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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Help please! I am 33, 26.05.67, at 9:00 AM, my boyfriend is 16, 05.06.84, and we knew each other before we got together. We are so good together except for the age difference. I believe we are soul mates and that we will be in each other's lives forever. I also know that I have to let him go to get on with his life. I love him so much and so much want us to be together, my heart breaks at the thought of losing him. Is it possible that he will get a life then we can get back together in a few years time? We have such a powerful and strong relationship but I know he must go and get some life experience, I feel so confused by what my head and heart say. He has had a hard life and is too mature for his years, but we have so much in common and this is part of the strong bond that we have together. I know that he loves me. However, we both agree that we should end this relationship, but we are finding it difficult to let go.
Older Woman/Younger Man
Dear Older Woman/Younger Man
Let's get real, the comparison was not that great. I feel that what has happened between you is that you both filled a void in one another life for a brief moment in time. Both your charts indicate that it's time to move on. If you can maintain a friendship fine but you are best to cut it off and go your own way. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with older women and younger men or vise versa but in this case there is an element of emotional deception and really the comparison is more like a friendship that has gotten out of hand. Now I'm not saying that it can't work or that it won't some day in the future but I am saying that right now you both need time to move on and experience new people, places and things. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a high cycle regarding love and romance during the second half of next year. Currently and until that time you will be in a cycle conducive to meeting people who can help you get ahead. You should be focusing on your work, getting ahead and meeting new people. As for him it is apparent that he is in a high cycle regarding love and romance even now and that it is important for him to grasp the moment and enjoy his teenage years. He is highly changeable right now as well as vulnerable to your needs so it will be left up to you to force the issue. If you don't I'm afraid he will find someone new and try to appease you at the same time and this could lead to an emotional disaster for both of you.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I am very involved in a long distance relationship. We talk every day, but, of course, see each other infrequently. We have 3 visits of 2 weeks each planned for this year.?We have started to think about relocating to be together. The question is...which one of us moves?? Also, when should the move be planned for?? We are both in the same business and would work together too, although his business is more established than mine, so it would be easier for me to work into his.? But my family is here, and I love where I live.? Only love could make me leave it.? One more wrinkle...he is recently separated, and I feel he needs some time on his own...to be single...before making a long term commitment. With that in mind, I do fear the thoughts of losing him. My question for you Eugenia is this:? does it make sense for me to think about planning for a future of living and working with this man? Or should I just enjoy what we have now, knowing that it is short term?
I really appreciate any insight you can give me in this situation.? Dealing with a long distance relationship can be wonderful....or dreadful.? I hate the thoughts of setting myself up for getting hurt.? Thank you so much for your help Eugenia....you are wonderful! Please do not include our birth data.
Leo
Hi Leo
I don?t have a concern with the age difference however there was one problem that the astrological comparison did reveal. His natal Sun is opposite your natal Neptune and this can cause some deception or difficulties in an area of his chart that deals with communication and travel or the distance that you have between you. In your chart it deals with a work area which could eventually create problems because you are in the same vocation or work for the same company. I do not however feel that this is something that should stop you from pursuing you intention to eventually make a move to be together. His chart indicates that he is more inclined to make a short distance move over the next year. In other words he buys a house and moves from where he is living now to a nearby neighborhood. In your case the move appears to be a distant move from one state or province to another over the upcoming year.
There are no guarantees when it comes to love and even though your comparison is good a relationship takes work. If you feel that you will miss your friends and family you may want to consider your option to move very slowly with this relationship. Where he resides it is certainly not the same climate physically or mentally and the adjustment will be difficult. I suggest that you spend as much time visiting him as possible to get a better feel for the area. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with relationships which is good and you fall in the offshoot of that area in his chart which also brings favorable results. My only concern is that you are very family oriented and it will be difficult for you to leave the people you love behind should you make the move. If he were to make the move to your local it would have to be in the fall of 2005. Before that time would probably be a mistake or lead to some problems. If you feel that you want to take that amount of time before you are together I would suggest that you do so.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have to ask for *discretion*, because my situation is embarrassing to me. I feel like I've failed in everything I've attempted. My baby's 10 months old now (09-17-00 12:02pm. I'm living on just about every source of welfare that I could find, and I get no child support. Things are getting really rough. I cry at night because I didn't want it to be like this. Every time I try for a job, I get no reply. Do you see anything happening in my chart in terms of financial stability? I really wish to get off of public assistance. I wanted to write to you about love and my soul mate. I feel so alone, and I know my first priority is my son, but love. I have never really had that someone special without it breaking out into mental abuse. Can you tell me if I'm *ever* going to meet someone. I feel cursed. I feel like I'm reliving my moms past...and it scares me. I know you can't move the stars, but if you can give me some insight into what's going on or might happen it might help to be aware. Sometimes I don't know if I can continue living the way I am. I'm scared, and I want more for my son. His father (10-15-82 isn't around, no one knows where he is. I'm just so confused. I try to keep hope alive, but I can't get any breaks.
Sincerely,
Abandoned and alone
Dear Abandoned and alone
You are heading into a high cycle regarding work so don't stop looking. A job will be available if you continue to walk the pavement and go for interviews. Opportunities for educational pursuits are also present. That could mean that you will learn while on the job like an apprenticeship. Although you do match up to the father of your son he probably does not know how to handle the responsibility. If you can find him I suggest you do. He should be helping you out by paying support. I believe that you will be able to do something regarding this matter over the course of the next year so don't give up hope or stop trying to find him. You do have a habit of picking men who are irresponsible. Keep in mind that there is more to a good relationship then sex. Kindness, generosity, responsibility and the ability to share are also important. Long after the passion dwindles you still need to have common interests, beliefs and goals. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius.
Eugenia
