We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in need of some advice/help/ something. My husband and I spilt last October, after 9 years. It wasn't a very nice spilt to say the least. But he has finally moved on and has a new life and a new girlfriend.
Me, I am working now and my daughter and I finally have a place of our own instead of living with family. We live pay check to pay check. It's not the greatest of apartments, but it's mine and I know one day we'll have better.
I am ready to move on with my personal life, but am having difficulty. My imagination gets ahead of me, and I don't know if it's because I'm just out of the swing of things, or it's because I came out of a really bad relationship. I've met someone, who there is a strong connection with. His birth info is July 30, 1970, mine is March 31, 1970, at 2:59 PM. I don't know the time of birth. We've chatted several times and stared at each other across the room. I finally got up the courage to ask him out for a drink, he said yes and I gave him my phone number. He called and we had a lovely a conversation. This is all foreign territory for me and I'm making myself a nervous wreck. I want to pursue this relationship, but at the same time am having so many doubts that it is driving me crazy. Any help, insight, advice would be so welcome.
Nervous
Dear Nervous
Your chart indicates that you can overreact at an emotional level especially where love and romance are concerned. The comparison however is quite good but there is a Mercury/Neptune square that can cause one or both of you to with hold important information about yourself at a personal level. I believe that you should take it slowly but definitely follow through. I feel that this connection can be long lasting and good for both of you as long as you are equally upfront, honest and sincere about your feelings and your direction in life. It is apparent that he may have suffered from some relationship disappointment during the past year and if this is the case he may be somewhat shy to get involved too quickly. Develop the friendship and see where it goes. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I'm a Pisces born February 22, 1964 at 4:30 am, 40 years old and never married and I just met a wonderful man who wants to have children, and might I add, right away. He says we don't have much time since we are both older. He is a Capricorn born in the Philippines Dec 29, 1964 and I admire the way he takes charge, but I was actually leaning towards not having children. The whole concept frightens me, and I am getting older and I am such a Pisces, flitting from thing to thing and never really accomplishing any one concrete direction, fairly successful in my own right, but wonder how I ever am, since I tend to overextend myself and do way too many things at once. I long for someone to help me take charge of my life, simplify it, and make it more relaxed, but I wonder if I am drawn towards him for his steadiness and clarity of direction, his responsibility, his success, and if I choose to be with him, I may end up in a worse situation (overextended, more complicated, less peace and less focus). At 40 I still don't feel I have any clear direction. But if I had to say what I really wanted to do with myself, it would be get up late, jog around the lake, work for a few hours, drive around, read a book, chat with some friends, and walk by the beach. I don't know if having a family would be high on that list, and I think it would just be to satisfy his desire to have a family. But then again, if I don't have a child I wonder if I would regret it when I am older, and maybe it might be nice to choose a successful responsible man and start a family instead of drifting around with the romantic irresponsible men I normally am drawn towards. What do you think?
Pisces
Dear Pisces
I believe you are over-reacting. Having a baby shouldn't make or break a relationship if you truly love one another. The comparison between you and your Capricorn man was okay but it did show some signs of deception and confusion. I believe you need to communicate more about what you both want out of life. Honesty reigns supreme so you had better start talking and if you both aren't on the same page move on. You are in a high cycle regarding love and meeting potential partners or having someone you used to care about come back into your life. You owe it to yourself to get to the bottom of whether or not you want to settle down with your Capricorn friend or set both of you free so that you can meet new people.
Where work and how you earn your living are concerned you are coming into a much higher cycle beginning the last quarter of this year and throughout next year and it is important that you position yourself so that you can take advantage of the opportunities that come along. Your chart indicates that you are confused. Much of your confusion is due to the fact that you were born with your natal Mercury adversely positioned to your natal Neptune. This causes self-deception especially when it comes to your personal likes and dislikes, how well you can do in society and professionally as well as how you relate to both business and emotional partners.
It may be time to reevaluate who you are, what you want and where you see yourself in ten years. If it isn't taking care of the kids and a husband - move on now.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia...
I sent you an email last spring, but I haven't received your reply.
I was born on February 3, 1977 (10:40 pm) and the guy whom I want to talk about was born in August 29, 1974 (2:00 am) In fact, we are not getting along very well recently. I told him that I wanted to break up with him but he didn't let me go. He told me that his goal in life is to live with me and he loves me. But I feel that he is obsessive or greedy. A few days ago, he yelled at me and even beat me. I got bruises all over my body.
I love someone else now. He was born in Feb 11, 1971 (5 am). I like him very much and want to marry him. But my boyfriend doesn't let me go.
I want to marry the second guy next year. Do you think it's okay? Will the first guy disturb my life in the future? Please give me an advice.
Nowhere to Turn
Dear No Where to Turn
You need to back up and take a look at what you are putting up with. I believe that you are leaning toward your Aquarius friend because he doesn't abuse you. He is in fact better for you then your Virgo partner but you need time to be on your own in order to know what your true feelings are. I believe that you should end your current relationship with your Virgo immediately. Move if you have to in order to get away from his abusiveness. This time next year (July/August) you will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance and you should wait until that time before you make a decision to be with your Aquarius partner. You may just meet someone new during that time that will be really good to you and for you. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
