We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Class Struggle

Dear Eugenia,

Two years ago I had a serious car accident & fell into a deep depression. I met someone very special at the end of this difficult year, and he helped and supported me. This loving relationship I had never experienced before, & slowly we grew closer, & I got stronger, both physically & mentally. The problem is my family. They do not approve of my relationship, & have fought me every step of the way. I still live with my parents, & we have always been close, but they are very controlling & demanding of who I choose to marry. Rather than seeing the positive influences he has brought to my life, & trying to get to know him, they refuse to see or even speak his name, for the simple reason that he is younger (3 years), & does not share my educational or financial background. To me, these things do not matter. He has so many special qualities, & has ambition to succeed, that I don't doubt my future with him, but my family ridicules & puts him down and threatens me with disowning me, painting an ugly picture of my future struggle & a miserable life! I can't take the pressure and stress, & until I move out, how do I deal with their threats, & guilt that I am letting them down? I was born Feb.23/69, at 1:00 AM and he was born Aug.13/72. He has stuck by me through everything, I can't think of leaving him, but must I choose between him and my family? Will I indeed suffer for the rest of my life if I walk away from my family to be with him? Does educational level and a person's financial status really matter most? Am I as naive as they accuse me of? Please give me your comments on my dilemma. Thank you.

Torn

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Dear Torn

You do match up to your Leo partner however the comparison also denotes that deception and disillusionment are prevalent when dealing with friends and family. Your family is only looking out for your best interest and possibly your parents feel that you and your Leo partner were not up front regarding your intentions. I think that you may want to approach the situation from the stand point that if your Leo partner is indeed that dedicated to you he should be willing to sign a prenuptial agreement that will not give him any rights to your family's estate. This should put your family at ease and should allow you the freedom to proceed with your plans. Although you did not include your parents birth data I can see in your chart that at an emotional level you have probably always been manipulated to some degree by your parents. I feel that they have probably done this out of love and that should you make the decision to follow your heart that they will eventually accept the situation. This is not an ideal answer however because it is important that your family likes and approves of your partner if you wish to have favorable interaction with them in the future.

Eugenia

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Article: Getting Better

Dear Eugenia

I think I have too many burdens in my life. I'm a 20 yr old male. As I failed in all my exams and could not enter any college, all of my best friends left me. I didn't have many friends to begin with, but focused on developing a deep friendship with just one or two.However, they left me. You can imagine how depressed I am. Anyway, I was really quiet as if I was hiding in a cave for a year. And then, this year, 2001, I went to an art college but I found it difficult to make new friends while I was there. I couldn't find anyone who could share with me. Besides, I lost hope in music and in my ability to do well in the courses I was studying. I feel so depressed... I think things won't get better if I don't make changes to myself. However, it's hard to change and improve if I don't know where to start. Eugenia, please give me your advice. I was born August 30, 1981, at 5:30 AM.

Depressed

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Dear Depressed

I believe that part of your problem is that you are focusing on the wrong things right now. Your chart indicates that you should be in the work force learning on the job or through an apprenticeship. The area of your chart that deals with work and money looks quite good as does getting recognition for what you do. If your interest in music happens to lead to playing in a band or singing or something of that nature you may want to get a job and start to push your own musical talent during your off hours. You are in a high cycle over the course of the next couple of years regarding getting ahead and following your dreams, hopes and wishes. Although it is always good to get an education not everyone is a good student. That doesn't mean however that you can't do well and excel at something that you love to do. Regarding friends and lovers you have to be patient. Many of your friends have moved in a different direction but there is some opportunity around you regarding making new friends. The possibility of meeting someone special is also apparent however both friendships and emotional relationships appear to be made at or through work. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: A Stifling Scorpio

Dear Eugenia,

I am suffering from a relationship and I feel the pain deep in my heart. I beg you, help me and give me advice.I was born on March 7, 1961 -A Pisces. He was born in November 21, 1952, a Scorpio.

We have known each other for one year. I moved to his apartment two months ago. He is divorced and has two children. He quit his job four years ago after the divorce. He is conservative and closed. I always take the initiative to talk to him and comfort him. Until recently, I could not tolerate it any more. I am an energetic, fun loving and an open person. His unpredictable nature almost drives me crazy. He lacks security when it comes to women. He doesn't want me to participate in general business events and sometimes shouts at me because I want to attend these activities.

I think that he should go out and get a job because a job will help him to live a more balanced life both mentally and physically. This is also a way to get him out of his present situation. We love each other but are also hurting each other. I would like to know, is he to be my life-long partner? Will I meet someone who is more suitable to me? I am not young and do not want to search for partner here and there! I am very tired!

Thanks in advance.
Puzzled

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Dear Puzzled

I believe that our Scorpio partner is quite controlling and that he is also going through a very uncertain period in his life. It appears that he is afraid of losing you and therefore he is not willing to let you take part in the events that you would like to enjoy. He does match up to you both mentally and physically however emotionally I have to question how good this relationship is for you. The major sign of sorrow is present and I believe that the problem does stem from the fact that he is not working or contributing as much as he should to the financial aspect of your relationship. If you can convince him to go back to work it may help however I believe that he may have other problems to overcome first. He is emotionally unstable and this makes it difficult for him to feel confident enough to move forward with his professional life. Your chart indicates that you should be getting out and doing things that you enjoy and if he doesn't want to join you or let you go that you may have to walk away. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance is concerned and if you stay where you are you may miss the opportunities that are available to you. You match up well to those born under the sign Taurus, Cancer, Virgo and Pisces. The sign Scorpio falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects therefore it isn't likely that he is to be your life long partner.

Eugenia

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