We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.

The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Stay or Leave

Hi Eugenia

My husband has a drinking problem. He has been able to control this problem for the past 5-6 years. Recently he has begun drinking again and there is starting to be the same kind of mental abuse as he displayed in the past. I am at the age where I do not feel I can repeat and repeat this sort of abuse and lifestyle. Money is also becoming an issue as he continues to drink. He continues to threaten to leave and I am at the point where if not for my financial position, I would put the entire relationship behind me and move on alone. Is this a good idea?.......Please help, he is born July 10, 1951 at 6:30 a.m. and I April 25, 1944, at 10 a.m.

Stay or Leave

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Dear Stay or Leave

I believe that your husband will become worse before he becomes better. The next year and a half will be filled with all sorts of limitations for him regarding health, authority figures, dealing with institutions and so forth. I feel that the past couple of years you have taken the brunt of his obvious lack of control and abuse and now is the time to give him an ultimatum. Should he leave he will go down hill over the course of the next couple of years. Should he seek help it will take him the next couple of years to reform. As for you I feel that the time for change is fast approaching. That you should be seeking help from women's groups and co-dependent organizations in order to get back on your feet and away from him. Your comparison did indicate that there has been love in the past with this man but that was probably a long time ago. There is also sorrow especially where substance abuse is concerned and because of this I feel that even if he does seek help that there will always be the potential for him to slip over and over again. I do not believe that you will ever be able to fully put his abuse behind you and that your reason for staying with this man has more to do with fear of being alone and lack of funds. Your chart indicates that you are youthful and entertaining and that you will be okay if you can only get yourself out of this situation. By all means - if he wants to leave let him go.

Eugenia

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Article: Getting to the Root of the Problem

Dear Eugenia,

I am writing because I really need some help. I was born August 8, 1971, at 12:31 PM. Until about 5 years ago, I was just a normal person, until I started having an anxiety disorder. I have no idea why this began...at that time I was 32 years old. It has crippled my life....I can't travel more than 5 miles from my home without having a panic attack.....I never had thisbefore...in fact I traveled from Texas to Florida alone....some friends have said it is possibly related to hormones...at least this was the reason for the first attack...and now, I think, I just fear having the attacks...which cause the attacks....also at this same time five years ago, I started having dizzy spells.....but they didn't last too long and I no longer have them....I have managed to return to school and finish a teaching certificate....but it won't do much good if I can't attend the workshops which are about 30 miles from my home.....I am very distressed....on top of it all, my lover moved out and now I am financially in a bind....also....she wants to get back together....but I am unsure.....in the time while she was deciding to want to be together...I met someone else....I truly care for my new g/friend and I think we could have a good life together....but I feel guilty and like maybe I am not doing all I could have done in my previous relationship to make it work....I feel very indecisive....and have decided to take some time and not see either lady in hopes that I will have some insight as to which "path" would be my "highest path." I'm really having a hard time.....and insight that you have would be appreciated....

Thank you so much,
Out of Commission

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Dear Out of Commission

Your chart indicates that you have been experiencing transits that could cause anxiety since 1996. The problem being that your chart also indicates that you are difficult to diagnose as well. These to factors coupled leave you in a vulnerable position. I do believe however that your chart although experiencing some of the absolute worst transits this year, will show signs of improvement throughout the summer months with even more significant results next year. You will have to do a little research on your own regarding your anxiety. I suggest that you begin by looking for alternative methods of medicine to rectify your problem. It appears to stem from deep-set emotional setbacks that you encountered between 1991 and 1993. Think back to the events that happened in your life at that time and you should be able to start the long process of getting back to living a normal life. Regarding your love life, it?s probably not a bad idea to take time out however, I believe that you will find yourself making a decision quicker than you expect and jumping into a relationship again late June early July. Concerning who your partner might be. You did not submit either candidates birth data so I suggest that you run a comparison with both using the astroadvice.com compatibility feature.

Eugenia

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Article: From Hurting Heart

Hi Eugenia,

I think my man is cheating on me. He was born 2/1/58 in Peoria, IL. We have been together for 2 years, and one thing that's always bothered me is his ability to "compartmentalize." He has several exes that I have never been introduced to, yet I have known all along that he sees them in social situations. This does not bug me, as it seems to indicate that he is truly a caring person and does not throw away relationships with ease.

However, I have sensed a shift recently, and don't know whether to chalk it up to my oversensitive Cancer nature, or to trust my female intuition. The details are unimportant. There is a voice in my head, screaming loudly, that I am being lied to and cheated on.

I am hoping you will help me by providing reassurance that this man does love me truly, like he says he does, or that my unfortunate suspicions are true and I should move on. I think this man may be the love of my life, so I am willing to hang in here, providing I am not being made a fool of. I was born 7/17/66 at 8:52 PM.

Thanks in advance,
Hurting Heart

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Dear Hurting Heart

The comparison with your Aquarius lover was not very good. As a matter of fact it screams deception when it comes to communicating about matters that pertain to his friendships with other people or even communicating at any level for that matter. He was also born with his natal Venus adversely positioned to his natal Neptune and this is the major sign of sorrow when it comes to love and romance. The reason he still sees his ex girlfriends is to lead them on. He has to know that at any time he can pull strings and get them to dance with him yet again. Your Aquarius friend is not the sweet and caring man you think he is. He is cool and calculating. As for you - well you are way to sensitive to be involved with the likes of him. You have too much to offer emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally and there is no doubt in my mind that you should be moving on quickly. I know that moving on and letting go are both very difficult for a Cancer to do and in your case you are such a strong Cancer with such a big heart that I can see why you sit there even though you are smart enough to see what's going on right under your nose. You are in a high cycle regarding love and romance until late October and I suggest that you don't waste this precious time on him. Get out of this relationship and move quickly to find a new love. I believe if you do so you will be much happier this time next year. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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