We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: The Sweetest Revenge Comes from Letting Go

Dear Eugenia

Ok so its been a long couple of weeks (maybe I should say long couple of months) -- basically I've been out partying and having a lot of fun...But lately, I realized that everything around me ends up circling back to the person I "LOATHED" the most in this world. I can't seem to shake her. Every where I turn she's managed to already have been there or have done what I want...every one tells me to "let it go" however it is difficult to do so when she deliberately sticks her face where it doesn't BELONG!?

So my question is: How do I get over the fact that she's already had what I want? and how do I deal with looking at her everyday without wanting to tell her sorry "ASS" off? And how do I get over the one guy I want the most? I was born on July 20, 1975, at 5:00 AM.

Burnt

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Dear Burnt

Too bad you didn't include her date of birth. I would have liked to look at her sorry ass's chart. I can tell you regarding your chart that your friends are right. You are destroying yourself and holding yourself back because of the inability to let go of something that is not changeable at the moment. The sweetest revenge is always your own success and until you get that through your head you are not likely to move forward. Get a grip and get on with your life. No one is worth the aggravation that you are letting this person put you through. You are going through a high cycle regarding love and if you are hanging on to the past you won't be able to take advantage of any romantic opportunity that comes your way. You were born with your natal Mercury in Cancer and this makes it difficult for you to forgive and forget but an effort must be made to do so. You match up well to partners born under the sign Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. The greatest cure for your dilemma is your own happiness and usually a good romantic partner can help you forget and move on.

Eugenia

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Article: From M

Dear Eugenia,

I am at a very strange point in my life, which feels very chaotic--sometimes as though it is moving in a positive direction, and sometimes as though it is very stagnant.

I am entering my third year of university, studying art, art history, and German. I'm at a point at which I really need to figure out what it is I want to do long-term. I feel pressure from my family to make this decision (mainly on my mother's side, though my mother and I are almost entirely out-of-touch, as she is with her sister and parents). I also feel internal pressure, as though I may feel more confident and clear-headed if I can make a commitment and develop some sort of plan to pursue my education and career beyond this point. Basically, I am feeling directionless, confused, and as though I have no solid ground to fall back on. I worry a lot about my mother, but cannot stay in contact with her, as she is experiencing a time of sever financial difficulties and, as a result, has no phone line, disallowing contact by phone or email. (She was born August 11, 1950.) All I can say about my desires for the future is that I want to be involved in art --the only thing that is truly fulfilling for me. I would love to be a professional artist, but that is risky and I do not want to put myself into a situation of financial despair. I have seen both of my parents struggle throughout my entire life thus far.

In addition to these feelings, I am having a difficult time romantically. I have been seeing a man (born February 6th, 1977) for about 6 months. Though we connect very well intellectually, we are both very busy. I have a hectic work, school and homework schedule, while he is very social and constantly has plans to go out with friends, which he views as obligations. He therefore has little time to spend with me during the time I actually have free and is frustrated that I never want to go out and party with him and his friends. I think that, due to our different lifestyles, we may not be able to reconcile this, though I care for him very much and when we are together, he seems to feel the same way. My luck with men isn't too good and upon our initially getting together, I was excited to finally meet someone I could connect with, who was intelligent, observant, and who seemed to share so many interests.

Do you see any end to the constant stress, chaos and frustration resulting from my present life and relationships, as well as my attempting to sort out my future endeavors?

Please help! I am so confused and freaked-out by every aspect of my life right now!! I was born Oct. 22, 1981 at 1:45 PM.

Thank you so much,
M

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Dear M

You are a strong Libra. All your natal planets in that sign are in an area of your chart that deals with higher education, travel, philosophy, immigration and different cultures. That being said it isn't surprising that you are waffling about your future and your educational pursuits. I believe however that you must get on with it and finish whatever you have already begun. Your chart indicates that you should be in school or at least in a learning environment for the next two years although I do believe that you will be able to pick up work in the field of your choice beginning next year. This could lead to an apprenticeship, learning on the job or working and continuing your education. I believe that it is important to follow your dream however it is also necessary to support your addiction to your art/dream/etc. You are still young and have time. Your chart indicates that if you finish school this next year that the following year will still be a learning experience for you - possibly a chance to move to Germany where you can put your second language to use while you pursue a position in at a gallery or in some other area that relates to the arts. Teaching is also something that shows prominently in your char

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Article: From Cancer

Hi Eugenia

Where do I begin, I'm 28 yrs old and have been looking for love. I've been out of a relationship for almost 2 yrs in which I was engaged to be married. This almost tore me apart but somehow I SURVIVED. I still have good and bad days but I think everything happens for a reason which takes me to my next point. I met a gentleman (born: February 21,1971) almost a year ago in which I was very attracted to and we became friends although I long for so much more however I know that his career is his first priority and anything else is on the back burner. I think that coming out of a very long and serious relationship I lack the confidence that I need in order to speak up and express what I feel as I fear rejection and this is what I tend to do with him.

I know that I want more than to be friends, is this something that you see in my future? b/c I don't have the nerve to ask him straight out and I want to know what direction my love life is going if anywhere. I was born July 4, 1975 at 6:45 pm.

Please help!!!
Cancer

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Hi Cancer

The comparison with your Pisces friend is okay but he does think like an Aquarius which means that he can be a little detached when it comes to emotional matters. He also has a strong Sagittarius influence and they are usually not all that interested in being tied down. You are very sensitive and the past couple of years you have gone through a difficult period regarding relationships and being able to trust. You are also going through your first Saturn return and this is making you reevaluate your life and what you have done with it up until now. Over the course of the next year you should be making changes that will better suit the direction you see yourself moving in. You did meet your Pisces friend at a good time so I?m not ruling him out but I do feel that you are probably a little more serious regarding your relationship and that you are also ready to start thinking about settling down where he may not have given it a thought as of yet. If you are going to approach him to see how he feels you may want to do so in July of this year. You will be in a high cycle again this fall where finding love is concerned so you have time to see where your current relationship is headed before you start looking for love elsewhere. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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