We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have written numerous times and am anxious to get an answer please as my life is turning around very quickly. In January of 2003 I left my husband of 22 years and we are now legally separated. I was born on July 6th, 1959 at 1 am and my ex was born on April 27, 1960. I have been seeing a married man, since September of 2002. He was born on June 13, 1962. He was verbally and physically abused as a child. His first wife cheated. His second wife was on the rebound and is verbally abusive to him to the point of him being depressed. There are many walls around this wonderful man, some of which have come down somewhat. He is hard to read sometimes but has become more open with me because of the trust we have built. I know there is stress in this relationship because I don't see him often and it is hard to tell sometimes where I stand. I know you are going to tell me to get out of this relationship because of the circumstances but I love him dearly and can't see life right now without him. Where does my life stand with him.
Cancer
Dear Cancer
I?m not about to tell you to get out of your relationship with your Gemini friend however I never believe that it?s a good idea to get into a relationship with someone until you are both free and clear of your past partners. You may be legally separated from your ex but with the high comparison you have with one another and the sort of love/hate connection that is so apparent I find it hard to believe that it is totally over. Your relationship with your Gemini friend is a little calmer and I certainly can see the attraction but he is hasn?t made a move to leave his current wife even though you say that she is abusive. You did not mention when she was born so I can?t comment on whether they actually get along or not. I believe that if he is to leave her it will probably be next fall when transiting Saturn conjuncts his natal Venus. That will be when he goes through his make it or break it period so he will either leave you or her but he probably won?t keep you both under wraps when that period hits. I don?t know that I would wait around if I were you but feel that you probably will.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I participated in the Seoul Forum and I was fortunate enough to shake hands with you. You seemed a bit tired that day, I hope you are fine now....
I didn't have a chance to ask you about my problem. Although it is a bit late, I think now is the chance, so I'm writing to you. I'm working in a company right now, but I'm thinking of changing my career because I don't think this is the right direction for me. I'm thinking of starting to do counseling in hypnotized psychology. I'm learning bit by bit and I've been counseling the people I know. They all said it was interesting and it was helpful. Thus, I'm satisfied with it. I feel like this is my calling. I don't know whether it will bring me a better future or not...Or should I still continue to work in a company? Please let me know whether this is the right way or not. I was born December 12, 1972, at 8:30 AM. When you return to Seoul in February I hope to give you a hypnotized counseling session.
Faithful Member
Dear Faithful Member
I'm glad you attended the forum and yes I was tired from the rigorous schedule that I had been on for the past couple of weeks. Regarding your question, I do believe that you have chosen a direction that is good for you. Your chart indicates that you have considerable talent in this area of work and that you are in a high learning cycle regarding such work for the better part of the next year. The area of your chart that deals with work and money is coming into a particularly high cycle beginning in April and I feel that you should be able to build on your business from that point on. I must tell you however that building up your clientele does not happen over night and that you may want to continue working for the company you are with until you feel confident that you are making enough doing your hypnotic counseling. When I first started taking on clients many years ago I worked for a company doing a job that didn't really interest me while I built my business. It meant working long hours but it was well worth the effort to finally be able to do the work that I love to do. Hang in there and I do believe that you will achieve the success that you're looking for over the course of the next five years. I would be honored to sit and have a hypnotic counseling session with you on my return to Seoul in February. Maybe I can offer you an astrological counseling session in return.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have lived with a man for the last 6 years. The first couple of years were really hard and our exes and kids caused some problems. We became engaged last year, after much heated debate about where we were going in our relationship. He then told his oldest daughter, we were not getting married, (his children had a problem with his divorce, even though he had been separated for 15 years) and then told me he didn't want to get into it with her. Well, he has told me recently that he really didn't want to get married, but we have agreed I would take his last name, and he still wanted to buy me a ring. Just recently on a trip home with his daughter (23 years old) he told her that after our trip to Florida he was breaking up with me. The thing is when I confronted him about this he totally denied it and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. So, does he just say things to her so she wont freak out, or is he really lying to me. His birth date is Feb. 28/1955 and mine is September 14, 1971 at 5 AM.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison with your Pisces man is good but it does show signs of emotional deception. He probably isn't being completely honest with either one of you. Before I go any further however I have to ask you why the whole marriage thing is so important to you. Why would you want to take on his name having your name differ from your children's not to mention the complications changing it back should your relationship not work. Keep in mind that legally you are considered married after cohabitating as long as you have. If I were you I would settle for being included in his will so that you are taken care of in the future. Especially if you have both contributed to your home, household, investments etc.
As mentioned your comparison is good but there is an element that indicates that it could end abruptly so you may want to consider the legal aspects that count regarding property etc instead of whether or not you have the same last name.
His chart shows evidence of sorrow when it comes to relationships and that he can swivel rapidly when it comes to his affections. To force this man to marry would probably be the beginning of the end so if I were you I wouldn't go there.
I don't believe his kids at this stage of the game have the right to dictate what he does with his life and that he is only using how they feel as tool to back out of the marriage.
If you truly love this man, and it appears you do, I would be more inclined to leave well enough alone and enjoy your time together. I believe if you push too hard he will have a change of heart. You know the old saying if something works why fix it.
Eugenia
