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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Family Problem

Dear Eugenia,

I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.

My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.

Thanx

Leo

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Dear Leo

Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.

Eugenia

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Article: No Coincidence

Dear Eugenia,

First of all I would like to mention that I love your website! It has helped guide me through many blessings and problems in my life this year. My question is, I have had three love relationships with men who were born in early April and who share the same birthplace (Stockton, CA). Man #1 04/02/64, man #2 04/04/64, man #3 04/06/68. I also have a very close female friend, who I have known since high school. Her birth date is 04/02/64 born in Japan (Weird, same birth date as man #1). Am I destined to have close personal relationships with those born in early April or is it just a coincidence? My birth date is 01/17/65 10:10pm.

I am currently involved with the man born on 04/06/68 and we have been dating for 8 months. Recently we had an argument and I have not heard from him.I am in love with him and I hope that we can work things out. I feel that he may be confused and he is struggling between his feelings for me and his need for independence. Will he come back to me soon?

Thank you for your help,
Kim

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Dear Kim

You were born with the sign Aries in an area of your chart that deals with partnerships, relationships and so forth so it's no surprise that you attract people born under that sign. You do however have a strong earthy chart and this can be difficult if you want to have a lasting relationship with someone of an Aries nature. It is necessary to give Aries space. At the same time you must keep up with an Aries and be a challenge as well. You have a lot of Capricorn and Virgo in your chart giving you the drive, determination and the know-how when it comes to dealing with different personality types. In the case of your most recent Aries boyfriend I believe that with the amount of Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces that he has in his chart that the relationship is workable. You are right, he is confused and he could also be lured away by someone else right now. He is sensitive for an Aries and if you hurt his feelings you may have to be extremely nice, accommodating and giving in order to win him back. I believe that he is very uncertain about his future and his direction and if you push him he will only run in the opposite direction. If he hasn't met someone else and he does decide to come back it will be rocky until August. If he won't budge or he has in fact met someone else I don't believe that this new person will be good for him and it is possible that mid next year he may want to come back at that time. Either way it is quite possible that you will get back together.

Eugenia

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Article: From Anett

Dear Eugenia!

This is kind of a long story, and question, but I'm really truly at a loss for what to do. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs (a Cancer man 22/6-68), and feel good about it! The relationship turned into a friendship, and we decided to call it quits. I'm now single and loving it, most of the time anyway, but there is a guy (Scorpio, 29/10-67).. I met him when I was still together with my ex, but I couldn't really do anything with him at the time. I ended up staying a night at his house, and loved every second I was with him. But I was in a relationship, and hadn't seen the light yet, so we lost touch. I never really stopped thinking about him, and he was always playing in the back of my mind. But suddenly after 4 months he calls me, and we end up having the best phone conversation ever. It's like we never lost touch, and I realize as we're talking that "shit I really really like him." But as it seems I'm prone to bad luck in love, I tried hitting the breaks with my self emotionally. I know he likes me too, we have a chemistry that blows me away, we talk on the phone for hours, about everything between heaven and earth. And the sexual chemistry I experienced with him in September (we didn't have sex, but we did get very intimate) knocked me to my feet!!! But, his life is very very complicated now, his father just died, and their relationship was strained, and there seems to be a long lost sister trying to get her share of the estate left after his dad. And he is so focused on doing the right thing all the bloody time, always, that I know there's no room for any emotional/relationship thing at this point. I am not a very patient person, but I find myself, for the first time, willing to wait for his life to settle back. I've offered him my friendship and he seems to want it, and appreciate it! But, what is this thing with us? What does this "thing" have in store for me? Is friendship all he wants forever? I'm falling slowly, and it's basically for his personality (haven't seen him in person for 4 months..) and he just intrigues me, he makes me wanna get a grip of my life.. I really do hope you can help me understand this guy and what he thinks. I've never felt this unsure about myself or the future of my feelings for this Scorpio man. Thanx,

Anett.

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Dear Anett

There are a lot of oppositions in your comparison with your Scorpio friend and although this can make the pull between the two of you very dynamic it isn't always the best when it comes right down to everyday life. The major sign of sorrow does show up in your comparison and this worries me. I do believe that he is very attracted to you but I also feel that he is extremely practical having his natal Moon, Venus, Jupiter, Uranus and Pluto in the sign Virgo and is probably questioning the age difference between you. People with a lot of Virgo in their charts do tend to marry later in life. They want to be one hundred percent certain that they have chosen wisely and he probably fears that at some point you will move on. You on the other hand are a very strong Taurus and they are usually true blue beginning to end but you also have three planets in Libra and one in Sagittarius and this can cause problems when your partner's looks depreciate. Offer your friendship but unless you truly believe you can go the distance and do life with this very serious and loyal man I suggest you let him go. As I mentioned the comparison has a real push/pull to it and I'm afraid that you will probably hurt him in the end. I know that your ex was also quite a bit older and your comparison to him was comparable to that with your Scorpio friend. This really isn't an age thing on your side right now but it certainly could be in the future. Some people do well with those much older when they are young and those much younger when they are old. Think about it.

Eugenia

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