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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Many years ago I consulted an astrologer about my chances of marrying happily, and he replied, "Do you really want to know?" He seemed so evasive and reluctant that I didn't push it. A year or two later I met my husband (9/17/53) and we have been together for nearly fifteen years. I have since learned a little about astrology and decided that the reason the astrologer was so reticent is that I have Neptune in Scorpio in the seventh house. I think this has manifested mostly in my husband's struggles with alcohol; about three years ago he finally made a major effort and got his drinking under control. Unfortunately at the same time-- I wonder if it was the catalyst-- I reconnected with an old friend (11/11/61) who is in the same line of creative work I am. Although this relationship upset my husband I did not give it up. I realize that this person is a friend and not a suitable candidate for husband/father (we have three children) but I cannot convince my husband that is the case, even though I have been faithful to him and the other relationship is somewhat tenuous. Is it that my husband is being super controlling or am I not being honest? If I give up my friend will my husband go back to drinking? The astrology books are not very reassuring on the Neptune in the seventh house thing, so I wonder if I am stuck with relationship weirdness no matter what, or if I would just be better off being a nun. My birthday is 4/4/65, at 6 AM.
Thank you--
"Doomed by Neptune"
Dear "Doomed by Neptune"
First of all your Neptune may be in your seventh house but it is well aspected to your natal Saturn and Pluto and yes it does oppose your Moon and Jupiter as well but don't lose sight of the fact that the Moon is well aspsected to both Saturn and Pluto as well. This should give you an overall positive skew on your relationship capability. Now you are right regarding partners being of an escapist nature but that doesn't mean that you can't have a successful relationship and that your current partner can't pull his act together. This set up can be highly creative sexually if that's where the energy is put and obviously you and your husband did just that, the result being your three children. With your Neptune Jupiter opposition and of course Jupiter being in your first house you can tend to overreact a bit and may not be totally honest with yourself or your partner at an emotional level. I feel that your past acquaintance is really not the issue as you do not match up to him well. As a matter of fact it is more like a sister brother connection and a strained one at that. Your Scorpio friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects. As for your husband your comparison was okay but sorrow does prevail especially with regard to his drinking problem. With his natal Neptune in an adverse position to his natal Uranus I believe that he could fall off the wagon from time to time. However, it probably won't be the result of your friendship with your Scorpio friend. Your Scorpio however should only be someone that you deal with as a direct result of work and nothing more. If you want your marriage to work you and your husband will have to work together in order to keep his problem under control. If he can't handle it and continually gets inebriated you will have to make a decision based on what's best for you and your children. Your husband falls in an area of your chart that deals with children and partying and that is probably how things started out some 15 years ago however times have changed and he's going to have to pull up his socks or expect to lose his family.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I was hoping you could answer two questions regarding my natal chart.
First question:
I was born on the 26th of October, so I am told that means I was born on the cusp of Libra and Scorpio. Does that mean that I have qualities of both equally, or do I possess both Libra and Scorpio qualities, but since my birth date actually falls into Scorpio, am I Scorpio with Libra tendencies.
Second question:
My sun sign falls into the 12th house, but only 2 degrees from my first house. Should I read sun/12th house exclusively, combinations of sun/12/1 or since it is less than 10 degrees away, consider my sun/1st house exclusively.
Thanks for taking the time
Adam
Hi Adam
Your birth time should include DST. If you haven't taken the hour off you should, making your time 6:20 AM. With that in mind you actually have Scorpio rising with your Sun, Mercury and Neptune in Scorpio in your 1st house and Libra in your 12th well hidden. However if you had taken the hour off, allowing for DST (therefore you were actually born at 8:20 AM) your Sun would be in your 12th house with Scorpio rising and both Mercury and Neptune in Scorpio still making the Scorpio influence the strongest. You would however read your Sun as being in the 12th and your rising sign Scorpio with your Mercury in the first in Scorpio and your Neptune in the first in Scorpio. No matter how you slice it your chart does not indicate much of a Libra influence however the sign Virgo is with your natal Venus, Jupiter, Uranus and Pluto situated in that sign.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
How are you? I visit your site every day. I know you are very busy and dare not to write to you. But now I really have a big problem.
I was born on February 25, 1973 at 00:15am, a Pisces. It seems that I have all the characteristics of this sign, especially the fact that I cannot settle down with one man and I can be totally indecisive. Since the age of 13, I have had 15 lovers. The longest one lasted for 10 years and the shortest one was a 1-night stand. I fall in love suddenly, but after several months, I will get bored and start to love someone else. At present, I have 4 lovers: 2 Taurus, 1 Leo and a Scorpio. I also like other men too but they are not my lovers. I am feeling a lot of pain because of this. Many men like me because I am quite good looking. I do not want to play around but I cannot control myself. Is this because I am a Pisces?
Swimming both ways
Dear Swimming both ways
Part of your problem stems from natal Moon and Neptune in your chart being conjunct and adversely aspecting your natal Sun and Saturn. This can definitely lead to affairs of the heart. That coupled with the fact that you have your natal Uranus well aspected to your natal Venus in the air signs Libra and Aquarius means that you will attract plenty of lovers and that you are likely to fall in and out of love suddenly. There is nothing wrong with falling in and out of love while you are young and trying to figure out what you truly want in a partner however there will come a time when you should know and want to settle down. In your case you are going to be experiencing your Saturn return in August, September, October of next year and April and May of 2002. When this happens you will start to mature, especially with regard to love. This should lead you into a committed relationship. You match up best to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Jupiter. The signs Taurus, Leo and Scorpio are fixed signs and they usually hold a grudge so tread carefully dating all these men at the same time. You may have taken on more than you can handle.
Eugenia
