We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
I met a very special person (February 4, 1969) 4 years ago after having met her at work. Once we talked, we realized we had a lot in common between us and it was amazing how closely the pattern of each of our lives seemed so much alike from our childhood to the present. We knew from the beginning that we could be very good for each other and therefore, we became very close friends almost instantly as though we had known each other all of our lives. I discovered that I could open up to her, like no other person in my life, and tell some of my most intimate feelings and hidden fears that I had carried inside all of my life as she did with me. Ironically, I have always seemed to have the problem of letting myself get too close to people even though I have many friends, they are not intimate friends. As we became closer throughout the 4 years, I have felt myself becoming very scared of getting too close, being hurt and even left behind, without reason, so I in turn distanced myself from her more and more without an explanation. She became less interested in our friendship and it began to unravel for both of us due to the stress of it all. Since December of last year, we have not spoken at all and it has really been a very devastating experience for me. It has changed me as a person in so many ways. I wish very much that I could rekindle our friendship that I miss dearly, but I don't know what would be the right words to say or if we would be better to put this behind and both move on with our lives apart. I was born December 15, 1958 at 8:30 am. Thank you for guidance.
Sagittarius
Dear Sagittarius
I believe that friendship is the operative word here. The comparison showed nothing more than that. It also revealed that there certainly is some mistrust, disillusionment or possible deception as well. Now that could have to do with the fact that you didn't even give her an explanation when you backed away. I fell that you have two choices and they are to move on and prepare to meet someone else who matches up to you much better physically and mentally or phone her up, be honest about your feelings and ask to resume the friendship. When I say friendship I mean just that. I believe that anything more would lead to trouble. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If she isn't interested at least you'll know and can move on. You tend to match up to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Libra and Aquarius (she is not a very strong Aquarius). It is apparent that you do much better with people who are much older or much younger than yourself. You will be in a high cycle regarding love next year so don't waste too much of your time trying to turn what you have with your Aquarian friend into anything more than a friendship at this point.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I'm born Mar 3, 1962, at 6:30 am. My wife: Apr 20, 1964. My son: Jul 9, 1984, at 4:15 PM. My daughter: Oct 23, 1992, at 4:40 PM.
I only received elementary school education and moved to the city to work in a factory. I studied by myself, passed exams and graduated from high school. The medicine company I used to work for 10 yr. was bankrupted and I had to sell my house and everything in order to pay the loans because my colleagues ran away to foreign countries. I still haven't paid all the debts. It's been 5 yrs and I have been violently abused by creditors. As a result, I am addicted to alcohol that harms my health and I even have to see a psychiatrist. My family had to move to a small house and my wife is working from 9:00 am till 11:00pm. It is needless to say how much my family is suffering. I lost confidence in myself. I avoid meeting people. I cannot sleep because of the fear about my future. I can only sleep 2 to 3 hours at night. Since 1997 May, I have been working in a real estate company. I'm writing to you because my life is dreadful. If the past was my fate, then I'd like to know about my future. Of course, I know I have to make my efforts but at the moment, I'm lost. Eugenia... I don't know this topic is ok to be consulted, but I wish I would get some hopes from you. I'm not sure whether you can read my letter since you are too far away, but just giving me a reply will help me a lot. I believe you'll reply to my letter even though you are busy.
KJK
Dear KJK
Your family's charts indicate that their lives and home environment will improve next summer however in your chart it appears to be before that time. You have been going through very difficult transits that were unfortunate due to the deceptive individuals you were working with. Your chart does indicate that regardless of what actually did occur you would be penalized for the bad debt. You could have been institutionalized had you not been honest. Although you are still going through many changes I believe that over the course of the next two to three years your life will improve dramatically. You should be able to get yourself back on track. You do have to be careful who you deal with however because you were born with an aspect in your chart that will almost always lead to deceptive partnerships, friendships etc. You are best to do your own thing and to work by yourself. Your addiction problem is the first thing that you have to deal with. One of the reasons you aren't sleeping has to do with the alcohol content in your body. It has become a viscous circle. You drink to relax, forget and sleep and those are the very things that the alcohol will disrupt. In fact it is probably the main source of your agitation and inability to sleep. I suggest that the first thing you do is to seek help for your addiction. You have a strong will and a decent chart. You are bright, sensitive and you have a family that needs to know that you can pull yourself out of this mental depression and addiction. It may not be easy but if you act now and join a group that deals with addictions you will have your problem under control in no time and you will be able to take advantage of the good transits coming up in your chart next year. The fact that you reached out to me is the first step. Get yourself moving, motivated and in control. I know you can do it. I suggest that you try to start a small in house business on the side and build it up to a point that your wife will be able to stay at home and run that business for you in the future. If your real estate job is not bringing in enough money starting looking for a better position, but don't quit what you are doing unless you have another job to go to. Once you stop drinking you will be surprised how much you can accomplish and how much more money you will have. Stop thinking about what you must do, it's time to take action.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I am studying in London and I have been feeling very depressed and lost for quite some time. Even though I tried very hard, I still could not solve the problems. I was born on December 29, 1974 at 1:50am. First of all I want to find out if I have the tendency being a homosexual. I am still in love with a girl I met in university. No matter how she hurts me, I still care about her. I have done so much for her, even more than my ex boyfriend and fianc?e. She makes me lose my senses. After a fight with her, I even had a 1-night stand with a man to satisfy myself. I say to myself that I do not love her but I will secretly look at her email messages. I can lie to my best friend because of her but I cannot give her up. During this year, I will not accept any other man or woman. I want to ask if I am destined to be a homosexual or bisexual? Is she really the love of my life?
Once I think of her, I cannot let go of her. I cannot continue to write. Hope you will give me a reply soonest.
Thank you.
Silly baby
Dear Silly baby
Your chart does indicate that you do swim in both directions sexually. However, I believe that as you mature you will probably find that companionship will be based on friendship as well as family issues. I believe that you need a person in your life that will be loving, kind and share the same interests. This could turn out to be either sex. The fact that you are obsessed with this particular female is not necessarily a good thing. I believe that you have been going through a certain amount of self-deception and denial over the past few years. Now that this particular period has come to an end you should be able to start growing in a direction that will allow you to move on letting this relationship go. Regardless of whether this person is male or female it has not been a healthy connection for you. Prepare to clear your head and sort out what it is that you truly want out of life. Your chart does indicate that you would be a terrific mother and although that might not be on your mind right now it is something that you should consider. If not having children of your own, certainly doing something with children. Your chart is very creative and you show potential where traveling, teaching, communication and working in the medical field is concerned. You are bright, talented and need to focus on what it is you what to be and do along with where it is that you want to live. I believe that you would also do well immigrating to a country that would allow you greater freedom to expand your interests and your horizons.
Eugenia
