We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have become a member of your web site since Feb. this year. I really appreciate your web site. It helps me answer many of my questions.Now, I am facing a very difficult situation with my husband. We had been dating for almost 4 years before we got married. During dating, I discovered that he had not been faithful to me. But we still got married later on.We got married Feb. 2000 and shortly after, I got a job offer far away from where we live, so I had to move. My husband and I try to meet each other every weekend, either he comes to visit me or I go back home. We have been doing this since Feb. Recently, I feel myself not trusting my husband. I always feel that he is not honest with me or that he doesn't care about me, love me. This feeling is driving me crazy and of course makes me angry a lot too. I am really not sure about our marriage. I am not sure whether we can keep this marriage together or not. I have tried everything. I could not communicate with him, but, a lot of time, I feel that he is just trying to cover up and not really telling me the truth! Please reply to my question and give me guidance on what can I do to save my marriage?? Thank you very much for your help! I was born in July 30, 1970 sometime around 2:00 am. My husband was born in Dec. 13, 1965.
Confuse and sad
Dear Confuse and sad
The comparison with your husband wasn't bad however it did show signs of emotional and mental dishonesty. This could be based on several different reasons. He could be afraid of the reaction that he gets from you when you are suspicious. Your chart also indicates that you can be just as evasive or dishonest with him regarding some matters. You say that you can't communicate and unfortunately that is what it will take in order to get past all this confusion. You must sit down and talk about your needs, desires and future intentions before you can move forward. This relationship can work but it will take an effort on both your part and his. His chart does show that he can be charming as well as a bit of a flirt, but that doesn't mean that he will follow through. Right now he does have transiting Neptune sitting on his natal Venus and that can cause sorrow for him along with escapism, indulgence and yes even poor choices regarding love and romance. If he is lonely he may seek comfort with someone who is closer to home during this period but if he is a creative person he may also put this energy into artsy projects. Most important is that you sit down and communicate openly and honestly if you really want your relationship to withstand the distance between you. Your chart indicates that making a move back home or having him come to live with you permanently is a possibility in the fall. If you really love one another I would suggest that you strive to make this happen.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia,
I really don't know how to dress this up to sound any different than a million other peoples problem but my financial situation has been so bad for so long now I really am losing all hope of ever getting back up off the floor. I really do value your input as you correctly told me the outcome of a relationship I thought was rock solid.
I'm a divorced dad, live alone and have a mountain of debt thanks to loans to keep myself afloat. Trouble is I'm sinking again. And please believe me when I tell you I am careful with money to the point of boredom.
Do you see any point for me to keep coming back or is this my lot in life?
Thank you for your time Eugenia. I was born March 26, 1961, at 1:50 PM.
Down and Out
Hi Down and Out
There does appear to be some relief just around the corner. The transit began August 10th and will continue with you until October 9th. It denotes that you can make some financial changes through career choices. You should be trying to do one of two things or both. Pick up another job or look for one that will pay you more and although you may say been there, tried that, in the past it probably would not have done you any good but over the course of the next two months it is apparent that you should be able to up your income if you apply for a better position or take on an extra job. That will at least help you get out of the hole you are in. With Mars being closest to the earth that it has been in 60,000 years and Jupiter quickly moving into the sign Jupiter opposite Mars there is a lot of anxiety that people are undergoing right now. In your case it does fall in an area that deals with how you earn your living and what you do with the money you earn. I do believe that you are careful with your cash but I also believe that there are other means that you can take to make your money stretch. The area of your chart that deals with investments is stabilizing and where property, dealing with other people's money, taxes rebates, insurance surrenders, inheritances, winnings and coming into money that you don't physically work for is now moving into a much higher cycle. This can also be a time that you discover that you have an asset that you either forgot about or that you realize you can turn over in order to consolidate your debt. You must be creative in your financial thinking and don't be afraid to invest a little in yourself. You may be able to offer a service on the side that will enable you to turn some of the negatives in your life into positives. I know that your chart has gone through some very difficult times financially the past two to three years but put that behind you and start to concentrate on what you have to offer. Now is the time to make your moves my friend. You have two months to do so. Don't give up now when the tables are just about to turn. It's up to you to initiate these changes and make them so. The time is right, so get moving. Please let me know how you do.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have written to you before and received no answer. I realize that I am somewhat prone to depression but I am trying to change. I have discovered that my husband has been carrying on with another woman. He said that he would not do it again but last night when I picked up the phone to use it he was going to leave a message on a woman's answering machine. Is this the behavior that I can expect from him? Will he always be unfaithful? His birth date is July 5, 1965 at 3:30 pm, mine is June 24, 1964 at 4:30 AM.
Truth seeker
Dear Truth seeker
To be perfectly honest your comparison wasn't the greatest. Nor was it the most passionate. You fall in an area of his chart that deals with dead end projects therefore it has probably been along time since the two of you have felt passionate about one another. I believe it is time to get some help. If he isn't willing to go to a marriage counselor it may be too late to save what might be left. Your chart is coming into a make it or break it period of your marriage however your husband's chart has been going through this for the past couple of years. I believe that with both of you being Cancer's neither one of you want to let go of what you have yet you are really not much of a couple anymore. You really need to get to the bottom of your problems and determine if you can or cannot find the passion that you once had. The depression that you are going through is warranted with Saturn moving through your twelfth house and onward toward your ascendant. If you have followed my work in the past you will know how strongly I feel about not being a downer to be with. You must get help for your depression. No one wants to spend time with someone who is always down, negative and nagging. If you want to turn things around you must work on yourself as well. This is not the time to sit in the kitchen eating and lamenting over the way you were but instead the time to get out to the gym, back in the game and feeling good about yourself. Regardless of the outcome of your marriage it is important to make the changes that are controlled by you. Regarding your question. Your husband is quite capable of being dishonest at an emotional level if he isn't satisfied with the person he is with.
Eugenia
