We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Desperate

Dear Eugenia,

I have written to you many times in hopes of a response from you. I desperately need your advise on a situation that seems irresolvable to me. Firstly, I would like to say that you are a wonderfully gifted person and I enjoy your website very much, and I wish you continued success with your new T.V. show.

I am a Capricorn female (please do not include any birth information date, place or time of any of the people mentioned in this email, thank you). Born XXX. XX, XXXX, XX X:XX pm. I am involved with two people, a Leo male we will call Leo born XXX. XX, XXXX. I am very close to this person and I am very happy with him. I am also involved with a Cancer male, we will call Gerald. The Cancer's birthday is XXXX X, XXXX. What do you see in my relationships with these two men. My heart belongs to Leo, but I feel responsible toward Gerald. How do you see them with regards to how they feel about me. Also my Leo is involved with a crazy woman, born XXXX XX, XXXX. She is an extremely jealous and insecure person. What do you see in Leo and Crazy woman's relationship? Please Eugenia, I am desperate for your help in this and I look forward to any advise you can give me. I sometimes feel very trapped in my own fears and desperate for some solution to this confusion. Please help me.

Desperate

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Dear Desperate

I do not usually omit birth data because I believe that it is of interest especially for students of astrology. One of the best ways to learn the subject is to take the data, cast the chart and see if you come up with a similar answer to the one I have given. In your case however I am going to make an exception.

I can see your dilemma. You do match up to your Leo however when it comes right down to it your comparison with Gerald is actually a little bit better. Your relationship with Gerald may be tired and in need of some added spice of life but that is attainable as long as you rid yourself of the Leo in your life. Your Leo on the other hand, like it or not, matches up just as well if not better to his crazy woman whom I might add may not be so crazy if he were more trust worthy in his relationships. This Leo gets plenty of opportunities to flirt and so forth and he can be quite a woman's man. You are drawn to him for various reasons but I must admit there is some deception showing in your connection with him and I venture to say that is will lead to absolutely no good if you continue down this pathway. Your attraction to one another is physical and this is just not good enough. You will end up hurting two people that you are both well suited to if you continue to play this game. The crazy woman has just gone through two and a half years of suffering, limitations and depression and it is probably due to your playful way of dealing with her mate. Back off before you find yourself at a point of no return. I believe the end result will be a loss for you on all counts. Unfortunately according to what I see in the crazy woman's chart her Leo love is probably going to leave her or make a personal change in his life putting you in a position to turn your back on Gerald to be with your Leo love. Your Cancer, Gerald I believe has been in the dark and has trusted a little too much. His limitations ring out loud and clear especially after the end of May of this year. Times are changing for all of you and I fear that the end result may be you with your Leo leaving two shattered hearts by the wayside. The ironic picture is that I believe in time you and your Leo will discover that the grass really isn't greener on the other side of the moutain.

