We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
Here is my problem. My husband of 17 years (September 19,1959.) He has been visiting my ex-girlfriend, I tell him I don't like it, he's says he's doing nothing wrong that they are just friends and nothing more. This causes me pain and our marriage isn't that great these days. I was born Feb.15 1960 at 1:39pm. I'm wondering if I should stay with him or leave. We have two children and I really want to work this out and not feel so insecure. Thanks for any suggestions.
Third Wheel
Dear Third Wheel
Your comparison with your husband is adequate however you are moving into a period of time that could take the relationship either way. The unfortunate thing is that your husband has broken the code of ethics that two people usually have with one another and that is sticking together on issues that concern relatives and friends. If you and your girlfriend no longer see one another there must be a good reason for that and therefore he should stand behind your decision not to see her and do the same. You did not give me her birth data so it's difficult for me to be sure that nothing is going on between the two of them however according to his chart I do believe that he has been confused and questioning his life so he could be planning to make changes in his person life within the year. This is a difficult situation for you to be in and I feel that if you care about this man and your family that you suggest counseling or at least start talking about the options available if you want this marriage to work. You are both heading toward your second half-life Saturn, him this year and you next. This is usually a time when decisions and changes are made. As I mentioned the comparison is okay but as a couple you both need to work at this relationship much harder if you really want it to survive.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.
My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.
Thanx
Leo
Dear Leo
Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have been writing to you now and then since Sept 2002. My problem, which is financial, has steadily worsened, especially in the last 6 months. I've written every week for the last 7 weeks all toll over 15 times. I tried your pay site, thinking if I pay for it I surely will get an answer, by watching your show and seeing how good you are I desperately want and need your expertise. (I could not get payment to go through) so I'm trying again. There is something I need to know as soon as possible if I don't get an answer this time I'll call it my bad luck and stop trying. (Maybe one more time on your pay site)
Here's the problem; I have a 5 unit apt. building my father sold it to me 8 an a half years ago, he held the mortgage at very low interest, 3 years later I had to get a regular mortgage because he was retiring and moving away and wanted his money. Higher interest bigger payment and the building beginning to need expensive repairs (new roof alone cost $11,500.) yearly things like property taxes, water and sewerage, property insurance are up to over $7000 a year. Over the years I borrowed to pay this and that to the point where I can't borrow any more. Now there are 3 choices to consider, I try to get a grant to fix things that are major and I have no money to get it done, maybe sell if so when would be the best time? Last resort file for bankruptcy I really don't want to go that route. I would be so grateful if you would read my chart and tell me what you see. Will I find a way to get money or should I sell? I have to do something quick I may soon get a notice of liability of tax sale. Please tell me what to do and I'll work towards that.
I work at a job for $8.25 an hour. Also had a part time job for the last 3 years, evenings. I have 8 grown children that also has contributed to my debt - my trying to help any of them when they were in need. 0ne in particular has cost me a lot. My date of birth is Sept. 8th, 1942, at 9am.
Virgo in desperate need of your advice.
Dear Virgo in need
You have gone through a very rough three years regarding investments and dealing with agencies, taxes, contractors and anyone else who had anything to do with your property. At the same time you went through your second Saturn return. The first one was around the age of 29 and if you think back to what you went through at that time you can expect similar results unless you make changes that will bring about a different set of circumstances. It is apparent that things can change quite suddenly for you however not necessarily in your favor especially between and March of 2005 and this concerns me. You probably should have tried to sell the property this time last year, not now. With transiting Jupiter rapidly moving into an adverse position to your natal Uranus I fear that you will not get what you want for the property if you try to sell now. You will however have some favorable transits that may help you get a grant to fix the place up and prepare it for sale in September/October of next year. If you think you can hold on until that time do so but not at the price of possibly declaring bankruptcy. That is the last thing you want to do. You are better to sell at a loss right now than to do that. You may have one other window of opportunity that come up for selling or getting the grant you are looking for between late October and March of next year with November 30 until December 11 and January 28 until February 8 being the absolute best times. The first date could be the sale and the second the closing. Depending on how crucial your position is will determine your decision. Given the transits you have just experienced I believe you will want to dump the burden and get on with your life as quickly as possible.
Eugenia
