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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I need your advice. My girlfriend left me ten months ago and I have been trying my best since to recover. We were together for about two years. I have been trying to work for personal goals in order to better my life: counseling and I am in the process of applying to law school. I am unable to get over her. I have respected her wishes and left the situation alone but I keep hoping for a second chance. I am constantly plagues by self-doubt. Aside from the heartbreak, I am studying for law school and I am uncertain about what school will accept me and whether to stay in New York City because it constantly reminds me of the past. Am I waiting and hoping in vain for my ex-girlfriend. If you have any advice or insight into the relationship or school please help. Thank you.
Sincerely,
Anthony
Dear Anthony
You didn't mention your ex-girlfriend's date of birth so I can't run a comparison between the two of you or even tell you what she might be thinking but I can tell you that you have been going through a very depressing time with transiting Saturn crossing over your ascendant and this has probably accounted for some of the trouble you are having letting go. Although this transit is still plaguing you there are good things that it can be used for. Education, self-improvement and in general feeling better about you are just a few ways to use up the energy that Saturn brings with it. It is apparent that you are trying to do all of these things and so I feel confident that you will get through it. With your natal Venus in the sign Capricorn well aspected to both your natal Mars and Jupiter I can not imagine you remaining single once the Saturn transit passes as a matter of fact there is evidence that you will probably meet someone through a friend, work, school, while traveling or even over the internet so don't give up. I must tell you however that between now and the summer of next year I really feel that you are best to put your time and effort into your educational pursuits and leave the whole relationship thing until later next year when you will have a better handle on what you really want in a partner. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn. This is not the time to look back or to live in the past and although transiting Saturn can have a tendency to make you do just that it is important that you look forward and work toward your goals. You actually do best with partners who are either a bit older or a bit younger. The partners your own age can be a problem. Regarding making a move - it isn't a bad time to do so but do it for the right reason. Sometimes facing your past is exactly what you need to do in order to get over it and move forward.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Two years ago I had a serious car accident & fell into a deep depression. I met someone very special at the end of this difficult year, and he helped and supported me. This loving relationship I had never experienced before, & slowly we grew closer, & I got stronger, both physically & mentally. The problem is my family. They do not approve of my relationship, & have fought me every step of the way. I still live with my parents, & we have always been close, but they are very controlling & demanding of who I choose to marry. Rather than seeing the positive influences he has brought to my life, & trying to get to know him, they refuse to see or even speak his name, for the simple reason that he is younger (3 years), & does not share my educational or financial background. To me, these things do not matter. He has so many special qualities, & has ambition to succeed, that I don't doubt my future with him, but my family ridicules & puts him down and threatens me with disowning me, painting an ugly picture of my future struggle & a miserable life! I can't take the pressure and stress, & until I move out, how do I deal with their threats, & guilt that I am letting them down? I was born Feb.23/69, at 1:00 AM and he was born Aug.13/72. He has stuck by me through everything, I can't think of leaving him, but must I choose between him and my family? Will I indeed suffer for the rest of my life if I walk away from my family to be with him? Does educational level and a person's financial status really matter most? Am I as naive as they accuse me of? Please give me your comments on my dilemma. Thank you.
Torn
Dear Torn
You do match up to your Leo partner however the comparison also denotes that deception and disillusionment are prevalent when dealing with friends and family. Your family is only looking out for your best interest and possibly your parents feel that you and your Leo partner were not up front regarding your intentions. I think that you may want to approach the situation from the stand point that if your Leo partner is indeed that dedicated to you he should be willing to sign a prenuptial agreement that will not give him any rights to your family's estate. This should put your family at ease and should allow you the freedom to proceed with your plans. Although you did not include your parents birth data I can see in your chart that at an emotional level you have probably always been manipulated to some degree by your parents. I feel that they have probably done this out of love and that should you make the decision to follow your heart that they will eventually accept the situation. This is not an ideal answer however because it is important that your family likes and approves of your partner if you wish to have favorable interaction with them in the future.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am a 27-year-old Pisces born February 28, 1976, at 5:30 PM and I have recently been made aware of 'Saturn Return' in my chart? This could explain my exhaustion and frustration over the last couple of years. I am tired of being self-employed, I realize it has taken away from my social life and financially I am just hanging on. I have recently interviewed for summer work to alleviate the stresses, with no luck. Though I seem at peace with life I don't have the securities my peers have, career, social and romantic stability. I do admit I would like to settle down. Is it this 'Saturn Return' that is affecting my life? Will it go away? At this point, any advice or words of hope would help.
MF
Dear MF
Your Saturn return hasn't begun yet. Although you will start to feel the impact of your Saturn return over the next year it will actually have the strongest affect on you between late August of next year (2004) and will remain with you for approximately one year ending late July 2005. During that time you will reevaluate your life and make decisions based on the way you feel about your past. It is a pivotal point in a person's life when Saturn returns. Some people do well with it because they take the initiative, make the necessary changes and proceed in a positive and upward motion. Others find it overwhelming and decide that what they have achieved is all life has to offer and that they are too old to make changes - which I might add is ridiculous and a cop out. As for you I do not see your Saturn return as being that much of a problem. Regarding what has been causing you all the friction the past several years I would have to say is transiting Uranus and Neptune moving through the sign Aquarius. You were born with your Moon, Mercury and Venus in that sign in an area of your chart that does deal with work. Unfortunately it has played havoc with you and although it isn't over yet I do believe that you will always go back to doing your own thing. You are innovative, creative and have a good chart when it comes to work and money. If you want to work for someone else that is fine. You should be able to land a decent job shortly. I might suggest however that you do try to keep your business running on the side. I feel that if you do it will pick up giving you the satisfaction you need. As for your social, personal and home life - well that is where transiting Saturn has been affecting your life the past couple of years putting a damper on relationships and in general your social life. You will be coming into a much higher cycle regarding such matters as transiting Saturn moves into the sign Cancer coupled with Uranus which has just moved briefly into the sign Pisces opening up all sorts of new opportunities and changes regarding both business and personal partnerships. It's time to prepare for change and don't be afraid to partner up with someone in all aspects of your life. You may discover that joining forces with someone regarding your business may be a prosperous journey as well. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Cancer, Virgo, Libra, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces but always get a complete astrological comparison done to be sure. You can do so at www.astroadvice.com for free.
Eugenia
