We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: The Corporate Ladder

Dear Eugenia,

I would like to seek your advice on an issue that makes me upset. I love my superior at work for the past two years. It is a one-sided love affair. I tried to tell him that I loved him and he didn?t reject me. But I still wonder if he loves me or not. Sometimes, he shows his affection toward me, but sometimes he is also flirtatious with other girls. Since we are working in the same department, we meet each other everyday. I feel pain in my heart. I don?t know if I should continue to wait for him, or should I give up? Please give me a suggestion.

My birthday: October 26, 1967, at 9 AM

His birthday: December 16, 1963

Thanks,
Pain in my heart

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Dear Pain in my heart

Your comparison with the gentleman in question was pretty good however there was an element of deception that could cause some problems for you in the work area. As a rule it is much better not to get involved with colleagues, especially those who could make it difficult for you or even worse cause you to lose your job. This man is a Sagittarius by Sun Sign and this is usually an indication of confirmed bachelorhood. This particular man however does have his natal Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars in the sign Capricorn and although this sign can be loyal and dedicated they can also be players. You must be careful not to let yourself get carried away to the point that you jeopardize your position. The transits you will experience in an area of your chart that represents your position in society will be adversely aspected this summer as well as next year and it will be important that you don?t put yourself in a precarious position at work. Regarding love your chart indicates that you will have plenty of opportunities to meet new partners. Therefore, I suggest that you join groups or clubs in your community that interest you. That way you are likely to meet like-minded people who will not interfere with your work.

Eugenia

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Article: From Virgo

Dear Eugenia,

I am going through a breakup in my marriage of 15 years. It has been a very rocky marriage with control and mistrust on my part, and dishonesty and no loyalty on her part, and we haven't been friends in a long time, to name the most major problems. We were in turmoil for 4 weeks before we had an argument and then have been separated for 5 weeks now and have really had some nasty times. Some of the things she has said are very hurtful, and I don't know what is true and what is not. I think that most men would not stick around to hear the things she has been saying, but for some reason I can't seem to stop loving her and wanting her to come back to build on what we have or had. I have heard that she hasn't been in love with me in years- she was just "settling" or "getting by". I do now recognize some signs of her feeling this way, but I have a hard time seeing it being as much as she says. When we weren't mad at each other, there was always holding hands, cuddling, kissing, that type thing that after 15 years a lot of partners don't do as much as we did. I have really come to the realization that my mistrust and controlling manners have to change no matter what- and we're very misplaced with her. Basically, I realize that she came home to me every night, and now she doesn't- that's all that matters to me now. She wants some space to figure out who she is and has sometimes said things that give me hope (false hope is how she words it). She has also said several times that it is over and she just wants to move on. I can't seem to get my head into "moving on" as every one tells me to. I also can't seem to leave her alone and give her space. I am obsessed with trying to talk to her to start becoming friends- but it just makes her angrier and turns into a nasty fight sometimes. I don't know how to control my urge to not leave her alone because my whole life seems to be just falling apart without her beside me.

Can you guide me into a more secure or comfortable place?

Sorry I don't know the time of her or my birth. Her day was May 2/60 and mine is Sept. 11/66.

Virgo

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Dear Virgo

The comparison does indicate trouble. There is a lack of trust and communication along with deception and anger. Uncertainty will always be a problem between the two of you regardless of whether you stay together or not. You need to let go. You have a good chart and if you can only realize that you were totally mismatched regarding your values and hers you might be able to move on. You match up to people born under the signs Taurus (not her - I'll explain later), Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. She may be a Taurus but only by Sun sign. She has her natal Mercury and Venus in the sign Aries and this sign does not match up to you at all. Mercury and Venus represent the way she thinks and communicates along with her morals, ethics and Venus represent the way she loves etc. What actually drew you together was the fact that you both have your Moon in the sign Cancer but that isn't enough to make a relationship work. She is erratic and can change her mind very rapidly. She wants to have fun and she needs freedom to come and go as she pleases. You need companionship, trust and someone who wants to be with you all the time. This connection just won't work that way. We are who we are and as much as either one of you may want to change I fear that the same problems will continually surface. You are headed toward lots of changes and you have to wrap your head around that and accept the inevitable. Should she even entertain the thought of getting back together it wouldn't be long before she would want to move on again. Let go and start anew. I believe that she has decided to do just that. The only time I see a possible reconciliation is this fall however as I mentioned before - should you get back together it would only be for a short period of time be

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Article: All You Need is Love

Dear Eugenia,

I hope you can help me. It seems that for years I can't hold on to a guy. I don't understand. Just when I think this is the one, the relationship ends or I find out he is already involved. I try to put all I have into a relationship, but it never seems to work. What is it that I am doing wrong or haven't I met my soul mate yet? I was born August 25, 1972, at 10:58 AM.

Lonely Hearts Club

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Dear Lonely Hearts Club

Stop being so hard on yourself. You have a tendency to be a little too clingy when it comes to love. There is nothing wrong with this as long as you are with someone who is also affectionate and in love with you. The highest cycle for love will be hitting your chart during the last half of next year and the first half of 2002. Until that time, play the field and discover what other people have to offer you. Join interest groups and hang out with like-minded people. You match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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