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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
I'm considering divorce... my problem is my husband (Sept. 19, 1959.) still considers visiting a single woman, secretly, I always find out, and it hurts me, but he doesn't seem to care, cause as he puts in he isn't doing anything wrong. Well I feel betrayed. I also feel he has other secrets that he doesn't share with me. I could be wrong but I don't really know. My birthday is Feb. 15,1960. Hers is Feb. 26 1960. I kind of do believe they are friends but it still doesn't sit well with me nor do our children like it... Do you think that a divorce is the right thing for me to initiate at this time.. I seem to be running out of options.. Cause deep down I don't want a divorce I want my husband to appreciate & love me.
Thanks for listening............
Feeling left out
Hi Feeling left out
This is a very sticky situation. He matches up to you a little bit better than he does to his Pisces friend. His comparison with her does show some sorrow and on the other side his comparison with you does not indicate deception. I do believe that he is attracted to her and enjoys her company as a friend but I don't believe that he has taken it further. I feel however that she might try. With that in mind it does put you in a very difficult situation. If you nag him you will only make him move towards her. You may want to suggest however that anyone that is a friend of his should also be a friend to the family and have him invite her over for lunch or dinner. This way you get yourself and the children into the loop. At least from that position you can monitor the situation and protect your interests wisely. If he isn't interested in doing so you may want to play his game and find a male friend to spend some time with. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Be smart about the situation. I believe you love him and that your family means enough to you to try to hold it together. If he truly believes in friendship with the opposite sex he should not have a problem with you having male companionship as well. I must caution you however that this can turn into a very dangerous situation especially if you happen to actually meet someone who fills the needs that your husband is obviously not fulfilling. The other approach will be for your children to voice their concerns and how they feel about being left out and that he should be spending the time he gives to his Pisces friend with them.
Eugenia
Hi there Eugenia,
My birth date is July 15, 1979, at 3:15 PM. I've been involved in a gay relationship with another guy (Birth date: 03 June 1977 05:15 PM) for the last 3 months. When we started our relationship he was living with his ex and he said it was a "living arrangement"...I believed him. Anyway during our relationship he would rarely visit me (we stay in different cities) and behave oddly if I ran into him in a public place with his ex around. Eventually he came clean with me (his friends forced him to tell the truth) and it turned out that he'd been having a relationship with the "ex" at the same time as me, and recently started seeing yet another guy. After all of this and around 2 weeks of deciding what to do, I called him and we broke it off. Leaving me very hurt and confused...He still says that he loves me and everything we had was real, but I'm at a loss to describe the pain this has caused me. Especially since him and the new guy are now fully in a relationship. I'd really like some advice on this situation, and if I should be foolish enough to still hope that one day we will get back together...
Thnx,
Broken
Dear Broken
You met your messiah, in other words you met someone who captured your heart and you had no power to pry yourself from him. The comparison was so powerful between you. This Gemini is just as bad for you as he is good. You can't however allow yourself to be played with this way. It isn't good for your self-esteem. You are too proud to forgive and you shouldn't forget. Playing sexual games can be dangerous and it's obvious that your Gemini friend doesn't care enough about any of his partners to be open and honest about his goings on. Unfortunately he probably will slip in and out of your life until you put a stop to it. I strongly suggest that you put up your guard and move on. You will be coming into a transit over the summer as well as during the first half of next year that does indicate that people from your past will want back into your life. You must remember that he will not change. He is not a lover who can be true to one person, let alone himself. If you go with him you will be risking your emotional and your physical well-being. During this transit, it can also mean that you will have some new people come into your life. However, if someone is preoccupying your life you aren't likely to have the opportunity to start a new relationship. I know that your Gemini friend is exciting and adventurous and that you have plenty of chemistry with him but that will not be enough in this case. Please consider making yourself a list of all the reasons why this person hurt you, and why you should not be together and carry it with you. When he tries to come back into your life read your notes. Hopefully you will find the strength to say no to him. You do match up to, and attract, the sign Gemini. Nonetheless Gemini's are not good for you in general due to your natal Neptune placement. You should consider a Leo or Aquarius for future relationships.
Dear Eugenia,
I have to ask for *discretion*, because my situation is embarrassing to me. I feel like I've failed in everything I've attempted. My baby's 10 months old now (09-17-00 12:02pm. I'm living on just about every source of welfare that I could find, and I get no child support. Things are getting really rough. I cry at night because I didn't want it to be like this. Every time I try for a job, I get no reply. Do you see anything happening in my chart in terms of financial stability? I really wish to get off of public assistance. I wanted to write to you about love and my soul mate. I feel so alone, and I know my first priority is my son, but love. I have never really had that someone special without it breaking out into mental abuse. Can you tell me if I'm *ever* going to meet someone. I feel cursed. I feel like I'm reliving my moms past...and it scares me. I know you can't move the stars, but if you can give me some insight into what's going on or might happen it might help to be aware. Sometimes I don't know if I can continue living the way I am. I'm scared, and I want more for my son. His father (10-15-82 isn't around, no one knows where he is. I'm just so confused. I try to keep hope alive, but I can't get any breaks.
Sincerely,
Abandoned and alone
Dear Abandoned and alone
You are heading into a high cycle regarding work so don't stop looking. A job will be available if you continue to walk the pavement and go for interviews. Opportunities for educational pursuits are also present. That could mean that you will learn while on the job like an apprenticeship. Although you do match up to the father of your son he probably does not know how to handle the responsibility. If you can find him I suggest you do. He should be helping you out by paying support. I believe that you will be able to do something regarding this matter over the course of the next year so don't give up hope or stop trying to find him. You do have a habit of picking men who are irresponsible. Keep in mind that there is more to a good relationship then sex. Kindness, generosity, responsibility and the ability to share are also important. Long after the passion dwindles you still need to have common interests, beliefs and goals. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius.
Eugenia
