We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
My husband has a drinking problem. He has been able to control this problem for the past 5-6 years. Recently he has begun drinking again and there is starting to be the same kind of mental abuse as he displayed in the past. I am at the age where I do not feel I can repeat and repeat this sort of abuse and lifestyle. Money is also becoming an issue as he continues to drink. He continues to threaten to leave and I am at the point where if not for my financial position, I would put the entire relationship behind me and move on alone. Is this a good idea?.......Please help, he is born July 10, 1951 at 6:30 a.m. and I April 25, 1944, at 10 a.m.
Stay or Leave
Dear Stay or Leave
I believe that your husband will become worse before he becomes better. The next year and a half will be filled with all sorts of limitations for him regarding health, authority figures, dealing with institutions and so forth. I feel that the past couple of years you have taken the brunt of his obvious lack of control and abuse and now is the time to give him an ultimatum. Should he leave he will go down hill over the course of the next couple of years. Should he seek help it will take him the next couple of years to reform. As for you I feel that the time for change is fast approaching. That you should be seeking help from women's groups and co-dependent organizations in order to get back on your feet and away from him. Your comparison did indicate that there has been love in the past with this man but that was probably a long time ago. There is also sorrow especially where substance abuse is concerned and because of this I feel that even if he does seek help that there will always be the potential for him to slip over and over again. I do not believe that you will ever be able to fully put his abuse behind you and that your reason for staying with this man has more to do with fear of being alone and lack of funds. Your chart indicates that you are youthful and entertaining and that you will be okay if you can only get yourself out of this situation. By all means - if he wants to leave let him go.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Hi, I came across your site from newspaper and I often look at my daily horoscope. I'm not sure whether I can consult this kind of personal problems and I don't know whether Eugenia really reads this letter...but I'm still write to you. I'm a divorced woman living with my daughter and my mom.
I'm suffering from the financial burden that was created by my ex-husband. I borrowed money from my friends when I married with him. I borrowed the money because of him, but he is unable to return the money. Now we are divorced, but I still need to pay the money back. His parents are financially ok so I went to ask for their help. But it is useless. They don't want to help. What should I do? How can I get out from this burden? Please give me some suggestions... I was born October 1, 1967, at 2:30 PM.
Caught in a Mess
Dear Caught in a Mess
I read all the letters I receive and although I wish that I could answer each and every one of them it is of course impossible. As for you it's time to move forward and take action. This ex-husband of yours owes you more than just the money he asked you to borrow from your friends. If he is the father of your child he should also be helping you with the financial burden of raising his daughter. I suggest that you go back to his family and lay down the law. Tell them that you will take legal action if necessary in order to clear up this financial mess that their son has left you in. Your chart indicates that you could easily come into money by using legal tactics to do so between now and the spring of next year. Talk to your friends and see if you can get them to support your actions by signing a petition to the family stating your case and why they should honor their son's debt. You should also, if you know where your ex-husband is, send him the same notice so that he knows that you are now going after his family. If this man has any scruples whatsoever he will spare his family the grief of a legal suit and start paying back. You can't just sit back and let this man get away with this. I feel strongly that you can win if you are forceful, to the point and get a little legal aid.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I (July 28, 1961 @7am) am still in love with my son's father (born, March 29 1970). We broke up once again and this time he said we were finished. We had been trying on and off for the past nine years, but we never could get past old hurts. I feel that we aren't finished, but I am trying to move on as he did. Currently he is in a relationship that he said he was going to make work. I hear it isn't working because he still has deep feelings for me, yet he won't talk to me. When we are together there is a current of electricity that passes between us. We both want to be together but are scared of rejection, etc. I believe we deserve another chance or is it just wishful thinking. Can we make this relationship work?
Fire
Dear Fire
I do see the connection but I don't necessarily feel that it is a good one. You do have a strong pull toward one another but it is hurtful, damaging and I feel that it was strictly meant to be an affair, not a life long, live in connection. The sooner you both move on and put your differences aside your son will be able to benefit from both of you. As long as you continue this love/hate relationship your son will suffer. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a high cycle regarding love and romance. This can be a period where someone comes back into your life or a period that you meet someone entirely new. Please do not let this man back into your life during this period or you will miss the opportunity to meet someone who can be a good partner and stepfather. Unfortunately I fear that as soon as your ex discovers that you are moving on he will be back in your life big time and this will only result in further rejection. You may be willing to put up with more of the same on again off again relationship but ask yourself if it is fair to do this to your son.
Eugenia
