We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Many years ago I consulted an astrologer about my chances of marrying happily, and he replied, "Do you really want to know?" He seemed so evasive and reluctant that I didn't push it. A year or two later I met my husband (9/17/53) and we have been together for nearly fifteen years. I have since learned a little about astrology and decided that the reason the astrologer was so reticent is that I have Neptune in Scorpio in the seventh house. I think this has manifested mostly in my husband's struggles with alcohol; about three years ago he finally made a major effort and got his drinking under control. Unfortunately at the same time-- I wonder if it was the catalyst-- I reconnected with an old friend (11/11/61) who is in the same line of creative work I am. Although this relationship upset my husband I did not give it up. I realize that this person is a friend and not a suitable candidate for husband/father (we have three children) but I cannot convince my husband that is the case, even though I have been faithful to him and the other relationship is somewhat tenuous. Is it that my husband is being super controlling or am I not being honest? If I give up my friend will my husband go back to drinking? The astrology books are not very reassuring on the Neptune in the seventh house thing, so I wonder if I am stuck with relationship weirdness no matter what, or if I would just be better off being a nun. My birthday is 4/4/65, at 6 AM.
Thank you--
"Doomed by Neptune"
Dear "Doomed by Neptune"
First of all your Neptune may be in your seventh house but it is well aspected to your natal Saturn and Pluto and yes it does oppose your Moon and Jupiter as well but don't lose sight of the fact that the Moon is well aspsected to both Saturn and Pluto as well. This should give you an overall positive skew on your relationship capability. Now you are right regarding partners being of an escapist nature but that doesn't mean that you can't have a successful relationship and that your current partner can't pull his act together. This set up can be highly creative sexually if that's where the energy is put and obviously you and your husband did just that, the result being your three children. With your Neptune Jupiter opposition and of course Jupiter being in your first house you can tend to overreact a bit and may not be totally honest with yourself or your partner at an emotional level. I feel that your past acquaintance is really not the issue as you do not match up to him well. As a matter of fact it is more like a sister brother connection and a strained one at that. Your Scorpio friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects. As for your husband your comparison was okay but sorrow does prevail especially with regard to his drinking problem. With his natal Neptune in an adverse position to his natal Uranus I believe that he could fall off the wagon from time to time. However, it probably won't be the result of your friendship with your Scorpio friend. Your Scorpio however should only be someone that you deal with as a direct result of work and nothing more. If you want your marriage to work you and your husband will have to work together in order to keep his problem under control. If he can't handle it and continually gets inebriated you will have to make a decision based on what's best for you and your children. Your husband falls in an area of your chart that deals with children and partying and that is probably how things started out some 15 years ago however times have changed and he's going to have to pull up his socks or expect to lose his family.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I came to see you on the show, which was on my birth date of 2002. I came up with my c/l spouse. He even went on camera at the end to say what he thought of the information. His birth date is June 16, 1963; mine September 7, 1964, at 7:22 am. You had concern that with our match up the problems I have been facing for the past seven years that started as he and I started up as a couple, would be not good due to his areas overlapping with mine ie. health.
I watched your show after that to see our taping Show #3 I believe it was because I needed to understand what you had said further. Since that time, my health has gotten considerably worse, and I have no source of income, unless I am approved for CCP disab. I didn't ask for this life. I love him and he me, we have only known hardship since being together. Life is pretty rotten to me why?
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The same problems still exist. With the way your two charts interact with one another it makes the medical and health area of your chart very difficult. I believe that the past two and a half years have probably resulted in health issues for you and I would like to say that your troubles in this area are over but I do believe that you will continue encounter medical problems. Regarding your disability the chance of getting this does appear to be getting better. You should have been working in the health industry, had you done so it may have helped you to ward off some of the transits that you have been fighting for such a long time. Being a health technician or involved in some form of medical research may have helped. Your comparison with your husband will not change and although you may love one another you don't benefit from this connection. Uncertainties will remain. I believe that with the amount of Virgo that you have situated in the twelfth house of your chart with your natal Saturn in Pisces in your sixth that the problems will always be yours not his and that unfortunately his chart having his natal Mercury and Venus in Gemini adversely positioned to your set up in Virgo and Pisces that as long as you are together hardship will prevail. This can make life difficult but if you truly want to be with one another the fight you go through as a couple should pull you closer together even if it does not bring favorable results from a medical standpoint. You also have a tendency to make yourself ill due to worry and stress and this must be something that you work on in order to turn things around. Secondly I suggest that you get involved in some form of educational pursuit that might allow you to pick up the required skills to either work or even volunteer to help out in some form in the medical industry. This more than anything else might help you situation improve. You may not see the value in what I am trying to tell you but I do believe that if you follow suit some improvements will unfold.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I'm only 12 years old. Most adults wouldn't take this serious, but I hope you will. This is my problem. I have two friends. They are both guys. One is my best friend which I will refer to as M, and the other one I'm dating and I will refer to him as R. I kind of had something going on with M, but it was a friendly thing. M doesn't like R, so that makes it hard. Recently M called to tell me I would have to choose. I don't know whom to choose. My birth date and time is May 1, 1988 6:45 p.m. M's birth date is July 8 1988. R's birth date is August 19 1988. Unfortunately I don't have the birth times. I would really appreciate it if you reply to this letter. Thank you for taking your time to read this letter. I hope you give me a reply and advice or clues. Thank you once again!!!
Taurus
Dear Taurus
Both M and R match up in similar ways to your chart. In the case of M he claims to be your friend but proceeds to put an ultimatum on you. A friend wouldn?t do that. Also in your comparison with M deceptiveness is present so it is obvious that he isn?t telling you how he really feels about you. Keep in mind that friends are there forever and lovers come and go. Regarding R the comparison shows sorrow, which means that it will probably end with one of you getting hurt. You have your natal Venus in Gemini and this generally means that you will attract plenty of romantic opportunities throughout your life. You will be coming into a high cycle next year that not only will bring such happenings but will also leave you open to unwanted pregnancy if you aren?t careful. You may be young but one thing can lead to another and before you know it you can find yourself in a whole lot of trouble. You are best to opt for friendship for now. If both M and R are willing to be friends with you, that?s great. If either tries to push for more it should be your cue to end the connection.
Eugenia
