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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Many years ago I consulted an astrologer about my chances of marrying happily, and he replied, "Do you really want to know?" He seemed so evasive and reluctant that I didn't push it. A year or two later I met my husband (9/17/53) and we have been together for nearly fifteen years. I have since learned a little about astrology and decided that the reason the astrologer was so reticent is that I have Neptune in Scorpio in the seventh house. I think this has manifested mostly in my husband's struggles with alcohol; about three years ago he finally made a major effort and got his drinking under control. Unfortunately at the same time-- I wonder if it was the catalyst-- I reconnected with an old friend (11/11/61) who is in the same line of creative work I am. Although this relationship upset my husband I did not give it up. I realize that this person is a friend and not a suitable candidate for husband/father (we have three children) but I cannot convince my husband that is the case, even though I have been faithful to him and the other relationship is somewhat tenuous. Is it that my husband is being super controlling or am I not being honest? If I give up my friend will my husband go back to drinking? The astrology books are not very reassuring on the Neptune in the seventh house thing, so I wonder if I am stuck with relationship weirdness no matter what, or if I would just be better off being a nun. My birthday is 4/4/65, at 6 AM.
Thank you--
"Doomed by Neptune"
Dear "Doomed by Neptune"
First of all your Neptune may be in your seventh house but it is well aspected to your natal Saturn and Pluto and yes it does oppose your Moon and Jupiter as well but don't lose sight of the fact that the Moon is well aspsected to both Saturn and Pluto as well. This should give you an overall positive skew on your relationship capability. Now you are right regarding partners being of an escapist nature but that doesn't mean that you can't have a successful relationship and that your current partner can't pull his act together. This set up can be highly creative sexually if that's where the energy is put and obviously you and your husband did just that, the result being your three children. With your Neptune Jupiter opposition and of course Jupiter being in your first house you can tend to overreact a bit and may not be totally honest with yourself or your partner at an emotional level. I feel that your past acquaintance is really not the issue as you do not match up to him well. As a matter of fact it is more like a sister brother connection and a strained one at that. Your Scorpio friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects. As for your husband your comparison was okay but sorrow does prevail especially with regard to his drinking problem. With his natal Neptune in an adverse position to his natal Uranus I believe that he could fall off the wagon from time to time. However, it probably won't be the result of your friendship with your Scorpio friend. Your Scorpio however should only be someone that you deal with as a direct result of work and nothing more. If you want your marriage to work you and your husband will have to work together in order to keep his problem under control. If he can't handle it and continually gets inebriated you will have to make a decision based on what's best for you and your children. Your husband falls in an area of your chart that deals with children and partying and that is probably how things started out some 15 years ago however times have changed and he's going to have to pull up his socks or expect to lose his family.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia...
I don't know whether you accept this kind of matter as well but it is quite important for me. These days I'm having weird dreams. Well, I should say scary dreams. I feel like I'm being cursed. I live in an apartment. In my dream, I was sitting in the living room. Suddenly, I looked at my terrace and I found out a cat was looking at me with a nasty face. As I was looking at the cat, she came over and bit my hand. I tried to scream but I couldn't make any sound. There were people in the living room but no one helped me. Another dream is... a cat was chasing me. I was riding a bike with my friend and she was following me. I was riding to where I used to live in my childhood. I ran and ran; after all I was the first one to win in the race. Yesterday, I had a dream about my teeth got stuck in the ice stone.Since I'm getting an interview in May, I care about these dreams because dreaming about teeth and cats are not good. Besides, cats are considered bad. Do you think these dreams are implying something? Can you tell by looking at my chart if there is a reason for me having these nightmares? I was born February 7, 1977, at 5:00 PM.
Upset
Dear Upset
Bad dreams are usually the result of going through stressful times. In your case your imagination is exaggerated. This can result in the nightmares that you are experiencing. You have a good chart and there is no reason why you should be worried or alarmed. Try to relax a little. You will do just fine as long as you focus on your goals and give yourself a chance to excel. Where your career is concerned things look pretty good. Educational pursuits you also show promise. Partnerships and relationships are in a high cycle as well. I think that you are being hard on yourself and that one of the things you should be doing is putting your creative imagination to work for you in a positive manner. Try writing lyrics, poetry or books and see if you can put your talents to work for you. Dreaming about cats and teeth can be forewarning you that obstacles will stand in your way. Prepare yourself well for your interview and you should not have to worry about its outcome. I believe that the stress that you are experiencing is due to uncertainty in your life. Once you have a better idea of your future direction you will probably not have the dreams any more. Just remember, preparation, good organization and planning your future will help you take advantage of all the favorable transits that you will be going through this year. Positive thoughts will lead to positive actions.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I'm a Cancer (7/6/69 2.40 am, Gemini asc.) who's looking for a long-term partner. I tend to look out only for guys of compatible signs, cause I'm thinking that they're the only ones that could yield a healthy long-term relationship. In the last year I find I've been meeting a lot of Libras (clashes with my sun) and Virgos (clashes with my Gemini asc.) but I've not pursued them for the reasons stated. I've read that compatible sun sign relationships are more likely to grow together over the years whereas incompatible sun sign relationships were more likely to grow apart over the years. Am I guilty of Sun sign prejudice (smile), or just taking the astrology thing a little too seriously? Please help.
Nest-building Cancer
Dear Nest-building Cancer
One thing that most people don't realize is that to use astrology to the degree that is required for the purposes of compatibility you must do a complete astrological comparison between yourself and the person you are interested in. This can be done on my www.astroadvice.com website for free. You just need to register to be a member (again, membership is free and also have your partners day, month, year and if possible time and place of birth for complete accuracy). This compatibility feature will give you all the pros and cons of the relationship.
According to the date time and place that you have submitted you are in fact born under the sign Cancer but that's where is ends You have a Taurus ascendant not Gemini, two planets in Virgo well aspected to your Venus in Taurus which makes both Virgo and Taurus a good fit and Uranus in Libra in your fifth house using equal house method and sixth using placidus which means that this sign is better to socialize or work with.
In the area of your chart that deals with partnerships you have the sign Scorpio and this makes that sign Compatible as well. Sagittarius and Gemini fall in your second and eighth house the eighth being dead-end projects and the second an offshoot of the eighth making these signs the least likely especially with the Virgo that you have in your chart. Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, late Capricorn and Pisces should be the better signs for you.
Eugenia
December 26th 2025
Happy Birthday: Plan your actions. You have plenty to gain if you think matters through, consider your needs, and stick to your budget. Change is overdue, but requires guidance if you want to reach your destination of choice. It's up to you to build a strong base, create opportunities, and be true to your word. Uncertainty is the enemy this year, and patience is your virtue. Put your energy into self-improvement and independence. Your numbers are 8, 19, 24, 30, 33, 45, 58.
