We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
How's this for a love triangle with an international flavor as we were all born in different countries, with two Cancers potentially battling it out? I'm a Cancer born July 9, 1963 at 11:30 am, married for many years to a Gemini man (b. 6/10/1955) who I fear might be seriously interested in another Cancer (someone in our social circle). I understand from mutual friends that he does flirt with this woman when I'm not around and that she is equally interested in him. I learned from one close friend in particular that the only thing stopping her at least is the fact that he is married. I'm hoping that this woman does respect my marriage, but I fear that I may be losing my Gemini man to a possible midlife crisis. It took some doing but I found out that her birthday is 7/5/1959. I hope this is enough information for you to chart us and give me some guidance. Please Eugenia, is my marriage about to come unglued?
Cancer in distress
Dear Cancer in distress
Your comparison with your husband is better than his comparison with the other Cancer in question. However he has been going through emotional confusion the past couple of years and this has probably contributed to his obvious midlife crisis. Generally your husband is a good guy and even though he is a Gemini and they can tend to wander as well as marry more than once in a life time I have to say with his natal Venus in the sign Taurus it does give him some stability. Your chart indicates that you may be overreacting to this whole situation and that could in fact push him away. There is also evidence that by the fall of this year you will be in a high cycle regarding love and winning back the heart of your husband should you actually have lost it to another. Your Cancer friend is not trustworthy when it comes to respecting your marriage. She may be born under the sign Cancer but unlike you she is predominantly a Leo with her natal Mercury, Venus, Mars and Uranus in that sign and her Moon positioned in Gemini therefore the challenge of the chase is probably what she is enjoying. Protect yourself, your heart and your marriage by being fun to be with, paying special attention to your husband and keeping a close watch on who he's with and what he does without being overbearing or smothering.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
This is my third time sending you e-mail with the same content and I'm very sorry if it bothers you. Twice I had also sent you letters in the past, years ago. In those letters, you mentioned that I was more of a late bloomer regarding my sexuality and you advised me to experiment a little. For the years have changed, my vision towards my sexuality have also changed, I no longer consider homosexuality as my enemy, I consider it as a part of me and I began to accept this. Years ago, I mentioned my birth date wrongly, later I found out that I was born on the next day which was August 20, 1981 rather than August 19,1981. I was born at 2:00 AM. Would it have a major impact of your analysis if the birth date were wrong? And could you tell me something about my sexuality? Also, I've met this guy from the net, I've also met him face to face and I believe that he's one good guy. I think I'm in love with him. He's younger than me he was born on November 19, 1985. On the last letter, I told you that he already has a boyfriend. Surprisingly he broke up with his bf few days ago because his parents found out that he's gay. I still don't know the whole story. Though I feel sad for him, but I think this is the best shot I have to take to be his bf (not in the nearest time). If so, he would be my first love (I haven't had any bf or gf before and it's so saaadddd). Later today, a fortune teller told me that he might deceive me though I feel that he might not, she also told me that I could still change my sexuality (and again, I feel that I really can't). What I want to ask is.. Is he the "one"? Because I really love him. And if he's not, when will be the right time to meet the "one"? Please help me I'm depressed and I really need a clue from you... Thank you very much
Leo
Hi Leo
I remember your original e-mail and yes it does make a difference being born on the 20th instead of the 19th. It confirms that what was a possibility regarding your sexuality is in fact reality. Your chart does indicate more homosexuality. Regarding your boyfriend I do believe that you match up enough to have a relationship however sorrow is evident so I can't say that I feel it will be a lasting union. I do feel that it will be a very important learning experience for both of you and therefore think that you should proceed. Right now he probably needs your support regarding his sexuality. Open the doors of communication and help him through his uncertainty and obvious upset that is happening in his parental household. He could go through a period where his past boyfriend tries to come back into his life so be prepared. He is also a bit conceited so don't get swept up into his world. Be yourself and refuse to become a chameleon. By late summer early fall of next year it will be a much better time for you to move into high gear regarding finding the right partner. If your current friend happens to stick around it could be him but if things unfold in such a way that the sorrow prevails keep your eyes open for someone more suitable at that time.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last
I am a 47-year-old single mom born 2/15/53 at 3:47 PM. About 26 years ago I met a young man his birth info is 11/10/52 at 8:41PM. We just clicked, at first we dated, but soon became best friends. We remained so for the next four years. He returned to the part of the country he grew up in and we lost contact. Seven years later he called me. We were both married and had children born 2 weeks apart.
Because we were both married I was reluctant to renew our friendship. I didn't hear from him again until this past Dec. when he called me one evening. I was quite surprised that he found me as I live 1,200 miles away from where we knew each other and I have a different name.
At first things were friendly, but soon became romantic. He has flown me to see him and has visited me 3 times since Jan. We speak long distance once or twice a day. My kids love him and would like for him to live nearby. He enjoys their company as well and has told me they need a dad, and the chemistry between us is amazing.
My question is can this relationship remain as a romantic one or is this just one of those things that will fizzle out. Being together means one of us needs to pull up stakes and move 1,500 miles and right now not being together means lots of money for phone calls and travel that neither of us can really afford. Not wanting to be a fool for romance.
At a loss
Dear At a loss
The comparison is quite favorable. You should be able to make this union work as long as you are both realistic. Many factors will have to be taken care of before you can make a permanent commitment. I feel that it would probably be better for you to make the move, not him, however that may not be possible. You have a great deal in common and the area that deals with home and family in both your charts will be in a much stronger and positive position next year. If it takes that long to sort things out that's fine. This is a relationship that is well worth the effort and you should both be willing to do whatever is necessary in order to work toward a strong and lasting commitment. You can both make sudden moves at times that will backfire. Therefore it is very important that you take your time and do things right this time. Whoever decides to move should make sure that he or she has a job lined up. The chemistry between you is such that you may not make the wisest decision due to passionate reasons. I believe that if you are well organized and patient you can end up having a very long and fruitful relationship.
Eugenia
