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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Pisces

Hi Eugenia

I have been in a relationship with a man for 18 years. He is a cancer born July 12, 1959 and I am a Pisces born March 16, 1959 at 10:54 pm. We have been lovers and friends for 16 years and decided to try living together for the last 2 years. He's going through something right now that has caused him to end our relationship. I don't really understand why we can't work things out together. I feel that since we moved in together he hasn't been straightforward or honest with me in what he expected from our "live in" relationship. He feels that if after 2 years we weren't going to get married that I should leave him. In turn, he dumped me. I am devastated, but am not the type to hang around and keep waiting for him to decide what he wants. Do you think we will ever get back together? I believed he was my soul mate. Was I wrong? I'm beginning a new chapter in my life on November 12th. I will be moving into my own place....I will truly miss him, though.

Pisces

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Hi Pisces

Your Cancer partner has been going through emotional confusion that has lead to a change of heart on his part. The comparison between the two of you is actually quite good except his natal Sun falls in an are of your chart that deals with dead end project and unfortunately Saturn has been moving through that part of your chart as well resulting in a spilt up situation. You began to go through your second half life Saturn around the time the two of you moved in together and this resulted in an on going make it or break it cycle. I believe that he may have regrets when things settle down for him in 2006 and that it is possible that he may come back into your life October/November of next year but I must warn you that you have to protect your heart and take your time if you decide that you still want to be with him. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance at that time and it is quite possible that you will meet someone who is more certain about what and who he wants in his life. You match up well to those born under that signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Your Cancer partner only has his natal Sun in the sign Cancer therefore he does match up to you because of the strong Leo influence in his chart. This means that he does have a lot of common ground with you and you do get along but also that you may have been together to teach one another a life lesson. I wouldn't rule this man out of your life but I certainly would be using the upcoming year to get out and meet new partners. You are youthful, sensitive, giving and there is every indication that you will have more than one soul mate throughout your life. They say that we all have eleven perfect matches on the planet. Just think - you have another ten to find. By joining organizations or through friends, dating services, travel and educational pursuits you are likely to meet someone very special over the course of the next ten months so don't sit around feeling badly because he is confused. Get on with your life and if he happens to come back and you've already met soul mate number two he will be out of luck.

Eugenia

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Article: A Marital Impropriety

Dear Eugenia

I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?

Confused

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Dear Confused

I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.

Eugenia

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Article: From Aussie

Hi Eugenia

I know I'm a Leo born August 22, 1942, at 12:42 PM and for the most part I have all of the traits, however, I seem to lack self-confidence in-group and social situations. I seem to be fine in a one on one...is this an astrological issue that is happening with my sign at this time?

Secondly, it seems that I am having more difficulty in focusing on where I want to go in my life... I have been recently working as a consultant in the accounting profession. My contract ended in February 2003. I felt burned out, and decided to take some time off. I am now having these anxiety attacks as to what my future holds.

Do I sell my current Condo home and move to a retirement park setting (Mfg. Home) this is all for financial reasons.. Do I continue to work on a consulting basis (assuming I can find a job)? What does my future hold as far as real estate, job, and investments, health... I know I'm all over the map, but thanks for your help.

Aussie

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Hi Aussie

Yes you are a Leo in Character, looks, and love etc. but you think and act like a Virgo especially when dealing with groups etc and especially over the course of the past couple of years while transiting Saturn was adversely positioned to your natal Virgo planets. To top it off your natal Saturn is also adversely positioned to your natal Virgo planets as well making this even more significant as of late. The good news is that Saturn is moving off mid to late June and it will give you some relief in this area of your life. You just went through your second Saturn return about a year to a year and a half ago and this is why you are feeling the urgency for change in your life. You have been re-evaluating what you've done and you are looking to the future regarding what to do now. Changes in your home environment are present over the course of the next year and a half so you don't have to move immediately if you don't want to. As a matter of fact I believe that you will probably continue to take on contracts until the end of this year or even possibly the spring of next when you will feel that you are in a better financial position. During the second half of next year you will have a better chance to do well with real estate. Where health is concerned you may have some problems regarding your stomach, skin, bones and teeth or arthritis over the course of the next year especially if you are under stress. As long as you keep on top of any of these minor or chronic ailments everything should be just fine.

Eugenia

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