We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in need of some advice/help/ something. My husband and I spilt last October, after 9 years. It wasn't a very nice spilt to say the least. But he has finally moved on and has a new life and a new girlfriend.
Me, I am working now and my daughter and I finally have a place of our own instead of living with family. We live pay check to pay check. It's not the greatest of apartments, but it's mine and I know one day we'll have better.
I am ready to move on with my personal life, but am having difficulty. My imagination gets ahead of me, and I don't know if it's because I'm just out of the swing of things, or it's because I came out of a really bad relationship. I've met someone, who there is a strong connection with. His birth info is July 30, 1970, mine is March 31, 1970, at 2:59 PM. I don't know the time of birth. We've chatted several times and stared at each other across the room. I finally got up the courage to ask him out for a drink, he said yes and I gave him my phone number. He called and we had a lovely a conversation. This is all foreign territory for me and I'm making myself a nervous wreck. I want to pursue this relationship, but at the same time am having so many doubts that it is driving me crazy. Any help, insight, advice would be so welcome.
Nervous
Dear Nervous
Your chart indicates that you can overreact at an emotional level especially where love and romance are concerned. The comparison however is quite good but there is a Mercury/Neptune square that can cause one or both of you to with hold important information about yourself at a personal level. I believe that you should take it slowly but definitely follow through. I feel that this connection can be long lasting and good for both of you as long as you are equally upfront, honest and sincere about your feelings and your direction in life. It is apparent that he may have suffered from some relationship disappointment during the past year and if this is the case he may be somewhat shy to get involved too quickly. Develop the friendship and see where it goes. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.
I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).
The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!
Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!
Wrapped up
Dear Wrapped up
The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
First of all thank you for this beautiful site, I'm an astrology lover and for this reason I would like to get your opinion on my birth chart: I know I'm quite flamboyant and rough at times but I'm also a good ballet teacher full of sensitivity: I read that a person has no choice in life and no chances when the sun is in the 12th house and Saturn in the seventh: Is this also your opinion and can you tell me something more about me to help me understand myself a little better than I do?
Thank you so much in advance.
CYBERCANDY
Dear CYBERCANDY
There is so much more to consider. In your birth chart you do have your natal Sun and Mercury in the twelfth house but both are well aspected to your natal Jupiter in Gemini and your natal Mars in Libra. Mars being in your third house also relates to teaching. Your Saturn being in the seventh can make it difficult to find a suitable relationship or partnership however in your case your natal Neptune is in Scorpio favorably aspected to your natal Saturn. This can be highly creative. Your chart shows great potential with your natal Jupiter being in your tenth house (limelight house). You do have your natal Venus in Virgo poorly positioned to your natal Jupiter in your tenth and this can result in not having the physical attributes needed to do what you want. You could however be a great choreographer if you decided to move in that direction. Most of all you have to realize that although these planetary placements can cause some obstacles it does not mean that you have no chance to achieve your goals throughout life.
Eugenia
