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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Many years ago I consulted an astrologer about my chances of marrying happily, and he replied, "Do you really want to know?" He seemed so evasive and reluctant that I didn't push it. A year or two later I met my husband (9/17/53) and we have been together for nearly fifteen years. I have since learned a little about astrology and decided that the reason the astrologer was so reticent is that I have Neptune in Scorpio in the seventh house. I think this has manifested mostly in my husband's struggles with alcohol; about three years ago he finally made a major effort and got his drinking under control. Unfortunately at the same time-- I wonder if it was the catalyst-- I reconnected with an old friend (11/11/61) who is in the same line of creative work I am. Although this relationship upset my husband I did not give it up. I realize that this person is a friend and not a suitable candidate for husband/father (we have three children) but I cannot convince my husband that is the case, even though I have been faithful to him and the other relationship is somewhat tenuous. Is it that my husband is being super controlling or am I not being honest? If I give up my friend will my husband go back to drinking? The astrology books are not very reassuring on the Neptune in the seventh house thing, so I wonder if I am stuck with relationship weirdness no matter what, or if I would just be better off being a nun. My birthday is 4/4/65, at 6 AM.
Thank you--
"Doomed by Neptune"
Dear "Doomed by Neptune"
First of all your Neptune may be in your seventh house but it is well aspected to your natal Saturn and Pluto and yes it does oppose your Moon and Jupiter as well but don't lose sight of the fact that the Moon is well aspsected to both Saturn and Pluto as well. This should give you an overall positive skew on your relationship capability. Now you are right regarding partners being of an escapist nature but that doesn't mean that you can't have a successful relationship and that your current partner can't pull his act together. This set up can be highly creative sexually if that's where the energy is put and obviously you and your husband did just that, the result being your three children. With your Neptune Jupiter opposition and of course Jupiter being in your first house you can tend to overreact a bit and may not be totally honest with yourself or your partner at an emotional level. I feel that your past acquaintance is really not the issue as you do not match up to him well. As a matter of fact it is more like a sister brother connection and a strained one at that. Your Scorpio friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects. As for your husband your comparison was okay but sorrow does prevail especially with regard to his drinking problem. With his natal Neptune in an adverse position to his natal Uranus I believe that he could fall off the wagon from time to time. However, it probably won't be the result of your friendship with your Scorpio friend. Your Scorpio however should only be someone that you deal with as a direct result of work and nothing more. If you want your marriage to work you and your husband will have to work together in order to keep his problem under control. If he can't handle it and continually gets inebriated you will have to make a decision based on what's best for you and your children. Your husband falls in an area of your chart that deals with children and partying and that is probably how things started out some 15 years ago however times have changed and he's going to have to pull up his socks or expect to lose his family.
Eugenia
Dear Miss Last,
This is my first time writing to an advice column and I feel funny. But I'd really appreciate some advice. There's someone I met about a yearback. She's funny, sweet, and seems genuinely nice. I was falling for her in a big way then she told me that she was actually attached with a married guy. Needless to say, I backed off real fast and tried to cool off everything. Eventually she broke off with this other guy. Well, I really like her as a friend but she came on too strong. We parted for a while, but at a chance meeting, we felt the sparks between us and got back together. Our relationship went on for a while. Sexually, we're very compatible, she's fantastic. I guess we connect really well. She's very nice, always doing things for me, but she's erratic, compulsive, obsessiveand has this irritating habit of interrupting. And I find myself keep looking out for other women because I don't find stability with her. Late last year, she told me she's pregnant. After questioning her, it turned out that she's lying. I felt cheated. This sweet naive girl who never told lies, told me a big one so convincingly. I didn't intend to see her again. Then as it turned out, she got pregnant for real. Because of her lies, we didn't take precaution. I felt trapped and cheated. What's worse, she promised to keep it mum between us but ended up telling most of our friends. Well, we went together for the abortion. After that, I felt so stressed by all the questioning from our friends, I took some time out. Instead of understanding, she became so demanding and unreasonable, she'd call me every 10mins or so. When I ignored her, she attempted to commit suicide. This freaked me out. Anyway, during this time, I got to know another gal better, and she has been very supportive over the whole incident. And she made me happy. Though my ex and I are no longer together, I feeling uncomfortable when I see her scantily dressed flirting with other guys at the pub. She lost quite a bit of weight and has taken to wearing sexy clothing. I thought that she was leading a new life and is happy. But recently, she buys me an expensive wallet and through our friends, I found out that she is still in love with me. I don't think we can be together again because she has hurt me badly twice, and I will not let her hurt me a third time. But she has started calling me on and off again, even getting her friends to call me as well. It's affecting my work and my life. I'm so afraid of her that I've even avoided our usual haunts and pubs. Help! How do I resolve this situation? She's born on December 19, 1974, somewhere around midnight. I was born August 9, 1971, at 9:53 AM.
