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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Second Chance

Dear Eugenia,

I know I've met my soul mate, but we keep having conflicts that end with me not wanting to deal with him. He's a Taurus born May 4, 1971 and I'm a Cancer born June 25, 1962. Nine months ago he came back into my life after a 5-year separation, and I believed he wanted a second chance and that he truly loved me. His actions say otherwise when it comes to my feelings. I've gone out of my way, once again, to make sure he is happy, comfortable, and to give all the support he needs. He's done nothing for me and he makes me feel that he has taken advantage of me again and only cares about himself.

I've just recently asked him to leave, because he had hurt my feelings again and that was the last straw for me. I miss him desperately, but I don't know if it's my self-destructive behavior that won't completely let go! I don't want to go through this back and forth emotional roller coaster with him forever. Am I lying to myself? My Cancer logic is slipping away...

Destined

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Dear Destined

The comparison does lack some qualities that I would like to see and deception and disillusionment are present in areas of your chart that deal with the home and chores that you share with one another. The unfortunate thing is that once you do too much for someone it is hard to back off and stop doing without causing problems in the relationship. This person is taking advantage of you but you have allowed it to happen. Your chart indicates that you do have problems when it comes to relationships. Your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus both adversely aspected by your natal Neptune can make it difficult for you to choose properly. It is important for you to have an astrological comparison done before you give your heart to someone. You are in a high cycle for romance right now and will also be during the first half of next year. It is important for you to move on and free yourself of this man who has little to offer you but grief. Keep in mind that as long as he is in your life it will be difficult to take advantage of the opportunities you have for meeting someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: Trying to Forget

Dear Eugenia,

I have been under depression and frustration over this girl whom I met on chat. We started talking on chat, later on exchanged photos and phone numbers. We also talked many times over the phone and chatted regularly on the net. The problem is, at present she lives in another country. I am originally from the same country as she is. I met her personally last year around December and this was not the first time I proposed to her. Couple times before I proposed to her but she always kept saying its not practical for us to be together due to distance problem.

I love this girl very much and I believe that nothing is impossible in this world if we put total dedication and hard work into it. I haven't felt this strong for any girl before, I am truly in love with her. I know she also loves me but she is scared cause of distance problem things might not work out. It was my last and final try when I proposed to her last year. I made a decision that I will try to forget her since she's not ready and I do not want to be pushy in this matter.

But whenever we talk we still show some kind of affection and care towards each other. But this thing is troubling me very much that just cause of distance problems things are not working out. At present moving back to my native land is impossible for me, it might be possible after I graduate and look for jobs near her town. With her, I don't know if she could move here cause she's just avoiding this whole issue, may be cause she's very sensitive and gets hurt easily, plus scared to make a decision.

Her dob is 6th July 1982, time 4:07pm and mine is September 15, 1977, at 6:06 AM. Can you please tell me if there's a future for us together, are we destined to be a couple by any chance? PLEASE HELP.

Brokenheart

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Dear Brokenheart

The comparison was quite good however there is a sign of sorrow due to the distance between you. Communication and honesty can be your greatest asset when dealing with a situation like yours. I believe that you should consider approaching your dilemma from the angle that you will move to where she is in order to be with her once you finish your studies. I believe that she is very attached to her home and family and that is why she is finding it impractical to even consider moving forward with your relationship. Once you make it clear that you will do whatever is necessary in order to be with her it should help. She is moving into a period that could make or break your relationship with her. Unfortunately this may also be due to a commitment made by her parents to another man. You must speak openly about your intent and when you would be able to make it. It is important to talk to her parents and yours as well to see if everyone is in agreement. Your cultural background from what I understand would warrant you doing so. Please don't feel discouraged. Go through the proper channels and it will be much easier to proceed. Regarding being destined, I believe that any relationship can work if both people put in the time and effort. As for the two of you, your comparison is good and I believe with a little help you may just be destined to be together.

Eugenia

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Article: A Question of Compatibility

Dear Eugenia,

In regards to your Romance Compatibility scale, I don't know what it actually all means with the scale interpretation i.e. "popping stars ",sad/happy faces, or 2 hearts together at the end, etc. For example: based on the scale, if I score only 62% compatible with the person in question, I will have a happy relationship with that person, but our relationship never leads to marriage? Can someone score low on the compatibility scale, and still can be married to the other person ( or maybe for a short time ) with lots of problems during the union? Could you please explain. I was born August 20, 1960, at 11:36 PM.

Thank You.
semi-compatible

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Dear semi-compatible

It?s too bad you didn?t mention the someone in your life?s birth data. I am a believer that any relationship can work if both people are willing to compromise, share, communicate and work jointly toward a common goal. Unfortunately some couples, even those with a high comparison, don?t try hard enough and therefore fail. 62% is not bad depending on what it is that you have in your comparison that is compatible and what isn?t. The pros and cons given in the compatibility analysis should tell you the low down regarding the probability of having a long lasting loving relationship. Nothing is etched in stone and no two comparisons will be the same regardless of whether or not you have the same percentage. Each comparison is as unique as the next. You are best to read the analysis that goes along with the love thermometer. The aspects between two peoples charts that red flag me are the negative interaction between Neptune and Venus, or Mars and Venus. These aspects can promote deception, sorrow, abuse, being partnered with someone who has substance abuse problems and so on and therefore precautions must be taken to protect your heart. Astrology is not as cut and dry as some people think. This site tries to give you as much information as possible. To date I have written some seventy thousand paragraphs in order to give each one of our members the most in-depth personalized view of the possibilities in all aspects of life including compatibility. Try to use the information in a positive manner in order to make the best decisions.

Your chart indicates that you are coming into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned over the next couple of months and between February and July of next year once again. Get out and socialize and you will probably meet someone who is good for you or work on the relationship you are already in, in order to make it the best that it can be. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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