We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am trying to fight blatant employment discrimination. Each time I submit a document, appeal, etc. my horoscope shows encouragement & success. The next day, each time, legal problems, trouble, etc. shows up. Pretty accurate, too. Is my timing off? Everything is actually documented, but no one will read or listen. It's as if I'm CAUSING the legal trouble in my horoscope each time I try to fight. I'm being blackballed so badly & long; I have to leave the state. Any advice?
Poor Timing
Dear Poor Timing
You have the Sun, Mercury, Venus and Mars in the sign Aquarius with your natal Neptune in Scorpio and Moon in Taurus making this a particularly difficult time to make the right choices. The transits that have been causing these misfortunes have left you confused. Although the transit that was causing uncertainties and sudden and unexpected changes and developments has moved on it has been replaced with a slow moving transiting Neptune that causes deception, disillusionment and confusion. It will require you to think things through carefully. You would be best to rely on a trusted friend or colleague who can help you make better choices over the next couple of years. Unfortunately this transit can also cause self-deception making it difficult for you to recognize that you may be creating your problems to some degree. Try to step back and don't hesitate to seek help. If you can do something that is creative you will find it much easier to deal with this particular cycle. An outlet is needed in order to counteract some of the dilemmas that you are facing. Regarding making a move, it's not a bad idea. Your travel and change of state, country or province looks good and it might be exactly what you need in order to get on with your life. You are also coming into a high cycle regarding love and romance. If you are already in a relationship it can flourish at this time, if you aren't in one, it will be a good time to meet someone who will be good for you. You match up well to those born under the sign Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have two babies, a 36-month-old boy and a 20-month old girl. Their father has been an addiction of mine for four years. Just when I think I have finally made it to a place in my life where I can let go of him; I am pregnant again. I am torn between continuing in this one-sided relationship for the sake of our children, who adore him, while having another baby; or not; and disconnecting from him completely. I was born 7/6/65 at 5:30 EST and he was born 1/20/63 at 8:30p.m. PST. I fear that if I don?t walk away soon, I never will; but I feel like it is better the devil you know, then the devil you don?t know. I would really appreciate some guidance. I am afraid I won?t make the best decision for my two babies. He isn?t very kind to me; he is very abusive, distrustful and threatening. It has taken a long time and a lot of distance to break down, a little, his control of my emotions and feelings of self worth. I really need some ones insight into his character strengths and weaknesses and what is in store for our future.
Please respond
Dear Please respond
I can see your dilemma. I call this set up meeting your messiah. In other words you are so connected to this man you can?t help yourself and yet he is not good for you. The comparison was quite something, filled with love, hate, passion, deception, sorrow and so on. It is apparent that when he is feeling guilty, because he has done something that he probably shouldn?t, like cheats on you, he becomes abusive to cover it up. It is important that you don?t raise your children in this setting or they will grow up thinking that this is the way people should treat one another. I do not believe that your love is one-sided but I do believe that this man is not good for you. You are coming into a period that will be even more difficult where relationships are concerned. You can use this period to take further abuse from him or you can use this period to get out on your own with your children and start a new life. Neither will be easy but the later will certainly lead to a better future for you and your children. Opportunities for you to meet someone else are apparent and I believe you should do just that. It will help you forget about your abusive partner. Your chart also indicates that you are not likely to be with just one partner throughout your life. There is also evidence in your chart that you do attract men who will try to control and confine you. I suggest that you have an astrological evaluation done prior to giving your heart to the next man you want to become intimate with. Build on friendship first and you?ll stand a better chance of developing a long lasting union. You are coming into a high cycle where work and money are concerned. I feel confident that if you put your energy into your work, your children, your new home and meeting new friends and lovers you will find that your life will unfold quite nicely as we go into the year 2001. It sometimes helps to make a list of all the reasons that you feel that you should not be with your ex. Like the things he brings out in you that you don?t like and the things he does that you can?t live with. Every time he tries to contact you or you want to contact him pull out your list and read it just to remind yourself why you left him.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have written to you before and received no answer. I realize that I am somewhat prone to depression but I am trying to change. I have discovered that my husband has been carrying on with another woman. He said that he would not do it again but last night when I picked up the phone to use it he was going to leave a message on a woman's answering machine. Is this the behavior that I can expect from him? Will he always be unfaithful? His birth date is July 5, 1965 at 3:30 pm, mine is June 24, 1964 at 4:30 AM.
Truth seeker
Dear Truth seeker
To be perfectly honest your comparison wasn't the greatest. Nor was it the most passionate. You fall in an area of his chart that deals with dead end projects therefore it has probably been along time since the two of you have felt passionate about one another. I believe it is time to get some help. If he isn't willing to go to a marriage counselor it may be too late to save what might be left. Your chart is coming into a make it or break it period of your marriage however your husband's chart has been going through this for the past couple of years. I believe that with both of you being Cancer's neither one of you want to let go of what you have yet you are really not much of a couple anymore. You really need to get to the bottom of your problems and determine if you can or cannot find the passion that you once had. The depression that you are going through is warranted with Saturn moving through your twelfth house and onward toward your ascendant. If you have followed my work in the past you will know how strongly I feel about not being a downer to be with. You must get help for your depression. No one wants to spend time with someone who is always down, negative and nagging. If you want to turn things around you must work on yourself as well. This is not the time to sit in the kitchen eating and lamenting over the way you were but instead the time to get out to the gym, back in the game and feeling good about yourself. Regardless of the outcome of your marriage it is important to make the changes that are controlled by you. Regarding your question. Your husband is quite capable of being dishonest at an emotional level if he isn't satisfied with the person he is with.
Eugenia
