We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Eugenia hi,
I am currently on a complete roller coaster ride with a guy that I am dating and am not sure which way to go with it, ie, should I keep 'riding' in hopes of a commitment or walk away and not look back. My intentions weren't to get involved with a man 10 years younger than me but I absolutely adore him and care for him. I have friends who are happily married to men who were 'difficult' in the beginning and they are in complete bliss now. Does this person look as though he could be a 'long term' or do our charts state otherwise. Any input would be a HUGE help.
Little Leo
Dear Little Leo
The comparison with your Cancer man was adequate but did show signs of sorrow in an area of your chart that deals with friends, family, work associates and communication. This can result in some deception and dishonesty about true feelings and what else is going on when he isn't with you. There are a lot of uncertainties that are going through your chart right now with regards to continuing this relationship. You are at a place in your life where you want to settle down. He is going through some major turmoil regarding taking that step. He was born with his natal Neptune opposite his natal Venus and that usually means that he can be a bit of a player, especially with his Venus being in the sign Gemini and his Neptune in Sagittarius. Without his time of birth I cannot tell you exactly how this will manifest itself in his chart but in yours I believe that he could eventually cheat. I usually like younger men older women relationships or the other way around, but in this case I do believe that you should not put up with anything that he dishes out and that you should keep your door open for a possible new love connection because your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where meeting new partners or having someone you cared about from your past coming back into your life. If you are tied up with your Cancer friend you aren't likely to be in a position to move onto someone who will treat you better. Regarding your friends who are happily married to difficult men - you'd have to be a fly on the wall to really know how good or bad their relationships are. The grass always looks greener on the other side. You match up better to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I realize you are swamped with letters, however I am going through a divorce after 291/2-years. I was born 3-31-48 at 11:27pm in Chicago, IL. My husband was born 8-28-50 at 11:13am in Gary, Indiana. Everyone thought we were the perfect couple! We have one daughter age 27 that dearly loves us both. My husband had an affair with his 25-year old secretary. I found out in Feb. of this year and he did not give her up after all my attempts to make the marriage work. I finally realized I am better off without him. But, God it hurts and I am scared to death. We came to a divorce agreement on Friday and the papers are being drawn up for us to sign. How do I get my self-confidence back after being knocked down for so many years? Last week I saw my first loves identical twin brother and we definitely have a connection (I think) he was born 3-1-41.
I am looking for advice on how to go on with my life and not hurt so much. I loved my husband so much but didn't like what he turned into. Please help me-I am hurting so bad.
Aries
Dear Aries
You have a pretty good chart. Some high cycles are approaching in different areas of life. Romance and relationships look promising between October and February and it will be important that you get out and join in the fun in order to hook up with someone who can take your mind off your cheating husband. You do match up quite nicely to your first loves brother and I wouldn't hesitate to follow through with your connection to him. You also match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces. Regarding your comparison with your ex, surprisingly enough it was just adequate. I must stress that it is important that you take care of any legal matters. Make sure that you get your share of whatever the two of you accumulated over the years. It's one thing to be hurt and another to be hurt and financially in the poorhouse. Once you know that your financial situation is okay you will feel much better about yourself and your future. You should be considering what you want to do with the rest of your life. The area of your chart that deals with work and money is moving into favorable times and you should consider all the things that you used to dream about doing. Your chart indicates that you do have ability in areas that deal with communications, travel, hospitality industry and sales. Don't be afraid to try new things. You will find out how capable you are very quickly if you take control and make the effort.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Thank you for providing this service for self-exploration. These days my computer is on auto pilot to your I Ching feature; although he has proven insightful, I would like the chance of experiencing the human element of your web site.Here goes.... My husband and I are both Aries, and have totally different personality traits. I was born 24/03/1960, at 2 AM. My husband birth date is 22/03/1961, I do not know his time of birth. I am energetic, motivated, outgoing, competitive; he is passive, laid back, doesn't like change. When we were married in 1981, we moved over 1000 miles away from our birthplace and families. Since 1981 to now, we have experienced a lot of life, from our youngest son being diagnosed with Cancer, to loosing my father. Right now, we are in a position to re-evaluate our career paths, and move closer to home. In the small northern community that we live in, the health and education systems are in shambles. We decided last March to let our eldest son have the opportunity to go to a boarding school. He loved it, and will be returning this September. For me, it is very hard to have my 15-year-old son living away from home. I have taken the initiative of "doing" a resume for my husband and have sent it out to several places... and telling him after the fact. He is now getting responses for interviews. You see, the company that he works for is re-evaluating their economic viability, and have closed down operations for one year, while still maintaining all staffing levels. We are in limbo. He came home from work the other night, and said there was a job posting up for a job he would really like to apply for at this "Limbo Company", and that he liked to be "comfortable". I need change, and to be with my family... Does this mean DIVORCE COURT!!!
Regards,
Limbo Land
Dear Limbo Land
Just because you are born under the same sun sign does not mean that you have to be alike. A personalized chart is like your thumbprint. There are several differences that stand out between you and your husband's charts even without having his birth time. I wouldn't be surprised however if he were born around the noon hour giving him a Cancer ascendant. If this is the case I suspect that he will be moving along with you and not staying put. This could be because he gets an interesting offer from one of the companies you sent his resume to or because he does not get the job at the Limbo Company. You match up too well to have divorce enter the picture, as I'm sure you are well aware. Changes are apparent and the opportunity to make a move looks good. I'd be putting your house on the market if you own it or looking for a place to live closer to your birth place come October with hopes of selling your house or making your move sometime before the end of the year.
Eugenia
