We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hello Eugenia
My wife of 11 years passed away this past September 10th, 2002 born 7/4/1954 named Yolanda. A beautiful Cancerian that touched my life in ways that I still ache for. She was a liver transplant patient that did not take so we had her for an additional year since the operation. It was the most painful experience of my life to say the least. I have since regained my strength to move on and follow the path set for me by the stars. At times I find myself disoriented. I guess it's that I see all that is around me and everyone so differently now that it throws me off.
I try to see other women and find that I look for the qualities or even passion that Yolanda had with me. I look for it in their eyes and their way of being. We had so so much in common music you can name it. We met as performers and fell in love a love like no other for me. I find myself analyzing everything that I do with a different purpose, Job, Friends, Hobbies, etc. It is so hard to not have her in my life. It is the equivalent of living in the dark without the sun and we all need the sun. But my will gets me past to see the next day. Will I see or feel relief from what I am going through. I was born November 19, 1958, at 8:38 am.
Torn Soul
Dear Torn Soul
You had a wonderful comparison with Yolanda and a very special connection, and you should be thankful for that, but you should also realize that each connection that we make in life is unique and that you can and will meet someone who will touch your heart deeply but the time is not right just yet. You still need to grieve and for now friendships and social acquaintances is all that you should expect. This is a time that you must get busy doing things to benefit others. You should be joining an organization you believe in that may even have something to do with fundraising for the live transplant society. You have so much to deal with regarding your loss that you can't expect to not be looking for Yolanda in everyone you meet and that's not fair to the women you date. A good friendship will help you get through your troubled times and helping or donating your time to a worthy cause will lead you out of the dark. By this time next year you will be in a much better position to find love. Move slowly and give yourself some time to heal. Yolanda fell in an area of your chart that deals with dead-end projects and this usually stops a relationship one way or another, you will not get along which wasn't the case with you and Yolanda or the love of your life is taken from you early, which it was. In time you will be able to separate your deep love for Yolanda from the relationship that will be in your future but you cannot replace what you had. Once you realize that you will be able to move forward. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Scorpio and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am very much in love and hoping to marry a Leo, (8/11/55) that I have known for 6 years now. We dated for three years, took one and a half years off, and are back together in a stronger, more passionate bond than ever before. He is a very affectionate man, and I feel in many ways my perfect match and soul mate. When I'm with him I'm ecstatic and the separations are still torture.We have had a long distance relationship for the last year, as was the case early on as well, but at that point neither of us was ready (or able) to move.
Recently I've been considering moving across the country to be with this man. He has said repeatedly that he wants to live with me though he is not sure about "marriage" per se. Perhaps it was his Leo nature --he loves women and says so-- but he was not monogamous with me in our first three years together, a fact I learned only this year. Now I have less trust in him, though I still love him desperately. I want to marry this man, even though he hurt me.
Is this man capable of loving only one woman? Unfortunately I do not have a birth time for him. I am concerned that if I move my life to be with him, I might get hurt, since I was shocked to learn that my prince was not who I thought he was in Round one. He has stated it was only a "phase" and he is serious about me now. If you can give me any insights into our future based on his and my chart, I would appreciate it. I was born February 11, 1974, at 3:30 AM. Thanks Eugenia,
Polar Opposites
Dear Polar Opposites
The comparison between you and your Leo partner was certainly enticing, engaging and intriguing however it also showed signs of sorrow, deception and disillusionment. Now I'm not trying to deter you from following your heart because I feel you are going to do so anyway and that you probably have to experience this relationship for some karmic reason. I must however tell you that your Leo falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and that the length of time spent with one another may not be all that long. He is going through many changes. He doesn't really know what he wants and will bounce back and forth between wanting to be single and wanting to be married. If you make the effort to move and he still isn't willing to marry you should be asking yourself why not. You were born with your natal Neptune adversely aspecting your natal Mercury and this usually represents a person who is gullible, easily deceived or blind to the defects of others. Before you make a move I suggest that you have a job to go to first. Look out for your own interests and be sure that regardless of what he does you are self-sufficient.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
My Daughter, December,14th,1986, and? my son, August,20th,1988, are tearing me up inside.? We have had a very busy year, confusing and some-what unsettling. Now that a few of my accomplishments have been met, they are no longer apart of my daily life.? They are both so young, and they both need to grow up so fast. I am really hurting inside I cry, when I am alone, which is quite often the past few weeks. I do not see why this is happening to us. They rebel against my rules, but go live with others and abide by their stricter rules!! What is going on? Where is this all going to lead? Eugenia, you helped me before, I need you again. I need to know what I am doing so wrong. It really is killing me inside; help me to understand these challenges, and obstacles. Why can't they grow and prosper in my care? I was born April 20, 1970, at 2 am.
Rejected Mom
Hi Rejected Mom
You have a good chart and a very capable chart in so many ways however where children are concerned (having them, raising them) you have a Neptune Mars opposition that stands in your way. This causes uncertainty, confusion, and anger and it unfortunately hooks up to the Moon in both your children?s charts negatively. This means that there is emotional deception and disillusionment when it comes to the way they relate to you and you to them.
Your chart denotes that right now you should be focusing on career and moving in a direction that will help you grow and prosper financially and professionally. Your home environment continues to show weakness, deception and plenty of confusion until the spring of 2009. This may make it difficult for you to do the job necessary in order to raise your children. Your children do have a rebellious nature and if someone else can make the difference or help to get them through their growing years without too many incidence it will be a blessing. Consider yourself lucky that you have someone who can handle your children. As for you ? I know it must hurt but you have to do what?s best for all of you and in this situation I believe that as long as you can let your children know that you love them and you work hard in order to build financially so that you can provide extra?s for them that you will be accomplishing the best that you can.
Eugenia
