We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Business and Pleasure

Dear Eugenia,

I'm giving this one more try. I've sent an email to you in the past, however even though unanswered I wasn't really getting to the point. So here goes. When I met my husband in 1993, I thought for sure that he was my soul mate (his dob: 4/21/65/ my dob: 6/15/63). Before I met him, I met a palm reader who told me many things that came true, including that I would meet my soul mate. Things were going well, however this year I find myself questioning if he is the "one". I never gave it a thought a few years ago, but now I'm wondering. I've also found much interest in a man that I work with (4/10/66) and am trying very hard not to think of him other than a friend and co-worker. But I'm having such a hard time. It's not just a feeling of attraction, but a very strong feeling of a connection with this person for some reason. Am I totally out of line feeling this way or could there be something there.

Thank You,

Looking for true love

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Dear Looking for true love

You don't actually match up all that well to either of the men in question. The reason why you are in doubt of the relationship with your husband at this time is because the natal Venus and Mercury in your chart are conjunct transiting Jupiter while your natal Mars, Uranus and Pluto are being squared by Jupiter. This can cause confusion, a need to make changes in your relationship and erratic behavior on your part. I would guess that part of the reason you find yourself attracted to the Aries at work is because you are already dissatisfied with your relationship with your Taurus husband. I think that you have a lot of thinking to do and that you may want to seek counseling in order to help you work through your feelings. It appears to me that you will also be meeting many more potential mates over the course of the next two years and that you will face on going problems if you don't deal with your marriage quickly. Question your true feelings for your husband and start the communications rolling either with him, a counselor or both. You need to make the necessary changes in order to get on with your life. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. You do work well with Aries but it isn't wise for you to mix business with pleasure.

Eugenia

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Article: Summer Romance

Dear Eugenia

I am an 18 years old boy. I had written a letter to you before, I am very pleased for the suggestion you gave to me. Now my relationship with a girl born February 11, 1984 is pretty good. I wanted to ask her to go out about one and half months ago. But I was afraid that I would fail, so I asked my friend to check her out for me. Unfortunately she said that she only likes me as a good friend, but does not love me. So I didn't ask her out...

About a month ago, she told me that she had a new boyfriend. When I heard this news, I was devastated. I didn't know what to say. I could only say "congratulations". She only knew this guy for about a week. Then she accepted going out with him. Doesn't she know I love her or does she want to let me know I don't have a chance?

You told me once before that my relationship with her will be good in the summer. As summer is coming, do I have chance to go out with her? Her date of birth was February 11, 1984. My date of birth was October 25, 1982 at 10:00 pm.

Thanks very much.
Jack

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Hi Jack

The comparison with your Aquarius friend is good and you are coming into a high cycle regarding love this summer but you must also keep in mind that it may or may not be with her. I believe that if you keep yourself open and looking for love that you will meet someone equally as nice or maybe even nicer if she herself doesn't respond to you. You will have plenty opportunities for love this summer so don't limit yourself. As a matter of fact you shouldn't focus on her but instead on all the other females that are going to be around you. After all with her being an air sign you can bet that she will show more interest if she believes that you aren't available. Stand tall and show how strong, independent and exciting you can be. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Sagittarius and Aquarius. Get out and have some fun this summer and you will connect with someone who is good for you.

Eugenia

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Article: Lost in Love

Dear Eugenia,

I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.

There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?

Desperately Lost

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Dear Desperately Lost

The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.

Eugenia

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