We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Learning to Communicate from a Distance

Dear Eugenia,

I have become a member of your web site since Feb. this year. I really appreciate your web site. It helps me answer many of my questions.Now, I am facing a very difficult situation with my husband. We had been dating for almost 4 years before we got married. During dating, I discovered that he had not been faithful to me. But we still got married later on.We got married Feb. 2000 and shortly after, I got a job offer far away from where we live, so I had to move. My husband and I try to meet each other every weekend, either he comes to visit me or I go back home. We have been doing this since Feb. Recently, I feel myself not trusting my husband. I always feel that he is not honest with me or that he doesn't care about me, love me. This feeling is driving me crazy and of course makes me angry a lot too. I am really not sure about our marriage. I am not sure whether we can keep this marriage together or not. I have tried everything. I could not communicate with him, but, a lot of time, I feel that he is just trying to cover up and not really telling me the truth! Please reply to my question and give me guidance on what can I do to save my marriage?? Thank you very much for your help! I was born in July 30, 1970 sometime around 2:00 am. My husband was born in Dec. 13, 1965.

Confuse and sad

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Dear Confuse and sad

The comparison with your husband wasn't bad however it did show signs of emotional and mental dishonesty. This could be based on several different reasons. He could be afraid of the reaction that he gets from you when you are suspicious. Your chart also indicates that you can be just as evasive or dishonest with him regarding some matters. You say that you can't communicate and unfortunately that is what it will take in order to get past all this confusion. You must sit down and talk about your needs, desires and future intentions before you can move forward. This relationship can work but it will take an effort on both your part and his. His chart does show that he can be charming as well as a bit of a flirt, but that doesn't mean that he will follow through. Right now he does have transiting Neptune sitting on his natal Venus and that can cause sorrow for him along with escapism, indulgence and yes even poor choices regarding love and romance. If he is lonely he may seek comfort with someone who is closer to home during this period but if he is a creative person he may also put this energy into artsy projects. Most important is that you sit down and communicate openly and honestly if you really want your relationship to withstand the distance between you. Your chart indicates that making a move back home or having him come to live with you permanently is a possibility in the fall. If you really love one another I would suggest that you strive to make this happen.

Eugenia

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Article: Ball of Confusion

Hi Eugenia,

I am studying in London and I have been feeling very depressed and lost for quite some time. Even though I tried very hard, I still could not solve the problems. I was born on December 29, 1974 at 1:50am. First of all I want to find out if I have the tendency being a homosexual. I am still in love with a girl I met in university. No matter how she hurts me, I still care about her. I have done so much for her, even more than my ex boyfriend and fianc?e. She makes me lose my senses. After a fight with her, I even had a 1-night stand with a man to satisfy myself. I say to myself that I do not love her but I will secretly look at her email messages. I can lie to my best friend because of her but I cannot give her up. During this year, I will not accept any other man or woman. I want to ask if I am destined to be a homosexual or bisexual? Is she really the love of my life?

Once I think of her, I cannot let go of her. I cannot continue to write. Hope you will give me a reply soonest.

Thank you.
Silly baby

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Dear Silly baby

Your chart does indicate that you do swim in both directions sexually. However, I believe that as you mature you will probably find that companionship will be based on friendship as well as family issues. I believe that you need a person in your life that will be loving, kind and share the same interests. This could turn out to be either sex. The fact that you are obsessed with this particular female is not necessarily a good thing. I believe that you have been going through a certain amount of self-deception and denial over the past few years. Now that this particular period has come to an end you should be able to start growing in a direction that will allow you to move on letting this relationship go. Regardless of whether this person is male or female it has not been a healthy connection for you. Prepare to clear your head and sort out what it is that you truly want out of life. Your chart does indicate that you would be a terrific mother and although that might not be on your mind right now it is something that you should consider. If not having children of your own, certainly doing something with children. Your chart is very creative and you show potential where traveling, teaching, communication and working in the medical field is concerned. You are bright, talented and need to focus on what it is you what to be and do along with where it is that you want to live. I believe that you would also do well immigrating to a country that would allow you greater freedom to expand your interests and your horizons.

Eugenia

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Article: From Gemini

Hi Eugenia

MY HUSBAND HAS HAD AN AFFAIR. I need to know if it is over. I need to know if he plans to stay around, and if so, for how long. Is he just pacifying me till things blow-over. I need to know what else he is hiding. He is a Pisces born Feb 22 1957 and I am a Gemini born May 23 1957 at 1:30 am. I do not know his time of birth. I also need to know if I will be winning any money in the next three months. Will this money be enough to keep me going through an impending divorce?

Gemini

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Hi Gemini

I do not know how many years the two of you have managed to stay together but I must admit the comparison is not very good especially from a physical aspect. Although your husband is capable of having an affair and he is probably still is in the midst of it he doesn't have the type of chart that is any more inclined to do so than yours. You are both in a high cycle between now and the end of the summer of next year regarding love, relationships etc. This can mean that you will both find new partners or that you will try to get the relationship you have with one another back on track. I have seen plenty of couples that don't match up all that well astrologically have a long and lasting union so if you feel you have any love left for on another consider giving it one last try between now and the spring of next year. If it still isn't working move on. I suggest that you talk to your lawyer and gather all the information you require regarding your husbands assets so that you are prepared to win a good settlement. Your husband does keep secrets from you regarding what he is up to, how he feels and how much he is worth or makes. Your chart indicates that you do have some high cycles coming up during the later part of next year regarding coming into money however that could be a divorce settlement, insurance It's most likely that it will be one of the first five possibilities. Your chart does indicate that the dynamic of the situation in your home is changing this year and that your husband will be emotionally uncertain as to what he should do. The turn of the year will be particularly explosive for him. He does appear to show some abusive tendencies and you should not put yourself in harms way.

Eugenia

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