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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Many years ago I consulted an astrologer about my chances of marrying happily, and he replied, "Do you really want to know?" He seemed so evasive and reluctant that I didn't push it. A year or two later I met my husband (9/17/53) and we have been together for nearly fifteen years. I have since learned a little about astrology and decided that the reason the astrologer was so reticent is that I have Neptune in Scorpio in the seventh house. I think this has manifested mostly in my husband's struggles with alcohol; about three years ago he finally made a major effort and got his drinking under control. Unfortunately at the same time-- I wonder if it was the catalyst-- I reconnected with an old friend (11/11/61) who is in the same line of creative work I am. Although this relationship upset my husband I did not give it up. I realize that this person is a friend and not a suitable candidate for husband/father (we have three children) but I cannot convince my husband that is the case, even though I have been faithful to him and the other relationship is somewhat tenuous. Is it that my husband is being super controlling or am I not being honest? If I give up my friend will my husband go back to drinking? The astrology books are not very reassuring on the Neptune in the seventh house thing, so I wonder if I am stuck with relationship weirdness no matter what, or if I would just be better off being a nun. My birthday is 4/4/65, at 6 AM.
Thank you--
"Doomed by Neptune"
Dear "Doomed by Neptune"
First of all your Neptune may be in your seventh house but it is well aspected to your natal Saturn and Pluto and yes it does oppose your Moon and Jupiter as well but don't lose sight of the fact that the Moon is well aspsected to both Saturn and Pluto as well. This should give you an overall positive skew on your relationship capability. Now you are right regarding partners being of an escapist nature but that doesn't mean that you can't have a successful relationship and that your current partner can't pull his act together. This set up can be highly creative sexually if that's where the energy is put and obviously you and your husband did just that, the result being your three children. With your Neptune Jupiter opposition and of course Jupiter being in your first house you can tend to overreact a bit and may not be totally honest with yourself or your partner at an emotional level. I feel that your past acquaintance is really not the issue as you do not match up to him well. As a matter of fact it is more like a sister brother connection and a strained one at that. Your Scorpio friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects. As for your husband your comparison was okay but sorrow does prevail especially with regard to his drinking problem. With his natal Neptune in an adverse position to his natal Uranus I believe that he could fall off the wagon from time to time. However, it probably won't be the result of your friendship with your Scorpio friend. Your Scorpio however should only be someone that you deal with as a direct result of work and nothing more. If you want your marriage to work you and your husband will have to work together in order to keep his problem under control. If he can't handle it and continually gets inebriated you will have to make a decision based on what's best for you and your children. Your husband falls in an area of your chart that deals with children and partying and that is probably how things started out some 15 years ago however times have changed and he's going to have to pull up his socks or expect to lose his family.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I came across this website tonight and found myself hopeful in finding the answer to my question. I am a Capricorn (12/28/81) with the time approximately 6pm. Many times I have read about my sign that it is hard for me to have fulfilling relationships. The strange thing is that I never had any. My relationships with males such as my father, male friends, and boyfriends have always been tremendously turbulent. I recently started dated someone (08/13/79) who surprisingly turned out to be very important in my life. I'm scared that all the predictions about Capricorns and Leo's are true (they say our signs do not match well) and that this relationship will not go far due to the descriptions of my sign and my proof of past history. I would tremendously appreciate any information or advice you could give me.
Capricorn
Dear Capricorn
You don't match up badly to your Leo friend. One of the reasons that you get along so well with this sign is because you have Leo rising. With your natal Venus and Moon in the sign Aquarius in your house of relationships you should do quite well with this relationship. With your Sun and natal Mercury in Capricorn and his Moon in Taurus you should also find some common ground. Your chart also indicates that you have a strong Libra and Sagittarius influence in your chart both sign matching up well to Leo as well. Don't be afraid, just enjoy this union, be fun to be with and see where it leads.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I'm using your service well. I was hesitant to write a letter because I guess a lot of people may have sent these kinds of letters to you.
The guys whom I have been dating are all Gemini. I thought I would match with them because I am a Libra. However, I find that they tend to go out with more than one girl. The one I would like to talk to you about is also a Gemini (May 26, 1978); I was born October 2, 1973, at 3 AM. Can I have a real relationship with him? Things aren't going well these days and I think he is dating another girl but he doesn't tell me. I know it must be annoying to answer this kind of questions but if you can, hope you can give me an advice. And I hope your site will have a prosperous future.
Libra looking for Love
Dear Libra looking for Love
Gemini men do match up well to you however they aren't the most reliable partners when they are young. The Gemini in question does not have many planets in that sign and therefore there is a chance that he may be more stable. I feel however that the comparison does indicate that this relationship is probably emotionally deceptive. In other words he is probably not really telling you how he feels. Unless you can open up to one another and communicate freely it isn't likely that it will last. He is quite the ladies man and I'm sure that he does have plenty of opportunities to be with other women. As for you, your chart indicates that you are true blue and that you can be a little jealous if you feel that your partner is not being loyal. It is apparent that you will meet or become serious with someone from your past during the second half of next year. You should consider those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius in the future. For now you should be focusing on your career and getting ahead professionally.
Eugenia
December 7th 2025
Happy Birthday: You'll achieve the most this year if you work quietly toward your long-term goals. Allowing too many into your sphere will cost you time, energy, and money. Refuse to let your generosity and kindness stand in your way when this is your time to shine brightly. Be grateful for who you are, what you have, and what will be, but don't let anyone steal your thunder. Your numbers are 4, 15, 23, 28, 31, 37, 49.