We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.
My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.
Thanx
Leo
Dear Leo
Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I'm a 21-year old gay male living in New Mexico. I have been addicted to substances (alcohol, etc.) since I was a teenager. I can't shake them and can't seem to imagine a life without them. They are getting in the way of possible love interests because if I had a partner, they would need to be patient with the substances. As it is, I cling to phone sex and pornography to continue the escapism. I'm not complaining about my life. I've learned to live with it. But is there something in my chart that would explain my problem? That's all I need to know right now. If you could be so kind as to maybe help me explore this, I would be eternally grateful. I was born July 14, 1980, at 4 AM.
Addictive
Dear Addictive
You were born with your natal Neptune opposite your natal Venus across your sixth and twelfth. This is considered to be sorrowful, addictive, escapist and so forth. I believe that you are coming to a turning point in your life over the course of the next couple of years while transiting Saturn moves through the sign Gemini. This will cause some depression, some physical limitations and could even lead you to a rehab center or institutional type environment. I believe that you can turn things around if you want but I fear that you will have to hit rock bottom before that happens. Your chart indicates that you must be careful not to get involved with someone who is equally as addictive or someone who is already involved with another. What you should be focusing on the rest of this year and the first half of next is what you want to do with the rest of your life regarding your career. Your home and personal life appears to be going through a difficult period as well. It's time to start thinking about your future and getting the help you require.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
Your site is pretty interesting, so I often visit it. This is the first time I have written to you.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 10 yrs. We planned to get married this year but suddenly, he suggested we both study abroad for one year and get married afterward. Even though we are still lovers, I am worrying about our future. My boyfriend was born on July 18, 1974 at 6 am and I was born March 20, 1974, at 2 AM.
Our parents do not support our decision. We will be spending our own money that we have saved for years. Also, after we come back, our jobs are not guaranteed. I don't know whether it is necessary to go abroad for our future. Can you also tell me what kinds of jobs suit me and do I have luck financially? I'm sorry to ask you so many questions at one time... Take care.
Eager to Know
Dear Eager to Know
I don't believe either one of you will do well regarding successful studies abroad. Your chart indicates that you should be considering getting on with your career. You are in a high cycle in that regard and I would hate you to miss a good professional opportunity. As for your boyfriend the comparison was good however I believe that if he goes abroad he will regret his choice. I understand his urgency to get away as he does have a need to do something different. Perhaps the money would be better spent on a trip that would be educational. Traveling to a different part of the world and experiencing foreign cultures and traditions would be an education and something that you can share together. You wouldn't have to go away for too long and you could return to your jobs or to new positions that could very well be better then the ones you had before your trip.
