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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Eugenia hi,
I am currently on a complete roller coaster ride with a guy that I am dating and am not sure which way to go with it, ie, should I keep 'riding' in hopes of a commitment or walk away and not look back. My intentions weren't to get involved with a man 10 years younger than me but I absolutely adore him and care for him. I have friends who are happily married to men who were 'difficult' in the beginning and they are in complete bliss now. Does this person look as though he could be a 'long term' or do our charts state otherwise. Any input would be a HUGE help.
Little Leo
Dear Little Leo
The comparison with your Cancer man was adequate but did show signs of sorrow in an area of your chart that deals with friends, family, work associates and communication. This can result in some deception and dishonesty about true feelings and what else is going on when he isn't with you. There are a lot of uncertainties that are going through your chart right now with regards to continuing this relationship. You are at a place in your life where you want to settle down. He is going through some major turmoil regarding taking that step. He was born with his natal Neptune opposite his natal Venus and that usually means that he can be a bit of a player, especially with his Venus being in the sign Gemini and his Neptune in Sagittarius. Without his time of birth I cannot tell you exactly how this will manifest itself in his chart but in yours I believe that he could eventually cheat. I usually like younger men older women relationships or the other way around, but in this case I do believe that you should not put up with anything that he dishes out and that you should keep your door open for a possible new love connection because your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where meeting new partners or having someone you cared about from your past coming back into your life. If you are tied up with your Cancer friend you aren't likely to be in a position to move onto someone who will treat you better. Regarding your friends who are happily married to difficult men - you'd have to be a fly on the wall to really know how good or bad their relationships are. The grass always looks greener on the other side. You match up better to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I'm asking you a favor. I don't know how I should start. I have someone whom I really love. I have been going out with him for more than a year. We live in different cities. I'm not going to write a long story. What I'd like to know is whether I can keep this relation or not. My parents hate him. They haven't even seen him but they heard his voice on the phone. They say his voice is too hoarse, it make him sound like he is a triad. Well, he was once in a gang but not now. He quit long time ago and now he is working in a fabric related company. We are secretly seeing each other and I like him. What should I do? His birthday is July 5, 1976 (Lunar month) and I'm not sure about his time of birth. I was born April 9, 1980, at 2:15 AM. I'll be waiting for your reply.
In Love
Dear In Love
Lovers come and go but family is with you forever. The comparison with your Cancer man wasn't bad however sorrow does appear when it comes to dealing with your family and the possibility that he can become physical aggressiveness with you is evident as well. It is important for you to be honest with your family and ask them to at least meet this man and not judge him by his voice. If your family still feels strongly that he is not the one for you consider that they might be picking up on the fact that he does have some traits that might not be too favorable. You may be blind to his defects because you are in love with him. Keep in mind that right now he is on his best behavior but at some point he will show his true colors and when he does his aggressive side may not be as nice. His chart does indicate that he is very sensitive and extremely bright however there is also an element of unpredictability. I believe that you do have a connection to one another however without your families blessing I feel that it would eventually cause a problem in your relationship.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
This is my third time sending you e-mail with the same content and I'm very sorry if it bothers you. Twice I had also sent you letters in the past, years ago. In those letters, you mentioned that I was more of a late bloomer regarding my sexuality and you advised me to experiment a little. For the years have changed, my vision towards my sexuality have also changed, I no longer consider homosexuality as my enemy, I consider it as a part of me and I began to accept this. Years ago, I mentioned my birth date wrongly, later I found out that I was born on the next day which was August 20, 1981 rather than August 19,1981. I was born at 2:00 AM. Would it have a major impact of your analysis if the birth date were wrong? And could you tell me something about my sexuality? Also, I've met this guy from the net, I've also met him face to face and I believe that he's one good guy. I think I'm in love with him. He's younger than me he was born on November 19, 1985. On the last letter, I told you that he already has a boyfriend. Surprisingly he broke up with his bf few days ago because his parents found out that he's gay. I still don't know the whole story. Though I feel sad for him, but I think this is the best shot I have to take to be his bf (not in the nearest time). If so, he would be my first love (I haven't had any bf or gf before and it's so saaadddd). Later today, a fortune teller told me that he might deceive me though I feel that he might not, she also told me that I could still change my sexuality (and again, I feel that I really can't). What I want to ask is.. Is he the "one"? Because I really love him. And if he's not, when will be the right time to meet the "one"? Please help me I'm depressed and I really need a clue from you... Thank you very much
Leo
Hi Leo
I remember your original e-mail and yes it does make a difference being born on the 20th instead of the 19th. It confirms that what was a possibility regarding your sexuality is in fact reality. Your chart does indicate more homosexuality. Regarding your boyfriend I do believe that you match up enough to have a relationship however sorrow is evident so I can't say that I feel it will be a lasting union. I do feel that it will be a very important learning experience for both of you and therefore think that you should proceed. Right now he probably needs your support regarding his sexuality. Open the doors of communication and help him through his uncertainty and obvious upset that is happening in his parental household. He could go through a period where his past boyfriend tries to come back into his life so be prepared. He is also a bit conceited so don't get swept up into his world. Be yourself and refuse to become a chameleon. By late summer early fall of next year it will be a much better time for you to move into high gear regarding finding the right partner. If your current friend happens to stick around it could be him but if things unfold in such a way that the sorrow prevails keep your eyes open for someone more suitable at that time.
Eugenia
