We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I used to read your horoscopes daily in the Kansas City newspaper. I wrote you around March to ask for your help regarding my situation with my husband (born November 17, 1976). At the time he was leaving me alone all of the time and telling me he no longer wanted to be married. You suggested that I leave him alone and concentrate on myself for a while because love would be more likely in the fall and either he'd return or I would find someone else. Right on cue he has returned asking to go back to how things were before. But now I've changed and I have met someone else (born May 7, 1973). Now I feel like I am being torn apart because I believe marriage is for life and I should be doing everything I can to make it work, but for so long I was trying so hard alone and was unwanted. I feel like there is too much that has taken place between us. The other person came into my life two months ago as a friend and something clicked between us. Now I don't know what to do. I am so hurt that all I want to do is run away from all of this. Please tell me who has the best comparison. In my heart I think I already know, but I really need advice. Thank you.
Perplexed
Dear Perplexed
I can certainly see your dilemma after running an astrological comparison between you and the two men in your life. They both match up about the same. In the case of your Taurus friend I do have to say that there is some sorrow that shows up in the comparison so I believe that if you choose him you will have regrets or that it won't end up being any better with him than it is with your husband. With your husband I believe that you can't just let him come back with the intentions of having things be the same as they were before he left. I believe that you must set some ground rules. That you must talk about why your marriage wasn't working and what you both need from one another in order to make it better. Keeping things the same will only result in a vicious circle. The comparison with your husband is better physically and mentally and although that may not be apparent right now it is only because you have been with him so much longer than you have with your Taurus friend. I believe you owe it to yourself and to your husband to give it another chance. Please communicate this time so that things don't go array.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
This is my third attempt to connect with you. I think this is a wonderful feature that you offer, and your generosity is so very much appreciated!! I have been having some intense problems with my lover of almost 2 years. We are both passionate people, and fell in love with each other over night. We've been together ever since we met (Sept. 9th, 1999). Neither of us has ever experienced love like this before. BUT, I have never experienced such emotionally "brutal" fights in my life. This man that I love can also be cruel, merciless, and manipulative. I need to know what his chart says about this streak in him (I know it has to do with Scorpio) because I am now trying to be very realistic about what I am getting myself into over long term. You have said before that Scorpio men hate any sign of weakness....well, that is a tall order, seeing that every woman or man has their weaknesses. Piscean's tend to show their weaknesses even more so...or at least they appear weak to many people.
I am one of these Piscean's. I have had a very hard life, and in my 27 years have come a very long way from how I was raised. People often see me as angelic, youthful, darling, blessed, and sheltered. It is so ironic, because my background was one of deep sadness, nightmares, and abuse!! Many things happened, but one that I can say just a few words about and gain some understanding is that my mother went into a mental institution when I was six, came out shortly after, and raised me, herself an unmedicated paranoid schizophrenic until I was 11. I lived in a very different world until other adults got involved and took me out of that situation. Obviously this has a tremendous affect on my ability to relate to my peers. My father begrudgingly took me in to live with he and his new wife. They threw me into school (I had not been to elementary school in two years) and punished me for not doing well. My Dad and stepmother treated me like a leper (my stepmother was a very jealous young woman) for years. They made a great income, but did not buy me clothes unless they were from the goodwill or Salvation Army. I always felt like I should ask them to forgive me for imposing on their life. Truly.
Well, I never got past the ninth grade. I worked, starting at 14, in restaurants. I had great dreams of traveling the world, escaping my sadness, becoming something extraordinary. The idealistic dreams of youth always seem to elude us all. I just kept struggling, trying to go back to school and dropping out. It was awful, and by this time, my beloved mother was a homeless woman. Anyway (I am writing much more than I intended) I am now working in a high tech job. My personality is what got me in the door, plus some white lies on my resume. Looking at my current life, my job included, no one who would meet me now would ever even imagine where I came from. I think this is pretty good. I am sad that I have not gone to see the world yet. I would like to write books. I love to write, but self-discipline is very hard for me.
Ok, so my current love belittles me and says that I am weak (I do cry a lot) and that he does not want a weak woman. Other times he tells me I am the best thing that has ever happened to him. He is going to Europe (leaving tomorrow) for 3 months without me. I am incredibly hurt by this. Please tell me what our charts say about our ability to work through things. He is: December 22, 1967, 4:56 AM. I am: March 5th, 1974, 7:16 AM.
Pisces
Dear Pisces
You are actually only a Pisces by Sun sign having your natal Mercury, Venus and Jupiter in Aquarius, your natal Mars and Saturn in Gemini and your natal Uranus and Pluto in Libra. This gives you a strong air influence in your chart. To top it off the other remaining influences are definitely fire with your natal Moon in Leo and your natal Neptune in Sagittarius with Aries r
Dear Eugenia,
Help! I need your advice. My life is a disaster, which actually is just a continuation of last year. My best childhood friend died suddenly from cancer in January. I have been out on disability since October of last year. My financial situation is dire. My employer made false accusations against me and has now stopped paying me. I know they have no intention of allowing me to return to work. I don't know how much more I can take.
I am a single mom and have to support my children, but I feel totally lost. Do you see anything positive occurring in my near future? Everywhere I turn for help or advice, I hit a brick wall. How much longer do I have to endure this gloomy situation? I'm usually a very lucky person. I don't understand what has happened during the past 10 months and I am at my wits end. I was born on 4/22/62 at 3:45am. Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.
Lost in the Desert
Dear Lost in the Desert
Under normal circumstances the area of your chart that deals with work and money is not too bad however there are indications that you can change your position or direction quickly. During the past couple of years however your chart has been experiencing limitations, frustrations and obstacles regarding your job. Currently while you are still off on disability I believe that this is the perfect time to start a small home based business or you may want to pick up some new skills that will help you find a better position when you are ready to go back to work. You are suffering from some emotional depression due to your financial situation however that is passing and you should start to feel better by mid July. The most important thing is to keep moving in a positive direction that will lead to a higher earning bracket. You have a pretty good chart so get motivated and everything else will fall into place.
Eugenia
