We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
I've been dating/seeing three women. I've been intimately with only one (I'll call her #3) of them and that is basically all I wanted from her. When I decided in my mind to stop having relations with her and pursue a serious relationship with #2 #3 tells me she is pregnant. We've had protected sex every time (at least 8 occasions) except for a few minutes on one occasion. #3 tells me she hasn't been w/ anyone else other than me. I've made mistakes and bad choices in my 30 years to last me a lifetime. I don't want to bring a child into this world under these circumstances. I wanted to married and have a planned pregnancy w/ my wife. I don't plan on pursuing a serious relation w/ #3 and I'm not going to sell myself short by doing so. #3 took a home pregnancy test in my presence, but I don't know if this child is mine or not. Her D.O.B. is 5/14/79. Please help Eugenia, thank you :)
Aquarius
Hi Aquarius
This is truly an unfortunate set of circumstances to be in, even more so because you actually match up quite nicely to this woman astrologically. I feel you owe it to yourself as well as to her to be completely honest and tell her that your intentions are to not marry her or to be involved in this child's life should she decide to have the baby. This may sound cruel but there are enough youngsters already living in an unhappy environment because of the stupidity of parents who choose to not get along or shouldn't be together for one reason or another. Although the ideal situation is always to have two loving parents it is still better to have one loving parent instead of two who are not in love or care about one another. I would need to know when she became pregnant in order to determine whether or not you are the father but even that information can be misleading. Your chart indicates that you probably are however if she should decide to keep the baby you should probably have a DNA test done. You should have submitted candidate #2 so that I could have determined whether or not you even match up to her as well as you do to #3. As I mentioned already you do match up to #3 quite well and it is unfortunate that you used this girl for sexual reasons. I feel that she really does believe that you are the one for her.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I'm born Mar 3, 1962, at 6:30 am. My wife: Apr 20, 1964. My son: Jul 9, 1984, at 4:15 PM. My daughter: Oct 23, 1992, at 4:40 PM.
I only received elementary school education and moved to the city to work in a factory. I studied by myself, passed exams and graduated from high school. The medicine company I used to work for 10 yr. was bankrupted and I had to sell my house and everything in order to pay the loans because my colleagues ran away to foreign countries. I still haven't paid all the debts. It's been 5 yrs and I have been violently abused by creditors. As a result, I am addicted to alcohol that harms my health and I even have to see a psychiatrist. My family had to move to a small house and my wife is working from 9:00 am till 11:00pm. It is needless to say how much my family is suffering. I lost confidence in myself. I avoid meeting people. I cannot sleep because of the fear about my future. I can only sleep 2 to 3 hours at night. Since 1997 May, I have been working in a real estate company. I'm writing to you because my life is dreadful. If the past was my fate, then I'd like to know about my future. Of course, I know I have to make my efforts but at the moment, I'm lost. Eugenia... I don't know this topic is ok to be consulted, but I wish I would get some hopes from you. I'm not sure whether you can read my letter since you are too far away, but just giving me a reply will help me a lot. I believe you'll reply to my letter even though you are busy.
KJK
Dear KJK
Your family's charts indicate that their lives and home environment will improve next summer however in your chart it appears to be before that time. You have been going through very difficult transits that were unfortunate due to the deceptive individuals you were working with. Your chart does indicate that regardless of what actually did occur you would be penalized for the bad debt. You could have been institutionalized had you not been honest. Although you are still going through many changes I believe that over the course of the next two to three years your life will improve dramatically. You should be able to get yourself back on track. You do have to be careful who you deal with however because you were born with an aspect in your chart that will almost always lead to deceptive partnerships, friendships etc. You are best to do your own thing and to work by yourself. Your addiction problem is the first thing that you have to deal with. One of the reasons you aren't sleeping has to do with the alcohol content in your body. It has become a viscous circle. You drink to relax, forget and sleep and those are the very things that the alcohol will disrupt. In fact it is probably the main source of your agitation and inability to sleep. I suggest that the first thing you do is to seek help for your addiction. You have a strong will and a decent chart. You are bright, sensitive and you have a family that needs to know that you can pull yourself out of this mental depression and addiction. It may not be easy but if you act now and join a group that deals with addictions you will have your problem under control in no time and you will be able to take advantage of the good transits coming up in your chart next year. The fact that you reached out to me is the first step. Get yourself moving, motivated and in control. I know you can do it. I suggest that you try to start a small in house business on the side and build it up to a point that your wife will be able to stay at home and run that business for you in the future. If your real estate job is not bringing in enough money starting looking for a better position, but don't quit what you are doing unless you have another job to go to. Once you stop drinking you will be surprised how much you can accomplish and how much more money you will have. Stop thinking about what you must do, it's time to take action.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
My name is Wanda and this is my situation. I am married with two kids. I have been married for one year and eight months. After four months of being married my husband was with another girl. I know this because I came home and I found hickeys on his neck and I went in my bedroom and found a condom on the floor. That's when we started not getting along and I turned to my friends for help and support. I was talking to my husband's friend and we started to get closer and it turned out that we started to see each other every weekend and we started fooling around with each other and now we are seeing each other every now and then. My husband knows because he found us together. I am really in love with my husband's friend and I want to stay with him. But my husband won't let me leave him; he won't let me go. My husband is thirty years old, eight years older than I. We met in 1991 and have been together until this time. I really want to let go of him. I am not in love with him anymore. All I feel for him is friendship. I want to finish school as well and if I stay with him I would not have that opportunity. He is to jealous. We have three kids together 2girls & 1 boy. My daughter seven, son Tyler is six, my youngest is four. I gave up my first daughter at two weeks old because I was only thirteen years of age. Now that I am twenty-two and I want more out of life. I made a mistake getting married at a young age. We got married on August 15 of 98. Could you give me advice about my life. I was born February 5, 1978, at 2:30 PM.
Mixed Up
Dear Mixed Up
Wanda, get a grip. You're twenty-two, you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Get your act together and get out of the situation you're in. You are with a man who obviously doesn't respect you or the marriage vows you took. Although you didn't submit his birth data or that of his friends I'd venture to say by your chart that you have been manipulated for some time with regard to relationships. Take your two children and get out of there before your boys think that it's okay to treat a woman the way you're being treated. Secondly, two wrongs don't make a right. Fooling around with one of your husband's friends is not the answer. You need to get back to basics and sort out your feelings and your life before you get involved with someone else. You are best to seek help first. You should be doing whatever you can to remove the children and yourself from your current situation. There are homes that will take you in with your children if you are abused and if your husband is jealous, refusing to let you leave, and running around on you, that should be enough for you to get help. If you have family to turn to, do so. However, if your parents let you hang out with this man when you were thirteen and he was twenty-one I have a feeling that they won't be much help now. By your chart I can tell you that your home environment is moving into better times but it will take your initiative to turn things around for yourself so get moving. You are in a high cycle where learning is concerned and you should be taking advantage of this. You can apply for social assistance to help you and your kids. You should also look into courses that the government offers to those who want to make life better for them self. You live in a country that gives so much to those-in-need that there is no excuse for anyone to put up with the lifestyle that you are living right now. Get moving girl, and don't look back. You owe that much to your children and to yourself.
Eugenia
