We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Chocolate

Dear Eugenia

I was reading my horoscope (Leo) and the love matches or slaves. For Leo and Aries, it says, "this is a capricious union". When I do the opposite and look at the Aries horoscope and scroll down to love slaves, it says, "a match made in heaven". Is there a discrepancy or am I interpreting the word "capricious" wrong.

Also I felt discouraged at the description found in Leo in the game of love. It says that Leo women often bestow their love and affection on the wrong men. Can you elaborate on that so as to have an understanding about who the "wrong men" are in this case? I was born August 11, 1963, at 1:15 am.

Thanks in advance
Chocolate

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Dear Chocolate

The difference is who is playing the male role in the relationship and who is playing the female role. When the female is Aries and the male Leo it works better than the other way around. When the Aries is the male it makes the relationship far more unreliable. Regarding Leo females it is a trait to pick the wrong men however that isn't always the case depending on other factors in her chart. In your particular case your natal Venus is in Leo as well as your Sun well aspected to your natal Jupiter in Aries and this does tend to give you better luck when choosing a partner. Also with your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus and Sun and sextile your natal Jupiter it help you not to jump as quickly. You do however have your natal Neptune in an adverse position to your Saturn, Venus and Sun and this can sometimes with certain partners, especially those you meet through work, cause you to be disillusioned leading to disappointment. Sun Sign astrology is fun but a birth chart is like your fingerprint. It is a roadmap of your life and when you take any two charts and put them together it is a unique combination. Some partners will bring out the best in you and others will not. Each is an individual case and must be treated that way. Never take to heart the generalities of the subject. Sun Sign astrology is for fun but the real deal which is what I do at my www.astroadvice.com website give you legitimate facts so run a comparison with your Aries friend and find out what the pro's and cons of your relationship really are.

Eugenia

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Article: From Gemini Son and Distressed Father

Dear Eugenia

I am really confused. I dislike my dad's partner - Unfortunately intensely. This started shortly after he met her 2 years after he and Mum separated, now 8 years ago, when I was 10. Until recently she treated me considerately, but I continued to dislike her. Now she has openly shown an aggressive dislike of me. I am now older and have decided to write down my dislikes of her. Today she refused to cooperate with this saying do what you like I am not interested. I live with her, my dad and their son, Giles, my brother. Dad is miserable and I don't want to split them up (as threatened by her) but I can't change the way I feel fundamentally. Any suggestions? I was born June 2, 1988 at 3:30 PM.

Gemini Son

Dear Eugenia

Do you give advice to men in distress? I should wait for your reply, but I am in need of immediate advice. I am 55, born February 23, 1951 at 9:30 AM and I have an 18 old son, a 35 year old partner and our son of 6. Eldest son and partner don't get on. After years of aggression by him, eldest son attempted to ameliorate situation by beginning to be civil to her, but too late it seems. Now his attempts, clumsy though they may be are rebuffed by her. I think she is being unreasonable, but I appreciate she is very hurt. I am piggy in the middle, as usual. Not the first time (third marriage/relationship). Help!!!

Distressed Father

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Dear Gemini Son and Distressed Father

I tired to email both of you to find out when your stepmother/partner was born considering she is the main issue but your emails bounced back to me therefore I am combining your emails and looking at your charts to see if I can help.

As a father you should have nipped that nastiness that your son continually shoved in your partners face a long time ago. He may not have liked her but that didn't mean that he had to abuse her and at the same time hurt you. Your son is vocal and can be unpredictable and act in haste saying things that are hurtful. He is intelligent, charming and knows how to manipulate situations which is precisely what he has done, and you have let him. As a Pisces father and partner you have been too soft trying to preserve peace with both your wife and your son. This has probably made you appear weak in the eyes of your partner causing her to lose respect and at this point probably not really caring all that much if both you and your son leave. Without her chart it is impossible for me to tell you exactly where she is at or how strong your astrological comparison is however you can check that out yourself if you go to my www.astroadvice.com web site and run a compatibility test. If you measure up to 70% or higher you probably have a chance to turn things around.

I fear however that with the onslaught of transiting Saturn moving in to oppose your Pisces planets you are about to face some limitations that could easily lead to another failed marriage. If your partner is a Sagittarius or Capricorn I imagine she has had enough and is heading out the door. You may want to consider doing some very fast-talking and decision making if you want to give a last attempt at rectifying this problem.

With the cooperation of your Gemini son who has not been a stellar addition to the family you may pull this off. He may be trying to make amends but short of him moving out it may not be enough. Being 18 now he should be close to pursuing higher education so possibly he can go away for his next level of schooling. It is obvious that he is smart and that he should be continuing his education so please consider this as it is probably the best option if you want to make you marriage work. If your son doesn't want to move out or go away to school remind him that he owes you and your partner for putting up with all the crap he has dished out the past ten years. After all who the heck was running the show at home

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Article: Lost Hope

Dear Eugenia,

Please...Eugenia...how long do I have to wait to get your reply? Do I need to write in English? I'm waiting for your help.

I was born in Sept 18, 1956 (9:10 PM) and he was born in Dec 26, 1961, my ex-husband was born Dec 26, 1957. I'm not sure about his birth time. He is the most precious person in my life and I would not trade him for anyone else. He is not afraid of anything. We were happy as if we had both found the love of our life. We told each other that we could not find the another person that we could love more.

However, he changes his mind now. He is still going out with me but it's different from what we used to be. He even wants to break up with me but we both know that we love each other. My life is in total darkness now. I lost hope. I am trying to overcome this difficult feeling, but sometimes I don't want to be alive anymore. I cry almost everyday.

If I wait for him, will he come back to me? At this moment, I'm going to wait and endure this hardship. For your reference, I'm taking care of my children (1 son & 1 daughter) alone. What does he mean to me? Is he my man? If not, when will I meet Mr. Right? Or is it better to live alone?

Eugenia...how many times do I need to write to you? It may be hard for me to wait another week.

From a person who needs God's help.
Virgo Lady

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Dear Virgo Lady

You do match up better to your younger Capricorn then you did to your ex-husband but this relationship is still lacking some of the basic qualities that one should have in a serious partnership. There is some sorrow that is present and that falls in an area of your chart that deals with your home and family. This man may not be completely honest with you regarding how he feels about your children. Your chart indicates that you are going through many changes in your personal life and that this man is probably a stepping stone in your life. I belief that both the Capricorn's in your life have been there to teach you something. Both men have their Sun sign placed in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and therefore it is difficult to have a long term relationship with either one of them. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Leo Scorpio, Aquarius and Pisces. You will be in a high cycle where love is concerned during the first half of next year. During that period you may find that your younger Capricorn will want to rekindle your relationship but I must caution you not to be too quick to take him back. You are best to keep your options open and meet new men who will probably match up to you much better.

Eugenia

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