We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Two years ago I had a serious car accident & fell into a deep depression. I met someone very special at the end of this difficult year, and he helped and supported me. This loving relationship I had never experienced before, & slowly we grew closer, & I got stronger, both physically & mentally. The problem is my family. They do not approve of my relationship, & have fought me every step of the way. I still live with my parents, & we have always been close, but they are very controlling & demanding of who I choose to marry. Rather than seeing the positive influences he has brought to my life, & trying to get to know him, they refuse to see or even speak his name, for the simple reason that he is younger (3 years), & does not share my educational or financial background. To me, these things do not matter. He has so many special qualities, & has ambition to succeed, that I don't doubt my future with him, but my family ridicules & puts him down and threatens me with disowning me, painting an ugly picture of my future struggle & a miserable life! I can't take the pressure and stress, & until I move out, how do I deal with their threats, & guilt that I am letting them down? I was born Feb.23/69, at 1:00 AM and he was born Aug.13/72. He has stuck by me through everything, I can't think of leaving him, but must I choose between him and my family? Will I indeed suffer for the rest of my life if I walk away from my family to be with him? Does educational level and a person's financial status really matter most? Am I as naive as they accuse me of? Please give me your comments on my dilemma. Thank you.
Torn
Dear Torn
You do match up to your Leo partner however the comparison also denotes that deception and disillusionment are prevalent when dealing with friends and family. Your family is only looking out for your best interest and possibly your parents feel that you and your Leo partner were not up front regarding your intentions. I think that you may want to approach the situation from the stand point that if your Leo partner is indeed that dedicated to you he should be willing to sign a prenuptial agreement that will not give him any rights to your family's estate. This should put your family at ease and should allow you the freedom to proceed with your plans. Although you did not include your parents birth data I can see in your chart that at an emotional level you have probably always been manipulated to some degree by your parents. I feel that they have probably done this out of love and that should you make the decision to follow your heart that they will eventually accept the situation. This is not an ideal answer however because it is important that your family likes and approves of your partner if you wish to have favorable interaction with them in the future.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I have been in a relationship with a man for 18 years. He is a cancer born July 12, 1959 and I am a Pisces born March 16, 1959 at 10:54 pm. We have been lovers and friends for 16 years and decided to try living together for the last 2 years. He's going through something right now that has caused him to end our relationship. I don't really understand why we can't work things out together. I feel that since we moved in together he hasn't been straightforward or honest with me in what he expected from our "live in" relationship. He feels that if after 2 years we weren't going to get married that I should leave him. In turn, he dumped me. I am devastated, but am not the type to hang around and keep waiting for him to decide what he wants. Do you think we will ever get back together? I believed he was my soul mate. Was I wrong? I'm beginning a new chapter in my life on November 12th. I will be moving into my own place....I will truly miss him, though.
Pisces
Hi Pisces
Your Cancer partner has been going through emotional confusion that has lead to a change of heart on his part. The comparison between the two of you is actually quite good except his natal Sun falls in an are of your chart that deals with dead end project and unfortunately Saturn has been moving through that part of your chart as well resulting in a spilt up situation. You began to go through your second half life Saturn around the time the two of you moved in together and this resulted in an on going make it or break it cycle. I believe that he may have regrets when things settle down for him in 2006 and that it is possible that he may come back into your life October/November of next year but I must warn you that you have to protect your heart and take your time if you decide that you still want to be with him. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance at that time and it is quite possible that you will meet someone who is more certain about what and who he wants in his life. You match up well to those born under that signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Your Cancer partner only has his natal Sun in the sign Cancer therefore he does match up to you because of the strong Leo influence in his chart. This means that he does have a lot of common ground with you and you do get along but also that you may have been together to teach one another a life lesson. I wouldn't rule this man out of your life but I certainly would be using the upcoming year to get out and meet new partners. You are youthful, sensitive, giving and there is every indication that you will have more than one soul mate throughout your life. They say that we all have eleven perfect matches on the planet. Just think - you have another ten to find. By joining organizations or through friends, dating services, travel and educational pursuits you are likely to meet someone very special over the course of the next ten months so don't sit around feeling badly because he is confused. Get on with your life and if he happens to come back and you've already met soul mate number two he will be out of luck.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I appear to be having the lowest period of my lifetime. I'm very afraid, and have even considered suicide. I know many things happening in my life right now are due to planet positions, etc. But I also realize I cannot continue as I'm. My birthday is Feb 5, 1954 @ 12:16am. These are the issues I'm facing. I'm losing my home after a two-year separation from my husband. His BD is 8-23-58. My home is being foreclosed on Jul 2 and sold at public auction, I'm disabled and live on a very small monthly amount. I don't even have an idea how I will find a place to stay. My youngest sister, whom I'm closer than close to, was diagnosed with cancer in January. Her birth date 7-10-61. They tell me she has very little time, maybe only months, she is the mother of three small children, whom I will end up responsible for if she dies, I'm broken hearted over losing my home, my cherished sister with the possibility of no way to care for her children. Is there any chance of funds coming to me in the future, or a possible way of keeping my home or finding another? My sister has no life insurance, and considering the way my future appears at the moment, killing myself seems the only solution. I'm now a burden in life, and I see no way out, please understand this is not a joke, its all real, and I'm beyond desperate.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
It's always darkest before the dawn. You have three beautiful children who need you desperately. These children will bring you joy, love and certainly a reason to continue on. I have always been a big believer in nature's way. For as bad as it gets it will get equally as good. You will receive help. It will be through money that you don't work for. A hidden asset or funds that come in to you because of the situation you face. Perhaps one of our readers will donate to your cause. Moving out of your house may be the best thing that happens to you. I suggest that you start by moving in with your sister who could certainly use your support right now as well as your love. You will find that your financial solutions will clear up considerably over the next two years. Your life will stabilize and through loss will come gain. You must have faith and believe in the fact that others will come to your rescue. You have had some pretty difficult planetary transits moving through your chart indeed but you will overcome and move on as there are just as many that are favorable.
Eugenia
June 29th 2026
Happy Birthday: Take control before someone else steps in or messes with your plans. Make this solar year one to remember. Opportunities are available if you investigate and take decisive action. Stretch your imagination and share your intentions and feelings with someone you deem an essential component in achieving your goals. Think big, budget wisely, and engage in new ways to exploit your talents, qualifications, and desire to finish what you start. Your numbers are 4, 15, 26, 29, 37, 41, 48.
