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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Aquarius

Hi Eugenia

I've been dating/seeing three women. I've been intimately with only one (I'll call her #3) of them and that is basically all I wanted from her. When I decided in my mind to stop having relations with her and pursue a serious relationship with #2 #3 tells me she is pregnant. We've had protected sex every time (at least 8 occasions) except for a few minutes on one occasion. #3 tells me she hasn't been w/ anyone else other than me. I've made mistakes and bad choices in my 30 years to last me a lifetime. I don't want to bring a child into this world under these circumstances. I wanted to married and have a planned pregnancy w/ my wife. I don't plan on pursuing a serious relation w/ #3 and I'm not going to sell myself short by doing so. #3 took a home pregnancy test in my presence, but I don't know if this child is mine or not. Her D.O.B. is 5/14/79. Please help Eugenia, thank you :)

Aquarius

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Hi Aquarius

This is truly an unfortunate set of circumstances to be in, even more so because you actually match up quite nicely to this woman astrologically. I feel you owe it to yourself as well as to her to be completely honest and tell her that your intentions are to not marry her or to be involved in this child's life should she decide to have the baby. This may sound cruel but there are enough youngsters already living in an unhappy environment because of the stupidity of parents who choose to not get along or shouldn't be together for one reason or another. Although the ideal situation is always to have two loving parents it is still better to have one loving parent instead of two who are not in love or care about one another. I would need to know when she became pregnant in order to determine whether or not you are the father but even that information can be misleading. Your chart indicates that you probably are however if she should decide to keep the baby you should probably have a DNA test done. You should have submitted candidate #2 so that I could have determined whether or not you even match up to her as well as you do to #3. As I mentioned already you do match up to #3 quite well and it is unfortunate that you used this girl for sexual reasons. I feel that she really does believe that you are the one for her.

Eugenia

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Article: From Gemini

Hi Eugenia,

I have been a creative person all my life and have a career as a Graphic Artist, but over the past few years my mind began to flow over with ideas for film and television projects. I acted in a friend's short film and have been teaching myself the craft of writing stories for a few years now. I am torn because my identity has always been as a Graphic Artist, but I see myself as a writer. Do you see anything in my chart that would support my making a career change in the near future?

Gemini

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Hi Gemini

Yes I do see career change. It has actually been in your chart since the spring of 2003 and isn't about to move off until the end of this decade so get used to it. Your chart does indicate that you are highly creative and should work in a field that allows you to explore many different creative venues. In this day and age people change career direction more often and so you shouldn't be so worried about it. You can always fall back on graphic design or even keep working in that field while you delve into the performing arts and writing. My concern with writing is that although you do have your natal Mercury well aspected to your natal Pluto it does fall in an area of your chart that can sometimes make it difficult for you to get your work (writing) into the mainstream where it can be profitable for you. On the other hand you also have quite a build up of planets in an area of your chart that deals with communication and publishing so I believe that with a little extra effort and good timing you may be able to push your work into the hands of someone who can help you get ahead. You have been going through a transit that can help you with this the past couple of years and you did manage to work in the film and television industry during that time however that transit has moved on for now. Another transit similar will activate again in about four years but that doesn't mean you shouldn't start working in that direction now. After all the more prep work or writing you aspire to between now and that time the more polished your work will be as well as the more sellable when that transit moves into your chart. My suggestion to you is to continue your current work and do your writing on the side with your goal being to start trying to sell it in 2008/2009.

Eugenia

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Article: Sexual Discord

Dear Eugenia:

I have been married for six years. For most of that time, our sex life has been practically nonexistent, even though we seem to be quite compatible based on our charts. This is my fault, really, as early on I lost my desire to have sex with him; in fact, I am turned off by his touch. I've never told him this because I don't want to hurt him, but, obviously, the "sex" issue has caused some major discord in our marriage. I have tried to rekindle my passion, but I haven't had any success. I know the problem is not physical, as I often have sexual dreams and fantasize about other men (but I've never cheated). If I am unable to get past this, it most surely will lead to divorce. I was born 11/20/71 at 6:50 a.m., my husband was born 5/6/65, (time unknown). Thank you for your advice.

Passionless Wife

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Dear Passionless Wife

I don?t really see your comparison as being all that great regarding love. It lacks in areas essential to building a happy and loving relationship. It appears to be more like a brother sister connection that is definitely not built on passion. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that brings opportunities for you to meet someone who knocks you off your feet. This could lead to a secret affair if you aren?t out of your current situation. I suggest that if you don?t want this to happen and you truly want to try to rekindle your relationship, that you start communicating with your husband honestly about your feelings and let him know what?s lacking in your marriage. I am a believer that any relationship can work if both people are willing to put in the effort. However, unfortunately I have found that in most cases when it doesn?t work there is a lack of communication and it?s often quite one-sided with regards to who puts what into the marriage. In your case I feel that honesty and straightforwardness will be required. Although this may hurt your husbands feelings initially, if you are living in a loveless marriage I think he would agree that getting help or splitting up would be preferable to the nonexistent connection that you have right now.

Eugenia

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