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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Family Problem

Dear Eugenia,

I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.

My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.

Thanx

Leo

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Dear Leo

Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.

Eugenia

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Article: Cut Him Loose

Hello Eugenia,

This my second time attempting to write to you and to hopefully get some kind of feedback. I am a 21-year old female born 4-21-80 at 2:26 am, anyways, my question is relating to my status in the department in love; I have dated a lot of duds that never seem to live up to my expectations in love. I always settle for second best, I always stay with them when I know they are not being true to me, I always do all the phone calls to them and the "I love you's", and always in the end I get burned. I know it sounds like I'm complaining BIG time butI'm tired of falling in love with the wrong men. I get so jealous when I see happy couples around my age in love that I get bitter, depressed and angry.

But oddly, I'm in a relationship right now, a long distance one at that, but I'm not happy, but I'm holding on to it because I need to fill that empty space in my heart. So I guess what I'm asking is what path to take with this problem I have in love.

Confused (and Bitter) in Love

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Dear Confused (and Bitter) in Love

You aren't alone. Many people pick the wrong person, stay in a relationship that isn't working for too long and so on. It usually has to do with a lack of confidence, self-esteem, fear of being alone etc. I must reiterate however that if you are involved with someone who isn't good for you it is hard to meet someone who could be. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle regarding love and will continue to be for the better part of the next year. You do need to get out and socialize and I suggest that when you do meet someone you have an astrological comparison done just to know what the pro's and cons of the relationship will be and how well you match up. You do well with those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Part of the problem that you have regarding picking the right partner is due to your natal Venus being opposite your natal Neptune. This can cause sorrow, deception and disillusionment if you aren't careful. Please consult my compatibility feature at www.astroadvice.com before you give your heart to another loser.

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Article: Losing The Faith

Dear Eugenia

This is my 2nd attempt to earn your analysis/insight. Close to 1 year ago, the relationship I had with my fiance began to crumble. Although we had known each other quite well since grade school, we did not become a serious couple until 5/97. My birth info: 3/27/76 at 1:05pm. His birth info: 3/20/76 at about 4:20pm- our breakup began 7/14/00 and he ended our relationship in a letter I got 8/14/00. We were to wed 11/18/00. We don't talk anymore. I am missing many answers as to why our solid relationship failed. It's like he just gave up. I do know he became involved w/ another girl 6/00. I discovered this after our relationship ended. I don't know her birth info, but have learned that their relationship recently ended.

I made a lot of changes after my engagement ended...new location/new job. I'm happy with my new job; esp. since I'm now earning much more money, however money is still tight, as I am trying to pay off my debts (credit cards).

My questions for you involve the outlook of my future. What do you see? My social circle in my new location is lacking. I haven't come close to dating since my engagement ended. This is partially due to me needing to 'heal' and partially due to not finding anyone who would go out with me. I'm thankful for my great job..but what about friends....romance? What do you see? Will my ex-fianc? and I cross paths again, or is there really someone else out there who's my soul mate? Will I succeed financially? I had so many goals that I wanted to have accomplished by now--be married...be debt-free (or close to debt-free) and I haven't accomplished them. Gosh, are things ever going to get better so I can be happy about all aspects of my life? I'm losing the faith. Please help.

~Searching...
Alone

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Dear Alone

The comparison between you and your ex wasn't that great therefore you should view your situation as a blessing in disguise. I wouldn't however be surprised if you did cross paths again during the course of the next year because both your chart and his indicate people from your past coming back into your lives. This can also mean new romantic ties so please look forward not back. If you get out and involved in worthwhile community groups you will meet some interesting people. Yes you will have to spend a little in order to have some fun or join groups that interest you but it will be worth investing in yourself, your future and meeting potential partners so get on with it. Investments will also be in a high cycle this year if you are conservative. If you rent you might consider trying to purchase a small home or condo in order to build some future security as well as to stop throwing money out the window on rent. You match up well to those born under the signs Leo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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