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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Fork in the Road

Dear Eugenia,

I need some advice about the direction of my life. I graduated last year and am currently studying for my Masters. However, it is not in the subject I wish to continue in. I feel stuck and as if I have nowhere to go after I finish it, don't want to do any of the jobs I will be qualified for. I am seriously considering going back to studying again next year and hope I will be able to get to where I want to be by doing this. This path is long and by no means certain and I don't know whether to take this chance or to try to apply for jobs I don't really want to do, I feel I would be unhappy. Also I am concerned that my indecision and my continued studying would ruin my chances of happiness with the man I want to be with. Maybe I should just follow him and see what happens for me there? His date of birth is 26/09/1977, I have no time and mine is 16/05/1978, around 7.29 am. Or should I move back to Ireland to my family? I don't think I would be content doing that but I really don't know anymore! Help please Eugenia!!

a confused Taurus!

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Dear confused Taurus!

Your chart indicates that you should be studying for at least another three years and possibly longer depending on what it is you are going to school to learn. Whatever educational studies you have completed will never be wasted even if you don?t decide to pursue a career in that field at this time. It is said that the next generation coming into the workforce will have up to five, maybe even more different careers throughout their lifetime. For you to stay in school and gain more knowledge and experience can only help you in the long run, especially if you?re willing to put in the hours and hard work required.

Regarding moving home with your parents, only if it means that it will be easier for you to pursue the subjects that you want to take. You have the planet Neptune transiting through an area of your chart that deals with higher education and this can cause one of two things or possibly both. You will be confused about your educational pursuits, which you are already. You will want to go into a field that is creative or that deals with philosophy, religion etc. If this is the case you may find yourself in this state for the better part of the next eight years. Don?t limit yourself so that you look back on your life when you are old and say could of, would of, should of. You are young and you?ve got your whole life ahead of you and it?s a perfect time to learn all that you can in order to ensure that you will have a successful future.

As for the boyfriend, well the comparison was okay except for the confusion and possible deception at an emotional and intellectual level. I don?t know that I would follow him, unless you will be able to continue your studies at the same time and get the support you need from him to do so. Opportunities for love and romance will be in high gear next year so don?t worry about being on your own for a while. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: Slim Pickings

Dear Eugenia,

I was in a very intense, 4-month relationship that ended Feb, 2000. I am a Taurus/Gemini cusp, born May 21, 1958 @ 3:20 a.m. and he was born Sept. 13, 1957. He ended it in a very callous fashion, i.e. a phone call informing me it was over with no prior discussion, no fight, no indication whatsoever that anything was wrong. Needless to say I was devastated, not to mention shocked and betrayed beyond belief. He was/is the only man I have ever loved as there wasn't a single thing about him that I didn't like and I have NEVER found that before or since.

Being single at age 42 is no picnic. Pickings are slim simply because of logistics and what is available usually involves problems with kids, ex-wives and whatever other baggage they are bound to be carrying. So I find myself feeling totally hopeless that I will never find someone I cared for like I did him. I have been to the beach and back and know full well how bad the odds are.

So, before I toss in all my chips and waste no further effort into trying to meet someone, I thought I'd ask you if and when you foresee me ever finding happiness.

Ready to Give Up

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Dear Ready to Give Up

Don't throw in the towel just yet. There are opportunities to meet potential partners this year but you must get out and join organizations you believe in. It is important that you also take the time to grow and expand your horizons this year. You are headed toward your second half-life Saturn and it is time to reevaluate and make the necessary changes. To travel both mentally and physically will be enlightening and should lead you down unfamiliar avenues that will change your life. If you think back to when you were around the age of 14/15 you went through this same transit as a child, now you are going to experience similar events as an adult. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Libra and Sagittarius. You can also form relationships through travel, friends, relatives or taking courses that interest you.

Eugenia

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Article: A Broken Heart Seeks Advice

Hi there Eugenia,

My birth date is July 15, 1979, at 3:15 PM. I've been involved in a gay relationship with another guy (Birth date: 03 June 1977 05:15 PM) for the last 3 months. When we started our relationship he was living with his ex and he said it was a "living arrangement"...I believed him. Anyway during our relationship he would rarely visit me (we stay in different cities) and behave oddly if I ran into him in a public place with his ex around. Eventually he came clean with me (his friends forced him to tell the truth) and it turned out that he'd been having a relationship with the "ex" at the same time as me, and recently started seeing yet another guy. After all of this and around 2 weeks of deciding what to do, I called him and we broke it off. Leaving me very hurt and confused...He still says that he loves me and everything we had was real, but I'm at a loss to describe the pain this has caused me. Especially since him and the new guy are now fully in a relationship. I'd really like some advice on this situation, and if I should be foolish enough to still hope that one day we will get back together...

Thnx,
Broken

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Dear Broken

You met your messiah, in other words you met someone who captured your heart and you had no power to pry yourself from him. The comparison was so powerful between you. This Gemini is just as bad for you as he is good. You can't however allow yourself to be played with this way. It isn't good for your self-esteem. You are too proud to forgive and you shouldn't forget. Playing sexual games can be dangerous and it's obvious that your Gemini friend doesn't care enough about any of his partners to be open and honest about his goings on. Unfortunately he probably will slip in and out of your life until you put a stop to it. I strongly suggest that you put up your guard and move on. You will be coming into a transit over the summer as well as during the first half of next year that does indicate that people from your past will want back into your life. You must remember that he will not change. He is not a lover who can be true to one person, let alone himself. If you go with him you will be risking your emotional and your physical well-being. During this transit, it can also mean that you will have some new people come into your life. However, if someone is preoccupying your life you aren't likely to have the opportunity to start a new relationship. I know that your Gemini friend is exciting and adventurous and that you have plenty of chemistry with him but that will not be enough in this case. Please consider making yourself a list of all the reasons why this person hurt you, and why you should not be together and carry it with you. When he tries to come back into your life read your notes. Hopefully you will find the strength to say no to him. You do match up to, and attract, the sign Gemini. Nonetheless Gemini's are not good for you in general due to your natal Neptune placement. You should consider a Leo or Aquarius for future relationships.

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