We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Cancer

Hi Eugenia

I guess I'm reaching out to you because I need the opinion of a person not close to me. I'm currently involved with a man who I think I might be in love with. He's a few years older than I am and he has a girlfriend. He's been with her for at least 2 years. We've been dating (having sex) for the past year. I have developed strong feelings for him and have told him so. He has told me that he isn't ready for marriage but wants to be in a relationship that could lead to that. I want what we have to turn into something more. I want a committed relationship. I have dreams about marrying this man. I just need to know if our relationship is going to develop into something deeper. Does he really want to be with me or is he just wanting me for sex? His birthday is May 13, 1975 and mine is July 8, 1980 at 4 PM. Thank you for you insight.

Cancer

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Hi Cancer

A relationship built on lies, cheating and deceit isn?t likely to progress in a secure and long-lasting manner. The comparison wasn?t great however I must admit that the sex is probably decent. You did not submit his girlfriends date of birth so I can?t tell you how well he matches up to her but I?m assuming it is probably better than the comparison that you have with him. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and relationships beginning this fall. I suggest that you dump this loser who hasn?t had the guts to finish one relationship before he begins another. By doing so you will be free and clear to meet a much better candidate for love later this year when you chart denotes love and romance. You match up well to the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: From Lost and Confused

Hi Eugenia

I was in a 10 year long relationship with a man that I believe is the love of my life. Things were so easy for about the first year, after that they seemed to just be on a steady course of difficulty. I've never strayed from my dream of marriage and a family. He said he wanted all the same things and recently has changed his mind. He has done a 180 on me and we are now separated. We went through a similar thing a few years ago, but got back together after about four months apart. He was born on January 12, 1972 and I was born on June 23, 1969 at 11:00 pm. As far as signs go, I know that we are perfectly compatible. Can you tell me if I'm crazy for loving this man? Is this a temporary split while he works out whatever has him scared or is this permanent? I've been lost and confused trying to make sense of all of this... any help you can offer would be a great help in putting my mind and heart at ease.

Thank you,
Lost and Confused

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Dear Lost and Confused

The comparison was okay but not without some problems. Although your boyfriend was born under the sign Capricorn he does have three planets in the sign Sagittarius and this is usually an indication that even if he does decide to get married he will always be a bachelor at heart. He has his natal Venus in the sign Aquarius and this planet is going through a change of heart, confusion and as a result causing his 180-degree turn. His natal Venus is also at an adverse position to your natal Neptune and this usually causes sorrow within the relationship. In your case it shows up when it comes to changing your status in life that meaning marriage. I also believe that there could be some problems where friends and family are concerned that you may not even know about. Your chart indicates that you will be in a much better position regarding love, marriage and so forth towards the end of this year and through most of next. I wouldn't give him much more time to do a reversal. If he can't make up his mind by the fall let it go. As for you I believe that you should be focusing on career, getting out and meeting and making some new friends and moving on with your life. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. If he doesn't turn around don't rule out people born under his sign just run an astrological comparison on my site to make sure that he is truly a strong Goat and not someone with a build up of natal planets in Sagittarius.

Eugenia

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Article: Just Not Sure

Dear Eugenia,

I have this huge problem regarding my sexuality. I think I'm a gay as I like watching handsome guys. This has happened for years and I'm really ashamed. I have no one to talk to. I am really worried about my future and my marriage later. Am I truly a gay? Or is it just a phase. I have tried to build relationships with girls but I keep failing. Please tell me what to do. I'm really confused and tired of struggling all the time. Is this some kind of punishment because I hate my father? For your information, I have never been close to my father since my childhood. I have read magazines that this could make someone a gay. Please help me because I think you're the only person who can help me. I was born August 19, 1981, at 2:00 AM. Thank you very much.

Swimming both ways

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Dear Swimming both ways

Your chart does indicate that many of your problems stem from your relationship with your father as well as other factors that were present in your upbringing. You do have your natal Venus, Saturn and Jupiter opposite your natal Moon and this can be extremely confusing regarding your emotions as well as your sexuality. I feel at this point that you are just a late bloomer and that you will change your mind regarding your sexuality many times over the course of the next few years. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and therefore the opportunity to experiment a little should help you move in the direction that is best suited to you. I do feel however that the right partner will help you determine that you are straight not gay.

Eugenia

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