Cornered Leo
Dear Cornered Leo
The comparison was adequate with your Sagittarius girlfriend but you did have plenty of obstacles to overcome. Problems with emotional mind games and dishonesty were prevalent as were issues that dealt with every day life. I fear that you aren't over her yet or you probably would have mentioned your latest girlfriends birth date. My first suggestion would be to run like the wind, don't look back and avoid at all costs this so called innocent, na?ve, sweet girl. I found your description somewhat strange. Her chart indicates that she is the type of person who will take drastic measures in order to get what she wants. That she will overreact and that she isn't likely to settle down or commit completely to anyone. She doesn't have a bad chart however it is one that could be described as the chart of a playgirl. I fear she has been toying with you and it's time for you to completely put a stop to it. Get on with your life. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned and although someone from your past could try to come back into your life you are best to look for new partners instead. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
E
Hi Eugenia,
My story is very similar to the earlier soul mate story. I was told by astrologers/tarot readers that I would meet a man who will have a link with Mexico and Kingston. He would be dark with dark eyes and be a fantastic cook. I was also informed that I would meet him in my late 20's and it would be love at first sight across a crowded bar. This was not only one person that told me this but four in different locations within the UK. I set my heart on meeting this man and this was my destiny. One Thursday, I was asked to go out for a drink by some friends. I was not in the mood, however, I picked myself up and went out. I felt very intuitive that day and excited knowing something was going to happen. In the pub, I met up with many friends old and new. As I turned to walk towards the bar I could see out of the corner of my eye a man looking at me. I melted! Why me, I thought. He came over to me and looked into my eyes. I knew it was him before we had spoken to each other as immediately we had recognized each other. We sat and talked infatuated by each other for the rest of the evening. He then told me he was working in Kingston and had worked in the armed forces in Mexico for 3 years. Also, he wanted to cook for me! We started to see each other for which I can say this was the best time of my life. He was charming, fun and very exciting. After 2 months of seeing each other he told me that he had to work away and that he needed time. I was devastated, as I had set my heart on traveling with him around the world.Since our conversation, we never spoke again. I have seen him in different pubs and we still keep appearing in the same places at the same time. Maybe I am looking too deeply into this, but I would really appreciate a response to this letter as I feel I have poured my heart out and I am in desperate need for advice. I was born on the 14th August 1973 and he was born on the 28th April 1966. Please help!
Leo/Taurus
Dear Leo/Taurus
This could be your dream man. Regarding your mental, physical and emotional connection you match up nicely however where anger and energy are concerned problems are evident with this man. You are coming into a period later this month and throughout June that will be conducive to love and romance flourishing so don't rule him out or anyone else who approaches you during this time. Your chart also indicates that you are best to marry later in life as opposed to earlier. The period of time that was being referred to by other astrologers was when you go through your Saturn return and that is just about to begin during the second half of July. If this man hasn't come to you by this time consider approaching him. If he doesn't respond carry on because you will be in a hot cycle for meeting someone that is even better for you. You match up well to those born under the sign Taurus, Cancer and Scorpio.
Eugenia
