We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have written numerous times and am anxious to get an answer please as my life is turning around very quickly. In January of 2003 I left my husband of 22 years and we are now legally separated. I was born on July 6th, 1959 at 1 am and my ex was born on April 27, 1960. I have been seeing a married man, since September of 2002. He was born on June 13, 1962. He was verbally and physically abused as a child. His first wife cheated. His second wife was on the rebound and is verbally abusive to him to the point of him being depressed. There are many walls around this wonderful man, some of which have come down somewhat. He is hard to read sometimes but has become more open with me because of the trust we have built. I know there is stress in this relationship because I don't see him often and it is hard to tell sometimes where I stand. I know you are going to tell me to get out of this relationship because of the circumstances but I love him dearly and can't see life right now without him. Where does my life stand with him.
Cancer
Dear Cancer
I?m not about to tell you to get out of your relationship with your Gemini friend however I never believe that it?s a good idea to get into a relationship with someone until you are both free and clear of your past partners. You may be legally separated from your ex but with the high comparison you have with one another and the sort of love/hate connection that is so apparent I find it hard to believe that it is totally over. Your relationship with your Gemini friend is a little calmer and I certainly can see the attraction but he is hasn?t made a move to leave his current wife even though you say that she is abusive. You did not mention when she was born so I can?t comment on whether they actually get along or not. I believe that if he is to leave her it will probably be next fall when transiting Saturn conjuncts his natal Venus. That will be when he goes through his make it or break it period so he will either leave you or her but he probably won?t keep you both under wraps when that period hits. I don?t know that I would wait around if I were you but feel that you probably will.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born in 31 Oct. 1974 at 8:20pm. Most of my friends think that I am a strange person, sometimes cool but sometimes full of enthusiasm. They also think that I am mysterious and difficult to understand. When in reality, I am very simple. Almost all of the friends my age have married and started a new phrase in life. But I am still alone. Why can't I attract someone of the opposite sex? Is it difficult for me to find someone?
I read my astrology chart and found that most of the planets fall into the 5th house. Should I just treat love and life as a game? When it comes to love, I believe that I need to take some time to understand a person. I cannot love at first sight. But love always comes and goes at a fast pace. The guys I have been with will chase someone else once they find that their target is not right. My love affairs were always short-lived. Eugenia, I really don't want to spend another lonely Valentines Day, Christmas, birthday or other important day alone any more. I wish you would give me some suggestions and thank you for reading my letter.
Looking for Love
Dear Looking for Love
You have an interesting chart that indicates that you probably have lots of opportunities to meet potential partners however, you are also not likely to fall for just anyone. You will be very particular when it comes to love. Whoever you fall in love with will have to give you the freedom you need in order to exist happily within that relationship. You may appear to be uninterested in some of the partners you have had in the past and so they moved on quickly. You are coming into a high cycle next year regarding love and romance and you should be prepared to get out and meet people from May of next year on. Just because you have a lot of planets in the 5th house doesn't mean that you shouldn't take love seriously, it just means that you will socialize, have more to do with children, you will be creative or you may enjoy gambling. This makes you more youthful and fun-loving then most people and there is nothing wrong with that. Your chart also indicates that you are not as likely to marry just anyone at a young age. You will want to get to know your partner well before you will settle down. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Virgo and Pisces. Stop being so hard on yourself. You'll be married for a long long time so don't rush into it. Take your time and consider the best possible places and ways for you to meet Mr. Right. Your chart indicates that you could meet someone special through travel, educational pursuits or getting involved in an organization that shares your philosophy.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am having difficulties in my current relationship. My boyfriend of almost 2 years (we met on Sept.9th, 1999) is leaving for Europe in 6 days, to return in 3 months. He has cheated on me in the past. I believe it is possible that he has a major problem with emotional commitment.
I am positive that the love between us is very strong. I love that we have such a bond. On the other hand, I do not want to spend my life with a man who cannot remain faithful through thick and thin. When he cheated the first time he was very upset with me and we were almost breaking up. We stayed together, but he still puts the blame for his cheating partially on me. He has trouble taking responsibility in a relationship.
I would like your help in my quest to determine what I should do. How can I talk to this Man, and get his understanding? Will he ever be able to remain faithful?
I wanted so badly to go to Europe with him. Does his chart say anything about why he would part ways with me for such a long time, risking our stability, and leaving me terribly disappointed? Your response is very much appreciated! My birth data: March 5 1974, 7:16 AM. His birth data: December 22 1967, 4:56 AM
I love your web site!
Confused
Dear Confused
Although the comparison is workable I do feel that elements that could lead to unfaithfulness are apparent. He has the Sagittarius mentality that leans toward freedom, being a bachelor at heart forever yet on the other hand he also shows the ability to be loyal and practical when he finds his true love. I believe that although you do match up quite nicely mentally and physically that emotionally deception is evident. Regarding his trip to Europe you must be joking. Sagittarius is the sign of the traveler. To expect him not to go would be putting the kind of restriction on him that would make him take flight. You are going to have to come to terms with giving him the space he needs if you plan on keeping him happy. He is prone to fooling around if he isn't happy or satisfied with the relationship he is in. As for you, you have a tendency to overreact and may have blown the situation out of proportion. I believe that you should play it cool, give him space if he needs it and consider taking a trip yourself this summer just to keep life interesting. After all it would be great if you both had wonderful experiences to share with one another at the end of the summer instead of you questioning what he was doing and with whom while he's away. I believe part of the way to hold a gentleman like your Saggi friend is to keep him guessing and continue to learn, experience and move forward in your own life in a positive and adventurous manner.
Eugenia
