We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Business and Pleasure

Dear Eugenia,

I'm giving this one more try. I've sent an email to you in the past, however even though unanswered I wasn't really getting to the point. So here goes. When I met my husband in 1993, I thought for sure that he was my soul mate (his dob: 4/21/65/ my dob: 6/15/63). Before I met him, I met a palm reader who told me many things that came true, including that I would meet my soul mate. Things were going well, however this year I find myself questioning if he is the "one". I never gave it a thought a few years ago, but now I'm wondering. I've also found much interest in a man that I work with (4/10/66) and am trying very hard not to think of him other than a friend and co-worker. But I'm having such a hard time. It's not just a feeling of attraction, but a very strong feeling of a connection with this person for some reason. Am I totally out of line feeling this way or could there be something there.

Thank You,

Looking for true love

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Dear Looking for true love

You don't actually match up all that well to either of the men in question. The reason why you are in doubt of the relationship with your husband at this time is because the natal Venus and Mercury in your chart are conjunct transiting Jupiter while your natal Mars, Uranus and Pluto are being squared by Jupiter. This can cause confusion, a need to make changes in your relationship and erratic behavior on your part. I would guess that part of the reason you find yourself attracted to the Aries at work is because you are already dissatisfied with your relationship with your Taurus husband. I think that you have a lot of thinking to do and that you may want to seek counseling in order to help you work through your feelings. It appears to me that you will also be meeting many more potential mates over the course of the next two years and that you will face on going problems if you don't deal with your marriage quickly. Question your true feelings for your husband and start the communications rolling either with him, a counselor or both. You need to make the necessary changes in order to get on with your life. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. You do work well with Aries but it isn't wise for you to mix business with pleasure.

Eugenia

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Article: What's With Saturn?

Dear Eugenia,

What is your opinion about having Saturn in one's 7th House? I have had such bad luck with love relationships that it feels almost hopeless. Does Saturn have anything to do with it?

Thanks,
Lisa

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Dear Lisa

Having Saturn in your seventh house can bring stability, security and lasting love or it can cause the lack there of. It is usually dependent on the way the rest of your natal planets aspect your natal Saturn as well as how the transiting planets are positioned to your natal Saturn at any given time that will determine which way the pendulum will swing. On the whole your natal chart indicates that you have your natal Saturn opposite your natal Sun, Uranus and Pluto and trine your natal Mars and Neptune. This is not all that bad and certainly wouldn't cause a total lack of romantic opportunity. However, you also have your natal Moon in your seventh squaring your natal Jupiter and opposite your natal Sun, Uranus and Pluto. This to me would be the greater cause of relationships not working out for one reason or another. You are currently in a high cycle regarding relationships but if you aren't getting out and meeting new people it won't happen. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Part of your problem as well is the build up of planets in Virgo in your first house opposite your seventh house. You tend to be careful in love and are not likely to settle for anyone that doesn't live up to your standard. You are more likely to meet potential partners while traveling, taking educational or interest courses or through friends. Stop being so hard on yourself. There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person.

Eugenia

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Article: From Gemini Son and Distressed Father

Dear Eugenia

I am really confused. I dislike my dad's partner - Unfortunately intensely. This started shortly after he met her 2 years after he and Mum separated, now 8 years ago, when I was 10. Until recently she treated me considerately, but I continued to dislike her. Now she has openly shown an aggressive dislike of me. I am now older and have decided to write down my dislikes of her. Today she refused to cooperate with this saying do what you like I am not interested. I live with her, my dad and their son, Giles, my brother. Dad is miserable and I don't want to split them up (as threatened by her) but I can't change the way I feel fundamentally. Any suggestions? I was born June 2, 1988 at 3:30 PM.

Gemini Son

Dear Eugenia

Do you give advice to men in distress? I should wait for your reply, but I am in need of immediate advice. I am 55, born February 23, 1951 at 9:30 AM and I have an 18 old son, a 35 year old partner and our son of 6. Eldest son and partner don't get on. After years of aggression by him, eldest son attempted to ameliorate situation by beginning to be civil to her, but too late it seems. Now his attempts, clumsy though they may be are rebuffed by her. I think she is being unreasonable, but I appreciate she is very hurt. I am piggy in the middle, as usual. Not the first time (third marriage/relationship). Help!!!

Distressed Father

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Dear Gemini Son and Distressed Father

I tired to email both of you to find out when your stepmother/partner was born considering she is the main issue but your emails bounced back to me therefore I am combining your emails and looking at your charts to see if I can help.

As a father you should have nipped that nastiness that your son continually shoved in your partners face a long time ago. He may not have liked her but that didn't mean that he had to abuse her and at the same time hurt you. Your son is vocal and can be unpredictable and act in haste saying things that are hurtful. He is intelligent, charming and knows how to manipulate situations which is precisely what he has done, and you have let him. As a Pisces father and partner you have been too soft trying to preserve peace with both your wife and your son. This has probably made you appear weak in the eyes of your partner causing her to lose respect and at this point probably not really caring all that much if both you and your son leave. Without her chart it is impossible for me to tell you exactly where she is at or how strong your astrological comparison is however you can check that out yourself if you go to my www.astroadvice.com web site and run a compatibility test. If you measure up to 70% or higher you probably have a chance to turn things around.

I fear however that with the onslaught of transiting Saturn moving in to oppose your Pisces planets you are about to face some limitations that could easily lead to another failed marriage. If your partner is a Sagittarius or Capricorn I imagine she has had enough and is heading out the door. You may want to consider doing some very fast-talking and decision making if you want to give a last attempt at rectifying this problem.

With the cooperation of your Gemini son who has not been a stellar addition to the family you may pull this off. He may be trying to make amends but short of him moving out it may not be enough. Being 18 now he should be close to pursuing higher education so possibly he can go away for his next level of schooling. It is obvious that he is smart and that he should be continuing his education so please consider this as it is probably the best option if you want to make you marriage work. If your son doesn't want to move out or go away to school remind him that he owes you and your partner for putting up with all the crap he has dished out the past ten years. After all who the heck was running the show at home

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