We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia:
First of all let me say that I think you are wonderful to provide the services that you do. I love being able to check on things for myself every day. I know there are many people out there that need your advice so if my letter doesn't get chosen I thank you anyway. I could really use your help though. I am a 43yr old Pisces born 2/23/57 @10:33pm in St. Petersburg FL and I have fallen head over heels for a fellow Pisces born 3/15/50 in Fayetteville NC. We get along great most of the time, but occasionally we really rub each other the wrong way. My man makes it clear that he doesn't want a serious relationship. He has been through some really horrible past as have I which tends to make both of us rather skittish of emotions. We have been involved for the last 7 months(although if you ask him he'd tell you he's not involved with anyone). He has always been a real Romeo, but hasn't been with anyone but me since this all started. Sorry to ramble so, I just want you to understand it all.
He and I had a falling out last week and I haven't heard from him since then. I have seen him a couple of times because he showed up at the same places where I was out with friends. I just need to know will we get past this rough spot? I really feel that I have finally found my soul mate, but he has such deep seated issues from his past relationships I don't know how to get through to him sometimes. I really care for this man and only want what's best for him. Of course I have to admit I think that's me. How do I get through to him? Will we get past this recent falling out? Should I make overtures to make things better or am I just fooling myself? Everything I have checked out on your site says we are compatible, but I am really at a loss as to how to proceed. I could really use your advice. I'm not asking if you think we should continue. I know we should. It's just how to get there and overcome these obstacles that I need help on. Thanks for reading all of this. I truly appreciate it.
Yours truly,
Pisces in a Pickle
Dear Pisces in a Pickle
I hate to backtrack but the comparison between you and your Pisces friend is only adequate. Now this does not mean that it can't work but it will take plenty of effort on both your part and his. You are both sensitive and tend to back away from issues that you don't feel comfortable discussing. I suggest that you rectify your problems quickly by talking it through before it gets blown out of proportion. It's obvious that he still cares or he wouldn't show up in places that you are likely to be. Your chart indicates that you are going through a make it or break it period in your relationship. It is important to decide if you want to be with him or not and make it so. Your chart also denotes that you will be in a high cycle for love and relationships next year so don't feel that this is your last chance for love. You have plenty to offer and will match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn as well as another Pisces. I must caution however that with the planets Jupiter and Saturn slowly moving into the sign Gemini over the next year you may find it difficult for you and your Pisces friend to agree.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I read my horoscope - Gemini. Today's date is 7/13/02. My Birthday is May 26,1991 at 4:37 PM. I know I seem young but I read my horoscope and it said (I'll break it down to my own words) It said to avoid any dispute with a family member even though one of them is hiding something, and don't make any money deals. Can you just tell me what that meant???
Gemini
Dear Gemini
First of all the caption means that someone in your family may try to pick a fight with you. That this person is probably also withholding information as well and is trying to divert your attention from this information by arguing with you about other things. At your age money deals refer to making small bets with friends, spending your allowance all in one place or borrowing from one of your friends when you aren't sure that you can pay him or her back. The daily horoscope is not that cut and dry. You may be a Gemini by sun sign but that's where it ends in your chart. You have your Moon and Pluto in the sign Scorpio in your 2nd house, Libra rising, Uranus and Neptune in Capricorn in your 3rd house, Saturn in Aquarius in your 4th house, Mercury in Taurus in your 7th house, the Sun in Gemini in your 8th house, Venus in Cancer in your 9th house and Mars and Jupiter in Leo in your 10th house. Your chart consists of many different factors. Because you have what I refer to as split houses you should be reading two different signs relating to different areas of your life when dealing with houses in your chart that do not have planets in them. In your case you should be reading the sign Libra/Scorpio in the daily horoscope column for the way you feel on any given day. You should be reading the sign Scorpio if it is an issue that relates to how you can make some money or your early childhood. You should be reading the sign Capricorn for issues relating to your lower education, communications with friends, neighbors or relatives and anything to do with mail, transportation pleasure trips etc. You should be reading the sign Aquarius for issues relating to your home environment and older family members, the sign Aquarius/Pisces regarding social activities, creativity, gambling etc. The sign Pisces/Aries when relating to how well you get along with people you work with, anything to do with a pet that you might have or minor health problems. You should be reading the sign Taurus when it comes to your love relationships. You should read the sign Gemini when it relates to chronic health, money or legal issues etc. The sign Cancer for issues relating to higher education, philosophy, religion, travel in order to learn something new, dealing with people from different backgrounds etc. You should be reading the sign Leo with regards to your position in society and how well you'll do. The sign Leo/Virgo for any issues dealing with worthwhile groups or having favors granted and the signs Virgo/Libra for issues relating to serious health, dealing with institutions, secret enemies, nightmares etc. So as you can see astrology isn't that simple and most people don't realize that they need to read all twelve signs in a daily horoscope in order to get it's true value. The signs that fall in the different areas of a persons chart are unique to that person based on his or her day, month, year, time and place of birth. I hope that this has helped. I will be publishing a new book, hopefully before the end of the year that will help people figure out how to read a daily horoscope column properly.
Eugenia
