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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Eugenia hi,
I am currently on a complete roller coaster ride with a guy that I am dating and am not sure which way to go with it, ie, should I keep 'riding' in hopes of a commitment or walk away and not look back. My intentions weren't to get involved with a man 10 years younger than me but I absolutely adore him and care for him. I have friends who are happily married to men who were 'difficult' in the beginning and they are in complete bliss now. Does this person look as though he could be a 'long term' or do our charts state otherwise. Any input would be a HUGE help.
Little Leo
Dear Little Leo
The comparison with your Cancer man was adequate but did show signs of sorrow in an area of your chart that deals with friends, family, work associates and communication. This can result in some deception and dishonesty about true feelings and what else is going on when he isn't with you. There are a lot of uncertainties that are going through your chart right now with regards to continuing this relationship. You are at a place in your life where you want to settle down. He is going through some major turmoil regarding taking that step. He was born with his natal Neptune opposite his natal Venus and that usually means that he can be a bit of a player, especially with his Venus being in the sign Gemini and his Neptune in Sagittarius. Without his time of birth I cannot tell you exactly how this will manifest itself in his chart but in yours I believe that he could eventually cheat. I usually like younger men older women relationships or the other way around, but in this case I do believe that you should not put up with anything that he dishes out and that you should keep your door open for a possible new love connection because your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where meeting new partners or having someone you cared about from your past coming back into your life. If you are tied up with your Cancer friend you aren't likely to be in a position to move onto someone who will treat you better. Regarding your friends who are happily married to difficult men - you'd have to be a fly on the wall to really know how good or bad their relationships are. The grass always looks greener on the other side. You match up better to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born November 29, 1959 at 1:09 PM, Sagittarius. I am aware of my need for freedom and my need for new things. However, I am feeling like I will never settle down. I have been married 2 times before. I am now with my third husband. He was born January 11, 1965 (not sure at what time). My problem is: I seem to lose interest in everybody. I think I really love someone and soon I am looking for something else. Now, I am seeing another man (I am still with my husband and not doing anything with this new guy). He was born February 21, 1951 (not sure again at what time). I am really afraid that, again, I am making a big mistake. He is totally different from any man I had before. He is older, which is new for me. He is a giver (he worries and helps me a lot). He is not good-looking (which seemed to be important to me before). He treats me like I am a Goddess (which is also new to me)...
Everything started as friendship and became intense as I started to see him more often. What I need is a very good advice on how to turn off my Sagittarius mind and learn that jumping from one relationship to another will not make me feel happy. My husband and me had our problems in the beginning. He was still seeing his ex-girlfriend (which I didn't know until years later). This makes me feel like why should I care if he didn't? Despite that now this problem is resolved, the relationship lost its magic. But at the same time I am not sure that I should just finish and start my life over and over again. Please help.
Wandering Sagittarius
Dear Wandering Sagittarius
First of all you aren't that strong a Sagittarius. With your Venus in Libra you can be fickle and superficial when it comes to love always going for the looks and the chemistry but with your Mercury, Moon, Mars and Neptune all in Scorpio I'd say you also like the chase and the rush of love but once you have someone eating out of your hand you lose interest. Your Capricorn husband has both his Venus and Mercury in Sagittarius making him more of a wanderer so don't be surprised if you aren't the only one in your marriage who has designs on someone else. Your comparison with your husband is totally superficial. It is based on chemistry and that is about all there is between the two of you. You have continually picked men for the wrong reason and I do believe that if you picked the Mr. Right you probably wouldn't feel the need to run off looking for a new adventure. As for your comparison with your Pisces man - it was certainly far better and did show some promise, however it also indicates sorrow. I believe that when it comes to longevity you may tire of him because of his appearance. For now you should really reevaluate your motives with both gentlemen - your husband is really a bad match and your Pisces can offer you everything your husband can't. Although I don't think that your newfound relationship is going to be lasting I do believe it is probably what you need in order to get out of the marriage you are currently in.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am suffering from a relationship and I feel the pain deep in my heart. I beg you, help me and give me advice.I was born on March 7, 1961 -A Pisces. He was born in November 21, 1952, a Scorpio.
We have known each other for one year. I moved to his apartment two months ago. He is divorced and has two children. He quit his job four years ago after the divorce. He is conservative and closed. I always take the initiative to talk to him and comfort him. Until recently, I could not tolerate it any more. I am an energetic, fun loving and an open person. His unpredictable nature almost drives me crazy. He lacks security when it comes to women. He doesn't want me to participate in general business events and sometimes shouts at me because I want to attend these activities.
I think that he should go out and get a job because a job will help him to live a more balanced life both mentally and physically. This is also a way to get him out of his present situation. We love each other but are also hurting each other. I would like to know, is he to be my life-long partner? Will I meet someone who is more suitable to me? I am not young and do not want to search for partner here and there! I am very tired!
Thanks in advance.
Puzzled
Dear Puzzled
I believe that our Scorpio partner is quite controlling and that he is also going through a very uncertain period in his life. It appears that he is afraid of losing you and therefore he is not willing to let you take part in the events that you would like to enjoy. He does match up to you both mentally and physically however emotionally I have to question how good this relationship is for you. The major sign of sorrow is present and I believe that the problem does stem from the fact that he is not working or contributing as much as he should to the financial aspect of your relationship. If you can convince him to go back to work it may help however I believe that he may have other problems to overcome first. He is emotionally unstable and this makes it difficult for him to feel confident enough to move forward with his professional life. Your chart indicates that you should be getting out and doing things that you enjoy and if he doesn't want to join you or let you go that you may have to walk away. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance is concerned and if you stay where you are you may miss the opportunities that are available to you. You match up well to those born under the sign Taurus, Cancer, Virgo and Pisces. The sign Scorpio falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects therefore it isn't likely that he is to be your life long partner.
Eugenia
