We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have become a member of your web site since Feb. this year. I really appreciate your web site. It helps me answer many of my questions.Now, I am facing a very difficult situation with my husband. We had been dating for almost 4 years before we got married. During dating, I discovered that he had not been faithful to me. But we still got married later on.We got married Feb. 2000 and shortly after, I got a job offer far away from where we live, so I had to move. My husband and I try to meet each other every weekend, either he comes to visit me or I go back home. We have been doing this since Feb. Recently, I feel myself not trusting my husband. I always feel that he is not honest with me or that he doesn't care about me, love me. This feeling is driving me crazy and of course makes me angry a lot too. I am really not sure about our marriage. I am not sure whether we can keep this marriage together or not. I have tried everything. I could not communicate with him, but, a lot of time, I feel that he is just trying to cover up and not really telling me the truth! Please reply to my question and give me guidance on what can I do to save my marriage?? Thank you very much for your help! I was born in July 30, 1970 sometime around 2:00 am. My husband was born in Dec. 13, 1965.
Confuse and sad
Dear Confuse and sad
The comparison with your husband wasn't bad however it did show signs of emotional and mental dishonesty. This could be based on several different reasons. He could be afraid of the reaction that he gets from you when you are suspicious. Your chart also indicates that you can be just as evasive or dishonest with him regarding some matters. You say that you can't communicate and unfortunately that is what it will take in order to get past all this confusion. You must sit down and talk about your needs, desires and future intentions before you can move forward. This relationship can work but it will take an effort on both your part and his. His chart does show that he can be charming as well as a bit of a flirt, but that doesn't mean that he will follow through. Right now he does have transiting Neptune sitting on his natal Venus and that can cause sorrow for him along with escapism, indulgence and yes even poor choices regarding love and romance. If he is lonely he may seek comfort with someone who is closer to home during this period but if he is a creative person he may also put this energy into artsy projects. Most important is that you sit down and communicate openly and honestly if you really want your relationship to withstand the distance between you. Your chart indicates that making a move back home or having him come to live with you permanently is a possibility in the fall. If you really love one another I would suggest that you strive to make this happen.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
My story is very similar to the earlier soul mate story. I was told by astrologers/tarot readers that I would meet a man who will have a link with Mexico and Kingston. He would be dark with dark eyes and be a fantastic cook. I was also informed that I would meet him in my late 20's and it would be love at first sight across a crowded bar. This was not only one person that told me this but four in different locations within the UK. I set my heart on meeting this man and this was my destiny. One Thursday, I was asked to go out for a drink by some friends. I was not in the mood, however, I picked myself up and went out. I felt very intuitive that day and excited knowing something was going to happen. In the pub, I met up with many friends old and new. As I turned to walk towards the bar I could see out of the corner of my eye a man looking at me. I melted! Why me, I thought. He came over to me and looked into my eyes. I knew it was him before we had spoken to each other as immediately we had recognized each other. We sat and talked infatuated by each other for the rest of the evening. He then told me he was working in Kingston and had worked in the armed forces in Mexico for 3 years. Also, he wanted to cook for me! We started to see each other for which I can say this was the best time of my life. He was charming, fun and very exciting. After 2 months of seeing each other he told me that he had to work away and that he needed time. I was devastated, as I had set my heart on traveling with him around the world.Since our conversation, we never spoke again. I have seen him in different pubs and we still keep appearing in the same places at the same time. Maybe I am looking too deeply into this, but I would really appreciate a response to this letter as I feel I have poured my heart out and I am in desperate need for advice. I was born on the 14th August 1973 and he was born on the 28th April 1966. Please help!
Leo/Taurus
Dear Leo/Taurus
This could be your dream man. Regarding your mental, physical and emotional connection you match up nicely however where anger and energy are concerned problems are evident with this man. You are coming into a period later this month and throughout June that will be conducive to love and romance flourishing so don't rule him out or anyone else who approaches you during this time. Your chart also indicates that you are best to marry later in life as opposed to earlier. The period of time that was being referred to by other astrologers was when you go through your Saturn return and that is just about to begin during the second half of July. If this man hasn't come to you by this time consider approaching him. If he doesn't respond carry on because you will be in a hot cycle for meeting someone that is even better for you. You match up well to those born under the sign Taurus, Cancer and Scorpio.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I hope very much that you can help me. I was born on 26 December 1963 at 3.35 AM and my ex-boyfriend was born 10 January 1967. We have been together for four or so years and he has just told me that we are finished. He has always been a 'closed book' as far as feelings go or showing them at least. He told me that while he misses me and 90% of the time he is happy with me, there are certain characteristics of mine that he cannot stand. The main being, and I admit this - I tend to overindulge in alcohol on occasions. He feels that I have a problem with this and will not tolerate it any longer.
We don't live together and I have always felt that I was the one giving a lot more than him. We live in a small country town where gossip is rife and unfortunately a lot of people have nothing more to do than embellish.My childhood was odd and I have recently lost my brother and I feel that these things influence my behavior at times.
I asked him if I had lost him forever and he replied that we both had a lot of thinking do.
Please help me. I am so lost and sad and while I believe in taking responsibility for my actions - is there any chance for us?
EllyMM
Dear EllyMM
Your comparison was certainly good enough to make it work however I worry that too much has happened for him to turn back. Your chart indicates that you are and have been going through a period of over indulgence that does need to be stopped. I believe that he is truly concerned for you and just can't take how you react when under the influence. It's time to pull your act together and hope that it's not too late to win him back. You do have a transit moving through your chart until the Spring of next year that indicates that people from your past are likely to come back into your life but you will have to work hard for it to be him. He will be experiencing a similar transit so the possibility if you take all the right steps is present. I suggest that you stop indulging all together in order to save yourself a lot of grief in the future.
Eugenia
