We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I'm not sure if this message qualifies for submission, but here is my question. My boyfriend is a Capricorn and I am an Aries, which do not match according to Zodiac signs. But when I complete the romance compatibility we match 99%. So which is right? My birthday is 4/8/70 2pm, His is 1/8/65 don't know time. We don't suffer from the problems stated under a Zodiac match, Aries spending too much and Capricorn being frugal, in fact it is opposite for us. I just want to understand how the zodiac and charts differ so much.
Thank you
confused Aries
Dear Confused Aries
I'm not the least bit surprised that you match up to your Capricorn partner nor that you have some role reversals regarding frugality. Your chart denotes that you only have your natal Sun in Aries and natal Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars and Saturn in the frugal sign Taurus. Your boyfriend only has his natal Sun in the sign Capricorn with his Mercury and Venus in the more easy-going, spend if you want, sign Sagittarius. The fact that your partner also has his Moon and Saturn in the sign Pisces, his Mars, Uranus and Pluto in Virgo with his Jupiter in Taurus and Neptune in Scorpio gives him just enough down to earth qualities to make your relationship sparkle. Most people don't understand the difference between Sun Sign astrology (entertainment and fun) and real time astrology which is more like a fingerprint of a persons character and life. For anyone who really wants to find out how compatible they are to someone else the best way to do so is to use our compatibility feature that will take an in-depth look at each planet in both charts and accurately determine how good you are for one another.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last
I am almost embarrassed to ask for advice. Since I don't like to tell too much information about myself, I hope I can phrase the question right. I have a hard time in terms of my relationship with men. On one hand I want to love and be loved very deeply. It is a very spiritual connection that I crave. On the other hand, as soon as I am in a relationship, I feel suffocated, like the type of relationship society deems proper does not fit my personality. Is it possible for me to find someone who can give me the emotional intensity that I crave with the physical freedom I feel I need? Or are these two things so opposite that I must choose one way to be? I really need to know if I must make a choice, or if I should keep on looking. I am interested in someone right now mainly due to his personal integrity. I don't think he knows that he has caught my attention just yet and I am reluctant to pursue anything right now due to my conflicting needs in a relationship. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. I was born 10/26/68 at 11:22 pm and he was born 05/06/61 at 4:15 am.
Embarrassed
Dear Embarrassed
There are lots of people who want to have their cake and eat it too. The main concern is honesty. The comparison with your Taurus friend was quite favorable and it didn't really show any major sign of sorrow therefore I see no reason not to pursue him unless of course you are also working with him professionally. I suggest that should you decide to move forward that you are right up front about your desires and needs so that you give him the choice to bow out if he can't handle the freedom you require. I don't believe that you can turn off a switch and become totally monogamous if that isn't the way you are. Therefore you are best to search openly and honestly for someone who shares your values and sexual needs. Don't be embarrassed; lots of people feel the same way you do. You are in a high cycle regarding love however I must stress that you should not mix business with pleasure.
EugeniaDear Eugenia,
I have been in love with my husband for a very long time. Our relationship has weathered many ups and downs but the past few years have been particularly difficult. He has been unfaithful and is currently unable to make a decision between staying and recommitting to our marriage or not. I was born on april29/55 (@ 5:55pm). He is a Scorpio (November 17/55). With all that we have been through (on a variety of levels) my heart still hopes for an honest chance at happiness. I can't bear this pain.
Together or Not
Dear Together or Not
I can understand your position. As a Taurus with a strong Cancer and Scorpio influence you don't really relish disruptions of any kind especially when it has to do with your home, family and security. The comparison with your husband was okay but it did lack some pizzazz. He may be a Scorpio but when it comes to love and romance he has his natal Venus in the sign Sagittarius and that is usually an indication that married or not he will always be a bachelor at heart. I think it's time to set him free and get on with your life. You have a lot to offer and can still find love and romance with someone more worthy of your loyalty, dedication and devotion. You need to start doing the activities you used to enjoy, get back into the swing of things. It may be frightening at first but you will be fine. Keep in mind that it can be extremely lonely living with someone who pays little attention to you. You deserve more and you can have it. Your chart indicates that it's time to focus on yourself and your future. I feel that if your husband saw you as a challenge he may want to reconcile, however if I were you, I'd think long and hard before I'd jump into that situation again. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Take note that the Scorpio in your husband's chart is what initially attracted you, not the Sagittarius. Another Scorpio with his natal Venus in Scorpio, Capricorn or Virgo would probably match up quite nicely.
Eugenia
