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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
I'm considering divorce... my problem is my husband (Sept. 19, 1959.) still considers visiting a single woman, secretly, I always find out, and it hurts me, but he doesn't seem to care, cause as he puts in he isn't doing anything wrong. Well I feel betrayed. I also feel he has other secrets that he doesn't share with me. I could be wrong but I don't really know. My birthday is Feb. 15,1960. Hers is Feb. 26 1960. I kind of do believe they are friends but it still doesn't sit well with me nor do our children like it... Do you think that a divorce is the right thing for me to initiate at this time.. I seem to be running out of options.. Cause deep down I don't want a divorce I want my husband to appreciate & love me.
Thanks for listening............
Feeling left out
Hi Feeling left out
This is a very sticky situation. He matches up to you a little bit better than he does to his Pisces friend. His comparison with her does show some sorrow and on the other side his comparison with you does not indicate deception. I do believe that he is attracted to her and enjoys her company as a friend but I don't believe that he has taken it further. I feel however that she might try. With that in mind it does put you in a very difficult situation. If you nag him you will only make him move towards her. You may want to suggest however that anyone that is a friend of his should also be a friend to the family and have him invite her over for lunch or dinner. This way you get yourself and the children into the loop. At least from that position you can monitor the situation and protect your interests wisely. If he isn't interested in doing so you may want to play his game and find a male friend to spend some time with. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Be smart about the situation. I believe you love him and that your family means enough to you to try to hold it together. If he truly believes in friendship with the opposite sex he should not have a problem with you having male companionship as well. I must caution you however that this can turn into a very dangerous situation especially if you happen to actually meet someone who fills the needs that your husband is obviously not fulfilling. The other approach will be for your children to voice their concerns and how they feel about being left out and that he should be spending the time he gives to his Pisces friend with them.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I feel so frustrated and unhappy at times. Nearly 5 years ago I moved to another province with my partner (March 13, 1951) so that we could be near his kids. We thought it was for the best; one of the children was having problems and it made sense to be closer. But problems with his ex-wife have never gone away and it's just never improved here. We don't get to see the kids and it's been at times a nightmare dealing with his ex. On top of that, we have had financial difficulties almost from the beginning. I couldn't find full time work for ages and he found work, was laid off and has been trying to do contracting since. I finally found work that I like but I am still not very happy. My partner gets work sporadically and we are just not doing well financially. I get frustrated with him and frustrated with this situation. Plenty of times I think about leaving. My head says go home, my heart says stay here. I don't feel that this is the right place for me. It seems a waste of time since we rarely see his kids anyway. My biggest concern is finding work; his is losing the kids even more. But I still feel the burning desire to move home. Do you see me (or us together) leaving here and returning home or moving someplace else? What is our financial outlook for the next year? I was born September 12, 1961 at 10:44 am. Thanks for listening.
Virgo/Pisces
Dear Virgo/Pisces
Without your husbands time of birth it is difficult to know what he will do. He is facing some changes and I do believe that emotionally he will be getting his life together over the course of the next year while he benefits from a Saturn transit that is moving through his chart. On the other hand he may also be questioning his personal direction as well. Once he has come to some decisions regarding his ex and his children he should be able to make a move. I believe that will begin to make more sense to him in August of this year. Your comparison was good but there are signs of emotional deception which means you probably aren?t communicating with one another the way you should be right now. It is time for both of you to talk openly and honestly about what you really want to see happen in the future. Your chart does indicate that you should stick it out together but also that it would be better for you to make a move back to where you have the support of friends and family. Once again without your husbands time of birth I can not tell whether he should make the move or if he will.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Hi...I am born on the 20th of December 1982 at 4:30p.m. My girlfriend is born on the 4th of March 1983. I guess that you must be thinking that being 17 years old is too young to talk about love, but it is my wish to get married soon after I graduate from University due to a loneliness I have within me. Thus I hope that I may be able to find the one I love as early as possible so as to be able to enter into a closer relationship with her. In Singapore, after graduating from college, it is compulsory for all males upon reaching the age of 18 to be enlisted for compulsory National Service (NS) before they enter the University. And soon it will time for me to be enlisted. I have heard of many of my friends' relationships being shattered once the male enters into NS due to the lack of time the couple are able to spend with each other. Thus I fear for the continuity of my relationship with my girlfriend. Furthermore, what makes it worse is the fact that I can't help but feel that my girlfriend and I are not really that close to each other. She prefers to go out and be around her friends rather than spend time with me and is also unwilling to share her feelings with me. Is there an explanation astrologically, why I feel that we aren't that close to each other?? And is there a chance that this relationship may survive through till I graduate from the University (which is around six years from now)??
A boy
Dear A boy
The comparison was pretty good with your Pisces friend however it did appear to lack somewhat at a physical level. She is still young and wants to experience what life has to offer. Your chart indicates that you are moving through a period over the course of the next two to three years that is making you feel the urgency to settle down or at least prepare to do so. Although you truly feel this way right now you do have plenty of time before you need to concern yourself with this matter. For now you should enjoy the relationship you have but don't rule out that you might meet someone in the future who will match up even better to you astrologically. The signs that compliment your chart are Aries, Gemini and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