Eugenia

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Article: From Leo

Dear Eugenia,

I wrote to you years ago, when I was in a very serious relationship, which you predicted, would come to an end due to our young age, but you added that I would be lucky in love again. You were right, my boyfriend (14/02/1974) and I (07/08/1973, at 7:20 am) were in love at 17. He was a fantastic person who truly cared for me. But at 21, I decided I needed time to explore my life. And so, I finished college (PR) and wanted to travel. Before my boyfriend and I officially split, I had an encounter with a mature man (03/10/1950?) who would leave a profound impression on me. This Libra happened to be my manager. He had a huge crush on me, but he never did anything to breakup his marriage or anything. Yet, he made such an impact in my life because of his sophisticated Libra ways--plus, he showered me with compliments. Nevertheless, my boyfriend and I broke up and I got on the plane for my European adventure, after innocently kissing the boss farewell. When I returned, I contacted my old boss for a reference and job leads. He was very helpful and a joy to talk to. I managed to get myself a great job and ended up doing creative work--which he always inspired me to do. With 19 months of work in my portfolio, I was eager to see my old manager to show him what I've done with my life. He wouldn't meet me, even for a lunch. Knowing that he was still married (I was single), I didn't press him. Nearly eight years later, I was now married to (24/06/1971). Life added another twist, bringing me back to the "old" neighborhood where my manager and I worked. On a lunch break from a day seminar, I ate in our old spot. Feeling nostalgic, I couldn't help writing a thank you note to my mentor, as the course I was on that day continued the career path he had set me on. Spontaneously, I scribbled a letter on napkins. I stuck it into my purse and forgot about it for almost a year. Spring-cleaning had me clearing out my closet and... well, I just had to find my old boss and I did, and I was sure he'd be over the middle-age crisis crush and meet me for a coffee. No! He still had feelings for me, saying he would have to sit on his hands--he was still attracted to me. I laughed it off and retorted: "you're such a flirt". Settling for e-mailing, we ended up in constant cravings for e-contact. Our conversations flowed naturally. He told me he was separated. I felt I had to see him. I did. I hugged him for an eternity and suddenly we shared a kiss. I was thrilled to see him--and felt wonderful to have him back in my life. I value his opinions and cherish industry information and valuable support he gives me. Problem: I had no idea I had feelings for him also. I soon found myself day dreaming about him. We meet a few times after, and each time our emotions got the better of us (nothing beyond hugging, kissing). I told him I was very much in love with my husband and he said he couldn't resolve his feelings for me, and decided for both our interests to ignore me--we both disagreed to an affair. I agreed and months later, I miss him sooooooooooo much.!

I'm in love with my husband, but I need to know how my manager is doing? is he happy?, how's he managing with life, career, love, and family?--he's got his kids and he's such a great dad. Will we ever see each other again? Can we get over this "puppy love" and continue to love and cherish each other in a platonic relationship?

Leo

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Dear Leo

I can see why you are in such a state. First of all you continue to match up the best to your boyfriend from way back when (Feb. 14/74), and there is nothing wrong with that. You were both too young and had too much life to live before settling down however even though you did manage to get out and do your own thing you somehow got caught in a whirlwind romance with your manager and even though it was platonic, in mind it definitely was not. You match up to both your husband and

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Article: Learning to Communicate from a Distance

Dear Eugenia,

I have become a member of your web site since Feb. this year. I really appreciate your web site. It helps me answer many of my questions.Now, I am facing a very difficult situation with my husband. We had been dating for almost 4 years before we got married. During dating, I discovered that he had not been faithful to me. But we still got married later on.We got married Feb. 2000 and shortly after, I got a job offer far away from where we live, so I had to move. My husband and I try to meet each other every weekend, either he comes to visit me or I go back home. We have been doing this since Feb. Recently, I feel myself not trusting my husband. I always feel that he is not honest with me or that he doesn't care about me, love me. This feeling is driving me crazy and of course makes me angry a lot too. I am really not sure about our marriage. I am not sure whether we can keep this marriage together or not. I have tried everything. I could not communicate with him, but, a lot of time, I feel that he is just trying to cover up and not really telling me the truth! Please reply to my question and give me guidance on what can I do to save my marriage?? Thank you very much for your help! I was born in July 30, 1970 sometime around 2:00 am. My husband was born in Dec. 13, 1965.

Confuse and sad

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Dear Confuse and sad

The comparison with your husband wasn't bad however it did show signs of emotional and mental dishonesty. This could be based on several different reasons. He could be afraid of the reaction that he gets from you when you are suspicious. Your chart also indicates that you can be just as evasive or dishonest with him regarding some matters. You say that you can't communicate and unfortunately that is what it will take in order to get past all this confusion. You must sit down and talk about your needs, desires and future intentions before you can move forward. This relationship can work but it will take an effort on both your part and his. His chart does show that he can be charming as well as a bit of a flirt, but that doesn't mean that he will follow through. Right now he does have transiting Neptune sitting on his natal Venus and that can cause sorrow for him along with escapism, indulgence and yes even poor choices regarding love and romance. If he is lonely he may seek comfort with someone who is closer to home during this period but if he is a creative person he may also put this energy into artsy projects. Most important is that you sit down and communicate openly and honestly if you really want your relationship to withstand the distance between you. Your chart indicates that making a move back home or having him come to live with you permanently is a possibility in the fall. If you really love one another I would suggest that you strive to make this happen.

Eugenia

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