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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Help please! I am 33, 26.05.67, at 9:00 AM, my boyfriend is 16, 05.06.84, and we knew each other before we got together. We are so good together except for the age difference. I believe we are soul mates and that we will be in each other's lives forever. I also know that I have to let him go to get on with his life. I love him so much and so much want us to be together, my heart breaks at the thought of losing him. Is it possible that he will get a life then we can get back together in a few years time? We have such a powerful and strong relationship but I know he must go and get some life experience, I feel so confused by what my head and heart say. He has had a hard life and is too mature for his years, but we have so much in common and this is part of the strong bond that we have together. I know that he loves me. However, we both agree that we should end this relationship, but we are finding it difficult to let go.
Older Woman/Younger Man
Dear Older Woman/Younger Man
Let's get real, the comparison was not that great. I feel that what has happened between you is that you both filled a void in one another life for a brief moment in time. Both your charts indicate that it's time to move on. If you can maintain a friendship fine but you are best to cut it off and go your own way. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with older women and younger men or vise versa but in this case there is an element of emotional deception and really the comparison is more like a friendship that has gotten out of hand. Now I'm not saying that it can't work or that it won't some day in the future but I am saying that right now you both need time to move on and experience new people, places and things. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a high cycle regarding love and romance during the second half of next year. Currently and until that time you will be in a cycle conducive to meeting people who can help you get ahead. You should be focusing on your work, getting ahead and meeting new people. As for him it is apparent that he is in a high cycle regarding love and romance even now and that it is important for him to grasp the moment and enjoy his teenage years. He is highly changeable right now as well as vulnerable to your needs so it will be left up to you to force the issue. If you don't I'm afraid he will find someone new and try to appease you at the same time and this could lead to an emotional disaster for both of you.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I think my man is cheating on me. He was born 2/1/58 in Peoria, IL. We have been together for 2 years, and one thing that's always bothered me is his ability to "compartmentalize." He has several exes that I have never been introduced to, yet I have known all along that he sees them in social situations. This does not bug me, as it seems to indicate that he is truly a caring person and does not throw away relationships with ease.
However, I have sensed a shift recently, and don't know whether to chalk it up to my oversensitive Cancer nature, or to trust my female intuition. The details are unimportant. There is a voice in my head, screaming loudly, that I am being lied to and cheated on.
I am hoping you will help me by providing reassurance that this man does love me truly, like he says he does, or that my unfortunate suspicions are true and I should move on. I think this man may be the love of my life, so I am willing to hang in here, providing I am not being made a fool of. I was born 7/17/66 at 8:52 PM.
Thanks in advance,
Hurting Heart
Dear Hurting Heart
The comparison with your Aquarius lover was not very good. As a matter of fact it screams deception when it comes to communicating about matters that pertain to his friendships with other people or even communicating at any level for that matter. He was also born with his natal Venus adversely positioned to his natal Neptune and this is the major sign of sorrow when it comes to love and romance. The reason he still sees his ex girlfriends is to lead them on. He has to know that at any time he can pull strings and get them to dance with him yet again. Your Aquarius friend is not the sweet and caring man you think he is. He is cool and calculating. As for you - well you are way to sensitive to be involved with the likes of him. You have too much to offer emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally and there is no doubt in my mind that you should be moving on quickly. I know that moving on and letting go are both very difficult for a Cancer to do and in your case you are such a strong Cancer with such a big heart that I can see why you sit there even though you are smart enough to see what's going on right under your nose. You are in a high cycle regarding love and romance until late October and I suggest that you don't waste this precious time on him. Get out of this relationship and move quickly to find a new love. I believe if you do so you will be much happier this time next year. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I need some advice about the direction of my life. I graduated last year and am currently studying for my Masters. However, it is not in the subject I wish to continue in. I feel stuck and as if I have nowhere to go after I finish it, don't want to do any of the jobs I will be qualified for. I am seriously considering going back to studying again next year and hope I will be able to get to where I want to be by doing this. This path is long and by no means certain and I don't know whether to take this chance or to try to apply for jobs I don't really want to do, I feel I would be unhappy. Also I am concerned that my indecision and my continued studying would ruin my chances of happiness with the man I want to be with. Maybe I should just follow him and see what happens for me there? His date of birth is 26/09/1977, I have no time and mine is 16/05/1978, around 7.29 am. Or should I move back to Ireland to my family? I don't think I would be content doing that but I really don't know anymore! Help please Eugenia!!
a confused Taurus!
Dear confused Taurus!
Your chart indicates that you should be studying for at least another three years and possibly longer depending on what it is you are going to school to learn. Whatever educational studies you have completed will never be wasted even if you don?t decide to pursue a career in that field at this time. It is said that the next generation coming into the workforce will have up to five, maybe even more different careers throughout their lifetime. For you to stay in school and gain more knowledge and experience can only help you in the long run, especially if you?re willing to put in the hours and hard work required.
Regarding moving home with your parents, only if it means that it will be easier for you to pursue the subjects that you want to take. You have the planet Neptune transiting through an area of your chart that deals with higher education and this can cause one of two things or possibly both. You will be confused about your educational pursuits, which you are already. You will want to go into a field that is creative or that deals with philosophy, religion etc. If this is the case you may find yourself in this state for the better part of the next eight years. Don?t limit yourself so that you look back on your life when you are old and say could of, would of, should of. You are young and you?ve got your whole life ahead of you and it?s a perfect time to learn all that you can in order to ensure that you will have a successful future.
As for the boyfriend, well the comparison was okay except for the confusion and possible deception at an emotional and intellectual level. I don?t know that I would follow him, unless you will be able to continue your studies at the same time and get the support you need from him to do so. Opportunities for love and romance will be in high gear next year so don?t worry about being on your own for a while. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
