We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Learning to Communicate from a Distance

Dear Eugenia,

I have become a member of your web site since Feb. this year. I really appreciate your web site. It helps me answer many of my questions.Now, I am facing a very difficult situation with my husband. We had been dating for almost 4 years before we got married. During dating, I discovered that he had not been faithful to me. But we still got married later on.We got married Feb. 2000 and shortly after, I got a job offer far away from where we live, so I had to move. My husband and I try to meet each other every weekend, either he comes to visit me or I go back home. We have been doing this since Feb. Recently, I feel myself not trusting my husband. I always feel that he is not honest with me or that he doesn't care about me, love me. This feeling is driving me crazy and of course makes me angry a lot too. I am really not sure about our marriage. I am not sure whether we can keep this marriage together or not. I have tried everything. I could not communicate with him, but, a lot of time, I feel that he is just trying to cover up and not really telling me the truth! Please reply to my question and give me guidance on what can I do to save my marriage?? Thank you very much for your help! I was born in July 30, 1970 sometime around 2:00 am. My husband was born in Dec. 13, 1965.

Confuse and sad

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Dear Confuse and sad

The comparison with your husband wasn't bad however it did show signs of emotional and mental dishonesty. This could be based on several different reasons. He could be afraid of the reaction that he gets from you when you are suspicious. Your chart also indicates that you can be just as evasive or dishonest with him regarding some matters. You say that you can't communicate and unfortunately that is what it will take in order to get past all this confusion. You must sit down and talk about your needs, desires and future intentions before you can move forward. This relationship can work but it will take an effort on both your part and his. His chart does show that he can be charming as well as a bit of a flirt, but that doesn't mean that he will follow through. Right now he does have transiting Neptune sitting on his natal Venus and that can cause sorrow for him along with escapism, indulgence and yes even poor choices regarding love and romance. If he is lonely he may seek comfort with someone who is closer to home during this period but if he is a creative person he may also put this energy into artsy projects. Most important is that you sit down and communicate openly and honestly if you really want your relationship to withstand the distance between you. Your chart indicates that making a move back home or having him come to live with you permanently is a possibility in the fall. If you really love one another I would suggest that you strive to make this happen.

Eugenia

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Article: From gabituca

Dear Eugenia,

I am really lost in my life and I don't know what to do. I was born on 03/21/1967 at 1:00am. Two years ago I left my country to live in Mexico together with my daughter (06/16/1989-7:26pm). We lived there for almost one year and we were happy. After some time I met a men who lives in US and we got married. Now we are living in US but the situation is very difficult for me and my daughter. Because my husband (01/31/1959-2:50 am) is only permanent resident here, we have to wait for the immigration process between 5 and 7 years. Meanwhile my daughter and I cannot have a legal status and it was impossible to find other ways to be legal. This means that I cannot work legally, I am 100% dependent of my husband, I feel very lonely and depressed. We don't have family around, we don't have friends. My husband is a very difficult man, grumpy, without any sense of humor, the macho style, stingy, he wants somebody to take care of him, to cook for him, to respect him, he needs a woman that can replace his mother. I caught him right after the wedding, last year, by mistake, that he receives a lot of emails from a lot of women, very loving emails...you know...I was very hurt and upset for a long time. He lived alone for many years and he told me that he was looking for a relationship and even after he said to everybody that he is married and happy now, these women are still writing to him and he doesn't know what to do with them. Can you believe that? Because I didn't...his behavior with my daughter is very bad. He is very rude with her. She is a very nice teenager, brilliant at school, very smart. Everybody loves her except him. She is doing all the time a big effort to please him, but nothing seems to be right for him. He recognizes that she is very intelligent but always he says that she is not doing enough and he puts a lot of pressure on her. I tried hundreds of times to explain to him that his behavior is wrong, but he still thinks he is perfect and his skills like a parent are perfect. In my opinion he doesn't have any skills and he doesn't want to learn anyway.

He was very sick in the last months, he had open heart surgery, and I helped him a lot in his recovery...he was not able to do anything by himself...Even if he recognizes that me and my daughter were very close to him during all this hard time that he had, his behavior doesn't change...is the same grumpy, rude and without manners person.

My daughter and I?are thinking to leave him, but the problem is that we don't have anywhere to go. We cannot return to Mexico, because we don't have anything there anymore, and is the same situation for my country too.

I would not like to divorce (it will be the third one in my life), I really want to work out this relationship, I really want to help him learn how to be a nice person, I really want to have a nice family...He tells me that he loves me, but it seems to be so difficult for him to show that...

What do you see in my horoscope regarding this situation? Do you think that I will be able to find the way to fix all this problems? I don't want to see my daughter unhappy...I don't want to be unhappy too... what do you think about that?

Thank you very much,?
gabituca

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Dear gabituca

The astrological comparison that you have with your husband really is quite good. There is some sorrow in an area that deals with children. I believe that his problem is that he was used to living alone and although he craved having a woman in his life a ready made family was not really what he wanted. He fell in love with you and your daughter was something he had to tolerate. It isn?t that he has a bad comparison with her ? in fact it is actually quite favorable however the problem is he can?t wrap his head around the idea of having to deal with the normal life changes that having a teenager around the house brings with it. For you i

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Article: The Secret of Success

Dear Eugenia,

I was born on October 25, 1962 at 1:20 p.m. and I am writing you to see if you can help me. I have had a pretty rough life, and decided three years ago that I would do what I have always wanted and that is to be an actress. I have since been on television and film sets and have seen numerous people that others would love to see, and have actually met a few and had conversations with them. That is all fine and grand, but I have had a job offer from a Model Management company and am now the regional manager for them. What I want to know is am I ever going to get a speaking part for television or film and make it as a working actress. I really want to make this life time dream come true. I am starting college in January to get a degree in Dramatic Arts. I have been approached by clairvoyants telling me they can help me, that I am in my lucky time and they can help me succeed, but they of course want money that I don't have. So could you please tell me if I am on the right path and if I will ever make it as a working actress. This has been my life long dream and I want it very badly, more than anything in life. Could you please help and help me with your insight to this matter.

Struggling Star

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Dear Struggling Star

You are coming into a high cycle regarding career and professional moves. These will begin to occur toward the end of the summer next year and continue for approximately five years. It will be important to give it your all and to do the appropriate leg-work in order to get to where you want to go. Hard work, determination and pushing to meet the right people will be required. You have been and will continue to be in a high cycle regarding your educational pursuits for the better part of next year. Success is not always measured by fame and fortune it is truly the person who loves what they do for a living that is successful. Therefore consider your reason for wanting to pursue this career because it isn't an easy path. I do feel that your chart denotes that you have to do something unusual with your life and that you are extremely talented, dedicated and certainly engaging enough to capture an audience but the key will be to emanate how much you love what you do. I'll be watching for your name, good luck.

Eugenia

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