We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am now in a love triangle. I tried to commit suicide but that didn't solve the problem. Please help me. You will be saving a life.
I had a happy family. Things changed when I met another man. He was single at that time and we fell in love quickly. Since I had a husband, I couldn't promise to marry him. One day, he told me that he had married a girl living in China. He went to China to meet this girl after seeing her photo and they got married. I was not informed until he came back to Taiwan. He apologized and explained that he did it for his family because he needed to pass on the generations. He cried and begged me to forgive him and asked me to wait for him for three years. He said that after their first child was born, no matter boy or girl, he would leave her. I promised and separated with my husband. After I have divorced, his daughter was born. But he said that his wife wanted to try for a boy. His attitude becomes cooler and cooler. He seldom contacts me. I discovered that he was tender and gentle to his wife. If I ask him, he will be rude to me. I beg him but he doesn't care for me any more.
May I ask you a few questions:
1. Is he in love with his wife?
2. Who match him better? Me or his wife?
3. Will he be divorced in 2003 as he promised?
4. Will they have another baby?
5. I think they will be divorced in 2005-2006, do you think so?
6. Will we get together after his divorce?
7. Will we break up this year?
My dob: Aug 13, 1956 at 10:30am.
His dob: January 2, 1955 at 6:03pm.
His wife's dob: January 16, 1966 at 12 -13:00.
Please tell me the truth.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I believe what has happened here is that your Capricorn man fully intended to do what he planned but didn't expect to fall in love with his wife in the process. Although you do match up to him well he does match up to his wife even better. In answer to your questions.
1. Yes he does love his wife
2. She matches up better
3. I do not believe that he will divorce her
4. Yes I believe that they will have another baby
5. I do not think so
6. I do not believe so
7. I think that you have probably are already broken up in his mind
Now back to you and what you should be doing. You are in a high cycle regarding love and romance over the course of the next year. I believe that you should be out meeting new people and getting on with your life. He may make an attempt to come back to you should he see that you are falling in love with someone else but even if he does he will not stay. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Leo, Libra, Capricorn and Pisces. Please don't sit around and wait for this man. You are a victim of circumstance and you must move on.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I have written several letters to but to no avail. I realize you are really busy but I need some help. Please consider reading this letter. I have gone to others for advice but I am still confused. I am strongly thinking about getting a divorce. I have only been married for about a year and a half. I realize I haven't given my relationship much time but I can't take my husband anymore. He is a Scorpio born on November 17, 1964. I am a Leo born on July 26, 1973 at 7:40 PM. The problem is he a Jekel & Hyde. For the past several months all he does is drink and do drugs. He hasn't started abusing me but he's been close to it. I am really scared of him and disappointed in myself. I have had bad relationships in the past and feel as if I made a huge mistake with this one to. Is this relationship going anywhere?I am just not happy with anything anymore and feel as if everything else around me is falling apart. Please give me some guidance. Thanks for your help.
Lost and confused.
Dear Lost and confused
It appears to me that you are probably both dissatisfied with your current relationship. The comparison lacked in many ways and although you may have been able to be friends at one point too much has probably occurred for that to be the case now. If you want to try to make it work get counseling however it is apparent that you will probably leave, if not right now during the first half of next year. I do believe that your husband can be excessive in his habits and it is obvious that he does have a temper, however it is apparent that he will react much worse when he isn't happy. I believe that you both made a mistake and that you are probably best to walk away. If you are afraid of his reaction, I suggest that you get help from your family or friends when you move out.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am going through a breakup in my marriage of 15 years. It has been a very rocky marriage with control and mistrust on my part, and dishonesty and no loyalty on her part, and we haven't been friends in a long time, to name the most major problems. We were in turmoil for 4 weeks before we had an argument and then have been separated for 5 weeks now and have really had some nasty times. Some of the things she has said are very hurtful, and I don't know what is true and what is not. I think that most men would not stick around to hear the things she has been saying, but for some reason I can't seem to stop loving her and wanting her to come back to build on what we have or had. I have heard that she hasn't been in love with me in years- she was just "settling" or "getting by". I do now recognize some signs of her feeling this way, but I have a hard time seeing it being as much as she says. When we weren't mad at each other, there was always holding hands, cuddling, kissing, that type thing that after 15 years a lot of partners don't do as much as we did. I have really come to the realization that my mistrust and controlling manners have to change no matter what- and we're very misplaced with her. Basically, I realize that she came home to me every night, and now she doesn't- that's all that matters to me now. She wants some space to figure out who she is and has sometimes said things that give me hope (false hope is how she words it). She has also said several times that it is over and she just wants to move on. I can't seem to get my head into "moving on" as every one tells me to. I also can't seem to leave her alone and give her space. I am obsessed with trying to talk to her to start becoming friends- but it just makes her angrier and turns into a nasty fight sometimes. I don't know how to control my urge to not leave her alone because my whole life seems to be just falling apart without her beside me.
Can you guide me into a more secure or comfortable place?
Sorry I don't know the time of her or my birth. Her day was May 2/60 and mine is Sept. 11/66.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison does indicate trouble. There is a lack of trust and communication along with deception and anger. Uncertainty will always be a problem between the two of you regardless of whether you stay together or not. You need to let go. You have a good chart and if you can only realize that you were totally mismatched regarding your values and hers you might be able to move on. You match up to people born under the signs Taurus (not her - I'll explain later), Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. She may be a Taurus but only by Sun sign. She has her natal Mercury and Venus in the sign Aries and this sign does not match up to you at all. Mercury and Venus represent the way she thinks and communicates along with her morals, ethics and Venus represent the way she loves etc. What actually drew you together was the fact that you both have your Moon in the sign Cancer but that isn't enough to make a relationship work. She is erratic and can change her mind very rapidly. She wants to have fun and she needs freedom to come and go as she pleases. You need companionship, trust and someone who wants to be with you all the time. This connection just won't work that way. We are who we are and as much as either one of you may want to change I fear that the same problems will continually surface. You are headed toward lots of changes and you have to wrap your head around that and accept the inevitable. Should she even entertain the thought of getting back together it wouldn't be long before she would want to move on again. Let go and start anew. I believe that she has decided to do just that. The only time I see a possible reconciliation is this fall however as I mentioned before - should you get back together it would only be for a short period of time be
December 25th 2025
Happy Birthday: Pay it down, pay it forward —whatever feels right, follow through. Staying on top of debt, promises, or whatever else you have on your agenda, it's vital that you don't ignore what you must do if you want to flourish during the upcoming year. Take the initiative to tidy up loose ends and to divvy up your time to ensure you make the most of what's to come. Your numbers are 3, 14, 23, 29, 31, 38, 44.
