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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.
My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.
Thanx
Leo
Dear Leo
Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I got to know your site from a book. I hate my life and I scold myself sometimes. I'm a father of one family, whose life can't be described as smooth-going. People say I'm smart. Maybe I'm showing off but I don't think I'm a loser either. However, if you look at what has happened to me, it feels like Murphy's Law. It goes the opposite of what I have planned. If it were my own fault, I wouldn't blame anyone. But, it's not...For example, there are always some unexpected things in business. Someone makes a mistake while I am always the one who gets the blame and has to be responsible. Thus, I'm very careful at work and I make sure not to make mistakes. But, well, things always go wrong. Now, I'm afraid of starting new things. One day, I went to a temple with my colleagues. I was extremely tired when I got there because I had to drive for hours. One monk there looked at how tired I was and he told me, I'll have bad fortune since I have done something bad in my previous life (destiny). He said I need to help others in order to pay back what I have done badly. However, I was busy so. I came back to Seoul and started a new business. What he said was right. Nothing worked out. I don't know what I have done in my previous life. That's why I'd like to know what it was. How should I accept this daily routine then? I'm writing to you since my life is a continuation of failures. If there is a way to help me, I hope I'll get the help.... I was born January 13, 1962, at 1:30 AM.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I don't believe that you are failing because of something you did, however I do believe that your timing has been off. Your chart indicates that you have been going through very changeable times and that you have not had the most honest and forthright people around you. When you are blamed it probably isn't your fault. You are not a person who should go into business partnerships and the type of work you choose to do should be dealing with public relations, sales, business, travel, computers, communications, teaching and so on. I do agree with what the Monk said regarding the fact that you should be helping others but so should everyone else who is capable. You are coming into a much higher cycle regarding your home, family and personal investments however if you don't do something in order to make the changes that are necessary you will once again be off on your timing. February, April and May will be very important months for you to make simple, safe and secure changes, not drastic alterations. The key will be to build a solid base by taking tiny steps that will result in added confidence as well as lead to the success you're looking for. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
It's taking me forever to type this because I got into a bad motorcycle accident last week. I expect to be in bed for months. Do you see why I have such bad (or good?) luck? What's my outlook for the rest of the year I was born June 5, 1979, at 1:12 am.
Gemini
Dear Gemini
Sorry to hear about your misfortune. Your chart has been extra accident-prone for a while now so it's really no surprise that you are in recovery mode. Your chart isn't that bad just a little careless. Out of all negatives you can find a positive and in your case the positive is that you should be learning over the course of this year and next. Although you may not want to do so it is obvious that you are being pushed in that direction. Being confined to bed can be a good thing if you are surrounded by books, correspondence courses and so forth. You can turn this period into gaining new knowledge and skills that will prepare you for a better future. You are young, the health areas of your chart are relatively clear - you should heal quickly but you must keep in mind that you were born with an aspect in your chart that does make you prone to injury so in the future don't take chances, be more defensive and slow down. There is an element in your chart that denotes that someone in your home is unusual or possibly takes too much medication, alcohol or drugs. If this is affecting you consider what you can do about it. If you have become addictive yourself get help.
Eugenia
