We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Family Problem

Dear Eugenia,

I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.

My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.

Thanx

Leo

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Dear Leo

Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.

Eugenia

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Article: The Next Step in Life

Dear Eugenia,

I was born in 31 Oct. 1974 at 8:20pm. Most of my friends think that I am a strange person, sometimes cool but sometimes full of enthusiasm. They also think that I am mysterious and difficult to understand. When in reality, I am very simple. Almost all of the friends my age have married and started a new phrase in life. But I am still alone. Why can't I attract someone of the opposite sex? Is it difficult for me to find someone?

I read my astrology chart and found that most of the planets fall into the 5th house. Should I just treat love and life as a game? When it comes to love, I believe that I need to take some time to understand a person. I cannot love at first sight. But love always comes and goes at a fast pace. The guys I have been with will chase someone else once they find that their target is not right. My love affairs were always short-lived. Eugenia, I really don't want to spend another lonely Valentines Day, Christmas, birthday or other important day alone any more. I wish you would give me some suggestions and thank you for reading my letter.

Looking for Love

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Dear Looking for Love

You have an interesting chart that indicates that you probably have lots of opportunities to meet potential partners however, you are also not likely to fall for just anyone. You will be very particular when it comes to love. Whoever you fall in love with will have to give you the freedom you need in order to exist happily within that relationship. You may appear to be uninterested in some of the partners you have had in the past and so they moved on quickly. You are coming into a high cycle next year regarding love and romance and you should be prepared to get out and meet people from May of next year on. Just because you have a lot of planets in the 5th house doesn't mean that you shouldn't take love seriously, it just means that you will socialize, have more to do with children, you will be creative or you may enjoy gambling. This makes you more youthful and fun-loving then most people and there is nothing wrong with that. Your chart also indicates that you are not as likely to marry just anyone at a young age. You will want to get to know your partner well before you will settle down. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Virgo and Pisces. Stop being so hard on yourself. You'll be married for a long long time so don't rush into it. Take your time and consider the best possible places and ways for you to meet Mr. Right. Your chart indicates that you could meet someone special through travel, educational pursuits or getting involved in an organization that shares your philosophy.

Eugenia

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Article: Logic Vs. Emotion

Dear Eugenia:

I have recently become engaged and have a February wedding planned. My birth date is 4/24/47 and his is 11/13/46. We have a lot in common, enjoy each other's company, are sexually very compatible but my problem is he analyzes everything I say and do to the extreme and often becomes upset, broods for hours and I don't have a clue as to what's bothering him at the time. It's usually over something so insignificant that when we finally get around to discussing what's wrong, I'm amazed at the source of his distress. I seem to be ruled by my emotions and he is a very logical thinker. We both have very strong personalities that often conflict. When things are good, they're wonderful, but when they're bad, it is so stressful I wonder if it's worth continuing the relationship. I've often thought about canceling the wedding but the love I feel for this man is so strong (like no other I've ever experienced), that it makes me physically sick when I consider it. Your advice?

Undecided

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Dear Undecided

The comparison was excellent. The one problem that I can see is that one or both of you is not communicating openly and honestly about your feelings. This can easily be rectified by having open discussions. I believe that you are overreacting to this situation right now due to transiting Jupiter and that he is a little erratic because of it. Try to relax and enjoy what you have. If you don't feel that you can handle the situation consider going for counseling because this is truly too good a connection to throw away.

Eugenia

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