We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Cannot control myself

Dear Eugenia,

I admire the members who receive replies from you. I have sent you numerous letters and got no reply. I cannot solve the problem in my relationship and that has almost driven me crazy.

I like a male friend who frequently called me in the past. When we were in a group of friends, he always talked with me. At that time, I liked someone else so I didn't show affection to him. But recently, I find that I love him and cannot control myself. I know that he has a girl he likes. I didn't care about this in the past, but now I feel jealous when he talks about her. Every time we go out, we go out with a few friends. I feel unhappy if he does not talk to me or if he talks to someone else. I always become angry because of him. He seems not to care whether I am feeling unhappy or angry. He doesn't call me as frequent as before. Is he selfish? Why did he show concern for me in the past? Now I love him but it seems that something has happened to him. Why? If someone tells me that he doesn't have any special feeling to me, I will certainly go to die. I cannot control myself any more. Can I tell him about my feeling?

He was born in November 7, 1984 at 10:38pm, I was born March 19, 1985, at 4 AM.

Oyster

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Dear Oyster

The comparison was good but the timing might be poor for both of you right now. Instead you should be focusing on school and your future professional direction this year. You and your friend will both be in a good high cycle where love is concerned beginning this time next year and providing that neither one of you is involved with someone else it may be the perfect time to get together. As for now build on the friendship. Don't be obvious about the way you feel. Even better start to pay more attention to some of the other guys you hang out with. Who knows you may just fall in love with someone else. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces. Your chart indicates that you will have plenty of opportunities for love and that you will not end up all alone.

Eugenia

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Article: Was That Funny?

Dear Eugenia,

I think I lost my sense of humor and I can't seem to get it back. In the past, I was able to laugh, to joke and most of the time, make fun of friends in a humorous ways and have everybody laughing. But nowadays, I can hardly laugh myself. And it seems that I am too serious in my everyday conversation. A conversation of a humorous nature, my comments or answers can totally spoil the mood. If I try to make a funny remark, it seems very unnatural and tends to come out forced. Is this part of growing up or has my astrological nature got something to do with it. Or has it anything to do with my social life. For the past few years, my social life has gradually settled down to just 2 groups of friends, each about 10 members, and our gatherings over the years have gradually reduced to once a month or twice a month. Does it mean that my spending most of my time alone has killed the humorous side of me? Please help. I am born on the 29th of December 1976, time about 5 past 12 midnight (not too sure).

Humorless

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Dear Humorless

You're being too hard on yourself. Yes you are growing up but that doesn't mean that you will lose your humor. Humor is usually determined by the placement of a person's natal Mercury. In your case you have your natal Mercury in the sign Capricorn well aspected to your natal Jupiter in Taurus. As you get older you will find different things in life humorous. Such as jokes that pertain to business, colleagues, big investment deals, money matters etc. You also have Libra rising and this will also give you a more sophisticated manner of joking as you mature. There is nothing wrong with that. You are not a silly little kid anymore but that doesn't mean that you can't use your intelligence and knowledge to crack a joke. You are still in a high cycle regarding higher education, travel and making new friends who have the same interests and beliefs that you have so start getting out and getting involved. You are also in a high cycle regarding love, romance and socializing so stop being so concerned about being funny and start thinking about getting romantically serious. There are many positive things for you to look forward to however if you are negative and down on yourself because you aren't the same as you were in your youth you will miss all the wonderful opportunities that can and will lead to the next phase of your life.

Eugenia

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Article: From Hurting Heart

Hi Eugenia,

I think my man is cheating on me. He was born 2/1/58 in Peoria, IL. We have been together for 2 years, and one thing that's always bothered me is his ability to "compartmentalize." He has several exes that I have never been introduced to, yet I have known all along that he sees them in social situations. This does not bug me, as it seems to indicate that he is truly a caring person and does not throw away relationships with ease.

However, I have sensed a shift recently, and don't know whether to chalk it up to my oversensitive Cancer nature, or to trust my female intuition. The details are unimportant. There is a voice in my head, screaming loudly, that I am being lied to and cheated on.

I am hoping you will help me by providing reassurance that this man does love me truly, like he says he does, or that my unfortunate suspicions are true and I should move on. I think this man may be the love of my life, so I am willing to hang in here, providing I am not being made a fool of. I was born 7/17/66 at 8:52 PM.

Thanks in advance,
Hurting Heart

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Dear Hurting Heart

The comparison with your Aquarius lover was not very good. As a matter of fact it screams deception when it comes to communicating about matters that pertain to his friendships with other people or even communicating at any level for that matter. He was also born with his natal Venus adversely positioned to his natal Neptune and this is the major sign of sorrow when it comes to love and romance. The reason he still sees his ex girlfriends is to lead them on. He has to know that at any time he can pull strings and get them to dance with him yet again. Your Aquarius friend is not the sweet and caring man you think he is. He is cool and calculating. As for you - well you are way to sensitive to be involved with the likes of him. You have too much to offer emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally and there is no doubt in my mind that you should be moving on quickly. I know that moving on and letting go are both very difficult for a Cancer to do and in your case you are such a strong Cancer with such a big heart that I can see why you sit there even though you are smart enough to see what's going on right under your nose. You are in a high cycle regarding love and romance until late October and I suggest that you don't waste this precious time on him. Get out of this relationship and move quickly to find a new love. I believe if you do so you will be much happier this time next year. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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