I sent out resumes. I never hear anything back. Not even a call. I have searched and searched and still nothing. I feel as though nothing I do will ever be right. I feel like Salomon swimming against the current and still I can't get ahead. What is my purpose? Nothing ever seems to go right. I get no respect from my co-workers. People are getting promotions that have no clue about the job. What is the purpose? I would really like to go back to school and become a teacher but in the consultation you said you would have liked it if I had tried 14 months prior, The funny thing is I did try during the time frame you said would have been better, but like I said I feel like a salmon swimming against the current. Everything seemed to be going wrong. Work was stressful my daughter needed me. I just couldn't seem to catch my breath. I could not juggle the demands of work and home life. I passed the courses but with lots of tears and stress. I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I could not sign up for another semester. The thought made me cringe. I would really like to go back to school and finish. Is this possible? Will my life continue to be difficult? What do my finances look like? Please be honest with me. I can take it no matter what the outcome is. Bad or Good. Will things get better? Will I ever have a job that gives me satisfaction? Please let me know what is in store for my daughter born 8/15/92 5:09PM. My Husband born 3/17/66 3:05 AM. Did my husband and I do the right thing when we purchased our house 10/16/98. We were married on 10/08/87. Will I ever get the respect for knowing my job and doing it very well? I know my sun sign is Cancer but I believe I am a Taurus at heart. Is this the case? Please Help me. Please shed some light on my dark life. Please !!!!!Please!!!!!! Please!!!!!! Please Help Me!!!!

Cancer

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Dear Cancer

The consultation I sent you has not changed. You should have been signing up with a headhunter and following through with phone calls. Not just sending out a resume and leaving things to chance. The competition is fierce and in order to get ahead you have to work hard for it even when you do have good transits. Part of the problem has also been due to Saturn moving through your Sun sign Cancer. This can be debilitating if you let it get to you. It can also give you the added discipline to follow through. Yes it can make you tired and depressed which can in turn make you your own worst enemy. If you are negative about yourself and your abilities you will give off that vibe and that is never a good way to approach getting ahead. Although Saturn will continue to be moving through your sign and conjunct your natal Mercury it is also favorably aspected to your natal Saturn at the same time. This should be enough to help you get that added drive to move ahead. Unfortunately you were born with your natal Saturn in your first house which gives you that poor me syndrome and nothing every goes my way and when you think that way that is the way things turn out. You have to stop being so negative if you ever want to turn things around. It is a trait that many Cancers or people with lots of planets situated in that sign have. We always apply Murphy's Law to your sign because you always expect everything to turn out badly and the truth of the matter is that if you think it you can make it so. Your chart has been quite well aspected this past year and yet you have continued to hold yourself back. Please don't think I'm being harsh but just because a person has good transits doesn't mean that he or she will be successful. Nothing in life is free and if

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Article: Moving Forward

Dear Eugenia

On 19th April 2000 my husband committed suicide. He was undergoing severe depression because of his unemployment and his lack of means of supporting me and our 5 year old boy. We used to live with my family. My family wanted me to divorce him but I had decided to live separate with him so I could give my marriage a chance. The apartment was almost ready, and we were supposed to shift shortly. I had even spoken to my brother and had a job arranged for him. Yet two days before shifting, when I had gone to the apartment to set up things, I found my husband dead in the same apartment. What I need to know now is, why did he have to do such a thing when he knew that I am coming to live with him. His job was also fixed...This one question is really eating me up. I need to know the answer if I have to get on with my life. I was born September 5, 1968 at 9 AM and he was born March 20, 1962, at 9 AM.

Heartbroken

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Dear Heartbroken

Your husband?s chart indicated that he had been under great duress for the past several years. He was disappointed in himself and what he had become. This coupled with his uncertainty regarding his relationship with you due to his own paranoia pushed him over the line. I don?t believe that there was anything that you could have done to prevent his action. He felt that you and your son would be better off without him. In his mind he was trying to make your life easier for you. Your husband was going through extreme mood swings that were impossible for him to control. He was a deeply sensitive man that had trouble accepting what he considered to be failure. The last thing he would have wanted to do was hurt or you down. He was not thinkingclearly and with having a tendency to take drastic measures when he didn?t know how to handle a situation unfortunately the end result was fatal. You on the other hand have a strong chart. This is something that probably attracted him to you in the first place. You are coming into a much higher cycle and it is time to put the past behind you. You owe it to yourself and to your son to move forward in a positive manner. Your chart indicates that you will meet interesting people that will influence you in many ways over the course of this year. You need to get out and do things that are worthwhile. By doing so you will find it much easier to move on. New relationships are likely to develop this year however I suggest that you take your time and build a solid friendship first. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio and Capricorn. You did not submit your son?s birth data, however I can tell from your chart that he is confused and suffering right now and that he needs you to spend additional time with him. Try to join groups or clubs that include him as well. If you stick together you will both overcome the nightmare that you have been forced to endure.

Eugenia

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