We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am now in a love triangle. I tried to commit suicide but that didn't solve the problem. Please help me. You will be saving a life.
I had a happy family. Things changed when I met another man. He was single at that time and we fell in love quickly. Since I had a husband, I couldn't promise to marry him. One day, he told me that he had married a girl living in China. He went to China to meet this girl after seeing her photo and they got married. I was not informed until he came back to Taiwan. He apologized and explained that he did it for his family because he needed to pass on the generations. He cried and begged me to forgive him and asked me to wait for him for three years. He said that after their first child was born, no matter boy or girl, he would leave her. I promised and separated with my husband. After I have divorced, his daughter was born. But he said that his wife wanted to try for a boy. His attitude becomes cooler and cooler. He seldom contacts me. I discovered that he was tender and gentle to his wife. If I ask him, he will be rude to me. I beg him but he doesn't care for me any more.
May I ask you a few questions:
1. Is he in love with his wife?
2. Who match him better? Me or his wife?
3. Will he be divorced in 2003 as he promised?
4. Will they have another baby?
5. I think they will be divorced in 2005-2006, do you think so?
6. Will we get together after his divorce?
7. Will we break up this year?
My dob: Aug 13, 1956 at 10:30am.
His dob: January 2, 1955 at 6:03pm.
His wife's dob: January 16, 1966 at 12 -13:00.
Please tell me the truth.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I believe what has happened here is that your Capricorn man fully intended to do what he planned but didn't expect to fall in love with his wife in the process. Although you do match up to him well he does match up to his wife even better. In answer to your questions.
1. Yes he does love his wife
2. She matches up better
3. I do not believe that he will divorce her
4. Yes I believe that they will have another baby
5. I do not think so
6. I do not believe so
7. I think that you have probably are already broken up in his mind
Now back to you and what you should be doing. You are in a high cycle regarding love and romance over the course of the next year. I believe that you should be out meeting new people and getting on with your life. He may make an attempt to come back to you should he see that you are falling in love with someone else but even if he does he will not stay. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Leo, Libra, Capricorn and Pisces. Please don't sit around and wait for this man. You are a victim of circumstance and you must move on.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am dating one guy, and I have feelings for my best friend. My best friend recently confessed his feelings for me. But my boyfriend and I have a decent relationship. Also I feel me and my boyfriend may be drifting apart just a little. I came to this conclusion because we use to just sit and talk for hours on end but now we rarely talk about anything. I need help on what I should do in this situation. Oh I also forgot to mention I have had feelings for my best friend since I met him 12 years ago, and that he is in the military and he confessed his feelings for me after he came back from overseas saying how he realized that he " has a great person who cares for him right in front of him." Thank you for your time and help! By the way my boyfriends birth data is: Nov 21, 1984 I am not sure of the time or the birthplace though. And my friends birth data is August10, 1984 I am also not sure of the birth time or place for him either. I was born September 25, 1983 at 11:25 AM.
Libra
Dear Libra
Quite the dilemma - you actually match up astrologically to both men. Your best friend a little bit better. Your best friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with your status, position in society and choice of friends. I've always believed that the best relationships are those that start out as a friendship and build. Your current boyfriend falls in an area of your chart that deals with hidden matters, secret affairs etc so I'm sort of wondering how you managed to turn this one into a long term relationship when it was probably meant to be a short but sweet love connection.
Your chart indicates that you are going through a period of change. Especially the way you view your relationships with others. This started to hit your chart at the end of last year and has probably left you somewhat confused. I don't know that you will ever feel totally satisfied in your current relationship especially now that you know that your best friend feels the same way you do.
Your chart indicates that you are moving through a period of change. That it may be time to take a break from your current relationship so that you can sort out your thoughts and discover what it is you really need when it comes to a one-on-one relationship. Don't feel bad but don't live a lie either. If you truly want to find out if your relationship with your best friend can be more you are best to end the relationship you are in first. I feel that given time your friendship with your Leo man will turn into a long-lasting relationship.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I think I lost my sense of humor and I can't seem to get it back. In the past, I was able to laugh, to joke and most of the time, make fun of friends in a humorous ways and have everybody laughing. But nowadays, I can hardly laugh myself. And it seems that I am too serious in my everyday conversation. A conversation of a humorous nature, my comments or answers can totally spoil the mood. If I try to make a funny remark, it seems very unnatural and tends to come out forced. Is this part of growing up or has my astrological nature got something to do with it. Or has it anything to do with my social life. For the past few years, my social life has gradually settled down to just 2 groups of friends, each about 10 members, and our gatherings over the years have gradually reduced to once a month or twice a month. Does it mean that my spending most of my time alone has killed the humorous side of me? Please help. I am born on the 29th of December 1976, time about 5 past 12 midnight (not too sure).
Humorless
Dear Humorless
You're being too hard on yourself. Yes you are growing up but that doesn't mean that you will lose your humor. Humor is usually determined by the placement of a person's natal Mercury. In your case you have your natal Mercury in the sign Capricorn well aspected to your natal Jupiter in Taurus. As you get older you will find different things in life humorous. Such as jokes that pertain to business, colleagues, big investment deals, money matters etc. You also have Libra rising and this will also give you a more sophisticated manner of joking as you mature. There is nothing wrong with that. You are not a silly little kid anymore but that doesn't mean that you can't use your intelligence and knowledge to crack a joke. You are still in a high cycle regarding higher education, travel and making new friends who have the same interests and beliefs that you have so start getting out and getting involved. You are also in a high cycle regarding love, romance and socializing so stop being so concerned about being funny and start thinking about getting romantically serious. There are many positive things for you to look forward to however if you are negative and down on yourself because you aren't the same as you were in your youth you will miss all the wonderful opportunities that can and will lead to the next phase of your life.
Eugenia
