We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
Here is my problem. My husband of 17 years (September 19,1959.) He has been visiting my ex-girlfriend, I tell him I don't like it, he's says he's doing nothing wrong that they are just friends and nothing more. This causes me pain and our marriage isn't that great these days. I was born Feb.15 1960 at 1:39pm. I'm wondering if I should stay with him or leave. We have two children and I really want to work this out and not feel so insecure. Thanks for any suggestions.
Third Wheel
Dear Third Wheel
Your comparison with your husband is adequate however you are moving into a period of time that could take the relationship either way. The unfortunate thing is that your husband has broken the code of ethics that two people usually have with one another and that is sticking together on issues that concern relatives and friends. If you and your girlfriend no longer see one another there must be a good reason for that and therefore he should stand behind your decision not to see her and do the same. You did not give me her birth data so it's difficult for me to be sure that nothing is going on between the two of them however according to his chart I do believe that he has been confused and questioning his life so he could be planning to make changes in his person life within the year. This is a difficult situation for you to be in and I feel that if you care about this man and your family that you suggest counseling or at least start talking about the options available if you want this marriage to work. You are both heading toward your second half-life Saturn, him this year and you next. This is usually a time when decisions and changes are made. As I mentioned the comparison is okay but as a couple you both need to work at this relationship much harder if you really want it to survive.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I have sent a message before but I had no response. I am writing again as I have been talking with some astrologers on www.astroadvice.com - they have been very kind and helpful. What I am curious is if you can see me having children sometime next year? I am having surgery in the new year, and that should correct my infertility problem, I realize that is a crazy thing to ask of you, but if you have any insights please let me know. Hope to hear from you and your reply will be greatly appreciated. DOB June 20 1971 around 5:30 pm (not positive about the time).
Thank You,
Jody
Hi Jody
Actually you are in a high cycle next year for pregnancy however you also have a chart that consists primarily of mutable signs and this is often an indication that there will be problems with getting pregnant the pregnancy itself or the children you have. With that in mind I must also mention that according to the time you were born luckily the Venus in your chart doesn't fall in an area that represent health however your natal Sun and Mercury do and they are not well aspected so chronic problems are likely to prevail. I believe however that these problems will have more to do with respiratory ailments, allergies, and blood etc - not pregnancy unless toxemia happens during pregnancy. As I mentioned earlier your chart is looking positive for pregnancy between April and August of next year. Your astrological fertility cycles are as follows.
Dec. 5/2005 at 11 PM until Dec. 9/2005 at 11 PM, Jan. 4/05 at 11 AM until Jan. 8/05 11 AM. Feb. 2/05 at 7 PM until Feb. 6/05 at 7 PM, Mar. 2/05 at 9 AM until Mar. 6/05 at 9 AM, Apr. 2/05 at 5 PM until Apr. 6/05 at 5 PM, May 2/05 at 9 AM until May 6/05 at 9 AM, June 1/05 at 3 AM until June 5/05 at 3 AM, July 1/05 at 1 AM until July 5/05 at 1 AM, July 30/05 at 7 PM until Aug. 3/05 at 7 PM, Aug. 29/05 at 3 PM until Sept. 2/05 at 3 PM, Sept. 28/05 at 11 AM until Oct. 2/05 at 11 AM, Oct. 28/05 at 11 AM until Nov. 1/05 at 11 AM, Nov. 27/05 at 5 PM until Dec. 1/05 at 5 PM.
You will be most fertile at the mid point of each time period but if you want to get the most out of these periods I suggest you and your husband book this time to make mad passionate love. A four-day party for two will certainly help you bond your relationship on several different levels. The most fertile months are May, June and August next year.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
AAAARRGG! Not another relationship question?!
I've written a few times without receiving a reply but persist out of dire need. I'm at my wit's end about what to do.I am in the 20th year of marriage to a man I wonder if I ever truly loved. We have three children. Over the past 5 or 6 years, I feel I have changed a great deal. I no longer want the same things, nor am I happy to settle for a mediocre relationship "for the sake of the children". I know I should listen to my heart and question my mind but I feel like I've turned it over and over until I can't seem to decide. Am I destined to go through life biding my time or am I waiting for the time to be right? I sometimes feel like I don't know anything anymore and am just letting life drag me along. What do the stars say? My birthday is March 28, 1961. My husband's is October 17, 1945.
Signed,
Need to Know
Need to Know,
I understand your dilemma, however there are a lot of variables involved in your case. You didn't mention how old your children are, therefore it is hard to know what your responsibilities at this time are. Your comparison with your Libra husband is mediocre. I do believe that at one time you did have a passionate connection but that was long ago. I feel that you have both been very limiting for one another and that maybe the best thing to do is to discuss your options. Your husband does have his natal Sun squaring his natal Mars and this can cause him to have a temper if it falls in a certain area of his chart however without his time of birth I can't tell how this aspect will manifest itself. If he hasn't shown this trait I believe that you should be able to make some decisions as a couple that will allow you both greater freedom to come and go as you please or to actually get on with your lives. The children however should be your first concern, so whatever is best for them at this time is the bottom line.
Eugenia
