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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Scorpio torn

Dear Eugenia,

I have written once with no response I know you are a very busy person and God bless you but I need your help if you can. About four years ago I was working for this accounting firm and one day I saw a new co-worker and I fell hard I mean the moon and stars the WORKS!! remind you I'm a married woman but I couldn't stop thinking about him and at the time I was going through some difficult times in my marriage. Me and this guy flirted a lot but didn't take it any further but I was the one who ended up hurt and confused because I had strong feelings for him. I just want to know why did this happen to me because at the time I wasn't looking for this and after all this time I still have him on my mind. I was born November 5, 1963 at 9:45 a.m. He was born on March 15, 1963 time unknown and my husband was born on October 12, 1966 time unknown. I want to know was this a silly infatuation or was I in love with this man. I appreciate any answer you can give me.

Scorpio torn

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Dear Scorpio torn

It is obvious why you were attracted to your Pisces friend and why your marriage wasn't doing too well. You and your husband didn't have a bad comparison however it did lack substance. It is almost as if you just have nothing in common putting a strain on the relationship. The comparison with your Pisces friend connected on a lot more levels however there was also a major sign of sorrow and this is usually an indication that it won't work or that it will be hurtful. Your chart indicates that you have been going through your own turmoil that has resulted in some depression and anxiety at work as well as with your fellow co-workers. You have also been overreacting where your relationships are concerned resulting in your most recent infatuation. You are in a high cycle regarding love and secret affairs and will continue to be on and off over this next year. I suggest that you tread carefully. It is never wise to start a relationship if you are still attached to someone else. Your marriage is coming into a make it or break it period and it will be important that you reevaluate what you really want out of life. Your comparison with your husband although it lacks on some levels is workable if you communicate and find some common ground. It won't be the most passionate or exciting but it can work. The relationship with your Pisces will probably bring you more sorrow but it will be more exciting and volatile. You are walking a fine line, if you find yourself pursuing your Pisces once again or you discover that you are becoming infatuated with other men as well you should get some counseling that will help you sort through your problems.

Eugenia

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Article: From Anett

Dear Eugenia!

This is kind of a long story, and question, but I'm really truly at a loss for what to do. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs (a Cancer man 22/6-68), and feel good about it! The relationship turned into a friendship, and we decided to call it quits. I'm now single and loving it, most of the time anyway, but there is a guy (Scorpio, 29/10-67).. I met him when I was still together with my ex, but I couldn't really do anything with him at the time. I ended up staying a night at his house, and loved every second I was with him. But I was in a relationship, and hadn't seen the light yet, so we lost touch. I never really stopped thinking about him, and he was always playing in the back of my mind. But suddenly after 4 months he calls me, and we end up having the best phone conversation ever. It's like we never lost touch, and I realize as we're talking that "shit I really really like him." But as it seems I'm prone to bad luck in love, I tried hitting the breaks with my self emotionally. I know he likes me too, we have a chemistry that blows me away, we talk on the phone for hours, about everything between heaven and earth. And the sexual chemistry I experienced with him in September (we didn't have sex, but we did get very intimate) knocked me to my feet!!! But, his life is very very complicated now, his father just died, and their relationship was strained, and there seems to be a long lost sister trying to get her share of the estate left after his dad. And he is so focused on doing the right thing all the bloody time, always, that I know there's no room for any emotional/relationship thing at this point. I am not a very patient person, but I find myself, for the first time, willing to wait for his life to settle back. I've offered him my friendship and he seems to want it, and appreciate it! But, what is this thing with us? What does this "thing" have in store for me? Is friendship all he wants forever? I'm falling slowly, and it's basically for his personality (haven't seen him in person for 4 months..) and he just intrigues me, he makes me wanna get a grip of my life.. I really do hope you can help me understand this guy and what he thinks. I've never felt this unsure about myself or the future of my feelings for this Scorpio man. Thanx,

Anett.

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Dear Anett

There are a lot of oppositions in your comparison with your Scorpio friend and although this can make the pull between the two of you very dynamic it isn't always the best when it comes right down to everyday life. The major sign of sorrow does show up in your comparison and this worries me. I do believe that he is very attracted to you but I also feel that he is extremely practical having his natal Moon, Venus, Jupiter, Uranus and Pluto in the sign Virgo and is probably questioning the age difference between you. People with a lot of Virgo in their charts do tend to marry later in life. They want to be one hundred percent certain that they have chosen wisely and he probably fears that at some point you will move on. You on the other hand are a very strong Taurus and they are usually true blue beginning to end but you also have three planets in Libra and one in Sagittarius and this can cause problems when your partner's looks depreciate. Offer your friendship but unless you truly believe you can go the distance and do life with this very serious and loyal man I suggest you let him go. As I mentioned the comparison has a real push/pull to it and I'm afraid that you will probably hurt him in the end. I know that your ex was also quite a bit older and your comparison to him was comparable to that with your Scorpio friend. This really isn't an age thing on your side right now but it certainly could be in the future. Some people do well with those much older when they are young and those much younger when they are old. Think about it.

Eugenia

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Article: Opposites

Dear Eugenia,

I have an on going struggle with what I should do about my relationship with the man in my life. He is a Leo 1937. I was born February 8, 1946 at 10:16 AM. Here is the problem. We can get along so beautifully and then I do, or say something to upset him. It appears my independence and detachment, upsets him. I try to reassure him that I love him, but I often feel he wants more of me than I can give. He wants to be first and most important in my life. Sharing me with friends is taboo to him. This makes me feel pulled between him and my other pursuits in my life. How can I get around all this? I truly love him, but there is a part of me that I can't control. I MUST have my independence. We have been in a serious relationship for a year. I hope you will answer this letter. I am desperate for some help soon. Thank you for this opportunity to let this out.

Connie

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Dear Connie

You neglected to give me specifics regarding your Leo partner however you did include his year of birth so I can assume that his natal Neptune doesn't play too much havoc with your natal chart. Being polar opposites I can definitely see the attraction. With your strong Aquarius traits you would need a certain amount of freedom to come and go as you please in order to be happy. If he can't allow you this freedom you may have to move on. You are coming into a high cycle during the second half of this year and the first half of next year that will help you where love and romance is concerned. It should allow you to meet someone who may be more in tune to the lifestyle you require and who you can relate to better regarding such matters. If you do decide to stay with your Leo friend this period can also be a favorable time to tell how you feel and that he has to allow you to see your friends and to do the things that you enjoy or you will move on and leave him behind. Unfortunately he appears to be possessive and this is something that will always stand between you if he can't come to terms with it. It is also apparent in your chart that you do attract the type of man who does want to possess you and control you. Therefore you must be very careful who you choose and how you set the standard for your relationship.

Eugenia

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