We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: New life, New relationship

Dear Eugenia,

I am in need of some advice/help/ something. My husband and I spilt last October, after 9 years. It wasn't a very nice spilt to say the least. But he has finally moved on and has a new life and a new girlfriend.

Me, I am working now and my daughter and I finally have a place of our own instead of living with family. We live pay check to pay check. It's not the greatest of apartments, but it's mine and I know one day we'll have better.

I am ready to move on with my personal life, but am having difficulty. My imagination gets ahead of me, and I don't know if it's because I'm just out of the swing of things, or it's because I came out of a really bad relationship. I've met someone, who there is a strong connection with. His birth info is July 30, 1970, mine is March 31, 1970, at 2:59 PM. I don't know the time of birth. We've chatted several times and stared at each other across the room. I finally got up the courage to ask him out for a drink, he said yes and I gave him my phone number. He called and we had a lovely a conversation. This is all foreign territory for me and I'm making myself a nervous wreck. I want to pursue this relationship, but at the same time am having so many doubts that it is driving me crazy. Any help, insight, advice would be so welcome.

Nervous

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Dear Nervous

Your chart indicates that you can overreact at an emotional level especially where love and romance are concerned. The comparison however is quite good but there is a Mercury/Neptune square that can cause one or both of you to with hold important information about yourself at a personal level. I believe that you should take it slowly but definitely follow through. I feel that this connection can be long lasting and good for both of you as long as you are equally upfront, honest and sincere about your feelings and your direction in life. It is apparent that he may have suffered from some relationship disappointment during the past year and if this is the case he may be somewhat shy to get involved too quickly. Develop the friendship and see where it goes. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: From Gemini

Hi Eugenia

I am currently going through a divorce and I feel that the financial burden being imposed on me is unfair. Also, I fear that my wife will leave the state with my children making it even more difficult for me to see them. My question is two fold. Will I be able to financially afford what she is asking for and still have a place of my own to take the kids? And, do you believe she will move the kids out of state?

Gemini

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HI Gemini

You didn't submit your wife or children's birth information making it difficult for me to know what she will do. What I can tell you is that your financial limitations are still present between now and the summer of next year however after that time it is evident that you should be able to swing whatever settlement or agreement you make with her. I believe there is a law that does not allow one parent to take the children more than X amount of miles away from the other parent if you have joint custody however this may change from state to state. Your chart indicates that you should be focusing on your professional goals and that if you are diligent about getting ahead you can be successful over the next four years. I do believe that your wife will try to restrict your visitation rights between now and the end of the summer of next year. You must fight this and do whatever is necessary to be as much a part of your children's lives as you can. If you live close to one another it isn't uncommon these days to have the children with you half the time and with her the other half. In that case you should not have to pay support because you are both equally raising your children. There are many routes to take however if she has left you because of infidelity or other damaging or cruel reasons you will end up paying dearly so get working towards professional advancement now so that you can cover the costs. Don't let the uncertainty or depression regarding your failing marriage deter you from getting involved with new partners or develop new friendships. It is important for you to get on with your life.

Eugenia

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Article: In my life

Dear Eugenia,

I really enjoy your column and find your replies eloquent and very interesting. I've written in before, and haven't gotten a response, so I figured I'd try again. I am in a strange situation right now. I've had an eating disorder for the past 3 years of my life, and just recently, got put into the hospital due to complications from the severity of it. I know what I'm doing is wrong, and I'm trying to change, but it seems like every attempt is half-hearted at best. I've read in several different books that individuals born on my DOB (March 9, 1985, @ 1:45AM) show a pattern of substance abuse and health problems. The year just seems to be getting worse and worse and I was wondering what my chart holds for the upcoming school year. I think I put up a front and have a difficult time letting others get close, in fear that I will somehow lose control of everything in my life. Will my life and relationships with others improve at all? Thank you for your time.

Pisces

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Dear Pisces

You aren't a very strong Pisces only having your natal Sun in that sign. Your chart is predominantly Aries with your natal Mercury, Venus and Mars in that sign and Scorpio with your natal Saturn and Pluto in that sign. Your recent jaunt to the hospital does show up and it appears that if you don't use your Scorpio discipline to get back on track that you will end up in hospital again over the course of the next year. I urge you to take your health concerns seriously and stabilize your mental outlook before you start to worry about relationships. You have to learn to love yourself first. Your chart indicates that you have so much to work with but with your natal Neptune adversely aspecting your natal Mercury it is apparent that you are not always honest with yourself and this can lead to problems dealing with denial etc. However with your natal Mercury favorably positioned to your natal Jupiter it should help you to feel better about yourself. Problems with home, family or friends may occur if you don't take better care of yourself. It is obvious that you have people around you who care and who may be getting annoyed with the way you are handling your life. You are bright, creative and could help others with similar problems. You will probably be more attracted to people or partners who are older or younger and possibly at this stage of your life you aren't really meeting a wide enough variety of people. It is important for you to get focused and to keep active as well as to get your eating disorder sorted out once and for all. You are the master of your own destiny and no one else can make the adjustments for you. I believe that you have what it takes to change your life but the most difficult part is taking the first step. If you don't get started your educational pursuits will suffer over the course of the next couple of years, however if you can manage to pull things together you have the potential to do quite well. You should be meeting people over the next year that are good for you as well as those who can help you make the necessary life changes. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces.

Eugenia

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