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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Help please! I am 33, 26.05.67, at 9:00 AM, my boyfriend is 16, 05.06.84, and we knew each other before we got together. We are so good together except for the age difference. I believe we are soul mates and that we will be in each other's lives forever. I also know that I have to let him go to get on with his life. I love him so much and so much want us to be together, my heart breaks at the thought of losing him. Is it possible that he will get a life then we can get back together in a few years time? We have such a powerful and strong relationship but I know he must go and get some life experience, I feel so confused by what my head and heart say. He has had a hard life and is too mature for his years, but we have so much in common and this is part of the strong bond that we have together. I know that he loves me. However, we both agree that we should end this relationship, but we are finding it difficult to let go.
Older Woman/Younger Man
Dear Older Woman/Younger Man
Let's get real, the comparison was not that great. I feel that what has happened between you is that you both filled a void in one another life for a brief moment in time. Both your charts indicate that it's time to move on. If you can maintain a friendship fine but you are best to cut it off and go your own way. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with older women and younger men or vise versa but in this case there is an element of emotional deception and really the comparison is more like a friendship that has gotten out of hand. Now I'm not saying that it can't work or that it won't some day in the future but I am saying that right now you both need time to move on and experience new people, places and things. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a high cycle regarding love and romance during the second half of next year. Currently and until that time you will be in a cycle conducive to meeting people who can help you get ahead. You should be focusing on your work, getting ahead and meeting new people. As for him it is apparent that he is in a high cycle regarding love and romance even now and that it is important for him to grasp the moment and enjoy his teenage years. He is highly changeable right now as well as vulnerable to your needs so it will be left up to you to force the issue. If you don't I'm afraid he will find someone new and try to appease you at the same time and this could lead to an emotional disaster for both of you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
First of all let me say that I think you are wonderful to provide the services that you do. I love being able to check on things for myself every day. I know there are many people out there that need your advice so if my letter doesn't get chosen I thank you anyway. I could really use your help though. I am a 43yr old Pisces born 2/23/57 @10:33pm in St. Petersburg FL and I have fallen head over heels for a fellow Pisces born 3/15/50 in Fayetteville NC. We get along great most of the time, but occasionally we really rub each other the wrong way. My man makes it clear that he doesn't want a serious relationship. He has been through some really horrible past as have I which tends to make both of us rather skittish of emotions. We have been involved for the last 7 months(although if you ask him he'd tell you he's not involved with anyone). He has always been a real Romeo, but hasn't been with anyone but me since this all started. Sorry to ramble so, I just want you to understand it all.
He and I had a falling out last week and I haven't heard from him since then. I have seen him a couple of times because he showed up at the same places where I was out with friends. I just need to know will we get past this rough spot? I really feel that I have finally found my soul mate, but he has such deep seated issues from his past relationships I don't know how to get through to him sometimes. I really care for this man and only want what's best for him. Of course I have to admit I think that's me. How do I get through to him? Will we get past this recent falling out? Should I make overtures to make things better or am I just fooling myself? Everything I have checked out on your site says we are compatible, but I am really at a loss as to how to proceed. I could really use your advice. I'm not asking if you think we should continue. I know we should. It's just how to get there and overcome these obstacles that I need help on. Thanks for reading all of this. I truly appreciate it.
Yours truly,
Pisces in a Pickle
Dear Pisces in a Pickle
I hate to backtrack but the comparison between you and your Pisces friend is only adequate. Now this does not mean that it can't work but it will take plenty of effort on both your part and his. You are both sensitive and tend to back away from issues that you don't feel comfortable discussing. I suggest that you rectify your problems quickly by talking it through before it gets blown out of proportion. It's obvious that he still cares or he wouldn't show up in places that you are likely to be. Your chart indicates that you are going through a make it or break it period in your relationship. It is important to decide if you want to be with him or not and make it so. Your chart also denotes that you will be in a high cycle for love and relationships next year so don't feel that this is your last chance for love. You have plenty to offer and will match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn as well as another Pisces. I must caution however that with the planets Jupiter and Saturn slowly moving into the sign Gemini over the next year you may find it difficult for you and your Pisces friend to agree.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have had the same best friend for almost 6 years. She, born March 10, 1989, has been recently acting like she does not what be friends with me. She has made some new friends since we have entered Junior High School and has only been hanging around them. In the beginning of 8th grade one of her new friends asked her out and they began dating. She began ignoring me and our other friends more and more to hang out with him and his friends. When I confronted her, she said she didn't realize she had been acting differently and she told me she would try to stop. She hung out with me for about a week until she was back to canceling things that we had planned to do together because her boyfriend would be mad at her. She broke up with him awhile later and came to me to cry on my shoulder. For two weeks my other friends and I did things to make her feel better like go to the mall and stuff. After about two weeks her ex asked out someone else and his best friend asked out mine. She said yes and it started all over again. I told her how I felt yet again. Yesterday she broke up with her boyfriend. She hasn't come to me to be consoled. Instead she goes to her other friends. It hurts to see someone that you have shared a great friendship with snub you. I was wondering what I should do. She doesn't listen to me when I talk to her and she makes me feel selfish that I want her to start hanging out again. Is it selfish? She also gets embarrassed when she is seen with me by any of her new friends. Her friends are nice, but not the type that I hang out with. I thought that if I tried to make friends with them, than she might accept me more, but she just gets embarrassed when I am around. I was born May 12, 1989, at 5:25 pm. Help me please.
~Best Friendless
Dear ~Best Friendless
Your girlfriend has been going through a lot of changes since the spring of last year especially regarding her friendships, school and secret or behind the scenes activity. Her ideas concerning what she likes and does not like are changing and she is becoming more and more attracted to different types of people. As for you - you can't be whom she wants you to be in order to maintain the friendship. It just doesn't work that way. You must however protect yourself so that she doesn't use you whenever she feels insecure with her newfound friends. She may make a reversal by late summer or early fall of this year however don't be too willing to trust that she will not yo-yo you around again. As for you the fall indicates a far better time where friendships and school are concerned so look to expanding your own circle of friends but not at the expense of letting your grades drop. You have a lot going for you and you should focus on yourself your direction in life and spending time with friends who have the same interests as you.
Eugenia
