We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Daddy's little Libra

Dear Eugenia:

I had watched your show about a woman with cancer making preparations for her family. You said her illness was not going to go into a remission that she needed to prepare.

I hope you may be able to better enable me and my family in the passing of my father.Recently he has been diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and it is terminal. Radiation has been given to him to help him in quality of life and to slow the inevitable. I fear he doesn't have long. His birth date is Feb 13 1936.I don't live close to my father and have financial struggles. I was able to fly out for a week. We shared happy memories and also said our good byes. He has just had a "step down" in his health and response to his pain medications. This happened while my brothers were here for a visit. They immediately flew back home (they live in the same city), to be with Dad. I too want to go to him, but I must time my visit and budget. I also have three small children, ages 10 months, 2 years and 6years. I need to make sure they are taken care of.

I guess my question is, when should I go...or how long does my Dad have? When should I go?

As I mentioned, I do need to know rather quickly as I don't think he has very long.
Dad's birth date is Feb 13 1936, 2:00 pm
My birthday is Oct 16th 1970
My brothers are April 19 1963 and July 7 1965
My children are Sept 8 2002, Feb 2 2001, July 7 1997
Thank you for helping us through the last chapter of a great man's life. He will be missed greatly.
Daddy's little Libra

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Dear Daddy's little Libra

It is the time you spend with him while he is still coherent that counts my dear so what are you waiting for. Once he's gone there is nothing you can do for him it will only be to comfort yourself and other family members. The quality time however is now while you can bring him joy by sharing fond memories and make him feel more comfortable by taking his mind off his deterioration. It is difficult to tell you when he might pass - only God has the answer to that question. According to his chart however the possibility of living another year and a half is present but it certainly would not be a great quality of life and for his sake and that of the family some of the transits he is experiencing between now and the end of the year could be enough to take him which would probably be a blessing. It is never easy to lose someone you love but having experienced that love and the obvious connection that the two of you had will allow him to live on through you. You matched up well with your Sun signs being at a precise trine to one another. Your chart indicates that you should be going to see him in August/September of this year. It will do you both a lot of good to have this time together. Without the rest of your families birth times it is hard for me to be more specific regarding his passing but it is apparent that the aftermath will hit you and your Cancer brother first and your Aries brother later on. Hold together as a family and take time to share the different memories that each one of you has with your dad so that you can all understand the dynamics of your family and your roots much better. With this your father will be remembered in a much deeper way by all of you.

Eugenia

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Article: Trying to Forget

Dear Eugenia,

I have been under depression and frustration over this girl whom I met on chat. We started talking on chat, later on exchanged photos and phone numbers. We also talked many times over the phone and chatted regularly on the net. The problem is, at present she lives in another country. I am originally from the same country as she is. I met her personally last year around December and this was not the first time I proposed to her. Couple times before I proposed to her but she always kept saying its not practical for us to be together due to distance problem.

I love this girl very much and I believe that nothing is impossible in this world if we put total dedication and hard work into it. I haven't felt this strong for any girl before, I am truly in love with her. I know she also loves me but she is scared cause of distance problem things might not work out. It was my last and final try when I proposed to her last year. I made a decision that I will try to forget her since she's not ready and I do not want to be pushy in this matter.

But whenever we talk we still show some kind of affection and care towards each other. But this thing is troubling me very much that just cause of distance problems things are not working out. At present moving back to my native land is impossible for me, it might be possible after I graduate and look for jobs near her town. With her, I don't know if she could move here cause she's just avoiding this whole issue, may be cause she's very sensitive and gets hurt easily, plus scared to make a decision.

Her dob is 6th July 1982, time 4:07pm and mine is September 15, 1977, at 6:06 AM. Can you please tell me if there's a future for us together, are we destined to be a couple by any chance? PLEASE HELP.

Brokenheart

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Dear Brokenheart

The comparison was quite good however there is a sign of sorrow due to the distance between you. Communication and honesty can be your greatest asset when dealing with a situation like yours. I believe that you should consider approaching your dilemma from the angle that you will move to where she is in order to be with her once you finish your studies. I believe that she is very attached to her home and family and that is why she is finding it impractical to even consider moving forward with your relationship. Once you make it clear that you will do whatever is necessary in order to be with her it should help. She is moving into a period that could make or break your relationship with her. Unfortunately this may also be due to a commitment made by her parents to another man. You must speak openly about your intent and when you would be able to make it. It is important to talk to her parents and yours as well to see if everyone is in agreement. Your cultural background from what I understand would warrant you doing so. Please don't feel discouraged. Go through the proper channels and it will be much easier to proceed. Regarding being destined, I believe that any relationship can work if both people put in the time and effort. As for the two of you, your comparison is good and I believe with a little help you may just be destined to be together.

Eugenia

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Article: Getting Better

Dear Eugenia

I think I have too many burdens in my life. I'm a 20 yr old male. As I failed in all my exams and could not enter any college, all of my best friends left me. I didn't have many friends to begin with, but focused on developing a deep friendship with just one or two.However, they left me. You can imagine how depressed I am. Anyway, I was really quiet as if I was hiding in a cave for a year. And then, this year, 2001, I went to an art college but I found it difficult to make new friends while I was there. I couldn't find anyone who could share with me. Besides, I lost hope in music and in my ability to do well in the courses I was studying. I feel so depressed... I think things won't get better if I don't make changes to myself. However, it's hard to change and improve if I don't know where to start. Eugenia, please give me your advice. I was born August 30, 1981, at 5:30 AM.

Depressed

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Dear Depressed

I believe that part of your problem is that you are focusing on the wrong things right now. Your chart indicates that you should be in the work force learning on the job or through an apprenticeship. The area of your chart that deals with work and money looks quite good as does getting recognition for what you do. If your interest in music happens to lead to playing in a band or singing or something of that nature you may want to get a job and start to push your own musical talent during your off hours. You are in a high cycle over the course of the next couple of years regarding getting ahead and following your dreams, hopes and wishes. Although it is always good to get an education not everyone is a good student. That doesn't mean however that you can't do well and excel at something that you love to do. Regarding friends and lovers you have to be patient. Many of your friends have moved in a different direction but there is some opportunity around you regarding making new friends. The possibility of meeting someone special is also apparent however both friendships and emotional relationships appear to be made at or through work. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces.

Eugenia

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